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If the fear is intermarriage and assimilation, I believe that South Florida has the lowest intermarriage rate in the United States.
I grew up not frum not far from where this shooting took place. Most Jewish kids I knew in High School though not “frum” where WAY more Jewishly involved than the average American Jewish teen. Most would only date other Jews, even those that didn’t mostly knew when they were adults they would not intermarry. I knew kisds that went to their Reform or Conservative Temple for Shabbat at least once a month, if not every week. Many though not shomer Shabbos or kashrus by our understandings of those terms kept Shabbos or kashrus to varying degrees. Some particularly Sefardim, where involved with frum shuls and used exclusivly frum shuls or rabbis for life cycle events.
I believe the German Minhag up until around sometime in the middle ages was to leave tefilin on for the entire davening on Rosh Chodesh. And in some communities on Chol Hamoed they were left on for Hallel and only taken off for Musaf like we do today with Rosh Chodesh.
“you may be reffering to David Nessenoff,only he was a conservative rabbi; not reform”
No the person I am thinking of was definately Reform. and I think he was older. He might now be a pulpit rabbi at a MO shul in Ohio or the midwest.I have heard of story of a Reform Rabbi who became Orthodox. His name escapes me but his story is on the internet. I don’t think he tried to make his congregation frum, he just quit. I think he eventually obtained Orthodox smicha.
I once knew a former Reform Cantor (female) who became frum and quit her congregation and got sued for breaking her contract.My understanding is that it only applies to Higher Education. Post High School. Tuition discounts at day schools would not be impacted.
Oberlander’s customs are very much not like Chasidim and they are more similar to Yekke minhagim than to Polish.
True Oberlanders for example wear a tallis starting at bar mitzvah, rather than waiting until marriage. They also often wear a tallis rather than a kittel under the chuppah and their tefilin are the same as Yekkish tefilin (square knot on head but the arm wraps like Ashkenazim not Chasidim) They do differ from Yekkes in that they are less into piyutim and many most wait longer than 3 hours (5-6) Also, much like Yekkes only say Av Harachamin on the Shabbos before Shavuos and before Tisha B’Av, the older Oberlander minhag was to say it on the Shabbos before Shavuos and during the three weeks.
I’m not a Yekke but I am an Oberlander and a lot of my minhagim and style of davening are similar (tallis before marriage, sim shalom at Shabbos Mincha etc.) Since there are practically no Oberlander minyamim left that aren’t Chasidish I gravitate towards Yekke shuls if I can find them.
It is not only Chasidic. It was a long standing German custom until relatively recently that the chassan and kallah should be seen publicly holding hands after the chuppah. This is to clearly illustrate that they are now married. Although it was not universal in some German communities the chassan and kallah danced together for the last dance of the evening.
As far as tznius it was felt that this is appropriate for a wedding but not for elsewhere. The chassan and kallah never hold hands publicly again.
It is similar to the idea that one should compliment the kallah on her beauty at the wedding, but it would be considered not tnzius to do so at some other time.
This might be a bubba maisa but my Grandmother used to say that whistling only attracts sheidim if done by children on Shabbos.