its brought down in kitzur shulchan aruch, siman kuf nun beis (152), seif ches. enjoy and good luck. let us know what happens with him. I personally havent seen so many people makpid with this for some reason.
Thank you so much for ur responses and advice etc… I will definitely contemplate them and use them as i look to proceed with this situation. I will iyh bn keep posted. Plz continue to give me ur opinion on this matter, and also if this has happened to u in the past.
I know lubavitch has a few. I think theres one at the Rabbincial college of America in Morristown NJ. they have programs from young mesivta age, up until regular 22 yr old beis medrash program. and also bal teshuva program