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Fruit is always good. Shuls usually put out cake and orange juice.
The “gedolim” of the 13th century also burned the Rambam’s works and accused him of heresy, and history and time ended up exonerating him.
Nope. A clinical psychologist is someone with a PhD or PsyD in Clinical Psychology.
An LCSW is not a psychologist, but with an LCSW-R designation (in NYC at least), they can do psychotherapy. If someone with an LCSW (MSW) decided to get a doctorate in clinical psychology, they’d no longer be practicing as a social worker, but as a psychologist.
A psychotherapist is not a psychologist, although the function is typically the same.
And it is typical for a medication management visit to last no more than 15 minutes.
Many people from Orthodox day schools don’t learn about anything that the rebbeim deem to be “k’derech Revadim.”
You listed it as a perush on Shas, which it isn’t.
YitzchokM,
I know charliehall very well. He’s a talmid hakham and is noted for his hasmada. Instead of accusing people of picking a fight, why can’t you be grateful that there’s a Jew who has learned through Shas and who has given shiurim himself and who is a pupil of a rosh yeshiva?
Tosefta is not a commentary on Shas.
Tosefta is one of the canonical texts of Torah She Ba’al Peh. It’s an additional tannaitic tradition (many of the beraitot in the Gemara are references to Tosefta that was redacted around the same time as the Mishna, and as a collection of such beraitot, it is generally arranged according to the same structure as the Mishna. (with the exception of Avot, Tamid, Middot, and Kinnim, every tractate in the Mishnah has a parallel tractate in the Tosefta, though the precise character of the content of the Tosefta tractate and its relationship to the material found in the Mishnah can vary radically).
Dayan Abramsky and the Grush Lieberman gave us the foremost commentaries on the Tosefta itself.
The things I mentioned are things that are totally not for kids. What kids do you know like antiquing, visiting galleries, going to concerts, etc.?
Freud met with the Lubavitcher Rebbe of his time, and many of his ideas have parallels in Mussar.
I’ve done all these in my life. I have family with a house in the area of Livingston Manor-Parksville.
Railroad museum in Roscoe (across from diner, off Rt. 17 and down the block from the IGA)
Delaware-Ulster Railroad (goes from Arkville to Roxbury). This is a really cool old fashioned railroad ride that goes round-trip.
Stone and Thistle Farm in East Meredith (they have grass-fed eggs and milk; if you keep chalav yisrael, they’ll let you milk the cows yourself)
Sunday the 28th, there’s a Civil War reenactment in Liberty.
There are tons of darling, charming little artisans throughout Sullivan and Delaware counties. The SCVA website has a map and guide to all the artists and their galleries.
There are lots of really nice farmer markets and flea markets to check out, as well. I recommend Silver Heights Farm in Cochecton Center.
I love anything involving nature, arts and crafts, music, antiques, animals, trains, etc. They also have lots of zip lines and historical sites and darling little historical reenactments and things like that.
You must have a car, though. I’d recommend coming on a Sunday and staying until Thursday. When I’d go up to the mountains, that’s what I’d do, so I could either be in the city for Shabbos, or I’d spend Shabbos with families in the bungalow colonies.
As a baal tefillah, I am interested in this, Sam2. In Ashkenaz, did they change the nusach at all for the 3 weeks, so that certain emotions wouldn’t be expressed?
I’d prefer to keep present politics out of the equation, truthsharer. In all actuality, there have been lots of cases where rabbis of one school of thought condemn their opponents (real or perceived) or those with shitot differing from their own shitot as “Amalek.” Rabbi Saul Berman, for instance, was described by a famous rosh yeshiva at YU in a 1998 shiur as “representing a sort of internal Amalek.” In one case, you have a Centrist Orthodox rabbi calling a more Modern rabbi “Amalek,” and in another, you have a Haredi Sephardic rabbi calling an Orthodox, Dati Leumi politician “Amalek,” and in another case you had an alumnus of a prominent yeshiva being called a “shana u’pirush” by the present rosh hayeshiva of that institution. Where does the buck stop?
It’s more profitable for insurance companies to have Reuven talk to a psychiatrist for 10-15 minutes every month or two for medication management than to have Reuven talk to the therapist for 50 minute sessions every week.
For those of the psychoanalytic school (if I were to become a therapist, or a clinical psychologist, I’d be interested in Freudian modalities; I already completed some graduate coursework in counseling psychology), therapy does involve lying on the couch, and according to Object Relations (see Otto Kerner), the role of the mother and father do matter.
The idea that Mashiach will fall from the clouds on horseback as a conquering hero is not a Jewish one. Rambam, in Hilchot Melakhim, makes it clear that the Mashiach and the period of Geulah are things that humanity must prepare themselves for. We have to be zoche the geulah sheleima, through moral and spiritual and social progress. Improvements in ben adam le chavero and taking steps towards creating a more just society are certainly peulot that pave the way for the Messianic era.
The idea that Mashiach will fall from the clouds on horseback as a conquering hero is not a Jewish one. Rambam, in Hilchot Melakhim, makes it clear that the Mashiach and the period of Geulah are things that humanity must prepare themselves for. We have to be zoche the geulah sheleima, through moral and spiritual and social progress. Improvements in ben adam le chavero and taking steps towards creating a more just society are certainly peulot that pave the way for the Messianic era.
I doubt there was any significant mental illness ensuing from such an offense, certainly none more than what existed prior to that.
Many doctors and therapists aren’t taking insurance anymore, especially since many insurace providers don’t want to cover the cost of therapy (psychopharmacology is much cheaper, and in many cases, is necessary). It is very difficult to get insurance providers to cover psychoanalysis, for instance, which requires many hours, often for the patient’s entire life in order for a breakthrough to occur.
Where are you holding? Are you doing Perek Merubah?
Many classical musicians set very stirring melodies to the words of Eicha/Lamentations.
I think she was referring to actual psychotherapy with someone who gets $100 an hour for dispensing advice.
Sounds like a fire hazard to me. This person needs to be told that he’s creating a pikuach nefesh concern.
I sing as I listen. As long as there are no instruments involved, and the music leads one to a state of introspection, what could the issue be? Does a person not sing when they go to shul? When the Rambam paskened that people shouldn’t play music in a world without a Beit haMikdash, he wasn’t referring to singing, but to actual zimrah.
Sadly, the shidduch scene is stacked against women. There are more available women than men, which is a big problem, and men usually date women younger than them, another contributing factor.
Hangups over appearance, weight, money, and other factors play out on both sides, but it is true in both the general and frum societies that heavier women are often not given even the time of day, even by heavy guys, which I find ridculous. I try to eat well and keep moderately active (walking places, etc.), but am still on the zaftig size, and would want a shidduch with someone who could relate to my experiences and whatnot. But many men sadly don’t think the way I do. (OTOH, I’m a farshtukene feminist who davens monthly in a partnership minyan, and who holds like that shana u’pirush Rav Uziel, zt”l (Has ve Halilah) le ma’aseh on things like dayanot, abortion, etc., so what good is my opinion?)
Therapy is a term that needs to be defined.
Some people who suffer from psychopathologies do need CBT and other clinical interventions in order to manage symptoms and negative behaviors. Many of us even apply CBT principles on a daily basis in our own lives without knowing it (we reward ourselves for doing favorable things and withhold rewards for others, especially among kids).
All people can benefit from spiritual direction. This is where Humanistic and Transpersonal and Existential Psychology come into play. Think Maslow, Erich Fromm, Viktor Frankl, Norman Vincent Peale, Abraham Joshua Heschel, Rav Shlomo Carlebach, etc. The psychology of Being These were concepts which largely were predated by the mekubalim, the Hasidic masters, and the Baalei haMussar (Much of Freudian thought regarding unconscious desires and drives was explicated earlier on by R’ Yisrael Salanter and others). People can benefit from having a “mashpia” of sorts. Someone objective who can enable individuals actualize their goals, identify and manage obstacles to growth, avodat HaShem, interpersonal relationships, etc. The great mashgichot in the yeshivos were masters at this, and there are many qualified, very spiritual, professional rabbanim who drink from the wisdom of both Humanistic/Transpersonal psychology (many have LCSW’s or psychology degrees), as well as Mussar, Kabbalah, and Hasidut. I know of a rebbi at Stern College who is studying Psychoanalysis. The ability to counsel is very important in the rabbinate. Hasidim predated the modern pastoral couseling movement by many decades, and they knew that people need someone to develop a soul connection with for advice, unconditional friendship, acceptance, and love.
Music in line with the spirit of the period would be appropriate: things like Eli Eli, songs based on mournful tehillim (the Mi Ma’akim perakim), verses from Eicha, etc. seem appropriate. One of the most haunting things I find myself listening to at this time is Antoine Brumel’s motet (a capella SATB), which is Eicha 1:8 and Eicha 1:11. Very moving.
If people lack true faith and emunah, and if they go through the motions because that’s how they were raised and they fear ostracism, being disowned, and have no awareness or ability to make it on the outside world, they are trapped in. When an individual feels as if they don’t believe in Torah and mitzvot, what do we do with such people? How helpful is it to these people and their plight to assume that as someone with a Yiddishe neshama, “deep down” they really do want to believe and keep the mitzvot, even if they’re errant or resistant?
I would hold that halakhically, al pi din, there is most likely nothing wrong with a man wearing a wedding ring. The issue is one of hashkafa; it is an attempt to impose non-Jewish, modern conceptions of marriage (a ring is a symbol of the husband’s position and stature in a marriage). A lot of things are mutar al pi din, but are still poor decisions that are out of touch with the ethos of Torah Judaism.
R’ Miller, zt”l, was a very shrewd and keen observer of human nature.
Hazal observed that women have an innate desire/urge to want to be married. I had a situation in which the girl I was seeing did make me fell pressured before I was ready to seriously commit (many rabbonim will tell people to date 6 months or even a year before deciding to marry or move on, depending on the individual). Kiddushin 7a even says regarding women and marriage, Tav le metav tan du me le metav armeilu. Considering this, I’d be interested to see how such an experiment would turn out.
A man wearing a ring usurps the way in which Judaism traditionally thinks of marriage. A wife is not “koneh” the husband. A teacher of mine, understanding that many non-observant Jews will request a traditional chuppah ve kiddushin, will only allow a man to wear a wedding ring after the ceremony/ outside of the chuppah.
Men do tend to be more visual by nature than women. It’s more of a man’s nature to lust after his eyes than a woman. Hence the restrictions and gedarim placed on men.
I think that there are far more pressing concerns in Israel than people eating fatty goose liver.
Veal, foie gras, etc. will always be controversial. Meat consumption and dairy consumption are inherently controversial. Anything that boosts Israel’s economy is a good thing, and Israel is probably the only place (maybe other than France) where a person can get kosher foie gras.
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The prosecution has little to no case at this point. But that doesn’t change the fact that GZ is a menuval.
It isn’t normal in many communities for men to wear rings.
Ask people who process insurance claims, or who work for SSI.
I hear your point. People have different standards. As I said, some Jews won’t touch OU tuna fish. Others won’t touch Rabbanut gelatin, so on and so forth. People ought to become familiar with different shitos, though. They should understand, practically and textually, issues such as whether I can wash meat and milk dishes together or in the same sink or dishwasher, or the issues pertaining to intentional bitul, or to gevinat akum, or to gelatin, or whatever the issue is.
The gemara (Shabbat 62) allows a man to wear a signet ring in reshut harabbim, as it is common for men to wear those. Other rings, however, are not normally worn by men, and they thus cannot be considered a garment. Wearing such rings thus constitutes carrying, rather than wearing, and is forbidden in a public domain on Shabbat (OC 301:9).
While a man’s wedding ring is probably not to be considered beged isha, it still conveys an effeminate spirit, in my opinion, and portrays marriage in a light inimical to classic Jewish understandings of matrimony.
It’s still a psychotropic drug, and the fact that people run to a shrink over every little disturbance in life shows that we’re in an over-medicated society (Prozac nation, if you will), and that there is s tendency to pathologize and diagnose what amounts to spinelessness, an inability to cope, and a lack of resiliency in many cases. No wonder why most psychiatric clinical trials are funded by Big Pharma (6 months before adderall came out, there were tons of ADD/ADHD studies being published in the journals).
The principle of ed echad ne’eman be issurin (and ne’emanut in general) says that if a Jew is a shomer shabbos, you trust his hashgacha. Smaller hechshers run by shomer shabbat rabbanim require the individual to ascertain whether those standards are acceptable to him, just as many individuals don’t even rely on the “big 5” for all things (e.g. those who believe tuna requires bishul yisrael wouldn’t purchase OU tuna fish, and so on).
Saying “no one” means nothing. If people didn’t allow it, his products wouldn’t be on the market. You mean the big 5 and their cohorts don’t allow it. It’s mostly politics.
There are loads of Doniel Yehudas. My parents chose to name me after my dad’s father and my mother always liked Gabriel (and when I dunked, I kept the name), hence my name, which ends up having HaShem’s name in it three times.
I don’t condone pot-smoking, but TM had pot in his system, whereas Zimmerman had heavy psychiatric drugs in his system, and was still out being a vigilante. What crackpot psychiatrist prescribed Zimmerman these drugs? And this also shows Zimmerman is mentally ill.
A man shouldn’t wear a necklace, just like a man shouldn’t wear a wedding ring. You run into a lot of hotza’ah issues with men and jewelry. Not to mention that a necklace on a man is very tacky, IMHO. Reminds me of a low-class gavone Italian.
My feeling is that most Haredim will be deemed unfit for combat, so they’ll end up serving in the capacity of a “conscientious objector,” i.e. peeling potatoes, emptying latrines, etc.
Put it on a piece of toast. The yolk gets absorbed into the toast. Break it with a fork and allow that to happen before you take a bite.