But, you are shallow and superficial.

I’m guessing that since you’re being redt to out of town girls, the in town girls either don’t exist or aren’t lining up at your door.

Here’s the deal – in life, in relationships, in marriage, you’re going to approach a lot of situations where you’re going to need to find a way to say something difficult, but diplomatically – and it will be a more difficult situation than telling a shadchan, “No thanks.”

So, my tough love advice to you is, figure out how to do what you need to do politely, with sensitivity, and while preserving the reputation you want to keep.

If you do that, you’ll exhibit depth and thoughtfulness.

Hatzlocho.