is their a rebbi or someone who u knows u and u can ask them for advice? when i was going thru a very hard time last year, i found that it helps to have a mentor who u can ask questions to. someone who knows ur situation a little better might have better advice. it might help to text them…to make it less akward. friend-wise, its not a smart idea to just right away have a dmc w s.o. start by going over to someone who u think might be a good friend (oberserve how ppl act towards others) and just shmooze w them on a general topic. slowly start shmoozing w them more… it also might help to look for someone who is in need also_ and u can both try to help e.o out. ( business1 u have amazing answers!! i used to do the same thing when i was in a group of girls and felt very self- concious- look at others and find something wrong- it helps for urself although not so nice…just make sure never to point someones flaws out to someone else!)