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in circumstances where you are unsure if a person is doing something wrong or not, be dan l’kaf zechus. The gemara in shabbos 127b says that if you judge others favorably and positively, you yourself will be judged that way too. I don’t think you should worry about finding kulahs when this din doesn’t apply- instead just judge others positively all the time!
crdle- doesn’t eshkol mean a bunch of grapes? how are those 2 connected? I don’t know who you’re hanging around, but nearly all sefaradim I know pronounce hebrew differently than ashkenazim. sefaradim distinguish between an aleph/ayin, chet/hay, and kaf/qof, for example.
Therefore, they can spell more easily because spelling becomes phonetic- no sefaradi would ever spell ra’iti with an “ayin” because an ayin and an aleph sound different (ayin is more guttural)!!!
MorahRach- I would only call you racist if based on these stats you said that white people “are smarter” than black people, or something similar about ashkenazim vs. sefaradim. IQ tests do not take poverty, education, or cultural opportunities into account. 70% of black kids are raised by one parent. 1 in 3 black men will go to jail at some point in their lives. How can anyone ignore these obvious social and economic handicaps and instead insist that blacks are innately less smart?? We need ALL kids to have access to good education, and opportunities to succeed, bimheirah b’yameinu, amen!
For more on IQ testing, read up on the Flynn Effect, which has basically proven that IQ scores have been rising EVERYWHERE in the world and among all races and nationalities for the past 100 years! That is why they keep having to modify IQ tests every so often, because they get too easy! A typical teenager today has an IQ of 100. If tested today, schoolchildren during the early 1900s would be considered mentally ill, with IQs in the 70s. It’s fascinating.
Regarding the Sefaradi community, I am sefaradi, I do not live in a sefaradi community, and I find RD’s comments to be quite offensive. The fact that Syrians, as immigrants, have done so well in business should be something to celebrate, not denigrate. If you want to see sefaradic learning, get in touch with the sefaradic semicha program at yu, or go to eretz yisrael and learn in yeshivat porat yosef or kisei rachamim.
he gave us those words, and those annoying people. He also gave us marijuana- that doesn’t mean you need to do it.
well, that got weird. The demons are at work!
zd, it doesn’t seem from the comments above that there are any good reasons to be machmir not to ride a bike. Nishtday stood up for the rights of frumkeit, and made a kiddush hashem by being rude to Jews having a civil conversation and pretending that bans don’t exist (sarcasm goes here).
crdle: Exactly! you guys have to hang around sefaradim (especially people from edut hamizrach) more often, and then you’ll learn to spell in hebrew perfectly.
shopping: if you have good ideas, it really doesn’t matter how you spell ’em. not sure why everyone is giving you such a hard time!
WIY is saying that stories written in magazines like ami and mishpachah are written by ppl with different opinions and perspectives. You have to stay skeptical about anything that you read in print, because odds are it is biased or only giving u 1 side of the story.
I’m with popa. it’s all about WHERE you’re singing the song. the tune, words, and singer could be terrible, but if you’re listening to a song, and then suddenly find a free parking space in manhattan, for example, that song is now officially, eternally awesome.
vice versa applies to. so, if you’re blasting some Udi Davidi (famous israeli singer) in the middle of kiryas yoel, that song NOW becomes bad, even if it WAS actually good. It’s all relative.
nu, kol she’kein.
ra’iti has an alef, btw. Which is just another reason why being sefaradi is awesome, because you can actually be mechalek between letters like alef and ayin and your spelling greatly improves!
And yeah, that would be really cool if more people posted in hebrew- I need the practice!
Torah613: english is a hard language to master in terms of spelling and grammar because of silent letters, non-phonetic spelling, counter-intuitive grammatical rules and many exceptions to those rules! I personally speak hebrew, arabic, and spanish. English is hands down the most annoying to learn.
regarding your quote from koheles, when writing that pasuk he was bitter, and not unlikely a tad depressed. I don’t think you should follow his example (ditto for the part where he drinks, parties, and spends money in excess).
Look to the end of koheles for some real wisdom- “sof dovor, hakol nishmoh, es haelokim yiroh, ve’es mitzvosav sh’mor.” As long as you’re doing that, God will be with you on your search.
On a personal note, im also in shidduchim and while not quite as melancholy about it as you are, I’ve gotta say the experience is overall really emotionally draining and difficult.! Kol tuv to you.
rambam by hilchos shechenim perek gimmel somewhere interprets the first dapim in bava basra regarding nezek re’iyah rationally, and that it’s not ayin harah as some meforshim say.
Who cares? politics is a dirty game that’s all about money and staying in power. No one really cares about the poor, they just make speeches pretending to so they can get cash and more votes.
All the people here saying they’re sure candidate x will do this or that- why are you so sure? A candidate’s record merely details what they did voted for to stay in power!
Yes, Israel’s gov and army aren’t perfect. However, if you are chareidi and you live in eretz yisrael, you do so thanks to the Israeli army. Without it, Israel would quickly be run over by terrorists and other arab armies, and a second holocaust (r”l) could occur. As long as Israel is strong, that won’t happen, and therefore, every bachur in Mir is safe from attack.
Of course we would like the army to be more accomodating to frum soldiers, and for overall Israeli society to help chareidim rather than turn against them. However, as long as the soldiers keep preventing Hamas, Hezbollah, Syria, and other enemies from attacking Israel, you should real feel grateful to be learning in eretz hakodesh, and able to walk the land of our avos and imahos in safety.
Nosson does not understand that by doing household chores he is being mekayem at least two mitzvos dioraisa– kibbud av va’em and ve’ahavtah le’reyechah kamochah. Explain to him, in a gentle and calm manner, that every day for a little while, it is very important to stop studying and do some maasim tovim, putting your learning into effect in the real world.
PBA: You love doing mitzvos where you get to be purposefully rude and mean to other human beings. If your conscience is okay with that, go ahead. Just know that being annoying isn’t going to make people want to listen to what you have to do say.
WIY: Wrong. The people that stand up so zealously for what they believe in are called Kanoim, and they are the ones who get in the goyishe newspapers because they act so foolishly, supposedly for the sake of standing up for tznius, shabbos, etc. Throwing a rock at a car on shabbos is standing up for shabbos and yiddishkeit, but it’s stupid all the same and a chilllul hashem. Making fun of YCT might be okay and even a mitzvah, but it causes massive rifts in klal yisroel. Why don’t you accept them with one hand and push with the other as the gemara says, rather than push away with both?? Or are you too smart for the gemara now?
Depends on the post. If it is about learning, you’ll see Sam2, Rebdoniel, and Daas Yochid. If it’s about other stuff, you’ll see Popa, Shopping 613, and a bunch of other people like Torah613, WIY, Toi, and sometimes me!
“20 qs fo ‘yo posek.” That is incredibly funny- hands down best line I’ve seen in the CR in a looong time. Thanks Vogue!
Also, you have an incredible gift of a rav that you are comfortable asking questions and talking to. Make use of that precious gift!
^ No it doesn’t. He doesn’t understand that equality doesn’t mean that everyone has to be the same. A man can be called a Rabbi, and a woman can be called a maharat in the yct world and to them they are the equal, regardless of their titles because they play equal religiously important roles in that world.
You oversimplify their position, and then make fun of your oversimplification, instead of finding the real facts. That’s not funny, it’s simply immature and ignorant leitzonus. If you want to make fun of apikorsim and apikorsus go ahead, but it’s a foolish endeavor. Either complain to the people that matter (people that actually DISAGREE with you), and have a real substantive discussion, or go do something else that doesn’t attack other Jews, dividing us even more and making the geulah drag on and on because of your leitzonus…
If you really want to do something impactful to stop them, go protest and send letters to members of your tzibbur, or do anything other than just saying leitzonus on the coffee room.
Why do you like making fun of people? That doesn’t sound like a very torahdig activity
Popa, why do you care so much about what YCT rabbis do or believe? You are the one that makes a bigger deal out of it than anyone else!
Also, your friday night meal would be better served with divrei torah, chizuk or whatever. point is, don’t use that time of kedushah to bash other Jews and waste time talking about their shtus.
the ignorance of basic world history on this thread is astounding.
That’s a shtickel shvach, Toi.
Akuperma, are you saying progress is good? Are you saying it is good even when progress results in geneivas da’as? I’m surprised- you’re usually so vigilant and machmir reminding everyone how evil zionists are and how low Jews have fallen. And suddenly, you are davka the one to forget basic choshen mishpat?!! Hmm.
You should know that armies have rules. In most armies of the western world, there is a rule that hair has to be a certain length and beards are a no-no. This is the rule in the United States as well- would you call the U.S. army comparable to the nazis chas v’sholom?!
In the United States, there have been a string of court cases about religious muslims and sikhs that want to keep their beards and most of the time they get to. However, it takes time to change the army’s rules. I hope Israel will change the rules, but you have to be patient. You cannot barge in and expect everyone to do everything you want at the moment you want it. What chutzpah.
I got into the game fairly recently and yes, it’s definitely harder than I imagined it would be. best of luck to you, WIY. you certainly seem very learned and sensitive, at least virtually.
Regarding runaways, it’s actually quite pashut. See Devarim 23:16.
Popa: Google “women in law,” and you’ll find that indeed 47% of law students are women, 33% of all practicing lawyers are women, and 32% of all federal judges are women. There are 3 women on the Supreme Court. Yes, feminists and women’s rights people want more progress to be made on this front, but the numbers as is are strong enough evidence to prove my point. (Pro tip: Instead of asking people to google things, you could try writing your own words or at least summarizing.)
WIY: Perhaps, but there are many women in the goyish world that are smart enough to become lawyers. However, in a very similar area of learning gemara, people here are saying that they know women can’t learn, even though women use similar skills as lawyers all the time. Also, are you a neuroscientist? How do you know that men specifically have gemara kups and women do not? Could you quote a scientific study to back up this claim?
slavery is TOLERATED by the Torah. no one would say you have to have slaves, and adderabah, if a slave flees you cannot go and capture him. compared to the american fugitive act in the 1850s this is very, very moral.
it’s always about shidduchim, isn’t it
“The way the gemara is structured is geared towards the way men learn”
The Gemara is a legal text of questions, answers, and machlokeses. If you are right that womens’ brains cannot handle Gemara, then why are there so many female lawyers? Today, half of all law school graduates are women, and these women have to handle complex trial cases, read briefs, and argue in front of courts. Would you really say they are inferior to men as well, even though they graduate at the same rate and do the same exact tasks?
Why is everyone here equating pacing with disregard of kavanah and derech eretz? I very much care about tefillah, value my time in very much, and nonetheless pace in front of my seat to concentrate, especially if everyone else is standing. What’s the problem, concentrate on your own tefillah!
Achot hit the nail on the head. medicine for bedwetting is available and works like a charm. Send your kid with some of that, and he should be fine.
Achot hit the nail on the head. medicine for bedwetting is available and works like a charm. Send your kid with some of that, and he should be fine.
The oz v’hadar mesivta shas set is, as WIY said really, really big! You will need lots of shelves to make room for this set, but if your husband wants clear printing and a lot of extra mefarshim you should go for it. It is fairly affordable, listed at around $850 at the site I checked.
Personally, I love the Nehardea shas set (by moznaim). I saw it listed at $785. It comes in 22 volumes and is very user-friendly.