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Talking to Hashem using your own words and experiences is really important. Even the text of the siddur itself should be a jumping off point for connecting to Hashem and relating the tefillah to your own life.
RD: Why are you calling a conservative rabbi a “gaon?”
that is so cool!! and I think Sam2 came out looking really good in that quote cause he got the last line lol
why isn’t a medina-hating Jew an anti-semite? Why isn’t a medina-loving goy correct, since rav yoel ztl clearly believed this was the right position?
I can’t believe a teacher of torah and yiddishkeit is allowed to scare children into submission by telling them to listen to tapes about gehennom!! What a terrible way to go to sleep! Rather, you know what we DO say before going to sleep? We say Shema, an expression of our love for Hashem. What a much more beautiful way to end the day by strengthening our relationship with HKBH through saying this maamar.
sometimes the answer to a bakashah is “no.” It doesn’t matter how many people ask, hashem still said no. Rav Ovadia lived a long, full life, and he didn’t deserve to suffer in his old age.
Akuperma, halachicaly speaking, yes, most of them are definitely “really Jewish.” I’m sure you know that anyone with a Jewish mother is Jewish. Also, how can you “look like a goy?” What does a goy look like- white, black, brown, rich, poor, american, arab, chinese??? Be more precise.
Regarding your substantive point, firstly, there are many frum businessmen, diamond dealers, professors, and millionaires. As long as you’re not in kollel, you can be frum and become rich, the expensive lifestyle notwithstanding. Ever hang around Monsey and see all the mansions??
^ a little something called ohr lagoyim. another little something called kiddush shem shomayim. However, I bet none of these Jews are frum, which makes it a little sad and less important. Still, as rt said, it proves the truth of “rak am chacham” and shows how great Jews can be.
Nisht- There it is again. Calling someone “rat”, as well as “irrational,” and accusing me of not being frum as you have in the past, is oinaas devorim. You should have learned that in years ago.
In case you didn’t get my reference, “gashmius” is a term that means physicality, and the nature world. Being concerned about the thickenss or size of tzitzis, rather than the kashrus or hiddurdikeh quality of the tzitzis is gashmiudik, and should be avoided.
Whatever you say about me doesn’t nullify the fact that you write your posts in the “royal we” having the chutzpah to assume people agree with you. Unless you have daas that they do, don’t say “we.” It’s pashut!!! In sefarim, no one says “we,” they say nirah li, or some similar HUMBLE phrase.
Again, calling my posts unkosher is another case of choshed biksharim that is on your head! Where is your evidence? If anything, you are the person here that has been repeatedly warned by mods and had your comments edited- not me! Get the facts straight before pointing fingers, and maybe point one at yourself for a change. And LAB- yeah, its a lot easier to attack than to defend. glad to help.
haha Torah613 we had the same thought. I just made blueberry corn muffins yesterday that turned out really good! They were especially awesome served w/ vegetarian chili.
Ingredients:
1 cup cornmeal
1 cup flour, all-purpose
2 teaspoons baking powder
1 1/2 cups water
2 teaspoons honey
1/4 cup vegetable oil
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup blueberries
Stir all the dry ingredients, then mix in the liquid ones. Then fill your muffin tins and put in the oven at 400 for 20 min. There you go!
what’s the meaning behind the line “na nach nachman nachman me’uman?” It just spells out the simple phrase that Nachman was from Uman. Who cares where he’s from? Why wear it on a kippah? Satmars don’t put “Yoel me’satmar” on their kippahs lol. whats the deal here?
LAB was just making a general statement about the relationship between unnecessary gashmius and wanting to wear big strings (even though halacha doesn’t say this is good) and gaivah. People shouldn’t be caught up with the gashmius of the mitzvah- if you are, that’s a problem, perhaps related to gaivah.
Even worse gaivah though, is when one unnamed poster decides that he can speak on behalf of the CR and begins whatever statement he wants to make with the word “we,” as if everyone agrees with him.
Please leave the onaas devarim and choshed biksharim out of your responses, unnamed poster. It’s just better if people can talk without being afraid of onaas devarim and rudeness. tizku l’mitzvos.
Gemara is not a elegant novel, but rather a big collection of roughly recorded conversations and debates of rebbeim in the beis midrash by their talmidim. The style of language used is also more than 1,500 years old and seems archaic to modern people. Gemara is hard, but if you break your teeth over it, eventually you shall have much success. The Gemara itself even says that if someone says they tried to learn and couldn’t don’t believe them!
Why doesn’t anyone answer lakewood001’s question? Don’t you ameratzim know the mishnah “Da Mah Lehashiv Leapikores?” Instead of telling anecdotal atheist stories that prove nothing, address his points head on. If you make a good case for frumkeit, you will earn many zechuyos needed esp. at this time.
WIY, sam is right. Even if the minhag of apples and honey is linked to a pasuk, it is still a pretty recent innovation only cited by the Rema. It’s not in the Gemara, Geonim, Rif, Rosh, Rambam, Tur, or Beit Yosef. Apples and honey are rooted in a very recent halachic tradition.
The fact that certain popular minhagim are so recent shows that you can be creative in this area. After all, why didn’t people criticize the Rema and say that he was being too modern by including apples and honey 400 years ago?
Lost- Just you know, you’re never really “lost.” Every single person is on a holy journey that can lead them to happiness, peace of mind, and all the best blessings of life. You just have to follow a path of chessed (kindness) and ahavah (love). While everyone wanders off the path from time to time, know that you are never entirely lost, and you are never alone.With some Jewish education (From books), a good Rabbi or mentor, and a community, even if its small, you can go a long way. Hatzlachah rabah (good luck on your journey!!
Why should this be a problem? The most famous siman, apples and honey, isn’t even found in the Gemara or Shulchan Aruch- it’s a minhag cited by the Rema!
I find it so sad that some people don’t want a Jewish woman to learn more about her faith, her mesorah, and her way of life. As a guy, I think learning gemara is an essential step to take in order to understand halachah and Jewish life. Why shouldn’t frum girls be able to understand the laws of their own religion?! We have enough of a problem with guys going OTD and getting bored with gemara- why can’t we just let the girls that actually have motivation, learn!!!
That’s a great mashal by the Rav, and definitely good chizuk for klal yisrael right now. However, I don’t think you can “play” hashem, and say that if you do x, hashem will do y. We do not understand Hashem and how he works, and to say we do is to lie. Of course being nice to others is always good, but we can’t say that will “cure” cancer. Plenty of very nice people have cancer, after all.
^ I would be annoyed, but I wouldn’t say you did an aveirah, or need to do teshuvah!
A family with more than 6 kids with only a father in kollel and maybe a mother making a little extra cannot expect to send their kids to yeshiva, pay bills and dues, donate to tzedakah, and afford good quality food and healthcare. The system is broken. Once upon a time in Europe, a small group of elite bpchurim would learn and become the gedolei hador. Everyone else worked, and tried to learn when they could. Even the Choeftz Chaim owned a grocery store. Parnassah is parnassah and our institutions need money to survive. Kollel is not a realistic lifestyle for anyone that wants to live comfortably and support Torah.
apers: Everyone that lives in eretz yisroel today doesn’t “automatically” die!! Most soldiers don’t die either, baruch hashem. There is risk in living in eretz yisroel, but the media vastly exaggerates it. Oh ya, and Hashem is constantly being doresh eretz yisroel, as we read in the parshah a few weeks ago….
no one agrees on everything. mature people understand that, and live with the fact that most political and religious issues are complex and multisided. To deny that there are many sides to all issues is foolish. To deny those that you disagree with the chance to express their opinions in intelligent, kovodik ways is even worse.
why can’t you simply answer the leading questions? Or just say the question is biased, and move on. Why is this such a big deal that posters should be banned?
Torah613: If you knew them, you wouldn’t be giving them advice anonymously, that’s just cruel. Advice is great, but when you start telling people to seek medical or psychological treatment, that crosses a line, ESPECIALLY because the behavior expressed here does not warrant such extreme measures. You will frighten people with your words.
toi- hashem works in mysterious ways that we do not understand. Don’t you think it’s so incredible that Hashem would bring about the geulah through people that are not frum, but willing to risk their lives for other yidden?
Apers: yishuv and living in eretz yisroel are mitzvos dioraisa. Living in chutz laaretz is like worshipping idols according to the gemara in kesubos. Why would you deny Jews the opportunity to do these incredible holy mitzvos and tell them to leave eretz hakodosh??
especially during adolescence, kids drift away from their parents, and need their own space to figure out who they are and what they believe. Art of Moi, it’s good that you are admitting how grateful you are to your parents, and you should express that gratitude. Lots of people don’t like giving hugs or getting all emotional. Just find other ways to say “thank you,” or “I love you” such as writing a letter, doing a chore, buying a present, or just doing something kind.
Torah- how can you have the chutzpah to recommend therapy for someone you DON’T know over the internet?
Torah613- banning and deleting posters and topics is intellectual dishonesty at its worst. If a poster insults others, you call them out on it. If they are saying apikorsus, you defend kavod hatorah and make rational arguments to further your tzad.
Banning anything is a sign of weakness. It means that you cannot respond to those that you disagree with, so you need to shut them up. We can respond, we can debate, and we can have productive conversations. Don’t ruin the CR with this shtus.
sam2- you mean all of sefer devarim?
care to respond to the actual substance of his post, PBA?
You don’t get it. There are 50 mehadrin bus lines in Israel. People take those busses because simply don’t know that they are separate.
Why do you assume that everyone is out to get the chareidim? Most of the women that got beat up and insulted were not “provocateurs” or anything- they were just women riding the bus!
Either way, egged and dan are public bus companies. If the chareidim have a problem, they should create their own private bus company. Until then, they shouldn’t be allowed to pressure secular bus authorities to accomodate extremists who don’t even hold by rav moshe’s kulah.
Odds are, had all frum Jews followed the Zionists instead of staying in europe with their rebbes, they would’ve been saved. hitler y”ms was not able to enter palestine during the war, why do you suddenly think he could have now?
Eh, go to eretz yisrael. if you’ve never been, you should definitely go! it’s an incredible place. you don’t have to worry about kashrus or looking too “Jewish,” there is lots of hiking and scenic areas (go up north to the golan), people are diverse, and you’re in eretz hakodesh!!
judging by all the fat husbands from popa’s competition, nirah li that wiy has a point. If only we fattened frumme kids up more with candy and kugel and soda, then they’d stay on the derech.
Perhaps the manhigim and askanim feel it is easier to deal with WoW than to tackle the big problems facing our tzibbur today, like abuse and corruption. no one wants to admit that these terrible things happen in frum communities, but they do. If abuse was made less taboo, parents were educated, and victims were helped instead of harassed, those would be good starts. A Kol Koreh would be nice too, since its daas Torah and hopefully people listen when gedolim speak.
If a man does not want to sit next to a woman, he should move away. Why is the onus on the women to move?? There is no issue of negiah or yichud on a public bus. Are there any REAL halachic issues with sitting next to a woman on a bus?
there have also been some very public incidents of chareidim insulting or even chas v’sholom abusing women that refuse to move. Is that okay? Are frum jews allowed to insult and name-call israelis that don’t want to move? Toi, would you call a woman a shikseh if she didn’t move from the front? Because that has happened on these busses over and over again.
Toi- To frame it a different way, had Israel existed 80 years ago, 6 million Jews would not have been murdered.
saying that a boy can become a gadol through taking medicine is an insult to real gedolim and talmidei chachamim. They got to the top because of hard work and patience, not some adhd medication.
I take issue with it because kol yisrael areivim zeh lazeh, and I care that Jews everywhere remain halachically committed and intelligent. When some Jews make a ban that is unnecessary and harmful, that should be troubling to Jews everywhere.
Since when has the New York Post known anything about the frum community in ny? you trust them now??
On a related point, where is your derech eretz? why do you always address people so harshly, and get your comments moderated so often? relax a little bit.
That’s highly unlikely because on welfare a family gets only 12,000 dollars with 2 kids, even with one parent. Are you telling me they could live off that little money, without a working dad??
Midwesterner: There were already millions and millions of Jews from eastern europe that came during the late 1800s and early 1900s to america. They were already starting to do well by the time the holocaust ended. Malcolm Gladwell also writes about why Jews are successful- from a review-
I am shocked by this psak. While I respect the rav, it is very surprising that he would not let someone be mekayem vehashev es hagezeilah, a mitzvah dioraisa!! Why can’t we be dan l’kaf zechus for our fellow Jews, and return their iphones, like any other metziah?
Gamanit, slaves were technically not allowed to be taught to write and read, but that rule was trampled on. black preachers secretly taught slaves, free blacks taught slaves, the slaves that were literate frequently shared what they knew with other slaves. abolitionists also had secret schools.
People don’t choose to live on welfare. It’s what happens when they lose their jobs, and are financially destitute. Why would any father decide to not work because he gets welfare. You realize that a parent with two kids gets 12,000 dollars a year on welfare, right? You also know that the poverty line is 30,000 dollars, right? You’re basically telling me that fathers living3 times below the poverty line would decide to leave because their families are so rich????
73, but that’s exactly what he’s doing. Joseph is a politically liberal, yct graduate, college-educated homosexual fighting in the IDF. he comes on here and makes kanoim/extremists look very bad, and just sits and laughs…….
Midwesterner, yes, the frum Jews you speak of were able to move and start new neighborhoods. To do that, you obviously need money- something poor blacks living in the inner city don’t have! Isn’t that obvious?
I’m not a biologist, but I don’t think that is how DNA works. For one thing, there is no such thing as a “smart” gene. You cannot pass on being “stupid” genetically to your children, it’s impossible. Also, the African Masai tribe in Kenya and Tanzania has people that are very tall, and were tall thousands of years before Europeans came and took slaves.
eh, if you’re afraid people will find out who you are, don’t do it. anonymity is important for some people. in any case, keep writing! the frum world needs more creative and arts-oriented women.
shopping613- that song actually looks really interesting, and w/ subversive lyrics too. Could you post the whole thing? one tiny edit, hakol in the 2nd line should have a “kuf” (as in katan), not a “kaf” (as in kelev).
Yes, of course whites do better than blacks overall on vocal/reading/math tests. But it’s not because they are better overall, it’s because african american kids are more likely to live in poverty, in bad neighborhoods, and with only one parent. Does that not make sense that they would therefore do less well on tests?!
How about we put ashkenazi Jews in the ‘hood and see how they long they last with their high IQs. many black kids have to learn early on how to stay out of trouble and keep safe, as well knowing who is safe and who is dangerous. frum people don’t know from that all, baruch hashem.
Nisht, your problem is that you refuse to believe that frum Jews and communities can make mistakes. You aggressively complain and holler that no ban exists for assuring bike riding in any frum community. Why? Because chas v’shalom any community would do something that you disagree with. So what if a few chassidim decide bike riding is bittul torah? But no, you refuse to believe that that could happen. Again, why?
If there are frum communities that assur bike riding, I (and many others) take issue with that, because bike riding is a legitimate, fun form of exercise. And one is halachically obligated to be healthy, according to Rambam in the beginning of perek daled in hilchos dei’os. Go look it up, if you can understand it.
Of course you would bring Farber into this, when he and yct have absolutely nothing to do with the inyan at hand. Classic case of you ignoring the issues and beating up on a guy everyone admits is an kofer b’ikar.
akuperma- If you are correct that “chareidim who see Muslims as enemies have enlisted for years,” then why did only 10% of chareidi bachurim of draft age do any kind of army or national service the past 10 years??
Are you saying that 90% of all chareidim in Israel are anti-zionist and also do not see palestinians as a threat? Where do you pull these inane numbers from?