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It has been proven beyond doubt that couples who marry at younger ages are more likely to get divorced than those who are older when getting married.. This is true especially if the girls are under 21, al pi the study I read. In the frum velt, girls and boys commonly get married very young compared to the national average. This might be the reason behind growing divorce rates. Just a thought.
Do you learn the cooking sugyos, or do you cook too? Velo hamidrash hu haikar elah hamaiseh.
Even in the best law schools, they give homework and tests and are competitive about grades. The best yeshivos have bochurim sitting and learning for hours- the motivation comes not from grades or tests, but from within.
A mature, experienced adult having Internet access is very different than a high schooler having it. Can’t you see this crucial difference?
PBA, that analogy isn’t good. . A better analogy is its like a highly successful college football player who wants to get info about the nfl, because odds are he is going to get there and he wants to be prepared for a potential life choice. Hacha nami, a guy seriously taking the LSAT, and especially one with a Gemara background can expect to do well and go to a decent law school.
Tov lehodos lashon ulizamer lishimchah elyon.
It’s called naval b’rishus hatorah, which is a fancy way of saying that technically it is mutar but really shouldn’t be done l’ma’aseh. Don’t do it.
Rav Shalom Schwadron zt”l.
Writersoul: It’s not a point in her favor because she turned Harvard down! You do not write on your resume “I got into Harvard but I cordially declined their invitation” lol. getting in means very little- you have to actually go!
If a frum girl decides to not go to harvard means she did lose something- good job opportunities and top-rate professors and fellow students. That is quite a loss. And why would you pay 200 dollars to get a self-esteem boost? Sounds silly to me.
Wow. The part about emunah kills me, as the CR is supposed to be a warm, engaging and yeshivish environment. Much hatzlachah in your all your future learning and doing.
It actually proves that Touro doesn’t teach critical thinking skills. Most college students only dream of getting into Harvard because it is so highly selective.
Yitayningwut: speak for yourself. If you don’t value halacha l’ma’aseh, you have a problem. If you are saying only Gemara b’iyun is valuable, you also have a problem.
WIY: source? All of life is one big nisayon- we don’t try to hide from life!
DY: but its a machlokes whether mitzvos even tzrichois kavanah.
Torah isn’t limited to Gemara at all. Bais yaakovs teach Chumash, tanach, meforshim, Halacha, and machshava- right? All those areas are more than enough to learn.
WIY: There are plenty of challenges in the outside world and workplace as well, but we don’t tell girls to sit in caves learning Torah instead of working. College is a nisayon, but Jews are tough- we don’t give up on nisyonos! We pass them with flying colors!
WIY: if molesters really are suffering, they should get help instead of taking it out on kids who have done nothing wrong.
PBA: Post the link to threads where you make fun of those people, because from what I can tell you overwhelmingly make fun of YCT and not about anyone else. Sounds hypocritical to me.
no one else agrees with YCT except their musmachim, rebbeim, and families. Why do you feel so defensive against them? We here all know they are wrong.
Soldier spitter: aveirahs committed: where is his kavod habriyos? He also ignored “dah mah shetashiv leapikores” – cuz the kanoi just spit, instead of using his seichel. If this guy is a Talmid Chacham, he shamed the Torah. Now Israelis look at him and say all Torah learners spit on their brave soldiers. Shame.
Streetgeek: you can learn a lot of Torah whatever your gender.. What’s the shaichus?
Is that difference than “paying” someone to be more jewish through alcohol, free food, and events? Chabad and Aish do that.
WIY- a select few the posters here show a familiarity with gemaras all over shas, rishonim, and poskim that is quite impressive and shows they’ve learned seriously for a while, and remember a lot of it. No easy feat.
Torah: Studies consistently show that going to college will result in making more money. Are you against making enough money to afford yeshiva, give tzedakah, and cover all the other expenses of frum life? Especially if the husband is in kollel, a good income by a wife is definitely needed. Just stay away from apikorsus, get a rav, and keep learning. That should be enough to remain frum AND get a good parnassah.
RD- would you prefer that these women NOT come to shul, daven b’tzibur and hear Krias hatorah?
PBA: I think you’re pretty funny. But why limit your humor to YCT-related satire? The jokes get a little repetitive and boring, especially since you’re the one always telling them. How about making fun of “frum” s*x abusers? Or the few kanoim in beit shemesh that spat on girls, or the guy who spit on an Israeli female soldier for sitting in the front of a mehadrin bus? Or rock thowers on shabbos, or husbands that refuse gets? I could go on… YCT aren’t the only ovrei aveirah, so why not spread the leitzonus love?
Idk about the seminary itself, but Rav Wallerstein is an amazing speaker and huge Talmid Chacham. I’d pay to learn from him every week haha.
Trust- no way. When you start dating, if you have issues you better get rid of them and learn from your mistakes, or else have a hard time in shidduchim. The pressure makes you rise to the occasion. How can you give your problems to someone else? If they don’t like you, shape up, or move on. It’s totally fair.
It really is a nes greater than yam suf to find your zivug lol
Wow!!! DaMoshe- what an incredible story! Thank you so much for sharing.
Internet addiction is a serious problem, and nirah li that this person should go to therapy to understand why he is behaving the way he is. An addicted person tries to make up for some failure or lack of something in his life by overdoing it in another area. This guy should check himself out, figure out what he wants in life, make goals, and accomplish them. Here’s a good start: go back to school, get a job, learn with a rabbi, maybe start dating (it makes you clean up your act).
Marbeh: adderabah it should be discussed. We are not Christians who accept everything simply because the pope/church leaders say so, r”l. The first Halacha in the Mishnah Torah is not to “believe” in God, but to “know” God exists, through rationality, philosophy, and all the other tools God gives us to discover him (Torah isn’t the only one).. Answering this yungerman increases emunah, Daas, and glorifies hashems name.
Just make sure there’s no actions or contact between u two that is derech chibah. If you aren’t sure if you can ensure that, don’t go.
You cannot blame this lack of chareidi achdus on outside forces, because they are not persecuting us- rather, we are quite religiously free, growing in size, and politically independent. We have strength in numbers and strength in Torah. Why don’t we use those kochos and opportunities from Hashem l’shem shomayim?
Sam2: I’m not sure what your mekor is, but its pshat from the Gemara in Shabbos 32-33 that it is not an insult. Rashbi fears that his wife will give in to torture and reveal his hiding place cuz her Daas is kal. This dies not refer to intelligence, but rather emotional frailty.
Redleg: but we have so many mitzvos and halachos like shiluach haken, shechitah and tzaar baalei chaim, which demonstrate that we SHOULD care about what’s happening in nature and do our best to not cause unecessary suffering to animals or the beriah.
HaKatan: if you cannot respect MO rabbanim like Rav Schachter, how can you have the temerity to think they will respect you? It doesn’t matter if you think you are right- rebbeim like the ones Charliehall cited are huge talmidei chachomim. The idea that you would accuse these scholars of avodeh zaroh, and link them to a shmutzy article about bars is shameful.
And regarding zionism, its funny you say that Hashem could bring geulah without the State. Don’t you see how much easier it is for mashiach to come when Jews are free and safe from the churbanos of Europe?
To summarize: the treife State supports and hosts an unprecedented amount of Talmud Torah in a safe and holy environment. There are no Cossacks. Pogroms, or inquisitions. You can eat kosher easily, learn lots of Torah, spend 2 years helping other Jews expand the borders of eretz yisrael, and then learn, learn, learn.
relax. VM is just seeking a simple eitzah regarding how to react to a certain not-so-common life situation. Everyone here is anonymous and no one knows where anyone lives. And anyway, as VM said, there are plenty of people that have broken a chair before in every jewish neighborhood. its not loshon horah to ask for advice anonymously.
great ideas! Dumbledore and Harry seem to have a rebbe-talmid type relationship, going on all these adventures and into the memories of the pensive together.
it is possible to watch movies and still be shomer torah umitzvos, if that’s what you’re asking. I know lots of people who do it.
If you watch them all the time, movies can be bittul zman. Also, lots of modern movies are untznius or violent.
Therefore, as long as you don’t watch too many movies, and are makpid to only watch good, clean movies, you’re good.