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Back in the day, the JDL was mostly a collection of teenage punks and Rambo wannabes. All mouth, no geduldt. Another obnoxious trait of the JDL was taking credit for the effort and results of other organizations. case in point, the JDL often took credit for the release of Soviet Jews. The real work was done by SSSJ and others who deserve the lion’s share of the credit for the success of the program. The extent of the JDL’s contribution to the struggle was to throw stink bombs at the Bolshoi ballet.
All the above is not to say that we don’t need a Jewish security apperatus. Such an organization, staffed and run by serious people, I.E. adults, could be useful in today’s world. Just forget the JDL.
RE Simcha halls: It’s common practice in our communities for simcha halls to have separate entrances for men and women. No chiddush here.
Calling something a chiyuv doesn’t necessarily make it one. If the practice of your particular affinity group is to have, say, separate seating at weddings, fine. You and your group can consider it a requirement but in no way can it be considered an obligation min haTorah on anyone else. Also the idea that anyone who observes this or any other chumra is on a higher spiritual level than one who doesn’t is not only nonsense, it is a slander on that person. Take care of your own spiritual level and let others take care of their’s.
Zahavasdad, you obviously have never served in the Army, either in the U.S. or Israel.
Call Rabbi Gluck at Areivim in Monsey. He has a sort of half way house for troubled teens with no place to live.
Man, if you want to wear a black hat, wear it. If you don’t want to wear a black hat, don’t. There is no kedusha whatever that attaches to a Borselino. What’s in your head is way more important than what’s on your head.
Folks, this isn’t hard. If you have to ask if a certain activity is cheating, it almost certainly is. To paraphrase a famous Supreme Court statement, I may not be able to specifically define cheating but I know it when I see it.
I hasten to remind the OP and everyone else that jelousy isn’t simply a negative character trait, it is an issur d’Oraisah. Telling oneself that others don’t really have anything to be jealous about misses the point.
Denimgirl, it’s not about “showing the real you”. It’s about showing respect for the person you are meeting for the first time. “Showing the real you” on a first date gives the impression that you’re more interested in yourself than in your potential zivug. I doubt that anyone searching for a prospective mate would find such an attitude endearing.
There are, of course, dating occasions when casual dress, or even rough dress, may be appopriate. A first meeting isn’t one of them.
To quote a self-hating Jew (Woody Allen), “I’m not afraid of death. I just don’t want to be around when it happens.”
Per recent figures published by the Dept of Labor Statistics, The current overall rate of unemployment in the U.S. is 9.1%. The rate of unemployment among college graduates is 4%. In engineering and IT, the rate is even lower.
Anybody want to comment on whether or not we should be sending our Beis Yaakov meidlach to college?
Okay, here’s another Chanukah question.
Seeing as how the Makabim Chashmonoi were holy, were moser nefesh for HaShem and Torah, were zoche to nissim nigla’im, how is it that they turned out so bad in the end? In less than 150 years, they went from “Mi laShem aylei!” to “anyone who claims to be from Beis Chashmonoi is an eved”. How did Mattisyahu Cohen Gadol have an einikel like Alexander Yanai, who would murder 50,000 talmidei chachamim, or an Aristoblus who would invite the Romans to come and help him, thereby beginning the golus that we are still in today? What happened?
What ever happened to Tebo? (teebow? Tybo?) You know, the kick boxing exercise routine. Would that be considered more tznius that Zumba? Is punching and kicking more refined than wiggling?
Why would a Yiddishe meidel want to know what’s going on in the world. Better she should concentrate on learning how to make kuggel.
Ibergebliben
One reason that “greeners” were able to pick up English reletively easily (albeit brokenly) is that there is great similarity between English and Yiddish, both being Germanic laguages. Don’t think so? Okay,as an exercise, translate the following sentence into English:
“Mein brudder zogt, effenen de tir und badank em farn fisch.”
Original Thinker, your thinking isn’t so original. Folks have been using sefer Doniel to retroactively predict catastrophes for hundreds of years. The pesukim are ambiguous enough to be refering to anything from nuking Hiroshima to the Irish potato famine.
The best advice is, “Trust G-d, see all, nor be afraid.” (Robert Burns, the poem “Rabbi ben Ezra”)
All flowering plants use animal vectors for pollination and/or seeding. Flowers have sweet nectar that attracts insects which, in the course of collecting the nectar, pollinate the flower which grows into a a fruit or seed pod that animals or birds eat. The seeds are distributed by the those creatures as they pass through their gut and are “ejected”.
The trees did not “decide” to have these features, nor do the insects intend to pollinate the plant or the animals to spread the seeds. Rather, the entire intricate design is that of the Great Engineer of the Universe.
As was pointed out above, the kashrus agency or vaad is not for the benefit of the restaurant but for that of the consumer. The entrepeneur in the OP should have included the fees for hashgacha in her start-up plan.
Mark Twain was an Atheist and did not believe in an afterlife. He was asked if, as he believed, there would be no existance after his death and didn’t that scare him, he quipped,” I didn’t exist for thousands of years befor I was born and it didn’t inconvenience me in the least.”
ARWSF, As I’ve posted above, victims allegations are hardly ever false. The up side, if you will, is that the vast majority of cheder yinglach never have cause for allegations. The attitude to have towards your child’s rebbis and teachers was best expressed by one of our greatest Presidents, “trust but verify”.
Dr. Twerski was, as I stated, refering to accusations made by victims, not accusations in general. It is an unfortunate fact that accusations of child abuse are sometimes made for unsavory reasons such as revenge or extortion or as the “nuclear option” in a divorce proceding. Any such accusations do not have a presumption of truth. But if a child comes to his parent or teacher or doctor or to you, Always Runs etc. and says “Uncle Blank or Plonie’s father, or my rebbi touched me here” , believe him.
Dr. Twerski will confirm that the percentage of false accusations of abuse by victims is very small, under 5%. Yes, we are concerned about false accusations and, yes, an innocent person’s life and reputation can be irreparably damaged but, given the rarity of false accusations and enormous harm that an unreported child molester can do, the hava amina must always be that the victim is telling the truth.
Talk about obscenely high and undeserved compensation! Millions of dollars per year to throw a ball through a hoop. Where’s the movement to Occupy MSG?
The first avodah of day for the kohanim in the Beis Hamiqdash was trumas hadeshen, I.E. taking out the garbage.
Grand juries do not determine guilt or innocence. They deside whether or not sufficient evidence has been presented to determine that a crime has been committed, upon which evidence the grand jury issues an indictment. The trial jury determines guilt or innocence.
I simply do not get the infatuation Lakewood expressed above. Lakewood is just a place. the kedushah comes from the Torah learned there and the Torah lives lived there. The same devotion can be had not only for Monsey or Flatbush, but for Baltimore or Philadelphia or Cleveland Heights or Chicago or Waterbury or Miami Beach or… you get it.
Lakewood is HASHEM’s land in the same way that Atlanta or Omaha or Laramie is HASHEM’s land. “LaShem ha’aretz u’melo’o, teivail v’yoshvei bo”. (pardon the bad transliteration). In no sense can one say lashon harah about a plot of ground or any other inanimate object outside of true admas kodesh, I.E. Eretz Yisroel”.
On the other hand it is possible to say lashon harah about the people who live there, but the halachas of lashon harah apply. Repeating common knowledge is not lashon harah.
There are lots of good reasons to live in Lakewood, but there are also difficulties as the OP notes. There is no reason, halachically, hasgafically or otherwise not describe them.
Whether a one man band of a five piece band with singer, how about requiring him or them to keep the sound level below the level of permanent damage. At all of the simchas I have attended in, say, the last ten years, the bands have been way too loud, painfully loud. The upper limit of human toleration is 85 dBa. It’s a good idea to check with a sound level meter. During the meal the sound level needs to be much lower – low enough so table mates can carry on a normal conversation without having to shout.
Why is this sticky thread? Just askin’.
RB, some may consider Lakewood to be admas kodesh but it’s really silly to compare complaints about Lakewood (valid complaints, I might add) to the chet hameraglim.
BSD, a meshulach collects funds on behalf of others such as a yeshiva or a public kupah. A schnorer is collecting “far zich”. Back in the day the balei simcha would deposit a certain sum of money with the caterer who would distribute it among the “collectors” in the entrance hall. I don’t know if this is current practice.
Nivul peh is not limited to the “seven dirty words”. As posted above, disparaging nicknames like “shorty” of “gordo” (“fatso” en espanol)are included. As everyone knows the Torah HaKedoshah goes out of it’s way to avoid, not only base language, but even language that may have unpleasant connotation, I.E. In Parshas Noach, the use of the circumlocution “aino tahara” instead of “tamei”. In view of this, one needs to make sure that his or her language is not only inoffensive but of refined character as well.
Lemony, my good friend is as frum as they come hand he’s been doing it for forty years.
Momma, a post date screw driver is a lot healthier than a post date bowl of chocolate swirl.
I know of a job for which there is a significant shortage of applicants. This job offers a solid middle class income and does not require a college degree, nor does it require living in a particular place. One of my oldest friends from yeshiva has had this job for forty years and has put his sons and daughters through yeshivas and seminaries and has made fine shidduchim for all of them.
No, it’s not Amway. The job is over-the-road truck drivers. Motor freight is still a growing industry and there is a serious shortage of drivers. Freight companies are litterally begging for applicants, either as company drivers or owner/operators.
Yes, there is a down side being that a driver is away from home for days at a time and the job is, lets face it, not as safe as sitting behind a desk. On the other hand, the apy is pretty good and there is an opportunity for starting one’s own business.
The best internet filter is the one between your ears.
Hey tzaddiq, never mind the best city in the world. What’s the best city in New York State?
It has always seemed to me that Moshiach must be alive right now as he must also be in every generation. How else could he come any day?
SD, perhaps Shaul haMelech was too modest for his own good. If he had asserted himself and insisted that Klal Yisroel follow the tzevuy HASHEM regarding not taking spoil from Amalek, he might have remained king.
Green Mountain Dark Magic.
The OP specifically asked for places to shop. I see nothing untoward about posters responding with their own suggestions and shopping experiences.
DY, Just a point. While it is true that there are 105 boys born per 100 girls, boys have a higher infant mortality rate so that by age 5, there are 102 boys per 100 girls.
Das Yachid, my suggestion that the boys and girls be paid directly was offered semi facetiously. The point was that throwing money a shadchanim was both unnecessary and was missing the real issue.
As far as it being a scam, please note the qualifiers that I used, “seems to be” “appears to be”, etc. NASI may very well turn out to be honest and sincere, albeit ill conceived and misdirected. In which case I will have been simply mistaken. Unfortunately, as I pointed out in my previous post, NASI did not help it’s own cause with their written response.
I recently read the NASI response in Hamodia. It strikes me that however sincere the person behind NASI is, (about which more later) his basic concept appears to be flawed in that it presumes that shadchanim need to be incentivized to concentrate on finding matches for older girls. My own experience with shadchanus and various shidduch organizations is that these folks already work very hard on older girls and that simply throwing money at them will not have any bearing on the main issue which is that 23-24 year old bachurim want to marry 19-20 year old girls, and the 19-20 year old girls want to get married.
It would make more sense to pay the bonuses directly to the bachurim to marry older girls or to the girls themselves if they refrain from entering the shidduch “market” until they’re 24.
previous posters have pointed out that the withholding of the name or names of the rabbinic supervisor(s) and the hazy accounting methods seem suspicious. The NASI response does nothing to allay those suspicions and, in fact, makes them more suspect than ever. For instance, the response claims that the reason for withholding the name of the rabbinic supervisor is that he and other roshei yeshiva are working on a “secret plan” to end the shidduch crisis and that it will be revealed at the appropriate time. PULEEEZE! “Secret plan”? who is this guy, Richard Nixon? I’m sorry, but the tone and substance of the NASI reply gives the impression that it was written by a crook, and a not-very-smart crook at that.
There are varying opinions as to whether or not the hair was, in fact, used for avodas zorah. However, in no case can a Jew be mevatel an avodas zorah. Only the oveid of that particular avodas zorah can be mevatel, so your non- avodas zorah use of (possibly)avodas zorah hair does not cancel the (possible) issur.
I should have asked what kind of instrumental music are you talking about? Classical? Jazz? Easy Listening (elevator music)?
WQXR, 105.9 The radio station of the NYT. Strictly classical music but not always instrumental only. They do play opera occasionally.
There’s a quote from Anna Karenina that seems to apply tho this issue as well. “All good marriages are the same. All failed marriages fail for different reasons.”
As my mother, A”H, used to say, “When fun is fun it’s really funny, but when fun isn’t fun it isn’t funny anymore” Good Shabbos