Yasher Koach Zalmy for your insight into the denial downside of the frum world. Young people are certainly being turned off because of the hypocrisy and the garbage that is paraded as being Torah values. However I disagree with your assesment of co-ed activities. My rebbe, Harav Hagadol Shloime Twerski, zt’l, a chassidic rabbi, from the Hornistieple, Chernoble and Bobov families (and elder brother of Rabbi Dr Abraham Twerski)was very much in favor of supervised co-educational socialization. He said, and I quote, “We keep young men and women away from each other and then suddenly expect them to have succesful marriages when they haven’t any idea of what the other is like”.