RABBAIM

1- are you being realistic with the applications? If he is not a top student dont apply to Riverdale or Philly

2- Thee are places for those not yet accomplished….. but if the Hashkafa is a little diff. than yours will YOU accept or reject.

3- What kind of place are you,looking for?

Why not by email??? It is not an asifa to say e mail is assur, only to educate about the need to exhibit responsible use of the internet. Don’t drive down the dangerous road without driving instructions!! The Gedolim- ainei haeida- want to give instructions and make people feel proud to be part of the zehirus group. What is the downside?

Pick wisely, it can make or destroy a Chassunah.

Yetzer Tov and Yetzer Hora

Satmar and Satmar

Bobov and Bobov

What have you tried that has not worked? Any of the above suggestions? My collection has worked without fail for so many Talmididm. very few individuals have tried it for real and have not succeeded. most who really followed it all have been opened!

Also, in this weeks parsha we see a connection between kedusha and kashrus. Are you careful with the hechshairim of what you put ion your mouth? Rav Akiva Eiger once told the paretn of a child who did not enjoy learning that he must have eaten treif……and once he did teshva, his geshmak followed.

IN the last few years my fellow Rabbaim and I have seen a significant increase in talmidim telling us of fathers who drink to get drunk on Fri night and don’t wake up till almost Mincha time on Shabbos or come home very high from a kiddush, rush through a day seuda drinking more to top it off and wake up to mumble a 2 shmoneh esray maariv and havdalah on pepto bismol ( grape juice).

Brooklyn yenta- 1-I wonder if stating I don’t want to get into Lashon hara is itself a problem of Lashon hara

2- I speak form experience and close knowledge of that yeshiva. I have heard Rechilus and so far NONE of is has basis in reality! It is amazing how smart people will talk “lshaim MItzvah” and parrot the most ridiculous outlandish tings without ever checkoin them out. I checked and checked.. and I still feel it is one amazing place helping individual bachurim to achieve amazing heights in all areas of Avodas Hashem in a very normal and simcha filled environment

Again, they are in the heart of Flatbush and the doors are open all the time for anyone to enter and observe! The Rosh Yeshiva makes time for ANYONE who wants to talk. Taste before besmirching even in a hint.

EVERYONE??? Many Gedolim would not touch KEY challah saying it is a minhag based in one shtetl as pointed out in Taamei Haminhagim and has no sources in kedusha! Parnassah? Say Baraich Alainu with kavana! Best “segula”.

Sam- Why do you say there is no ain maavirin? Are you aware that the Yerushalmy holds it is a Mitzvah to remove tfillin and they even used to make a Bracha upon removing it? If you use the right hand to reach up to the shel Rosh, you pass the shel yad on the left hand. If so, you should remove that one first. Isn’t that ain maavirin? If however you use the left then you avoid ain maavirin!

Additionally, using the weaker hand demonstrates a reluctance to remove them.

1- Learn something difficult for 10 minutes with total concentration. the effort is the key. NO shortcuts or crutches. plain hard yegia

2- daven hard with a lot of begging and feeling when you say Birchas HaTorah in the am. Vihaarev Na Hashem…… and PLEASE make it sweet in my mouth……… mean IT!!

3- Deep concentration during the last Bracha before Shma. Avinu Av Harachaman…….. and give in to my heart understanding etc….. really mean it. you will see a change in a few days!

Stick with the left. there are many many reasons. Ain Maavirirn al Hamitzvos can be done by removing with the left, not the right, The right would have to pass the shel yad on the way to the Rosh. The left hand does not have that issue!

Bekitzur- If the topic is interesting and it responds to your needs and questions, why should it be less effective if you are tested?

Ateres Yaakov of Long Island, Torah Vodaas of Brooklyn, Derech Chayim of Brooklyn, Rabbis Owsiankas/Gordon place in NJ, JEC Elizabeth

Look like a TC? Why? Why not research and put together a solid vort and present it as who you are? The Bracha coming from YOU is precious, not from an actor!

and many give the Yiddish names because in todays frum world they are absolutely acceptable and used. NO need to change. BTW no one speaks the lashon kodesh we spoke in Mitzrayim Ivrit or Ivris is not lashon Kodesh and many hold that Yiddish, by its very name is part of not changing our language. Rav Oshry ztl (Teshuvos Mimamakim) said that yiddish is the ONLY language that announces by it’s’ name that it sis for Yidden even though it is a mixture of many. ( Yidden DO have a specail affinity for cholent!!!)

Its the Rambam. Respect her as much as yourself and love her more than yourself. and she has to know it!

Rav Belsky is in a rehab place for a lot of therapy. Keep davening hard……… every step needs yeshuas Hashem!

Typing on a computer is not called kesiva as far as Chol Hamoed is concerned. Printing out what is written is assur.

Restrictive?? Freedom from attachment to so much physical combined with a focus on the spiritual roots and how the past present and future runs through me……… isn’t that uplifting and empowering?? It is FREEDOM!!

Mamash- Kitniyos on the last day? Is there a source for such a thing for one who does not eat it for first 7?

Freezer is gevaldik. It allows for a bachur who is new to get his whole essence into learing and when he dates he is doing so from an emotionally elevated state, a place of being “in the groove” instead of with accompanied frustration of acclimation. I have coached many and I have seen the truth of this on frequent occasions.

1- Pizza crust first because those who are maakpid like Mishna Berrurah and Rav Shlomo Zalman to make Hamotzie on Pizza they want to make the Bracha on plain crsut wiht no sauce or chgees.

2- In Kabala there are 7 foods one eats with his hands, no other. Although we are not on that madraygah, let us be careful not to mock.

3- I have seen Gedolim and Rabbanim chashuvim eat a sandwich with fork and kniofe. My Rebbi exlained that it is not proper to put food in mouth, bite and pull some out. From mussar point of view It is uncouth and form Kabbalistic point of view is a rejection of portions of food which then would never be eaten. Breaking off pieces and eating a piece at a time is the proper way to live on the higher standards.

4- I have seen some great people do the same with Matzah and Korach as well. Great people are consistent.

5- We need to avoid demonstrating our ignorance by criticizing, mocking, being sarcastic without checking things out. Yiddishkeit is a multi level experiential possibility. Not everyone is expected to be the same and different standards DO apply to different people. MOst certainly laytzanus is not a virtue.

Life is too short to get hung up on positioning oneself and becoming immutable. Ask her to call a few times a week for a quick update, hello, show of interest……… big Mitzvah Drabanana and maybe deoraysa!

Any organization which would allow others to do the same thing they are doing and be happy that Ratzon Hashem is being done by many helps b rng Mashiahc closer.

unfortunately that looks like a dream……….

If we would be “Yosef Shalom” and stop machlokes then Rav Elyashiv may have more zechusim for Refuah.