RABBAIM

Read Rabbi Yaakovson in “SPARE THE CHILD” how he feels that hitting is not a productive tool anymore. The dangers and possible negative outcomes outweighs the possible benefits. See the end of the chapter on Punishment.

1- IN NY I can buy MAztos baked that day. Cannot beat the freshness Israeli Matzos may have been baked in Sep or Oct and were sipped by boat.
2- NY matzos can be made thin and thinner if you like them that way. Shatzer has 8 Matzos to the pound. Satmar, Pupa have between 8 and 9 to a pound. Almost all Israeli matzos are 5 or 6 to a pound.
3- The taste and texture are very different. Komemiyus Matzos taste very fresh, but the flavor and texture are unique. Ya gotta like it.
All taht said…. you can get Matzos for 10-12 dollars a pound in KRM, Moishes, Bingo….. and it is $32 in the local Bakery. Saving 20 dollars a pound- and we use nearly 40 pound’s over Pesach…. that saving does have a good fresh taste about it:)

I am complaining??? If I think of money to try to help others and mosods etc…. that is similar to the Rebbi who is complaining he cannot make ends meet?? I wrote that BH I ma making ends meet. I feel for those who cannot. I am not ready to leave chinuch to attempt to make money to help them. So I open up the door a crack and if Hashem wants me to be the shaliach to help others, fine. If not, I say….fine!!
I would also calmly suggest that you’re bias about Rabbaim is peeking through.
“A friend said that when he asked his son’s Rebbe to do more for the kid, the guy said…:
your friend is a friend but the Rebbi is a guy?? Not even that much kavod Talmidei Chachamoim or Raban shel Tinokos shel Bais Rabban??? Also- I find it hard to believe that your friend is quoting accurately…… a Rebbi knows such a line will be whatsapped or texted all over….
Thanks for the ideas of remote possibilties…. will look into it.

I have no desire to be wealthy. I have what I need to live right now and BH my family is not desirous of the “world out there”. Nevertheless I have a big desire to be able to help others including my family. I have over 30 cousins in Eretz Yisroel, many of whom are struggling-some full time learning and some working- and many have children of marriageable age but are concerned that they cannot afford to participate in chassunah and post chassunah expenses because of lack of funds. They do not want to procure a letter and come collecting in person. I’d love to be able to have the money to take away their worries and let them marry off children without borrowing and worrying.
I would love to give a few million each to some of the Yeshivos I went to and help eaase thier burden, or give raises to the faculties or pay bills or expand if needed. That is a taava- a deep desire I have. I’d love to have the ability to write a check for 100 or 500…or??? dollars to the aniyim who come to my door shlepping alll over to try to raise money to pay bills.
I’d love to be able to set up a fund to help the needy Yesomim and almanos of so many who were niftar for various reasons.
I am close to someone whose wife was niftar at 35 and left him with 8 children. Someone stepped in and paid for a Yiddishe woman to be there all day to cook, do laundry, prep supper ans shop so he can be free to be with his children when he came home from a long day at work. Life insurance kicjked in and he put it aside to be able to make chassunos and pay some tuitions. Oh- how Id love the zechus of doing such Chassidim!!
I’m OK with what I have, but I have a Ruchniyu taava to do Tzedakah and chessed but do not have the money to do it. So I daven =, write out and sign my shtar, and buy a ticket once in a while. Is that bad???

Chayeinu… all the way!!! Incredible!!!

If you buy only one. Not any more. Just one. In that way we are giving Hashem a pesach- an opening that al pi teva can be explained as a winning ticket even though its clear that based on the odds it is a miracle. Bu we may not be zoche to a miracle in which Hashem drops 300 mil into my bank account. So we open a door the size of a needle- that iis our way of diminishing the miracle. Buying 2 means you are trying to increasing the odds. That is hishtadlus- that is ridiculous. Those odds ae not reasonable hishtadlus. You wouldn’t go for a job interview or for a shidduch if there was 1 in 300 million chance you would get it. The other thing is to be afraid of wealth. Ashirus is a bigger nisayon than poverty. Maybe the following is an idea. Draw up a contract in whihc you commit to give away 90 percent of the post taxes winnings to Tzedakos all over the world. Designate percentages for Yeshivos, Chesed organizations, yechidim etc. WRITE IT OUT> Sign it in fornt of 2 witnesses, give then copies, tell your kids you wrote such a contract so you are diminishing g the chances of the Yetzer orah creeping in. Then buy it and say Tehillim that the mosdos need you to win. Imagine if yo were able to distribute 270 million to Tzedakah….. without publicity. Set up a foundation- your name should not appear in public…. ah!! That would be a Kiddush Hashem!

It is a vast sugya. Let’s go to the beginning. When Adam Harishshon was created and looked around the world what did he see??? Nothing. Absolutely nothing!! The passik says all was “terem yitzmach”. Prior to growing. Why? Adam ayin laavod haadama. Thee was not man to work the field. Rashi says that the pshat of he possuk is there was no man to recognize the good of rain and to ask for it. There was no man to daven that things should grow. That means that Hashem wanted to make things grow but He waited for the Tfillah of man. In this way Hashem has made us part of the process of creation. The world is created with the name Elokim and we are created with then name Elokim….. Btzleme Elokim…. Of course Hashem wanted the should be trees, grass, plants, fruits, veggies, grains etc…. but He gave us the trigger- Tfillah- to make it happen. NO davening? No food. Yes davening, -zechus of being part of the process of bringing shefa brocho down from ON HIGH. I tried to write succinctly and provide a simple livable relatable approach. Hatlocho!
In many instance s the same goes for our needs and for the gzieros of the world. Haashem wants us to be healed, or give parnosshoh, or stop th epandemic. He waits for us to daven. To realy daven. To recognize that He will give it if we daven and if that is what he deems as good.

Can you bring yourself to cry in yearning and pleading to Hashem for yourself and others in the same matzav?? That is the segula mikol haamim!

WE need to refresh ourselves that laiv melachim vsarim byad Hashem and as the Chovos Halevavos says, if we trust in Hashem- He will take charge. If we trust in others, Hashem will let them decide for us…. it depends on our level of dependency and bitachon. Tine to re-learn Shaar Nabitachon and daven for real to Hashem to take care of us.
Talk with HIM for real…. dont just recite words, full hearted conversation with Hashem.

I am in Mesivta and post mesivta chinuch for nearly 40 years and still very very active and involved. I think it would be a terrible mistake. An 18 year old bochur needs something different than a 20 and 21 year old. The enticements of the freedom , stores, trips etc…. are way too tempting and intoxicating for a HS graduate. It is probably even too much for a 20 yr old!! Mir is not set up for 18yr old Americans. O to a smaller, more involved place whe you can have a personal kesher with a Rebbi, Mashgiach, contained chevra, designed environment and work hard in learning, davening, mussar, hashkofo and halacha so you can be ready and empowered for the looser environment of Mir when you are a bit older.

So there is a kesher, but it is the responsibility of the bochur who wants to keep a connection to do so. Is that bad?? I have BH a few thousand Talmidim in 40 years of chinuch. Those who call, write, come by are showing they want to keep a kesher and it becomes a two way street. Am I expected to make “checking on you” or “kesher keeping calls” to all of them?? The few hundred who keep in touch, invite to simchos, gather for reunion Melave Malka in my house, call with needs etc keep the relationship going. Many others habve found other people to connect to. That is fine. When I hear of an issue, problem, tzara, aveilus in any of them I will initiate and reach out. I really believe in moat cases it is the achrayus of the Talmid to try to keep a kesher if he wants it.
By the way “shpitz amava” is not comparison to Moshe Rabbainu ch”v…. it describes someone in comparison to most people in OUR generation. If you’d meet him once for 5 minutes you would understand the description and how he reminds of his saintly humble father.

Bochrim who are very capable in learning, have a serious attitude towards learning, are looking to work on their analytical skills as well as the intangible of becoming a solid, real, dedicated Ben Torah and Ovaid Hashem.
It is not a place for wannabees or bochrim who need diversions such as testing out the many local restaurants, ball fields of social activities. They come to learn and want to find their happiness in learning. There is great peer pressure AND peer support to learn, learn well and learn more.

I saw it done by Rav Nosson Tzvi Cohen in Mir Yerushalayim in 1973. The bil rubin count of the patient was 29 when we started and 7 when we finished about 17 pigeons later. Instead of hospitalization, the patient was back n Bais Medrash in less than a week.

Rabbi Twersky of Pittsburgh did lab tests to discover and found that it not scientific, but a spiritual siyata dishmaya.

Sit and learn for 20 minutes and you’ll forget the difficulty of the date. Much healthier and more of what Hashem wants.

1- Maybe its not Motzi Shaim Ra, but could it be Lashon Hara? Toeles is not a heter in such a forum in which you don’t know who is reading it.

2- I encourage the naysayers to visit Lakewood and pick any Bais Medrash. Learn all sedorim.. see the thousands around you doing the same…….. feel the intensity and seriousness of the multitudes. The minority who are squandering the opportunity are too immature to appreciate the gift. But then there are those who squander the opportunity when working in an office or even as a doctor or lawyer. Are they all living according to the Shulchan Aruch? Are they maximizing the time on behalf of the employer…… or do they “batil a bit” around a cup of coffee? iN EVERY ARE OF HUMAN INVOLVEMENT THERE ARE THOSE WHO GIVE IT THEIR ALL AND THOSE WHO ARE A LITTLE LAZIER AND THOSE WHO SQUANDER…….

So syag, you do not agree, you actually did cry again and again. NO, crying is not just internal…. when it flows form within the tears flow. Anyone who lost a close relative or friend know the pain and freedom of crying. If we cannot cry for the loss of the Mikdash its because we don’t feel that she is a close friend or relative.

Reb Doniel- Which drashos made a big impression?

Origin of the Walkie Talkie

Good for you! I wish i did!

It’s not exactly graffiti. That would be mazik!

It is permissible fun………….

Smile that Yiddishe kinder are enjoying themselves!

Smile that there are Yiddishe kinder!!!

Frum people BBQ in this world to appreciate Hashems bounty with Brachos before and after…….. and won’t BBQ in the next world!

Achdus creates strength. Discrimination on any grounds creates dispute.

I remember that in summer camp we had a lot of focus on the Holocaust before and during Tisha Bav. Our camp brought in survivors and we had small groups of teens bonding with them and spending hours together with discussion, q and A and ending with an Ani Maamin kumzits. This combined the need to learn and know, the need to remember and not forget and the appropriate weeks and a day.

With Talmidim joining night 1 @6am. With family an a few non religious guests night 2 @3am.

Talmud….. Now that we are on the same page…

1- We discuss in Hagada the time of sipur and how you can be Yotzai.. from here the Halcha seforim prove that speaking in depth about the Halacha is part of sippur. and it is all done with the Korban Pesach on the table. Mahral says all halacha inyanim of the seder now or tehn is part of sipur.

2-You are absolutely right….. pilpul can be part of the sipppur but the story at different levels is what it is all about. For the lamdan it get exciting when he can delve into lomdus as well. But the mesader needs to know the audience and he has a chiyuv to teach each child appropriately. Children can even be older as well.

2- Our seder?? We try to start the Matza eating 60-70 minutes before Chatzos so that we can have 40-45 for the seuda. we have soup and chicken with sides . Dessert is afikoman. we start Afikomn bargaining about 15 minutes before chatzos so the kids can have a great fun time and adults finish eating and then eat afikoman 5 minutes before chatzos. Then with the pressure off we can hear “personal stories” or individual amida in nisayon ….. how we survived or withstood and grew from our makos of the year. Our makos bring us closer to geula from this galus.

After 4th cup people who need/want go to sleep ( after a litlle clean up) Those who want try to fullfill the dictum of fqalling asleep while engaged in sioour…… A few of us try to say an enivened Shir Hashirim and then fall asleep with hashkafa/ Chassidieshe toros. Looking forward. I hope you can find a way to enjoy yours this year. Kdai to broach with your father if he is receptive……… Biderch kavod.

Chag Kasher Visameach!!