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(Hi, MP. The internet thread is closed, and I wanted to comment on your music. Really good! I love that type. It’s perfect to listen to as I play games. I love how it starts off slow then picks up. Really good!
Sorry this doesn’t belong here. That’s why I put it in parenthesis).
To all who are suffering: I hope you find the strength to push through 🙂
One time I was leaving the train station and there was a frum guy (probably in his 50s) walking ahead of me. And you know how those doors always slam shut after you? So instead of holding it open, the man let the door slam in my face. It bothered me because had it been a goy, he would have held it open. (Had it been me walking ahead of him, I’d at least hold it wide enough so that it wouldn’t slam in his face…)But I did get over it. There is being frum, but there is also having manners. But we can’t do anything about it. Just move on. Not all frum men act that way.
Why would a girl want to marry a guy who demands things from her?
Bombmaniac,
MiddlePath,
Ronrsr,
Hi, GumBall. Eighth grade was the best year for me. Make the most of it!
Since aries2756 brought up high school, I just want to offer some advice: go to the high school YOU want to go to. Don’t let teachers or parents make the decision for you. But of course respect your parents. Remember that you are the one who will go through those four years, so pick the best place for you.
Hatzlacha!
I think someone who had a little bit of a rough past would appreciate people, life, everything, more because he/she knows what it’s like to not have it easy. He/she would appreciate a spouse more, I believe. But for me, it would depend what the past was in order to see if I can handle it.
Oh! I didn’t see the link. Thanks, Mod-80.
MP, at least you have an excuse because you don’t live in NY! I guess I’ve been living under a rock…
I live in NY and I have no clue what/who Yalili is. At least I know what Pomegranate is (though I’ve never been there).
*ducks from the flying shoes*
Thanks, MiddlePath. I’ll keep trying 🙂
LOL, I love how you call them trousers!
Hey MiddlePath,
Just wanted to let you know that your post(s) have changed my outlook on life. It’s a really slow process for me, trying to learn how to deal with my own issues. I’ve been on a downward spiral these past few years due to what happened to me in the past. I’m only now beginning to realize and accept it, and am trying to work on myself. My issues are NOTHING compared to yours, and I still struggle with them every day. So thanks again.
Also, did you ever think about writing your story as a memoir or as a novel? It can be really inspiring for others to read/learn your entire story, from beginning to end. Just a thought.
I wish you the best.
I don’t want to get into arguments with anyone. I apologize if this offends:
Health, yes, I am a college graduate. Based on my personality, I am not the type of person to be involved with activities outside the actual classroom, but that is because of who I am. Guys asked me for help a few times (there were no Jews in any of my classes other than me), but I answered them politely, and they got the message.
If taking a break feels she has something to offer to other students, that is her decision. You and everyone else, to be frank, really have no right to tell her what to do. She is an adult, strong in her emunah, and she knows where to draw the line. Cut her some slack. How is she going to survive in the workplace? There will be situations where she may need to interact with men–non-Jews as well as frum guys–and she needs to learn how to deal with it. She can rise to top positions and may need to take others under her wing, like she’s doing in college. In my opinion, this is not as big of an issue as others think. I do agree that some frum girls may be affected differently in the same situation, but taking a break seems to handle herself well.
taking a break, sorry your thread exploded like this. I wish I can offer you some advice, but my college days were get in, get out, get my degree–very different than your experience. I wish you lots of hatzlacha.
Also, my school had many functions, where there was plenty of room for socializing (and free pizza), but I chose not to attend. Each person should do what he/she feels is appropriate.
Agreed with OP. Why shouldn’t a girl be involved in school? Should she hide in a corner or make the most out of her experience? I commend taking a break for realizing a possible dangerous/uncomfortable situation, and instead of pushing it aside or going with the flow, she asked advice for the best approach to deal with it.
I’m new here, but I noticed some posters are quick to judge and attack. We should all try to treat one another with respect.
“Whats not to love about Giant Black Telletubies walkin around town..”
Getting assualted by little kids demanding autographs?
Had only two hours of sleep and am online instead of taking a nap.
shlishi, no one “badgered” her. She gave us permission to guess three names.
Avigail, if it did bother you, I apologize.
Oh, I forgot to add that I think it’s a pretty name too 🙂
Yay 🙂
Okay, one last guess: Avigayil?
Aw, I thought I guessed right! Can I guess again? Batsheva? If you don’t answer, that means I’m right! 😉
Michal?
I didn’t sleep at all last night. House and everyone are okay, though, B”H.
LOL, bein_hasdorim! That would be interesting.
British accents are really cute 🙂
I was just about to say something similar. Just because someone behaves in a way that’s different than the norm, or what you’re used to, doesn’t mean he’s less frum, a bad person, or that he’s wrong. Maybe where he’s from, what he did is 100% correct. You never know.
collegegrad, what a great boost of confidence…
I once won something at a carnival, and this girl wanted it. She said, “Why do you live?”
I thought to myself, “?????????”
bein_hasdorim, do you mean that she shouldn’t knock you off your feet? I was once walking and the wind pushed me into the street, almost in front of a car. Freaky…
collegegrad, I agree with you 100%. To be honest, I never even heard of this until I saw this thread a few weeks ago. I got really upset. I have more to say on the subject, but I’m pretty sure the mods won’t let it through.
Me.
Why is everyone so rude to each other on here? Unless, apushatayid, it was meant as a joke–then I’m the fool :).
Looks like fun 🙂
I also noticed MiddlePath hasn’t been back. Posting such a personal story must have been really difficult. I’m sure he read the comments, he just needs some time.
MiddlePath,
G-d will send your wife to you at the right time. Stay strong.
I’m lame, I didn’t feel it…
Yoyo56, this is all my personal opinion.
Do you want to go because:
I think there is no correct spelling for a name. Everyone spells their names differently. Guys do, too, (Moishi vs. Moishie, David vs. Dovid). That goes for last names as well (Weiss vs. Weisz…). Even secular names have different ways to be spelled. Personal preference.
I always thought it was just a personal preference. I’ve seen Devorah spelled many ways (Devorah, Devora, Dvorah, Dvora). The same goes for Tzipporah and Tzippora, Rivka, Rivkah…For me, personally, the lack of the “h” in Devorah feels like something is missing.
Abe Cohen, usually that’s the case, but with the name Sara some people spell it as Sarah or Sara.
Hello and welcome 🙂
Good Shabbos, everyone!
minyan gal, that might be true, but it’s possible the guy wanted to start up with yossi because he’s a Jew.
P.S. Do I need to come up with a nickname for you? 😛
As if there isn’t enough Anti-Semitism in the world…
Happy Birthday, The Goq!
always runs with scissors fast, I’m surprised no one responded to this. Maybe they’re all sleeping (something I should be doing…). Beautiful post!
bb9650, that’s what I tell people who say the first part!
Curiosity killed that cat
I don’t like to get into controversial topics, but this is what I’ll say. There’s a certain why to conduct yourself on the streets whether you’re a frum girl a frum boy, or a secular boy or girl. Chewing gum loudly or while talking is rude and can look disgusting, but that has nothing to do with being a frum girl. It’s called being a person. In my opinion, this is not a tznius issue. It’s manners. And I don’t think it’s appropriate to stereotype “modern” girls. Like Imaofthree said, we have bigger things to worry about.
MiddlePath, I agree that we shouldn’t judge people based on how they dress. I’m guilty of doing this, too.
I also think girls (and guys) need to have some fun instead of constantly looking over their shoulder to make sure no one is “studying” them.
yossi2468, you better be joking or I’ll crawl through my screen and slap you across the face 😉