Queen Bee

I don’t like calling anyone out, but I want to show an example:

“of course people can feel embarrasment when they have foolishly invested an illusory persona in an online character”

You see right here, this can offend hundreds of people. Nobody knows what others are going through. The fact that you are not one of these people who are forced to create a fictional persona to deal with life does not mean others who have done this are “foolish”. One thing I noticed that is very lacking in our frum communities is acceptance. Everyone has lead different kind so of lives, been in hard situations. They deal with it the best way they can. We all need to understand that and accept the person for who he/she is.

Good Shabbos!

I loved learning Chumash and Navi in school. They were my favorite subjects (other than algebra). But learning every meforash is a little too much, IMO. Just rashi, maybe a few others is enough. I’m not in school anymore, but I still try to learn Chumash and Navi with rashi every week.

*raises hand* I’m 5’1/2″!

MiddlePath, that’s so amazing! If I ever get married, I’d like to learn with my husband (if that’s allowed…)

aries2756, I second MiddlePath.

Okay, sorry if I offended anyone.

I’ve always wanted to learn. In elementary and HS, my favorite Hebrew subjects were Chumash and Navi. I feel like there’s a whole side to Judaism I’m not part of because women are not allowed to learn.

If a woman picks up a gemara and starts reading on her own, is that assur? Let’s say I steal (ehem, borrow) my father’s Artscroll gemara?

I was in middle of class. We had an assembly where we said Tehilim, then they sent us home early. I spent practically the rest of the day watching the same footage of the planes crashing into the towers over and over again on TV.

popa_bar_abba, I don’t think I will ever forgive my principal either (though, mine was in HS). It sucks when everyone else (including my parents) thinks the world of her when she made my life a living hell.

I noticed on Luach.com that there are a few bookeeping/accounting positions in Monsey.

N?

The way I see it: when someone meets a married friend, they say, “How are you, how are the husband and kids?” Etc. So for an unmarried friend, they say “IY”H by you.” Wouldn’t you say the same if the roles were reversed?

But if they give pity faces, of course that would bother me. I don’t pity myself, so don’t pity me.

2CUTE4U, I feel the same way. Not so much about the crying, but that other people go through so much, and who am I to complain? I feel really guilty, too. I’m really thankful to the other posters for making me realize that it’s okay for me to feel this way. Everyone suffers on different levels and we shouldn’t compare one to another. All we can do is daven, work on our emunah, and hopefully we can get through it.

I wish you the best!

I’m in the same boat as you. One of the last of my single friends just got married. Try to keep busy, even if it’s just to help around in the house. Maybe play some games, take on some hobbies? Writing, reading, an instrument–or be a nerd like me and work on math problems? Trivia quizzes. I used to do some needlepoint. It’s relaxing (and no, it’s not just for old women!)

One thing I started recently is learning a sefer. Right now, I’m learning Yehoshua. After that, I plan to learn shoftim, and move on to Shmuel and Melachim. I also plan to learn the parsha every week. You can say Tehilim, maybe learn some halachos from the kitzur. Listen to shiurim online (wish I had more time for that). Ummm what else? Maybe pick a random topic and research it online? I’m sure you can come up with things 🙂

Hey, MiddlePath. I finally had time to listen to your last song. AWESOME!! I love the part at 4:20.

Ugh.

Okay, while looks are definitely important, I think judging a girl based on whether she wears heals is a little…ridiculous. Nothing against you, Joseph, but I think you need to pull back for a sec and think things through before complaining. Do you know what it’s like to wear heels? No, you don’t. I’m really short and I hate wearing heals, although I do wear them to weddings. Maybe the girl’s feet have been hurting, maybe she had a cut on her toe. I doubt your future wife will always wear heels, anyway. Will you still complain then? I think it’s really unfair. The girl probably worked hard picking out an outfit, deciding what shoes to wear (her [flat] shoes were decent?), and then you pick on something as irrelevant as her shoes? What ever happened to judging a girl on her inside?

To be honest, if the guy I went out with had a problem with me not wearing heels, I’d dump him.

I don’t mean to be harsh, but I think some people’s views on dating is so screwed.

Ugh.

MP + 2

Check out MiddlePath’s music thread.

Mazal tov, Adorable!

MiddlePath, guess you can say I miss high school math, lol.

workinonit, there are many sites for online games, but most are filled with chatrooms and that sort of the thing. Yahoo Games is safe, though. I was obsessed with zuma, dynomite, ball revamped as a teen. Perfect games for when you’re klutzing around, and they are really addictive.

Cool. I read it well on the first try.

I think I would be more comfortable without a shadchan because I have issues with the whole system, but on the other hand, it feels safer when a third party is involved. I didn’t know there was a source for this, so good to know.

Thanks, mustangrider, for mentioning me 🙂