Queen Bee

This might not work for you: I found out I only had a month to take my psychology clep. I bought the review book, memorized the entire thing in a week, had someone test me, and I passed.

Heh…

Being a chef seems like such a cool profession. In another lifetime, I’d be one.

kissthecook, definitely if you don’t feel comfortable don’t pursue. Sorry if I came off judgmental.

Yeah, I don’t really get it and I’m a girl…

Yeah, I have a twin, but she’s not a member here. Sorry you guessed wrong, Kapusta!

Hm…sea shells, I guess taking a break. And do you mean real twin or virtual twin?

gefen, actually no, I never raised my hand in HS. I did in elementary school, though. A little. Teachers complained all the time. Getting good grades wasn’t enough, huh? HS was just a really bad environment for me, so any chance of getting over my shyness was not possible. I think it even made it worse. I never chose to present assignments! I was forced. One teacher gave me a hard time in ninth grade. But oddly, when I had to make a presentation in college, as shy and awkward as I felt, I really did a good job, so I guess I felt okay about it. I didn’t do it alone, though, and it was in a class full of non-Jews, and for me that made it better.

Thanks for your help.

Happy 6th month anniversary, am yisrael chai! Many more to come =)

workinonit and gefen, I’m really shy, too. I’ve struggled with it all my life. I don’t think I can give advice, either, since it’s still an issue and it affects my everyday life. Gefen, if you don’t mind me asking: you’re married, right? How did your shyness affect your dating and how did you overcome it? How does your husband feel about it?

It helps to know there are others who struggle with this issue, too. I actually thought I was the only one until now.

First of all, congrats bekitzur on your eligibility and achievements. That’s impressive.

Best of luck! If you choose not to participate, just be proud of your accomplishments.

“And while it of course would be nice to learn in your free time, it would also be nice to help your spouse set the table, clean up, prepare food, take care of kids, etc.”

MP, how sweet 🙂

I wish you all Shana Tova, a year of health, happiness, hatzlacha, all the good stuff. For those with kids and grandkids, lots of nachas! May all our tefilos be answered.

Aw, shucks, MP. Thanks! Same to you.

Toi, my post had nothing to do with feminism or role reversal. Another poster had mentioned kollel life, so I was wondering how a man could put the burden of parnassah on his wife when she has many other responsibilities. That’s all.

Here’s my opinion. I don’t mean to offend anyone, so please don’t throw rocks at me.

Guys, before you start yelling at me, I know you have it hard too. Life is hard. It would just be nice to help your wives in any way possible to make her life easier. I know a lot of you do, and that’s great, but I’m talking about those who don’t. You can argue that some wives want to live like that. Great, good for them. I’m not knocking down the kollel life. But I still think a husband should do whatever it takes to ease his wife’s burden.

Wow, I’m screwed.

They got rid of the touch tunnel? A chutzpah! I haven’t been there in years, and I had no idea. That’s so sad.

Hope I see more of you around 🙂

toomuch00, your story reminds me of the time my sis and I found a slug in our garden. We put it in a jar, took it up to our room, and then poked it with sticks until this green goo oozed out. Poor thing. We killed it.

Peacemaker, I’m not sure. As a kid I loved to steal my brother’s LEGO and play with it. I was very wild–I hung off the banisters in my house. I liked playing with trucks and action figures. But I also loved playing with my Barbie dolls. I’m not crazy over sports or cars, but I don’t like makeup, doing my nails, jewelry or shopping. I do like to cook and bake, do needlework. I loved sewing clothing for my dolls as a kid. The video games I like are kind of “guyish” I guess, but I do enjoy some of the girly ones, too. So what does that make me?

I would help out with the car. That’d be fun. I have changed the chain and seat on my bike. I fixed my computer when it crashed. I help out with the garden. I shovel the snow sometimes. I think there shouldn’t be set rules whether a man should do this, or a woman should not do this. Unless something is halachicly forbidden, I believe men and women can do whatever they wish. I actually enjoy doing more of the “manly” things. I enjoy some of the “women” things, too.

lakewoodbt, thank you. My thoughts exactly.

Yes, I think it is. For example: men claiming women belong in the kitchen is sexist. Likewise, people thinking men shouldn’t cook or bake is sexist, too. Etc. When it comes to halacha, where the Torah/Rabbis forbid something (like girls learning gemara, or women dressing a certain way), then I can’t argue with that. But the fact that men should do something while women shouldn’t, or women should do something while men shouldn’t, to me it is sexist.

How do YOU define sexism then?

Who came up with all of this anyway? Why does it matter what a girl looks like? For a religion that is all about doing mitzvos, helping each other out, middos, valuing one’s neshama, this is all hypocritical, IMO. Sure it is very important for a guy to feel attracted to his wife, but this is one of the shallowest things I’ve ever seen in the frum community. And I take it very seriously because I am part of the frum Jews where this is being practiced. I have a right to be upset if it bothers me. I bet many guys would choose personality over looks any time. And one that does not, does not deserve to have a wife with a good personality. I’m sorry. I don’t want to get nasty, but we are acting almost as bad as the goyim here…

Oh, and you think girls don’t have the right to want to feel attracted to their husbands? Why is it that girls need to settle for okay when the guys only want the top. This reminds me of a documentary I watched about some third world country where there were massive growths on people’s bodies (mostly faces). All the men were married, but the women? No way! Men must have pretty wives, right? What about the women? I think instead of encouraging boys to look at looks (and I mean size two, too) their parents should teach them how to find the gem inside. Remember, diamonds are covered in dirt until you clean them.

Why would any girl want to do that? I find it offensive and sexist, unless the guys are required to do so as well. In fact, no one (guy or girl) should have to put a pic. It’s the inside that counts.