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dunno-

“It’s just no use fighting it out since you seem to only care about your point of view.”

and aren’t you just all ears to opinions besides your own

Dunno-

does that “whatever” mean that you agree with me?

bein hasdorim-

I think the issue at hand over here is boys demanding unrealistic things from girls.

No one is insinuating that anyone should give up on certain qualities that are important to them. Boys have the upper hand in this system so they are usually able to get what they ask for. I don’t think girls should have to settle either, but it is more likely that they will have to give up on things that are important to them.

Interesting… a boy can demand anything he wants, and he could get it.

A girl who had a few more items on her list besides male, alive and Jewish is considered picky and told to be realistic. Hello?????

Sometimes a 27 year old guy and a 19 year old girl are on the same maturity level. Guys are not expected to grow up as fast are girls are. It is common for a 23-24 year old guy to have no plans for his future. So if a guy is a late bloomer and only matures at 27, he is perfect for a 19 year old who also just matured recently!

I am very good at hiding my true feelings, and always cover them up instead of talking about them.

at some point you are no longer paying for quality, you are paying for the label and the status that you think comes along with it

I’ve heard of people who don’t have cars, or don’t drive and they took a car service. that is at least better than taking the train!

But you seem to have a lot of smart things to say, so why don’t you give others in real life the opportunity to hear your opinions?

Cedarhurst-

I beg to differ. Why would a never married young girl want a guy who was married before? Obviously the situation is different if the girl is much older, but I have heard of 24 year old divorced guys only wanting to go out with single girls younger than them. Hello????

And I am sure it does happen often due to the lack of balance in the shidduch world. But that doesn’t make the divorced guy right for only agreeing to go out with single girls. He was divorced once himself, so why wouldn’t he go out with a girl who was divorced also?

What would happen is a divorced female demands a never married guy? Everyone would throw her into the insane asylum for even contemplating such an idea.

Dunno-

if you want to be associated with a certain group, then you have to do what they do at all times, not just when people are looking and taking note. Or else you are just an external faker (hope this is not too harsh…)

Mod-

Thanks for clarifying for those not in the know. I didn’t even realize that people would not know the difference!

apushatayid-

wouldn’t that be for a janitor?

Designer clothing is obviously better quality and all, but I do not think that it is worth the price. If you get a $300 tie vs. a $30 tie, how much longer will you wear it for. Chances are you will retire it from your wardrobe long before it wears out. If you plan on wearing the same tie for the next 15 years straight, then yeah- maybe go for the more expensive one. But I have the feeling that most people are doing it for the label factor and not the quality factor.

Gavra-

“how do you know how much they paid”

it is common knowledge what certain designer items cost. These high end designers hardly go on sale, and if they do, they are still unaffordable for most. If people bought fakes for $15 (very common, btw) then they are obviously just doing it for the label factor and not the quality, because the quality of fakes are inferior to even non designer brands. So if you see a Ferragamo belt that is peeling, chances are it is not real.

Wow Sac that is a bit harsh, don’t you think?

While I agree with you that people who always are pushing their opinions on others are obviously lacking something, I do think there is a happy medium.

“Exchange of opinions and ideas” should not only be reserved for an online forum. If you have something interesting to say that would add to a conversation, or a different viewpoint that was not yet considered, speaking up is admirable and should not be looked down upon.

cshapiro-

never said you were tacky, just that people who wear pantyhose with toes sticking out look tacky. Its like wearing a spaghetti strap top with a shell underneath. Hello??

And going by what you said in other threads, you seem not to wear pantyhose all the time anyway, so don’t take offense.

No, technically toes are not ervah, but it is minhag hamakom not to go around with bare toes, so that is considered halachah for us, so no I am not imposing my machmirim as you call it, just merely stating the halacha.

Dunno-

it actually is a matter of tsnius, you just choose to ignore it.

“perfectly fine”

by whose standards?

And if you would do something otherwise, why would the “not good for shidduchim” excuse mean anything to you. Do you want a guy who wants a girl who walks around in flip flops? If yes, then no prob. If not, then why are you doing it to begin with?

Sac-

That’s so interesting. Is it because you get to say things anonymously online?

cshapiro-

“Its tznuis”

By whose standards? Maroon nail polished toes sticking out of open toe high heeled shoes is very attracting, and not very tznius. Even if you are wearing pantyhose (pantyhosed toes sticking out of open toe shoes is so tacky, btw)

Garbage men- sanitation engineers

Weight watchers and counting calories has never worked for me. I find that the South Beach diet is what really works for me and is easy to stick to. Basically, no sugar or white flour, plenty of veggies, fruit, lean protein and low fat dairy. Any grains must be whole wheat. The reason I find this easy to stick to is because there is no counting calories or portions for the most part. Of course, common sense must prevail and eating a whole brick of cheese will not help in the weight loss process. But seriously, how much grilled chicken are you going to eat already?

Most days I forget that I am on a diet, because there is no counting. This way of eating has become my lifestyle, and I do it naturally (with the occasional cheat, of course!)

Gotta admit- that story made me cry.

What a nice guy who used his position positively

“if that date works then the next time you go to a restaurant. why waste a hundred bux if you may never see each other again.”

Am i missing something? Since when is a meal for two in a restaurant $100? Obviously no one expects to be taken to Prime Grill on their first date! A meal for two in a reasonably nice restaurant doens’t cost more than $50-$60. (Unless you really pig out)

A woman can survive without a husband. She can cook, clean and do laundry for herself. True, she may develop certain character traits that she would not have had if she would have gotten married at 19. She may become a bit unrealistic, and picky. There are hardly traits that classify someone as “not normal”

On the other hand, a man who does not get married at 30-35 tends to be way off the beaten track. I wonder if this is because he did not get married, or he did not get married because of his “wackiness”

cshapiro-

Black is a staple in many wardrobes, but I doubt that anyone wears black from head to toe every single day. An if you are wearing a pretty green sweater, red nail polish totally clashes. On the other hand, a neutral color goes with everything.

And anyways, from what I have seen, the people who are likely to get a red manicure, probably wear more colors than just black.

“Red = the color 95% of the CR girls / women WISH they could choose”

Is this because they like the color red, or what the color red symbolizes?

Personally, I do not think that red nail polish is nice at all. It looks like there is blood on your fingers, it is so not classy and it doesn’t match anything.

Not that I would wear red even if I thought it looked nice… though I would wear other colors like gray (which I like how it looks, but wouldn’t wear it for tznius reasons)

Sac-

You don’t own the dating rights to the person just because you dated them and would still have dated them if the guy didn’t say no (which is obviously the case)

Your friend has the right to go out with whoever she wants

the guy has the right to date any girl he wants, including your friends.

If they went out and didnt get engaged, then obviously there is no reason to harbor any bad feelings

and if they ended up getting married that just proves that it was meant for her and not for you