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Hi! Wowowowowowow!!!!!! How amazing it is that you were able to do that. I hope you realize how great this is!!!
How is this making a deal with Hashem? You gave him movies. Period. Ur not saying ur gona take themback if…
U did something and u r simply asking for schar. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with this. I still can’t beleive u made the step and stopped cold turkey!! I rly hope u have people in ur life who know you did this and who are “cheering” u on. It’d not easy. When it gets tough, don’t give up!! It’s just the Satan.if he wwouldn’t bother you it would be a shock! keep us posted!! Yasher koach 🙂 ur amazing
Hi again! K this sounds perfect! You like the teachers for the other classes and you even see girls talking to them. That means they r here for everyone no matter what. If they try to say Idnt know u well enough, tell them ur dillema how u dnt trust ne other tteacher. Ppllzz try this i want u to have a role model, someone you can look up to and receive guidance from. It is so important for u know and especially when imh you get married. If u don’t know how to develop a relationship now, when will u learn??I needed help with diff things and I turned to a teacher of the younger grades bc she was so cute and I wanted to have a relationship with her. She prob feels.good she Cn help. I wwant you to try it and let me know bc i KNOW it will work!! The teacher will be there for u no matter wwhat. Hang in their. Let me know if you need other assistance and plz tell me what happens with this teacher.
@shopping613: I have to say one thing-your teachers all know about these things no matter how frum and sheltered you think they are. Obviously they don’t discuss them during class or anything, but I’m sure they can help U. Also u r so normal tht u have these desires. This is how we were created it’s nothing to be ashamed of. U be the brave one and ask for help when u need it.
If ur teacher claims she doesn’t know you well, why don’t u open up to her more? Tell her what information she is lacking. Usualy a teacher won’t mind if u want to ask her a general question. You can always write them a note and put it in their box in school. I do that all the time bc its easier for me to write than talk sometimes. You can put a note in her box saying you have a close friend with this problem and shes coming to u for advice. That’s the last resort. Of course its better to admit it’s u, but if that’s too hard u can always use this tactic.
As for being put in the wrong class-everything happens for a reason. Sometimes that reason is hard to understand or we don’t even know the reason but im sure being in thatclass is going to help you and iit’s just for ur benefit. But yes I can imagine how difficult it must be when being in a different class seems so much better. What gr r u in btw?
First of all, it’s true I shouldn’t say it was my nisayon bc it always will be. But as the yetzer hora tests you and u overcome those tests in that area, it does geteasier. For rexample wearing longer skirts. As u keep overcoming the battle it gets easier to fight. I’m not saying the yetzer hora will leave u alone but he will test you in different ways.
I definetly feel for you. Not having a teacher you can trust is very difficult. I personally feel that anyone who has position of hs teacher is someone who rlly rlly cares about thegirls and wwould love to help in any wa. Think abt it you were a teacher. Wouldn’t you want the girls confiding in you and asking for help to grow in ruchniyus? I think that if you look aroundyou will find someone. For mme I like closing someone who isn’t my teacher anymore like mayb fromm 9th gr. Ot mayb a tteacher who just teachesbut never taught me. That way iI won’t have to see her every day but she can still help me tremendously.
If you still can’t find someone you can always call your halacha teacher. I’ve asked numerous questionsto mmine and I’ve found him to be very approachable because he is a rav and deals with these things constantly every day.
Hi again! Yes I def have more advice bc this was/stil is my nisayon. My familly is less yeshivesh and completely ok with me watching movies. That makes it a lot harder. My sister constantly watches things that look appealing and I learned to say No!!!
#1 I know it sounds weird but pick a teacher u feel comfortable with and tell her u wana stop movies. Shel be so proud nd give you chizuk.its always good to have someone on ur side who u can confront. At one point my family was traveling to ny and I was nervous abt the long ride and having no videos. I went to my teacher who immediately lent me the school production videos. She was so impressed and now looks up to me a lot!
#2 we had a talk recently in which r teacher said the following: by watching movies u are desensitized ur neshama to things like violence and other things. This is a big deal. There r many incidents where girls get married and are very unhappy due to their false impression of what marriage and love is all about. You wouldn’t want to marry a guy who watches non appropriate movies and therefore imagines his life to be perfect in every way. Life is not all about hapy endings. There is a tremendous amount of sadness and tragedy that comes along with life. On movies the message being portrayed is one that life is full of happy endings and everything wil always end wel. A young girl our age should not have to dirty up her mind with such frivolous ideas. When u stop watching u see u are a different person whether u realize or not. All of the sudden u have more free time and eventually things will start to shock you again wwhich is a sign of a healthy nechama. U ahld jump when you go to the man and see pictures outside certain stores. If u do its a good thing. I’d not its a sign of unhealthy nechamathat needs some cleaning up and filtering. Feel free to contact me via the mods. I wld love to help you further. Hatzdaka you shld feel amazing right now! Recognizing the problem is the biggest achievment
First of all I want to say that you are amazing for stopping to read non Jewish books. That takes great will power and if you can do that u can do anything. I am a senior in hs and when I read ur question I made an account bc i have so much to say on this topic. In tenth grade I quit non-Jewish movies. I am a normal bais yaakov girl. Movies were just taking up my life . I was addicted and felt I had to continue. The most effective way to stop addiction is to stop cold turkey. Just stop. Every time you think abt it you geta ttremendous amount of schar. U ccan ask for anything literally. I’m not saying it’s easy it’s very very hard. But iI am so proud of myself now. Each year on you kippur I tell hashem I gave You movies. I gave up something I love to be close to u. If u want to grow u need to remove the bad. “sur meira vessel tov” evry one wants to grow inruchniyus and cconnection to the creator. This is only natural for we have a pic of Him inside us that wants to connect back to its whole. The feeling is so awesome. And now You grant. E with life health and good things.