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I think I almost find the answers here insulting to those of us with nerdy, smart and high end degrees. The way a professor of mine said it was, “It’s the nerds that make the world go round.” So, for those popular people that enjoy the phone remember who invented it. Remember who developed the technology for instant texting and wireless internet for instant communications. Remember who sends satellites into space so you can use your GPS to get to the mall and the highway systems upon which you drive. And, remember who designed the mall when you get there. And who developed all the medications to keep you healthy so you can spend time with your friends instead of a loner in bed.
Maybe when popular people see how they remain popular, they will remember us nerds who built it all for them.
But on a more serious not, popular people sure do provide us with entertainment…… 🙂
I know this is kind of interupting the flow, but, I hardly have time to post or to keep reading threads.
buzz- That is for a husband who makes his wife cry. This is not referencing a wife who decides to shed a few tears.
The point is that in a topic that needs an answer and is important and an argument that will end in ‘fine,’ you have a conclusion rather than a build up of hurt and hard feelings. I’m not saying a girl should just start crying excessivly and often, rather, a few tears should work fine to continue the disscussion in a calm and gentle manner. Too much too often is always damaging.
As someone who married a diabetic, I guess I’d have some opinion…
The night he told me (on a date), a married sibling said they would say no without question. I called my rav and he said, “There are many diabetics and few bnei torah.”
I won’t lie and tell you it’s the easiest disease and well controlled. Sometimes it is and other times, it isn’t. There will be times (i.e. highs or lows) when they can’t function up to capacity. There are higher medical bills. Sometimes, you may be at a simcha or out or having fun where you will need to stop for supplies or mechanical failures of equipment or simple inability to concentrate.
But when asked would I do it again? Without a second thought.
One of the best things I learned from my ‘adopted mother’ was never be afraid to cry. If there is a tense situation, you are both being stubborn or not listening/getting through to each other, then a few tears will melt his heart.
When used correctly, it can change the most tense times. Instead of becoming angry, he will want to comfort you and you can’t be angry either when you cry. It turns what could be damaging to a time of caring and closeness.
It has helped me and my husband avoid entering rough waters before we got there.
Also, never speak about your spouse to others people who don’t have to know about your relationship. When I go to shul, in the back, there are often men talking to other men about their wives. I feel so badly for these wives who have no idea that they were discussing the value of their clothing or arguments they have had with other men?!
Went I was going out, as we all do, I had certain aspects I would say no to in a spouse without a second thought. Well, when I was read my spouse, I said no for a very many number of reasons. My ‘adopted family’ heard about it, called the references and insisted I go out. Today, we are happily married. I owe my marriage to their interference.