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arosem, When you speak about “outside influences”, try to understand where these influences come from. In the “Chasidishe” world (where u have minimal dating), girls do not read non jewish books, have access to a TV, go to movies or read the NY Times. So while they are exposed to outside influences to an extent, their exposure is to a much a lesser degree, therefore there is a slimmer chance of getting “burnt”.
There was a terrible smell coming from my kitchen. I was sure it was rat and was afraid to look! We pushed away the fridge, stove etc. Nothing. Then I realized what it was…moldy potatoes. Those give out a smell…..
oomis1105, do you still share a tuna sandwich on Fridays?
Oomis, BTW, those that follow the derech of doing research KNOW that you do NOT call/rely on refernces. Usually we call someone that knows both of us, or like I mentioned a roommate, co-worker, someone that has seen the boy and girl in his/her daily life (not while they know they are being observed). Info we ask doesnt have to do with table cloths or stacking plates…
schlakshammos, I couldnt have said it better myslef.
Quoting Oomis “The so-called extensive research that parents are doing really has no bearing on what type of couple the children will be together. Knowing that a bochur is a good learner, says nothing whatsoever about what kind of husband he will be (other than probably continue to be a good learner). Knowing what seminary she went to says nothing about her chessed, compassion, cooking skills, love of children, affectionate nature, etc. The research usually involves the asking of questions about naarishkeit (type of tablecloth, plastic vs. china, tied shoes or loafers, etc.). “
It is obvious that you have never done EXTENIVE research. We are asking things you are trying to figure out ON a date, we are trying to confirm BEFORE the date. Including middos, personality, chessed, compassion, love of children, affectionate nature etc. Everyone knows that a boy and girl on a date are on their best behavior. Dont you think that speaking to a boy or girls roommate, co-counslor, neighbor, etc pple that have seen him through thick and thin would bring you the most accurate info? Dont forget that boys and girls are on their best behaviors on a date. Then of course the boy and girl can meet to “spend time having meaningful conversation about their hopes and dreams, the path they want to follow in the future,the kind of family they want to raise. “
You are right “everything can look perfect on paper, but the shidduch is still NOT GOOD.” that is why we meet and are not commited beforehand. Like I said, even after research we still dont have to marry the first boy we meet.
If the AC has more BTU’s than necessary for the room (i.e. a small room with a powerful AC), will that use more energy than necessary?
Or when you set the temperature on a powerful AC, it will use the same amount of energy (i.e. electric power) that an equivalent smaller AC would use?
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Copied off of AJ MADISON website. BTW, They sell and stock all types of ACs:
kapusta, YOU ARE RIGHT. Before I met my husband my parents did EXTENSIVE research, besides for the fact that our families knew eachother slightly. After that, my mother in law met me and my father met my husband. Then we met to see that we had common grounds. Our first meetings were not longer than 2 hours, so that we were each thirsty for more. Our later meetings were as long as we needed to discuss Hashkafa and our goals for the future. we met 4 times in total. (I was not forced into anything, this was not the first boy I met, but I only met 3 other boys, and the other boys worked the same way, extensive research, parents meeting first and then boy and girl. When either one of us felt this wasn’t it, we didnt continue.) Once we got engaged we spoke minimally during the engagement and did not meet often. How did I feel before my wedding? regular Nervous of course, but excited to get to know my chosson better!
I have never experienced “the other” way, but this seems to work and in my circles, there are rarely broken engagements.
FOR STARTERS: Wanna save $$$? Make sure your AC is energy star rated. If you are buying a new one, spend the extra couple bucks on an energy star rated model.
yeshivaguy222, I feel for you cuz I hated dating for “nothing”, its headache, heartache and waste of time. Many shadchanim like to “get a date”. I want you to know though, that there are many times when a shidduch happens and a couple gets engaged, that the boy or girl would say – had I known _______ before I never would’ve agreed to meet him. Sometimes, yes, a boy can be attracted to a girl for her personality, maturity, sense of humor even though she has is not exactly what he pictures or invisioned in a girl.
I have a relitive that did not want a boy with a beard. She insisted the boy be cleanshaven. It is something she asked in info and if she heard he had a beard then she didnt meet the guy no matter what else she heard about him. Well she was set up with a boy that had a beard even though she was told he didn’t. She was very upset when he walked through the door. Guess what they are married. Pple were in shock by the L’chaim cuz EVERYONE knew this was something she really put her foot down about.
While I was single I worked as a teacher in a girls school. The salary is humiliating, but I loved the environment and needed the social part of it as well. Teaching in an average school, with no degree and no major experience can pay you anywhere btwn 8k-15k a yr. . The better schools up to 20k. If you are in a top school and have experience maybe up to 30k. Teaching is not something I even considered once I got married.
da, the 2 groups have nothing in common other than that they both have kids singing. I dont see one as a compition to the other so its not such a painful joke…
YBC is Yeshiva Boys Choir by Eli Gerstner. Yerachmiel Begun has the MBC – Miami Boys Choir.
I got my wedding gown by Goldy Schick in BP.
I went to an outlet mall to shop for my son for the summer. I bought well priced clothing, some had symbols. I didnt buy for the symbol, in fact i got really cute stuff at great prices at Carter’s. Their stuff also have symbols (a little dog )and I wouldnt say its the “coolest” store around, in fact its probably the cheapest children’s clothing store, in the same way i got a great deal at Tommy Hilfiger and that also has a symbol…I dont care for the symbol, if it’s on the outfit what can I do?
I am not registered but my husband voted to Greenfeld and we are glad he won!
We also use Shatzer Matzos, and started getting into the whole wheat as well. We finish so much matzo since it is so crunchy and its hard to calculate how much you are actually consuming.
hereorthere, just for your info, this health care bill is a VERY expensive proposition. It will cost the USA about 1 trillion dollars!! There is no way to pay for this with out raising taxes. Obama admitted that he is not thinking about the budget at this point. SO what is his plan? First he will spend an unreasonable amount of money and then he will blame the deficit on Bush!
Honestly, i do not really fully understand what this health care actually is and what will change. Taxes DOES concern me, since I do earn a decent paycheck but so much of it gets eaten away by taxes. So if Obama’s ideas include an increase in tax then I am against it. This might not make sense to all, but this is my way of thinking.
Will taxes go up? How much more will this add to the deficit? Is this a for sure thing or does it still need to pass in senate?
I still do not understand exactly what will happen when this goes into effect. What will happen to Oxford? WIll taxes go up?
ronrsr, you are not making fun of objects, you are making fun of the PEOPLE that USE these items. I am not offended at all, we ask our dayan when we feel that there is a shayla. If he tells us to be machmir then we are.
I once heard a speaker say that making fun of people that are frumer than you, or that have chumras that you never heard of, comes from trying to justify the level that you are at. By putting the other down you make yourself feel better.
Just aspire to be a growing person. Ask any posek, baby wipes can be a big sheila. Want to know how they managed in the olden days? They didnt use wipes at all!! There are a few companies that make inexpensive Shabbos wipes; that is such a chesed.
I happen to love these things. Ever since my family came to the decision of no more non jewish videos I craved for good entertainment. Now that these jewish films came out I find it so entertaining and my craving is satisfied in a jewish way. I just watched the “Newcomer” for women only, I really enjoyed it!! I thought the story was refreshing, the lesson was great, the acting was comical and the props and costumes were outstanding.
“We don’t have TV and wife keeps computers and videos to a bare minimum…” Good for you!
I also think crafts is a great idea. Its not too early to buy a craft kit for the sukkah. My nephews spent an entire summer doing a sukkah craft kit. The real big ones can be kinda costly but they take very long to complete and the kids feel like a million when it’s done and it can hang in the sukkah.
Sure, it’s normal. We call it “the fear of the unknown”.
But worrying is like a rocking chair, u move and move and get no where. So it really does not pay to worry since there is nothing you can do about it anyways, but pray.
Yechiel was standing over his new son’s crib, staring intently.
He didn’t know that his wife, Perel, was standing in the doorway watching him. She saw a mixture of emotions cross his face: awe, skepticism, admiration and wonder.
Finally, he tiptoed out of the room.
“Incredible, isn’t it?” Perel asked gently.
“It sure is,” Yechiel replied. “I never saw a crib built so solidly. But I’m still not sure it was worth five hundred dollars.”
What are the names of Pres. Abama’s sons? (now dont answer he doesnt have any!)
lavdavka, lol. How do u know what I do?
I happen to love the Reisman packaged Hamantashen, they are better than any bakery! I crave hamentashen all month but they are sooo fattening!!!!!!!!
bmw, that is a great. These pple advertised can send supper, shabbos, desserts and since there are so many it is not very expensive.
I dont know them, someone told me about it and I found it really funny!
I heard of a pregnant woman that dressed up like a garbage bag, and so did her husband. On her husband’s bag it said “I’m ‘Glad'”. On her bag it said “she’s Hefty'”
If you dont make your mishloach manos so major and dont spend a lot of money you wont mind giving your whole block. I wanted a red drink in my Mishloach manos this year. I decided on powerade, my neighbor suggested a bottle of cherry wine. I told her that I am not looking to break the bank, I dont think I need to give each person a bottle of wine. I would rather give more people and spend less, then spend more and cut down on my list.
Why in the world would someone like to dress up like a NUN? SANTA CLAUS?
certainly you dont think it’s impressive…
fan of pd: Ki Heim Chayeinu, if you taste it, you will see it is the most beautiful thing in the world. Granted some learn longer than others, that is why I used the word taste…
I guess I should mention the site I took the info off of: http://www.ajmadison.com.
I think they are located in BP.
Yeah, I just checked out an appliace store online, and you can get
Appliance:
Refrigerator – $105.00 With Recycling $75.00 Without Recycling
Freezer $75.00 With Recycling $50.00 Without Recycling
Clothes Washer $100.00 With Recycling $75.00 Without Recycling
It is really worth it, and I think this is only good for one week!
A PENCIL MAKER TOLD THE PENCIL 5 IMPORTANT LESSONS :
1.) EVERYTHING YOU DO WILL ALWAYS LEAVE A MARK..
2.) YOU CAN ALWAYS CORRECT THE MISTAKES YOU MAKE.
3.) WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS WHAT IS INSIDE OF YOU.
4.) IN LIFE, YOU WILL UNDERGO PAINFUL SHARPENINGS,
WHICH WILL MAKE YOU A BETTER PERSON.
5.) TO BE THE BEST PENCIL, YOU MUST ALLOW YOURSELF
TO BE HELD AND GUIDED BY THE HAND THAT HOLDS YOU.
A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.
His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready.
As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on his window.
I love it,’ he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.
Mr. Jones, you haven’t seen the room; just wait.’
‘That doesn’t have anything to do with it,’ he replied.
Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time.
Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged ..it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it.
‘It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice;
I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do..
Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away…
Beautiful story which appeared in Nshei Newsletter a while back… Back in the mid nineties a Jewish advertising executive in New York came up with an idea. What if the New York Times – considered the world’s most prestigious newspaper – listed the weekly Shabbat candle lighting time each week. Sure someone would have to pay for the space. But imagine the Jewish awareness and pride that might result from such a prominent mention of the Jewish Shabbat each week.He got in touch with a Jewish philanthropist and sold him on the idea. It cost almost two thousand dollars a week. But he did it. And for the next five years, each Friday, Jews around the world would see ‘Jewish Women: Shabbat candle lighting time this Friday is .’. Eventually the philanthropist had to cut back on a number of his projects. And in June 1999, the little Shabbat notice and stopped appearing in the Friday Times. and from that week on it never appeared again.Except once.On January 1, 2000, the NY Times ran a Millennium edition. It was a special issue that featured three front pages. One had the news from January 1, 1900. The second was the actual news ofthe day, January 1, 2000. And then they had a third front page. Projecting future events of January 1, 2100. This fictional page included things like a welcome to the fifty-first state: Cuba . As well as a discussion as to whether robots should be allowed to vote. And so on. And in addition to the fascinating articles, there was one more thing. Down on the bottom of the Year 2100 front page, was the candle lighting time in New York for January 1, 2100. Nobody paid for it. It was just put in by the Times. The production manager of the New York Times – an Irish Catholic – was asked about it.His answer was right on the mark.And it speaks to the eternity of our people.And to the power of Jewish ritual.”We don’t know what will happen in the year 2100. It is impossible to predict the future. But of one thing you can be certain – That in the year 2100 Jewish women will be lighting Shabbos candles.
A young Jewish mother is preparing a Brisket one Friday
for Shabbat dinner Her daughter watches with interest as the mother
slices off the ends of the Brisket before placing it in the roasting
pan. The young girl asks her mother why she did this.
The mother pauses for a moment and then says, “You know,
I’m not sure.
This is the way I always saw my mother make a brisket.
Let’s call Grandma and ask her.”
So, she phones her mother and asks why they always slice
the ends off the brisket before roasting.
The Grandmother thinks for a moment and then says, “You
know, I’m not sure why, this is the way I always saw MY mother make a
brisket.”
Now the two women are very curious, so they pay a visit
to the great-grandmother in the nursing home.
“You know when we make a brisket,” they explain, “we
always slice off the ends before roasting. Why is that?”
“I don’t know why YOU do it,” says the old woman, “but I
never had a pan that was large enough!”
Do you speak Yiddish
A man asks a passerby, “Do you speak Yiddish?”
The man shakes his head.
He asks a second man, but gets no answer.
He stops a third man. “Do you speak Yiddish?”
“Of course.”
“Please, vat time is it?”
It’s the yahrtzeit of Herman Mendelbaum’s death and his
widow decides to make a pilgrimage to the cemetery to recite a prayer
over his grave and place a small stone, as is the tradition, to show
that the deceased is remembered.
She arrives at the cemetery, but it being a while since
she had been there, she is confused and cannot find poor Herman’s grave
site. Finally, she comes across a grounds-keeper who escorts her to a
small chapel on the cemetery grounds where the records are kept. Pouring
over large maps and lists, he finally turns to the widow and says,
“I can find no record of a Herman Mendelbaum buried
here. The closest I can find is a Sadie Mendelbaum.”
“That’s him!” she exclaims. “He always put everything in
my name.”
In Florida , an atheist created a case against the upcoming Easter and Passover Holidays. He hired an attorney to bring a discrimination case against Christians and Jews and observances of their holy days. The argument was that it was unfair that atheists had no such recognized days.
The case was brought before a judge. After listening to the passionate presentation by the lawyer, the judge banged his gavel declaring,”Case dismissed!”
The lawyer immediately stood objecting to the ruling saying, “Your honor, How can you possibly dismiss this case? The Christians have Christmas, Easter and others. The Jews have Passover, Yom Kippur and Hanukkah, yet my client and all other atheists have no such holidays..”
The judge leaned forward in his chair saying, “But you do. Your client, counsel, is woefully ignorant.”
The lawyer said, “Your Honor, we are unaware of any special observance or holiday for atheists.”
The judge said, “The calendar says April 1st is April Fools Day. Psalm 14:1 states, ‘The fool says in his heart, there is no God.’ Thus, it is the opinion of this court, that, if your client says there is no God, then he is a fool. Therefore, April 1st is his day. Court is adjourned.”
If Jose’s info can possibly help your son, why do you care so much about a “good precedent for the coffee room”. The coffee room is “MAJOR and IMPORTANT”, but it’s just an entertainment forum.
I am dressing my son up as a Yerushalmi, does anyone have a clssy idea for shaloch Manos? (other than Yerushalmi kugel?) I am not a fan of giving homemade things.
EstherH, a good family is very important!! Obviously the boy has to be….
There are some things parents with their life experience know that young adults, as mature as they are, did not yet learn.