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  • in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718909
    popa_bar_abba
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    I just want to mourn my thread, and how there are barely any posts on the original topic in this hundred+ post thread.

    But, really, this thread is a success. The tone is changed. Everyone on this thread is acknowledging the validity of caring about looks in dating.

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718907
    popa_bar_abba
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    What is this? WIY tried for years and now PB gets a date in three days?

    in reply to: double standards in the workplace #720653
    popa_bar_abba
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    TMB:

    It usually has to do with better education, and more, with a stronger career interest. Many women do not pursue career opportunities because they wish to have a family. Even if they don’t stop working, they don’t try to get better positions, or they go to part time.

    in reply to: yiddish owner, open Shabbos #719212
    popa_bar_abba
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    I do not know what is bothering you.

    in reply to: What's Your Pet Peeve? #982758
    popa_bar_abba
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    I hate when people think I can’t be right just because I was right yesterday, and the day before….

    in reply to: Big fancy house in simple neighborhood #718653
    popa_bar_abba
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    Yes. It is fine.

    in reply to: Should A Yid Own A Gun? Or Not? #723485
    popa_bar_abba
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    I buy modified M16s that don’t fire automatic, then I take them to this guy in Alabama with a shaved head who fixes them.

    in reply to: subway seats #873176
    popa_bar_abba
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    No. Why should you offer her a seat? Is it harder for her to stand than you?

    Unless you’re trying to get a date with her.

    in reply to: double standards in the workplace #720651
    popa_bar_abba
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    The only studies I have heard or seen, including a wikipedia search, are studies done which do not factor for job, education, experience, career plan, etc.

    in reply to: Should A Yid Own A Gun? Or Not? #723482
    popa_bar_abba
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    Everyone should own at least one automatic rifle and handgun per member of the house.

    I personally also have sawed off shotguns also in case of a close quarters standoff.

    I got my daughter a derringer for her second birthday because it was light enough for her to hold. She can now hold a 9mm, so she uses the derringer when she plays “house”.

    in reply to: double standards in the workplace #720646
    popa_bar_abba
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    Sacrilege:

    I have never heard of an instance that was not readily explainable, and apparently neither have you.

    When they talk about it on the news, they talk about comparing national average salary, which is deliberately misleading since it is not comparing similar jobs.

    The lack of concrete examples, combined with a known pattern of disinformation, and a clear axe to grind, make any broad statements pretty suspect.

    in reply to: Can You Say "No" If…. #720084
    popa_bar_abba
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    It is a factor to consider.

    But, the problem is not the divorce, it is the bad marriage that led to it, and the fallout.

    So, if you marry someone whose parents are not divorced, you just don’t know what is going on in the house. You may be better off with a divorce where at least you know what the problem is.

    in reply to: seminary knowledge #721696
    popa_bar_abba
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    “Seminary knowledge”

    Who ever thought we’d see “seminary” and “knowledge” together?

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718887
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    SJS:

    That guy is a lunatic, and it explains why he is single at 40. Most guys I know are not like that at all.

    So, while some guys are a bit loony, the majority I think have a pretty good balance.

    in reply to: double standards in the workplace #720634
    popa_bar_abba
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    Well, I don’t believe it, and have never heard of an instance. I suppose I can’t argue with your professor since I don’t know what he said or what studies he was referencing.

    Oh, well.

    in reply to: double standards in the workplace #720630
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Glass ceiling has to do with promotions and is not about unequal pay for the same job.

    in reply to: learning machshava / philosophy #718677
    popa_bar_abba
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    Machshava usually refers to books like the nefesh hachaim by R’ Chaim Volozhin.

    in reply to: failing the driving test #943988
    popa_bar_abba
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    I don’t know why they let people retake it. It’s not as if you became a better driver. If you can’t pass a road test, you shouldn’t be allowed to drive.

    (I figured a whole thread with no obnoxious posts was a waste.)

    in reply to: Where are you posting from? #718638
    popa_bar_abba
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    Pentagon.

    in reply to: double standards in the workplace #720626
    popa_bar_abba
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    I don’t believe men get paid more for the same job. Lawyers don’t, doctors don’t, speech therapists don’t.

    The numbers they put out of .83 to the dollar are for the workplace as a whole. The reason for that is that men have better jobs and are more into their career.

    in reply to: Siblings involved in your shidduchim #1015507
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    You should ask why; it is your decision to make. If they say personality, you should weigh that against your other options. If they say he is a bad person to be with, you should ask how he knows.

    in reply to: If you decided to stop visiting the Coffeeroom…? #721456
    popa_bar_abba
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    I would start a thread asking how people would do it, and then just disappear.

    in reply to: Can you please recommend an immigration lawyer? #718977
    popa_bar_abba
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    David Grunblatt.

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718876
    popa_bar_abba
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    popa, you’re single. Don’t kid us, you gave that away long ago. Here are some of the lesser proofs from your threads:

    Shidduchim�Girls are Shallow

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/why-im-going-to-let-my-kids-run-around-in-shul

    The first thread, I merely complained about girls attitudes. I didn’t tie it to myself. One of my friends was starting law school after 7 years post high school full time learning.

    Besides, I may have gotten married in the past 8 months.

    The second thread says that I didn’t have kids old enough to run around in shul. I see no reason to bring them at all before they are 8 or 9.

    in reply to: Please Include Photo #907629
    popa_bar_abba
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    I was once asked by a shadchan if I wanted a picture.

    I said, “I don’t know, can I trust you?”

    He said, “yes”.

    Well, he emailed the information sheet, and it had a picture! And I couldn’t trust him!

    The moral of the story is, if shadchanim would be honest, we wouldn’t need to ask for pictures.

    in reply to: Please Include Photo #907628
    popa_bar_abba
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    Oomis:

    I don’t really understand your indignation. You were asked for a picture, you gave it, and you asked for one also. So what is the problem?

    It seems like you only asked for one to be “fair”. I don’t understand that. If you want one, you should ask for one without him asking first. And if you don’t want one, then why should you ask for one now?

    Also, shouldn’t it be your daughter who is deciding if she wants a picture?

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718866
    popa_bar_abba
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    My ignoring these comments is my way of continuing to not give away my marital status or any other personal information.

    I’m only posting this post for the benefit of those who didn’t read that other thread.

    in reply to: Deep Question #718263
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    MOD:

    CHOLENT!!

    HERRING!!

    KISHKE!!

    THAT WASNT SO DEEP!!

    Sorry for the all caps everyone. I am mad at the mod for not putting it through the first time.

    in reply to: Random thought or question of the day #717582
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    American and Brit are fighting over whether an elevator is called elevator or lift.

    Brit: We should know, we invented the language.

    American: So, we invented the elevator.

    in reply to: Please Include Photo #907621
    popa_bar_abba
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    the seminaries ask for that so that they could put a name and information to a face!!!! they want to be familiar with you by your interview.

    Come on, I’ve interviewed and was never asked for a picture first. The real reason is like I said.

    And if it is good enough for them, it is good enough for me.

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718856
    popa_bar_abba
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    im gonna get fired because my boss knows there is nothing funny about accounting!!!

    There often is something very funny about accounting. And you usually get paid more for it.

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718853
    popa_bar_abba
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    Tznius is a standard which changes based on the circumstances.

    Of course she should not break halacha, or wear anything she usually would not wear in public.

    But she should dress how she would if she were going on a date with her husband, at least.

    I think, more like how she would for a friend’s wedding.

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718849
    popa_bar_abba
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    Well, the tzedaka post didn’t go up. Maybe mod 80 will put it up for us.

    in reply to: Random thought or question of the day #717571
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    They are filled with nitrogen which makes you high. That is why.

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718845
    popa_bar_abba
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    cshapiro: ?

    I usually know when I post something absurd. Did I forget a recent absurd post?

    (Look on the tzedaka calls thread for a good absurd post)

    in reply to: Sounds Like A Good Idea, Right? Uh Oh, Maybe Not! #718155
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Or how about you hit your kid because he is misbehaving.

    The next day, his sister is crying, and he wallops her a good one! Or maybe he is upset at you, so he throws a punch.

    Or maybe, 50 years later, when you are not eating your mashed potatoes, he slaps you.

    in reply to: Being Frum #718432
    popa_bar_abba
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    charlie:

    I wasn’t trying to disagree with you.

    I am saying that there is really no definition that will be definite enough to use.

    Also, I’m pretty sure that person could not serve as a witness, nor host people.

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718841
    popa_bar_abba
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    whatrutalkingabt:

    I still disagree. I think she should dress as nicely as she would dress if going out with her husband.

    And of course it in not tznius. It is dating, the whole thing is not tznius.

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718830
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Dunno:

    That is all related to the style of the clothing.

    Now, if your friend had asked: “Was she attractive? Was she dressed in an attractive way?”, he could have answered. He is telling the shadchan anyway.

    in reply to: Fiction?…………..or Fact! #717725
    popa_bar_abba
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    Kupat Hair!!

    in reply to: Setting Clocks A Few Minutes Quick #814607
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    I would never want to fool myself.

    in reply to: Gift Ideas for Men #1000608
    popa_bar_abba
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    This wasn’t number one.

    in reply to: Fiction?…………..or Fact! #717712
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Oh! Folk stories?

    I believe in Hansel and Gretel, and in the three little pigs.

    in reply to: Fiction?…………..or Fact! #717710
    popa_bar_abba
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    If a cat was following me, I’d be pretty suspicious. Cats don’t usually follow strangers.

    Now, if I had been feeding it…

    in reply to: Being Frum #718429
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    I can’t think of any definition.

    If someone keeps shabbos and kashrus, but not any other mitzva, is that frum?

    If someone keeps shabbos, kashrus, nidda, yomtov, and wears teffilin; but, doesn’t daven, doesnt fast on any fast, doesn’t wear tzitzis, doesn’t have a bris, is married to a goy, steals from the government, steals from business partners, denies G-d, and doesnt keep any other mitzva, is that frum.

    My point is, there is no list you can give which is all inclusive of what you need to do, and is all exclusive of things which can make you “frum” even if you don’t do all those things.

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718816
    popa_bar_abba
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    Put it this way. She should dress as least as well as she does for a friends wedding.

    in reply to: Gift Ideas for Men #1000584
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    What’s a chanyuk?

    Who here is a chanyuk?

    in reply to: Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating #718812
    popa_bar_abba
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    whatru

    “I dont think that means that girls should dress to kill on every date”

    I think they should…

    They should. The biggest turn off is when they don’t even try.

    in reply to: Does Everyone Have Their Own 'Peckel' Even Though They Look Happy? #717592
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    eclipse:

    Have I implied I don’t like your posts? I do like them. I wisely stayed out of the issue on the one which became an issue.

    in reply to: Does Everyone Have Their Own 'Peckel' Even Though They Look Happy? #717588
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Great idea for a thread.

    What do you think ______’s peckel is?

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