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I actually made up the whole esophagus story. I was going to tell you, but my account got blocked.
I know a guy who was asked by his rosh yeshiva “how are you” while standing next to him at the coffee urn.
Guy: Rotten.
Rosh Yeshiva: That’s a pretty honest answer.
Guy: Wasn’t it an honest question?
I think that is different though, because your rosh yeshiva should be asking you that question in a serious way, not only by the coffee urn.
And alien tears will fill for him,
Pity’s long-broken urn,
For his mourners will be outcast men,
And outcasts always mourn.
-Oscar Wilde
Give me a break.
A girl is a girl; they are all the same.
I’ve read a thousand resumes and the only difference is the phone number.
There is concept of “mesadrin l’baal chov”. The idea is that we let him keep certain things.
If I remember correctly, it is a machlokes whether the concept exists. I only saw it mentioned once in a tosfos; I don’t remember where, but I think it was an amud beis.
I know of a situation where this happened. The second guy did not want to date her for this reason.
His Rosh Yeshiva therefore lied and told him that his friend had “gotten over it and wants you to go out”.
A. It does not imply that she is busy, it implies she is not interested, but may be interested at some later time. That is true- nobody can say they will never be interested.
B. I think it is better than lying to him. Especially since if you say you changed your mind, he will say, “I didn’t”.
I think you need to tell him. Say, “she does not want to date you at this time”.
1 = answer had better be “eventually”
Well, the beis din shel maalo asks it, and you can’t answer “eventually”.
I always ask:
Do you yearn for Moshiach?
Do you set time for torah?
Do you do business with faithfulness?
Do you delve into the wisdom of torah?
Do you delve into the depth of torah?
Do you involve yourself in pirya v’rivya?
What about Popa? Who do you think would hire Popa?
Would it help if he had a MS in psychology?
I would have a kid at home any day of the week.
What is the big deal? It is like pulling out a baby tooth.
I would be embarrassed if my father were Rav Moshe. Look at the difference between his other sons and me.
Split the cost?
I think the girl should pay, and also pick the guy up, and choose the destination.
Guys- we have the advantage; we just need to start insisting.
Agree with sacrilege.
Besides, let’s not forget that Yitzchak “loved” Esav’s food. Apparently, that fits into the definition of love.
Clarification:
The posters here are discussing two separate potential issues.
1. Whether it is fair to people who wait behind you thinking you only have a few things.
2. Whether it is fair for your to begin your waiting time before you are ready to check out.
Why do we have lines at all? Why not just whoever pushes hardest goes first?
Probably we think it makes sense for everyone to go in the order they arrive at the line, and for everyone to wait equally.
So I am against it.
(That said, I wanted to sell parking spots last week, what do you think of that?)
Before we discuss the validity of changing, I think there is a good question on the table which is:
We all have noticed that MO people have adopted the sefardi pronunciation.
Why have they done so? What does it have to do with being MO?
Did you mean 3 months?
HSS:
But then the uniqueness is just being able to trace.
That is not the impression I get from the rest of this thread.
I have never met a shadchan I could trust.
Sh’d’ch’n= SHeker Dover, Kessef Notel.
Yichus isn’t about being unique.
In that case, it has ceased to make any sense.
Why are you comparing pedigrees if not to make yourselves unique?
I am still not getting this yichus thing.
If you are descended from Rav Yosef Karo, that is not a big deal. He lived in 1488 and presumably has hundreds of thousands of descendants.
Even if your famous ancestor is only 200 years ago, he still would have thousands of descendants, if not tens of thousands.
Really, for it to make you unique at all, it needs to be within the last hundred years or so.
Castle on the Hudson.
mikomos.com
You forgot the most important advice: Ask your Rov if it is a problem at all.
If I can speak German, and I know terms like “shabbos” and “yontif”, is that just as good?
Popa’s contribution:
We can measure basic scholarship by time and effort spent, accounting for intellect. (We will proceed to forget about intellect since we are discussing large numbers of people.)
So, if I learned 10 years full time, don’t tell me that someone else who learned 6 years part time plus 2 years full time knows the same amount as me.
That is it. I readily assume that the rabbinical graduates of a Yeshiva like Chofetz Chaim who on average have learned approximately 14 years full time know more torah than a graduate of YU who on average has learned ______, which is less. (I don’t know exactly what the average is, but it is far less than 14.)
agree with real brisker. Take this down; it isn’t even funny.
cedarhurst:
Probably I misunderstood you. I am saying it will naturally self correct if people would have no age bias.
Similar to the way all colors of cars would be sold if nobody cared what color they got.
That’s a hard issue. Did you ask your Rov if you are allowed to sing anyway?
We can reduce the age gap, meaning it will be less of an issue, and more women will be able to get married. But it could never be eliminated (without the unrealistic scenarios or reinstitution of polygamy) and there will always be an oversupply of girls.
I don’t think that is completely accurate. Ideally the system would self correct so that if one year the age gap was tilted one way, the next year it would tilt back. This would be accomplished if all age bias was eliminated.
Meaning, if everyone would marry suitable people regardless of age (withing the basic range), then if there were more older girls one year, there would simply be more older girls marrying that year.
You probably need a community more than a shidduch. I’d say look for a community you can be part of, and the shidduch will hopefully come.
I think the answer is that you are comparing the wrong group. You should be comparing the boys of 1810-2010 with the girls of 1814-2014. There will be more girls than boys in that group, and the extra ones never got married. (In your hypothetical.)
Ruff Ruff:
What do you mean “didn’t derive pleasure”?
If you mean they no longer had the sensation of pleasure; I don’t believe it.
If you mean they no longer were actively involved in pursuing it, that sounds fine. But, they still probably used it for mitzvos. Like to help you enjoy shabbos, and yom tov. (Or to give brachos to esav)
The answer to “memo”‘s question is also: Be normal.
In many communities, the other party will not be pleased if you say hello, so don’t.
I’ll boil the water!
If you are the guy: don’t do it.
If you are the girl: it is fine, don’t make anything of it.
There is only one topic which we are willing to continually re-discuss. This is not it.
(Hint: it rhymes with shmidduchim)
There are no more misnagdim because the chassidim have stopped doing the things they were mostly criticized for. With the exception of Lubavitch, which is still criticized.
Actually, I think that it means Yitzchok enjoyed eating it because it tasted good.
The physical sensations we have in life are not only intended as nisyonos. They are themselves intended to help in our avodas Hashem. Yitzchok wanted to eat things he enjoyed so that he would be in the correct mood to bless Esav.
If you answer my riddle, I’ll think about it.