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You are kidding, right? Read the post which starts “It goes both ways”
I disagree. If something is a reason to not marry someone, that is because you think it would be a problem even in the context of having a relationship. So if you found out later, you would break the relationship.
The only thing to fear is the hurt that will come from breaking the relationship. I am not very concerned about that if you will find our after a couple of dates.
Health: Is that for the patients benefit or for some other benefit?
Yes but; when the guy spent the three weeks, there was nobody waiting for an answer who was unable to date anyone until receiving an answer.
I mean actual 48 hours. I don’t feel like waiting longer than that. If you can’t say yes in that long, and won’t risk one date, then say no.
oomis: That is a very unnatural situation. Was all that clearly communicated to the guy? Because the guy’s assumption is that you are simply calling with another “idea”, and that there is not shibud to get back to you with a definite answer. In fact, often there cannot be a definite answer, because you would go out with her, but would rather go out with someone else.
I don’t know why guys think they have a right to say yes first.
So go insist on that. See where it gets you.
Well, this is my dating etiquette.
I’m not really analyzing this under the rubric of rudeness, or even how long it takes to make your calls. I’m thinking more about how long you can expect the guy to wait for you.
If you told the guy upfront it would be a week before he would hear back, he might agree to wait, or might say forget it. I would have said forget it. I’ve got others who will go out tonight- I don’t want to wait.
So why is it fair to expect the guy to agree to something implicitly which he wouldn’t agree to explicitly. And if you think he would agree, why not tell him?
I you guys for real? I would never have waited a week. If I didn’t hear back after 3-4 days, I would have moved right on. For real.
48 hours, not including shabbos. After that you move on, and you do not need to even tell the shadchan.
I know of a girl who had a situation recently where the boy did not get back to the shadchan for two months.
Assuming a girl asked a shadchan to redt a shidduch to a boy, the boy is under no obligation to get back at all. Usually, the boy is not even told that the girl was behind it. A shidduch begins when the boy says yes.
2 hours
Yes. Whatever.
It is a good idea to not answer in less than 3 days so that you don’t look desperate.
That is ridiculous.
I am not a troll! Why do all you people need to be so prejudiced against me just because I am 26??
Whoa. Who’s being prejudiced?
Popa bar abba, this conversation has nothing to do with you, just leave it alone
I fully intend to.
Is someone allowed to take a job which makes him a mandatory reporter?
Yossiz:
That is what some of the other shittos hold.
as far as drinking, the mitzvah is ONLY with yayin
A. What is the source for that?
B. What is the difference? You think I can’t get drunk on wine?
Popa, seriously now. WHAT’S GOTTEN INTO YOU?????!!!!
I’m getting gold. You should get some; it’s good.
popa why can’t i see that post!
You should drink less; it’s not purim yet. I understand you are doing hachanos.
Popa- You are saying it is a mitzva to lose control, not daven, insult people, beat your wife and kids, damage people’s belongings, etc. JUST HOW IS THAT?????
Do I need to respond to this?
So, can’t you be yotzei by just being happy?
No. Not according to anybody.
But, it also says that you can be yotzei if you take a nap.
That is the other shittos. The shulchan aruch does not say that, and reading it in is absurd.
Besides, do the people who don’t drink actually take a nap? I think not.
Can’t you be Besimcha without getting drunk?
The gemara and shulchan aruch say to get drunk. Even if other shittos argue, I don’t think it’s proper to criticize something which is an established shitta in the gemara, rishonim, and acharonim.
I am getting Gold. I like it; you can’t eat it, but you can use it hold your papers down, which is useful.
(from Your Guide to Sharia Weddings – Ismail Daoud al-Beyda and Moussa Dib al-Bek)
Was that edited by Abdul Mashtin Al-Kir?
I don’t understand the objection to discussing this. It is a totally appropriate issue to discuss. How is it less anybody’s business than anything else which is not immediately relevant to someone. Besides, it might be relevant to some of our posters.
We do all mitzvohs HaShem said for His sake, not for character refinement
Correct. We do all mitzvos because Hashem told us to. However. chazal have told us that the purpose is character refinement.
Well, there is a mitzva to live in Eretz Yisroel.
So I guess the answer to the first two question is “zero”.
Is it me or does Popa, keep answering himself
I don’t understand.
If it was you, you would not be answering yourself, since you would be answering Popa.
Thanks cs.
Wolf:
If marriage is terminated at death, why does the husband inherit her if he is not longer related?
It’s popa, not you
I am Popa.
That’s ridiculous.
Mods: Back me up here.
LMA:
Thanks!
(That is quite a compliment considering some of the absurd things I’ve posted today. See generally paying babysitter, paying cleaning woman, starbucks, divorce, etc.)
tbt:
You may have noticed I was bored today.
I am just pointing out that the gemara seems to be talking about a man.
I’m not sure what the second part of your post has to do with this.
I found Frued’s to be the best.”
What does Frued have to do with gefilte fish? Why does everything have to come back to psychologists?
What does this comment of Rezdy’s have anything to do with the comments on the babysitting thread? Shouldn’t each of them be judged in itself?
AK stands for Alaska, which is the state that Fairbanks is in.
We are.
popa wow! your fighting with yourself? how funny!lol!
We are not.
Suffered from this?
I don’t think anyone complained of “suffering” from this.
But if it helps, I also bite the dead skin off my lips. It has never bothered me.
PBA: Maybe “uluv” means on the marriage.
That is ridiculous.
But it reminds me of a story I heard. There was a professor who was expounding that in the pasuk “roin es hakolos v’es halapidim”, kolos must mean lightning, since it is impossible to see thunder, and that chazal are wrong.
The response was that maybe “roin” means to hear.