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so why is it okay if it is a ladies reading?
You asked the question; you can’t be annoyed with the answer.
Yes, if it’s a women’s only reading.
ummm:
What makes you think it was a mistake?
I find this highly distressing on two counts.
Firstly, it seems some posters consider this important enough to do research into it beforehand. Please tell me you are kidding.
Secondly, it seems some posters think it is ok to assert this much control over your children. This sounds heavily excessive and borderline abusive. Then you wonder why your son is abusing his wife.
Pet peeve:
I am not kidding. While I don’t doubt that the seminary year is very important, presumably you will be accepted to some seminary which can give you that experience.
Not getting into the “Brisk” of seminaries is really not such a big deal.
As for my other comment, no further comment.
Ok, tell us how you intended to enforce it.
Would you lock her in a closet?
Don’t worry about it. In five years, nobody (including you) will care which one you went to.
I once asked a girl on a date which seminary she went to. She said “BJJ”. I remembered too late that I was supposed to be impressed.
Oh well. I didn’t want to date her again anyway. (If I tell you why, you’ll yell at me. So I told you in a way that you can’t yell.)
I very sweetly turned to her and made it very clear to her that “this isn’t hers to give away”.
I assume you mean that you would threaten to not pay for the wedding if she didn’t walk down with your husband. I don’t know how else you could enforce your will.
I also don’t know why this would mean enough to you that you would disown your daughter over it.
If my parents threatened to not pay for my wedding unless I acceded to their demands, I would probably just give in, but if it was part of an ongoing abuse of power, I would probably just make myself a small wedding and forget about them.
I’m glad it didn’t have to become that with you. It’s nice to be on good terms with your kids and know your grandchildren.
You all know I usually don’t “knee jerk” assur things, but this really does bother me for some reason.
I don’t think it is very tznius to dress up.
Popa thinks we have a real problem.
The cost of supporting a frum family is higher than most good paying jobs can support. 80k does not cut it, and there is not a lot of room for advancement in nursing.
Popa thinks that is why men are pushed into pursuing high paying jobs at greater risk, and won’t take lower paying jobs even if there is nothing else available, since those jobs will not suffice.
I read the article in Mishpach. They are surprised litvish men didn’t take jobs with TSA for $24 an hour. I know why- it won’t pay the bills.
Aside: They write that 90% of Harvard law graduates aren’t getting jobs. I hope that was a typo, since it undercuts their credibility. Harvard law graduates are doing just fine.
I hear. Maybe. I don’t know, I just know that today both ways are completely normal.
I’m not sure I trust that every 80 year old knows where every minhag comes from. Maybe it was done differently in different towns in europe?
I have no idea what was done over the doros. I wasn’t there. Were you? Did you see it written somewhere?
I can’t tell you how I know this without blowing my identity, but BJJ has not even sent out their letters yet
Well, I am Rebbetzin David and I did send some out to the very special people who I want to waitlist. If they send in a Letter of Continued Interest in the next few days, then I am going to accept them. Except chayav. She also has to promise to not drink anymore during the week.
That being said, when my kids get married they will be adults and I will not be in a position to “let” my kid marry anyone.
Amen brother. And even if I was in a position to tell them who to marry, I wouldn’t.
tums: I don’t know why you think one or the other is standard.
Truthbetold: You know it comes from the church, or you just assume anything your family doesn’t do is so krum it must come from the church?
Oh. I thought she was being sincere this time. It seems none of you think so. Well, I still think this one is for real.
If you live in NY state, you should be aware that if your drivers license is suspended, you will be arrested if you are pulled over, even if it is for having an outstanding unpaid ticket.
The cop will not care if you have kids in the car, or if you are 8 months pregnant. I once went to bail a friend out who was arrested the day his wife had a baby.
If you live in NY state, it is very important that you keep on top of any tickets you may owe.
In U.S.A. a whole day of learning is usually 10-2 and 4-7:30 unless you have a morning and evening kollel.
My schedule was 9:35-1:15; 2:45-6:30; 7:30-10:45.
I’m not sure which yeshiva you’re referring to, but I think my experience is more standard.
It is really hard getting rejected from a school you thought you would or should get into.
I don’t think there is much I could say that would make it easier.
The only thing that helps is sympathy.
I sympathize.
So I was on a SEED program way out of town.
One Friday night, this guy shows up in shul, so rabbi invites him for meal.
Next shabbos, rabbi tells us to invite him for whole shabbos.
Guy says he won’t come for shabbos, but will come for meal.
We said we have to ask rabbi. Went back and forth a bit.
Rabbi doesn’t want to paskin so he tells us to call Rabbi Fuerst in chicago.
Rabbi Fuerst said we must call the guy back and tell him he is not invited.
Who is this Rabbi Miller?
I have a better trick. Tapes are often cheaper than CD’s. I think it is fine to buy a tape and then copy somebody else’s CD.
hello99:
I am not familiar with the soap making process. If the tarfus is degraded in itself, then we could apply the rules you reference.
However, we can go further than that, since here we are not eating the soap; there is only nesinas taam. Therefore, we can use the rules of n”t lfgam that I referenced which are more meikel.
Now, can you elaborate on the din of nveila sh’eina reuya l’ger? It looks to me like the Mechaber is matir when a rov issur falls into a miut heter and it is pagum lgamri in siif 2.
Sounds great. I would say also bring a prize for the class.
Many people hold that playing scrabble is assur on shabbos.
If scrabble is assur on shabbos, it is because it is normal to write down the score, not because placing the tiles is “writing”.
There is a well known machlokes among contemporaty poskim whether one is allowed to invite people on shabbos if one knows they will be mechalel shabbos.
Everyone should follow their Rav. Like doctormdmd is doing.
It is worth recalling that the only “end” in Judaism is “ratzon Hashem”. If G-d does not want you to invite him because it is chillul shabbos, you are not doing a mitzva if you do it.
That would bother me also. I would not be comfortable talking to the females on this board if there was any chance I could ever meet them through this board.
I think I would stop posting.
I disagree.
I think that if there is a possibility of meeting the other posters, it removes whatever veneer there currently is which keeps our contact appropriate.
If I am able to find out who the women I am talking to are, we are no longer merely faceless people on line. We are real people with potential for real relationships.
My biggest fear is that I will catch my tail one day and have nothing else to keep me occupied.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!
My wife once asked me to serve. So I ate out of the pot on the kitchen counter.
Then she served the guests.
no, this time I’m just lying.
I have this fear that I will be a doctor if I grow up. I don’t want to be a doctor.
Isn’t that weird?
It would be even weirder if I wasn’t in medical school.
I want to go surfing.
PB- If I was ur wife I would rather u went hungry..
Depending on how your cooking is, I might also.
My weirdest fear is that I am really an elephant and I just don’t realize it because I am a crazy elephant.
PB- if i wer ur wife i would rather not serve.
That is the problem with people today. They would “rather not” do things.
If you look at my post, it was all things that I would “rather do”. I never said anything I would “rather not”.
The wife should not say that she would “rather not” serve, the same way I don’t say I would “rather not” go to shul.
I think that tuition is so expensive only because of the high quality standards which have been forced on schools.
I would happily send my kid to a school that had larger classes, no air conditioning, no science lab, no gym, etc. – if it existed.
These cheaper options do not exist because the people who have more money would flee to the more expensive schools.
So maybe you should pay some of my share.
I don’t sing it. I would rather eat now. Then, after the meal, I would rather sleep. In the morning, I would rather daven, then eat, then sleep, then daven, then eat, etc.
Kind of. There is pretty valid support for his position. He notes that the position of the Mechaber does not appear in any rishonim. Look at it, I put the link.
I love deriding Brooklyn.
Brooklyn is not people.
Brooklyn is not a thing.
Brooklyn is not even an idea.
It is a place.
Really awesome people talk about places.
See YD 95:4 Here:
http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=9145&st=&pgnum=435
Mechaber holds if you wash pots which contain meat and milk in the same pot, we can be meikel as long as there was also ashes (soap) in the pot.
Taz, 95:14-15 is skeptical. He says if so it should be muttar if you wash your pot with soap that is made of non kosher fat as long as the soap contains ashes. He does not buy it.
Yet, the heter is accepted. Generally, we will say if there was soap present in any issur, it is muttar bdieved.
I don’t even think the soap should be a problem lechatchila, since the soap is already made, and itself is already b’dieved. (I am speculating)
I would eat the soap.
(Contrast 103:1-3. An issur which creates an unpleasant taste does not make a food assur. 103:1. Even if it only creates an unpleasant taste due to the presence of a third ingredient. 103:2.
Apparently, the case in 103 is that due to the presence of the third ingredient, the issur actually did impart unpleasantness. In 95, the issur is still adding pleasant taste; it just happens to be mixed together with the unpleasant stuff.)
Yes, if you think the guy does not have to wait after he says “yes”, then we are not talking to each other.
If the guy is free to go, I don’t see why the girl has to answer ever. Why should she answer yes or no? If she ever decides to go out with him, they will call him up. (Similar to what I think about when a shadchan calls a guy first.)
As it happens, the guy is not allowed to date someone else after saying yes to someone. That is why we are discussing when the “yes” expires.
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Yes it is assur.