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  • in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over �Not Tzniyus� Advertisement #759906
    popa_bar_abba
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    “..Affixed to the billboard is a small glued on sign, “Warning, Do not post pictures of women of else they will be spray painted.””

    I wonder if the posting of this sign is a violation of the hate crime law. Women are a protected group.

    Well, if it says “of women of else”, then it can be read to not post pictures of anyone.

    in reply to: singles dont give up! #752516
    popa_bar_abba
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    blinky: like this?

    <the word em>text

    in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753629
    popa_bar_abba
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    Well, that is odd. I thought out of town usually had fewer people in kollel, because the don’t have major kollels.

    in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753626
    popa_bar_abba
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    OOT schools have a problem with too many kollel types. How is that?

    in reply to: singles dont give up! #752512
    popa_bar_abba
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    Nobody liked my story that wasn’t with the chazon ish

    in reply to: To talk or not to talk?? #758291
    popa_bar_abba
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    Yes, tell you mother he tried to assault you.

    in reply to: Relying on a heter of someone else #755873
    popa_bar_abba
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    I’ll look into it.

    However, soap does not make the taam pagum in itself. It just makes sure that the taam will be pogem whatever you mix it into.

    in reply to: Chutzpa is not a ??? ??? ?????? #752782
    popa_bar_abba
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    I don’t know. But whichever it is, it still does not transfer into a right of the other party.

    in reply to: Wedding or house? #752449
    popa_bar_abba
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    SJS: I’m not suggesting that a house be the norm; I’m just highlighting the stupidity of spending so much money on a meal that everybody leaves before it is served.

    in reply to: Relying on a heter of someone else #755869
    popa_bar_abba
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    DY: Why would detergent help us when eino ben yomo won’t?

    in reply to: Wedding or house? #752435
    popa_bar_abba
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    of course: yes, that is what the OP said. “A small wedding in the shul”.

    in reply to: Relying on a heter of someone else #755861
    popa_bar_abba
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    But what if they serve onions and you use your fork and knife that were in the dishwasher?

    Ok, here are my newer thoughts:

    ???? generally does two things:

    A. It makes ???? as if it is not.

    B. It makes ??? ??? into ??? ?????.

    Now, there is a dispute over what is ????. We are ????? that even onions are.

    The ?????? ??? ???? says in 96:3 that we will not say both chumros of charif in a case where the charif is only an onion.

    So that would solve our issue.

    Also, there is a ?? 122:2, which I hope to talk about later.

    in reply to: Chutzpa is not a ??? ??? ?????? #752780
    popa_bar_abba
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    I’m afraid that passed over me.

    I understand some people have a giving relationship as well. (But respect is not limited to where there is a giving relationship.)

    So maybe you are saying the hakaras hatov creates a right?

    Firstly, that would only apply where there is a hakaras hatov element.

    Secondly, I would still say the same thing, that where there is hakaras hatov, the person is just a cheftza for your personal mitzva of hakaras hatov.

    in reply to: To talk or not to talk?? #758285
    popa_bar_abba
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    I think you should tell your mother that you do have a crush on him, so that she will not tell you to go.

    I think your mother will understand, and will not be upset at you, or respect you any less.

    in reply to: Chutzpa is not a ??? ??? ?????? #752777
    popa_bar_abba
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    I’m afraid I don’t understand what you mean by the “relationship”.

    I just don’t see where the “right” comes from.

    in reply to: Relying on a heter of someone else #755859
    popa_bar_abba
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    But what if they serve onions and you use your fork and knife that were in the dishwasher?

    I asked my people. One of them pointed to ??? ????? 447:134 http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14169&st=&pgnum=52

    He is quoting from ?”? that if a food absorbs issur which is pagum, and then the food becomes ????, it does not reinvigorate the issur.

    Perhaps the same applies here, even though it is a bit different.

    in reply to: DJ at wedding #752645
    popa_bar_abba
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    hope this becomes the norm after i get married!

    I hope it becomes the norm just after you take out a 5th mortgage to marry off your last kid.

    Hee hee.

    in reply to: Chutzpa is not a ??? ??? ?????? #752775
    popa_bar_abba
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    Right, so we disagree.

    I say that the mitzva of kavod for someone is for my benefit, not for their benefit. The fact that it inures to them is incidental, as far as they are concerned.

    If I have to have kavod for a sefer torah, the sefer torah should not feel slighted.

    A parent or rebbi is just the cheftza that my mitzva is chal on.

    Accordingly, I think that if a parent or rebbe is insulted, it is their bad middos. (and in the case of the rebbe, maybe he is not really worthy of respect anymore, but lets not get sidetracked.)

    I’m not really sure where you get from there being a mitzva to respect, to the object of respect being able to be ???? it and be insulted if it is not offered.

    in reply to: DJ at wedding #752640
    popa_bar_abba
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    I think it should be.

    I think weddings should be in the shul’s social hall, with the meal in your house for immediate family and grandparents.

    in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753598
    popa_bar_abba
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    MDG:

    I also agree with you.

    Many kids do take out loans. But most are also single.

    Parents who appreciate grad school see it as an investment.

    Parents who appreciate learning see it as G-d’s will.

    Posters who do not appreciate learning, or more often, have a different hashkafa about the primacy of learning versus secular education or other money earning pursuits, do not see learning as worth supporting.

    All of this is fine.

    The only thing which is not fine is when people inject their own hashkafos into someone else’s decision, and decide they are therefore being victimized.

    in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753594
    popa_bar_abba
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    GAW: I agree

    in reply to: pre-pesach garbage pickup #752181
    popa_bar_abba
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    For two years in a row, we all put our garbage in our cars, and dumped it on the steps of city hall. They finally got us our garbage pick up.

    You can see the local story here:

    http://tinyurl.com/4jaquob

    in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753591
    popa_bar_abba
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    I agree with Charlie. Kids should be self sufficient. Most of my friends who are learning are self sufficient- the wife works and they live cheap.

    That said, this problem is not really endemic to learning couples. Who do you think is supporting 22 year olds who get married and are going to graduate school?

    in reply to: Need camp for 3year old boy in flatbush #753997
    popa_bar_abba
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    The girl in Grapes of Wrath is called Rose of Sharon.

    ????? ?????

    in reply to: singles dont give up! #752486
    popa_bar_abba
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    Wasn’t there a story without the Chazon Ish or Steipler with this guy who settled and then had a horrible marriage and messy divorce and his kids hate him and aren’t frum?

    in reply to: Chutzpa is not a ??? ??? ?????? #752773
    popa_bar_abba
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    Derech:

    You are not agreeing with me.

    I recognize that there are rules that a parent can be mochel on his kavod.

    But, that is still all in the realm of bein adom lamokom. If the parent is mochel, there is no longer any tikkun hamidos to do the honoring.

    However, that does not mean that the parent has any right to even feel slighted by not being honored.

    It is like a kohen being insulted because you don’t separate teruma.

    Or teffilin being insulted because you didn’t wear them.

    in reply to: How would you react? #752139
    popa_bar_abba
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    Fascinating.

    You really believe that.

    Would you even do it? If you were the older woman?

    in reply to: Vasikin #752335
    popa_bar_abba
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    Deal. But I realized they will probably take until 710, since tomorrow is thursday.

    in reply to: How would you react? #752136
    popa_bar_abba
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    What exactly was wrong with the woman expecting the younger woman to accommodate? Nothing.

    See. This is why I cannot take your other points seriously.

    Because you think that the older woman was actually in the right here.

    So of course you think esther was wrong.

    But that is crazy. You don’t have a right to go around bullying people just because by some accident of nature you happen to have been born earlier.

    Their obligation of respect has nothing to do with you.

    Please see my other thread. http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/chutzpa-is-not-a-%D7%91%D7%99%D7%9F-%D7%90%D7%93%D7%9D-%D7%9C%D7%97%D7%91%D7%99%D7%A8%D7%95

    in reply to: Vasikin #752333
    popa_bar_abba
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    I’m confused. Doesn’t my answer make sense?

    in reply to: Vasikin #752329
    popa_bar_abba
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    If you know where it is, just show up however many minutes before 648 that it will take you to get to shmone esrei.

    and assume they will finish about 700.

    in reply to: Eruv in Brooklyn #761621
    popa_bar_abba
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    If Rav Moshe clearly assumed a clearly incorrect fact, then presumably we could ignore the psak.

    However, I am not aware that any of the 11 reasons which were brought to argue with him at the time, and which he answers in Igros moshe, OC 5:28, were that his facts were wrong.

    As it happens, it had to do with the total number of people living in Brooklyn, since he held that if there were usually 600k people on all the city’s streets combined, during times that people are in the streets, then the whole city is a R”H.

    But, I am sure this thread has discussed that, and I am no expert on this at all. I just started reading his teshuvos 5 minutes ago.

    in reply to: How would you react? #752131
    popa_bar_abba
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    and see my thread about chutzpa.

    in reply to: How would you react? #752129
    popa_bar_abba
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    I made my points earlier, and don’t need to repeat them.

    Aries is way over the line.

    in reply to: How would you react? #752127
    popa_bar_abba
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    Aries: you are far more over the top than I am.

    in reply to: Hotels for Pesach #752559
    popa_bar_abba
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    there are people who can afford to do things that other people can’t. People choose to go to hotels and others choose to stay home.

    And this little piggy went wee wee wee wee all the way home.

    (Sorry, I had to.)

    in reply to: Ciao (for now) #752299
    popa_bar_abba
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    Also, what does CIAO mean?

    in reply to: Hotels for Pesach #752557
    popa_bar_abba
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    Hashem gave us all one nose and stuck it on our face and that’s where it belongs, not in other peoples business!

    My nose is long enough to be on my nose, and in other people’s business!

    in reply to: Hotels for Pesach #752548
    popa_bar_abba
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    Who actually goes to one of these things?

    The eirev rav.

    Heh heh. Was that over the top?

    in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over �Not Tzniyus� Advertisement #759795
    popa_bar_abba
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    how did they know its not tznius w/o looking?

    That doesn’t exactly make sense. How are they supposed to know to not look without knowing it is not tznius without looking?

    in reply to: Relying on a heter of someone else #755851
    popa_bar_abba
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    But what if they serve onions and you use your fork and knife that were in the dishwasher?

    Hmmm.

    in reply to: Relying on a heter of someone else #755846
    popa_bar_abba
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    Yes, since it’s not a ben-yomo, the food is muttar b’dieved anyhow.

    That is a good point.

    in reply to: Who Would You Elect as Mayor of Coffeetown #1110999
    popa_bar_abba
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    Ok, as long as we can guillotine him if we get annoyed at him.

    in reply to: East-West-North-South. #751903
    popa_bar_abba
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    Just please tell me my house didn’t move from where I left it this morning.

    Is it too early for a Japan joke?

    in reply to: Is it Getting too expensive???? #752698
    popa_bar_abba
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    If you have 23 kids in a class at $10K tution each, thats $230K in tution per class.

    If they are each paying that much. They are not.

    pay the teachers $50K and you are left with $180K per class

    Is there only one teacher the whole day? You want to pay all the day’s teachers a combined 50k? Does that include the cost of their benefits and the school’s share of their FICA?

    in reply to: Is it Getting too expensive???? #752692
    popa_bar_abba
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    Cut the Sem. Cut the Sem. Cut the Sem. Cut the Sem. Cut the Sem.

    Totally.

    in reply to: East-West-North-South. #751895
    popa_bar_abba
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    It makes sense for either North or South to be the focal point.

    Mostly because both ends are not inhabitable, so they are natural endings.

    But also because there are magnetic poles which make natural endings.

    It makes more sense to look north, since most of the world is in the North. So our world is really only the top half, with the natural end being the North.

    in reply to: Dating #1097419
    popa_bar_abba
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    Well, suppose you date 10 guys.

    You could easily assume that your next guy has a less than 10% chance of working out.

    So then you would never date.

    in reply to: Quinoa for Pesach #751830
    popa_bar_abba
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    Quinoa is a berry

    No. Strawberries, Blueberries, Cranberries, Raspberries, Blackberries, Elderberries, Snozberries, Salmonberries, Gooseberries, etc. Those are berries.

    Quinoa is not one of those.

    in reply to: younger sublings getting engaged before older #752032
    popa_bar_abba
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    It is not true.

    And there was no point.

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