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  • in reply to: Single parents. #781019
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    Why not adopt? Or become a foster parent to children who desperately need a parent? Does she want to raise children, or does she feel that she must have the experience of carrying a child and actually giving birth to it?

    Either of the two suggested options will fulfill her desire to be a parent AND be (potentially) beneficial to the child/ren

    Come now. Do you really think that a desire to have a child is somehow illegitimate because there are kids who need foster homes?

    in reply to: Chofetz Chaim Guys in CR #783786
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    I asked only bec one of the Roshei Yeshiva there said not to post on sites.

    Well, they have more than one, don’t they? So do you know what the other ones say?

    in reply to: Is this muttar? #780821
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    Well it wouldn’t help everybody with taxes. To save money, you really need to team up one person who makes money with one person who doesn’t. So I guess you would marry one working guy to one yeshiva guy.

    in reply to: Is this muttar? #780819
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    Some people seem to be concerned with how this smells and looks.

    I think the opposite. I think the best way we can show how illegitimate this law is, is to take it to such extremes that we show how it is a sham.

    (And if you do this, please remember to make a pre-nup, or this could turn pretty messy.)

    in reply to: Is this muttar? #780817
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    Poppa – Such a marriage would possibly give you a tax break, it would also prevent a real marriage to a maidel since bigamy is illegal.

    Well, you could just not marry your wife, and then she will be a single mother and could collect all sorts of government benefits and stay on her parents health insurance.

    I think any Rav would cry if he heard this shailah

    I am a rabbi.

    in reply to: Single parents. #781015
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    Why should they be stigmatized?

    Let’s imagine you can do it where you will know who the father is and he will be jewish. And no issurim were done in the process.

    in reply to: I love my car #1113632
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    “popa…its nice to know youre a chofetz chaim guy 😀 join the club!”

    What gave it away, the car or the shmuz sticker?

    I actually did buy the car from a guy in the chofetz chaim kollel. But I put the shmuz magnet on myself–I didn’t know it was a chofetz chaim thing. But I’ll still leave it on, I like it. It gives my car personality, and I wouldn’t want to marry something with no personality.

    in reply to: Single parents. #780996
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    42: I think the gemara or rishonim there say it is a knas on the guy for doing something so stupid.

    in reply to: Is this muttar? #780800
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    I don’t think they are ripping off the government. Marriage is a legal status, and they are legally married.

    If you are married and live in different cities and never see each other, you are still married legally and have all the legal ramifications.

    And why would this bring their neshama down?

    in reply to: Single parents. #780995
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    shein: Imagine it is a test tube baby.

    in reply to: Single parents. #780991
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    They give you information about the donors, so you can get from a jewish donor I assume.

    in reply to: Single parents. #780986
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    No father. They use an anonymous donor.

    in reply to: Is this muttar? #780791
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    You all think it is a joke, but aren’t willing to answer the question.

    Why should it be assur? And isn’t it a good idea?

    in reply to: US Healthcare policy #780390
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    “Do you really think that Medicare has 1/5th the amount of administrative overhead that the health insurers have?”

    Yes. It is around 2%. The best private insurer is about 10%

    Now I’m convinced. Sign me up.

    in reply to: Husband Joke #780396
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    Joke is on the women; because the learning guys have girls lining up. It’s the working guys who have trouble finding dates.

    in reply to: US Healthcare policy #780387
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    Charlie:

    You forgot to respond to me. I feel left out.

    But it’s ok, I’m patient. (although, not one of your patients.)

    in reply to: Hard time feeling bad about commiting an aveira #780348
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    That is strange. The problem most people today have is they feel too bad about aveiros.

    I wouldn’t worry about it.

    in reply to: child left in car seat- how to prevent? #795663
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    Just don’t have kids. Works like a charm.

    in reply to: Inspiring Davening Stories – HELP ME!!! #1041146
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    Can I make fun of this?

    in reply to: If ????? ?????said it was tcheiles? #780694
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    optimus: Of course they should wear it. (Or get different rebbeim- hee hee)

    in reply to: US Healthcare policy #780379
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    <>em>I know that it is inconsistent with the Religion of Laissez-Faire, but it is a fact that Medicare has about one-fifth the administrative overhead of the best private health insurer in the US

    Charlie: You insult your own intelligence by quoting such statistics and taking them at face value.

    Do you really think that Medicare has 1/5th the amount of administrative overhead that the health insurers have?

    Come now; if you would have said Medicare has 20% less, I would make up answers (ex. they don’t care about stopping fraud, don’t care about customer service, aren’t interested in innovation, etc.- which are all true.)

    But I don’t even have to respond to this besides to tell you that it is obviously false, or misleading.

    I am able to see benefits to central government control. I don’t think that if I am opposed to it, it must be all bad.

    Just because you believe in Keynseian economics, and you don’t think Laissez-Faire is superior in all regards, doesn’t mean that laissez-faire is inferior in all regards. Keynes didn’t think that. There is no question that selfish interest can run an enterprise more efficiently in terms of administrative costs. To deny that makes you the flat-earther.

    in reply to: "top boys" #787150
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    money

    in reply to: when people u dont know email u #779633
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    Was it addressed to you, or was it a mistake?

    in reply to: US Healthcare policy #780373
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    The main disadvantage of the Canadian system, as applied to the US, would be massive unemployment among the paper-pushers at private insurance companies.

    That is not a problem, since it would be more than offset by legions of unionized paper pushers employed by the feds who would all have unfunded defined benefit pension plans.

    Charlie: Seriously, we can debate the health care bill, the fairness, the cost, etc. But you do not honestly think that the government is better at managing its employees efficiently than the private sector.

    And while perhaps the government has an advantage in costs through the economies of scale, you cannot honestly think that the government has any advantage in efficiency in providing services.

    zahava’s dad: You are complaining about the cost. Sorry dude, there is no such thing as a free lunch. Do you think doctors will work for free if the government runs it? Or do you just think then they’ll tax Bill Gates and he’ll pay for you?

    in reply to: Sheker – Lying in Halacha #1081579
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    If you are allowed to lie because of shalom, does that mean you can lie to prevent someone from being mad at you?

    Ex:

    Wife- Why were you home late?

    Truth- At casino, gambling drinking and smoking.

    Me- My chavrusa’s car broke down and I was helping him.

    Why not? You would be able to if you were the chavrusa and the wife asked you where her husband was, right?

    in reply to: Wedding Halls #780098
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    Not doing cliche is so cliche

    in reply to: seen any new boats lately? #779042
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    Thanks. It’s good to feel missed.

    I’m really busy right now and for the next while, and I don’t really have time to come online.

    But I still come on at nights for a few minutes at a time.

    in reply to: US Healthcare policy #780362
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    There is a “small” change to medicare, half a trilion dollars riped out over the next ten years to fund Obamacare.

    I know. And amazingly, AARPs supported it. I couldn’t believe it; it only hurt seniors, and they supported it.

    Just goes to show how these big organizations are all ideology, and don’t care a whit about their constituency.

    in reply to: Inconsistency in Shemona Esrei #779239
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    No, it is all in third person. Except attah.

    in reply to: Why is corn on the cob not kosher??? #1021303
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    Corn on the cob is not kosher. It is made from pigs feet.

    in reply to: US Healthcare policy #780357
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    Kupat Cholim seems to work nicely in Israel

    Yes, and that is why I can’t get through shma without someone from Israel asking me to help pay for their kid’s surgery.

    in reply to: US Healthcare policy #780354
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    hey, you wanna be serious, or you wanna have fun

    in reply to: US Healthcare policy #780352
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    The old plan was if you are poor you die.

    The new plan is you die.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to buy cut up fruits in a non jewish store? #778579
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    cool

    in reply to: Shidduch Threats #779067
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    Too bad kids have no spine.

    I would say, “you better stop threatening, or I’ll accuse you of molesting me.”

    in reply to: Report Card Comments #778175
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    I’ve got three things to say: Substance, substance, and substance.

    Frum jews are the masters of hyperbole. We manage to say wonderful sounding things which are so broad they mean nothing. (Like the previous sentence, for example.)

    Say something substantial. Don’t say “a pleasure to have in my class”; say “asks good questions which show he is listening and interested.” Don’t say, “has wonderful middos”; say, “includes the less popular classmates in games and jokes.”

    in reply to: Are you allowed to buy cut up fruits in a non jewish store? #778570
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    That is so. Still, I have never seen anyone considering the likelihood when discussing the din of stam keilim.

    in reply to: Are Animals Subject to Skeela? #778193
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    Hello:

    I agree.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to buy cut up fruits in a non jewish store? #778567
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    Well I think ??? ???? ???? ??? ???? is relevant here, for two reasons:

    1. There is no reason to assume definitely that every knife is used every day.

    2. The concept is not based on a ???, it is based on a sfek sfeika (safek it was not used, even if it was, safek the item it was used for is pogem b’ein.). So we don’t need to say it probably wasn’t used, there just needs to be a safek.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to buy cut up fruits in a non jewish store? #778563
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    Ok, first lets establish the halachos, then we can make the assumptions.

    If the knife is “treif”, then if you cut fruits with it, then if it was dirty, then would need to be washed or scraped, depending on the type of fruit. (YD 96:5 (discussing a meat knife)).

    This is either because of the junk which we assume is present on the knife, or because of the stuff which is absorbed in the knife.

    Now, if it is because of the stuff absorbed, we do not need to worry about that here, since we can assume the knife if eino ben yomo, since that is the general assumption we make. (It is actually not an assumption, it is really a din of sfek sfeika, but that is what we call it.)

    If it is because of the junk which is on it, then we would need to worry.

    Now, there is an assumption that knives are dirty, but it seems to be a rebuttable assumption. (taz 96:3; shach 96:6; shach taz nekudas hakesef 89:4).

    Based on the above, the Rema 96:4 says that we can buy cut fruits from goyim which are not charif, and ???? ?????? ???.

    This Rema seems to be directly on point, but you might argue that it is talking about a larger operation, where they are doing very large amounts, and probably have specific knives, and we can also rely on the kula that the taam is batul in the first ones.

    This is all possible. So lets discuss our assumptions about our metzius.

    Clean- I am betting the knife is cleaned well. Nobody needs a lawsuit about e-coli from cutting meat or fish. Particularly if it is not a mom and pop shop.

    Large amounts- I think you can assume if it is a large store, they are doing large amounts at a time.

    Specified knife- Highly likely, especially in a big store.

    Eino ben yomo- This is an assumption in din, we must assume the knife is eino ben yomo (relevant to the bliyus.)

    So, I am pretty comfortable buying from a large store. I ain’t a posek, and I ain’t paskening. You ask your own rabbi. But I think I would do it.

    in reply to: Are Animals Subject to Skeela? #778191
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    Also if someone is roveah it.

    in reply to: Yet another tznius issue (but probably not a crisis) #778303
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    Seriously??? THIS is a problem????? Who is even interested in looking?

    Oomis, sorry but your comment leaves me speechless.

    in reply to: Yet another tznius issue (but probably not a crisis) #778302
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    I happen to agree with this.

    When you go to an event where people wear nametags, it is a bit weird. I once even heard a totally non-frum acquaintance say this.

    in reply to: Defending myself and defending a rabbi #778490
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    Ok, I looked them up.

    The gemara does appear to be setting a standard for goyim, the standard being ??? ??? ?????? ??? ??? ????? ??? ?? ?????? ??? ?? ????? ??? ??? ???? ??? ???.

    The rambam brings it, as you noted.

    Still, I wonder.

    Firstly, it is kind of hard to expect goyish courts to know what to do based on two lines in the gemara, quoted in the rambam, with minimal explanation in the nosei keilim. What sort of evidence must the eid have seen? Are there drishos v’chakiros? etc.

    Secondly, the gemara says that when there is a lot of crime, beis din kills people even though they are not chayav misah. (Sanhedrin 47b, Tur CM 2:1). I tend to think there is more violent crime now than there was back then.

    Thirdly, the gemara usually speaks about killing people, but the standards of evidence are the same if you want to fine him or beat him. So are the goyish courts not allowed to fine someone without an eid?

    in reply to: Share Your Worst Date Ever! #778035
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    Be good:

    Yeah, you could have taken the cab.

    in reply to: Tunes in Davening #778040
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    I would think repeating words is not proper. Also, I hate singing during davening.

    in reply to: Defending myself and defending a rabbi #778486
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    I would need to see the gemara, and also where this idea is brought down in poskim. Sanhedrin is quite big, and I never learned it.

    in reply to: Why don't struggling families move out of NY? #777812
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    Outside of maybe Baltimore and South Florida Cholov Yisroel is not available, MAYBE you will be lucky to get milk, certainly not Ice Cream or cheese

    Sorry zahavasdad, that is not quite the case. You can get cholov yisroel ice cream and cheese in probably upwards of 25 regions in the US.

    in reply to: Jury Duty #777751
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    mikehall: good point.

    Joseph: Really, do you care about sheker at all? I know you don’t care about lying to us, despite it being assur. But you publicly and openly support sheker now?

    in reply to: Jury Duty #777744
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    Charlie:

    I think we’ve discussed this before. Where precisely are there any guidelines for what evidence is acceptable in Noahide courts?

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