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July 24, 2011 2:42 pm at 2:42 pm in reply to: Should one mourn the death of a Jew no matter who? #789085popa_bar_abbaParticipant
Hashem didn’t want us to sing a whole Hallel on Pesach because the Egyptians died, who according to many were reshaim.
Doesn’t that medrash say that Hashem didn’t want the malachim to say shira, and only wanted us to say shira?
And don’t we say full hallel on pesach?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantMichel:
I don’t think the NY times will care.
You have a right to sue them, but you need to do it in a Beis Din.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantHow come when you click on the time stamp to get to the last post on the thread, it sometimes shows you only the last post, and sometimes it gives you the whole page?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantHey Joe:
Why don’t you answer the question? You seem critical of anyone not married by 18; did you do that?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantI would never ask someone who lives in Israel.
Anyone who lives in Israel is as if he has no G-d.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantAnd I never had a girl say no to me.
And I simply would not stand for it. Women need to know their place, and that is to accept directions from us.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantEven marriage is no excuse for such intimacy.
Does one need an excuse to for intimacy?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantThis is an interesting thread. Joseph made up a mitzva which makes no sense (which follows, since it is made up), and then everyone fights about it.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantWhy is it that when it rains outside, you get all wet? Why can’t it be that the crops will grow without ruining my clothing and making me smell like a sheep?
WHY WHY WHY??? anyone have an answer???………
popa_bar_abbaParticipanti actually have seen a lot of positive come from netureei karta with my own eyes i have read many letters from muslims and pro palestinians sent to NK where they tell how they hated all jews and would spit on the street every time they would see one, and after seeing or attending anti zionist rallies and seeing orthodox jews sympathising with them they realized that not all jews are evil and they are much more favourably disposed of jews now- instead of spewing out hatred at members of klal yisroel whether or not you agree with them, how about researching and finding out exactly how much good they are actually doing for the yiden! they are definatly lessening the anti semitism in the world that is a fact- and you just shout at them?
Troll.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantWho gives a blazes?
We are never going to start teaching our daughters gemara, and they frankly don’t want to.
They are not going to stop teaching their daughters gemara, and their daughters want to. And I figure, if they want to, why not? If there is a problem in their community, the problem is not the gemara learning, it is that their daughters are raised in a way that they are not happy and cannot feel equal without learning gemara.
So the learning is not the problem, the rest of it is the problem. And once we are at that point, the learning is probably a good idea.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantAn abuse hotline will be able to refere you to a rav who has expirience dealing with these ishues.
Yes to the abuse hotline. But a rav? I think you’d be better off asking your mother in law.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantJoseph:
Are you married?
How old are you?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantThe point of life is not to create more “frum” jews who perform the rituals.
The point is to make kiddush Hashem in the world.
Did you make a kiddush Hashem?
July 21, 2011 2:08 am at 2:08 am in reply to: How do you tell a good friend you no longer want to eat at their home? #1051880popa_bar_abbaParticipantI have been thinking, that there really aren’t a lot of ways to actually have b’dieved tarfus in your kitchen, that someone needs to be concerned about.
We can safely assume that anyone who attempts to keep kosher only buys kosher food. Now, there are no companies who make questionable meat, if we assume they aren’t buying Hebrew National. There are some hashgachos I don’t eat, but what are the chances that they are serving you something from those, and that it actually is b’dieved not kosher.
You need to be concerned they don’t ask shailos when things happen. However, we can say that a shaila probably didn’t happen within 24 hours, and say stam keilim einum bnei yoman regarding these shailos, since it probably didn’t happen, and even if it did, it may be pogem b’ein. So I’m not concerned about keilim.
This thread raises an interesting issue of mleches shabbos. Yet, most things they would do are probably only bishul d’rabonon. I need to look into this again, but I’m not so sure you really need to worry about it so much if that’s the only ch’shash.
Hmmmm.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantChoshen Mishpat Siman 2
popa_bar_abbaParticipantIf your answer is that beis din is not authorized today, then you are saying it is the right thing, we are just not authorized.
As it happens, I think beis din is authorized to do that today.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantthis is vigilantism and it is unacceptable.
Is vigilantism never acceptable? How about in the examples I listed above? How about if someone is preventing a person from ever getting married for spite, and there is no other recourse?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantI don’t know anything about this particular case. I’m talking about a case where he really is a rasha and extorting her for spite.
As far as the couple extorting him, again I don’t know anything about this case.
Answer me this: Are you saying you yourself could never bring yourself to beat someone, or do you think it is wrong if anyone does it? How about if beis din does it?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantSo just explain: If it was really the only way to get her out, you wouldn’t be ok with me using force?
Or do you think there really is another way?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantOk. We don’t need to snipe at each other.
We both know that the aguna problem is extremely tragic, and there is really no solution besides actually coercing the guy. And that is precisely what was happening here.
If you think you could not actually beat someone, I understand that. But let’s agree that the gemara says to beat him, and that it’s basically the right thing to do.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantis kidnapping and beating someone up the only way to show that you care.
He didn’t do this because he cared, he did this to help. So yes, if you can help someone and you don’t, it shows you don’t care. Caring is not just what you feel, it’s also what you do to carry out your feelings.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantDon’t be silly. Direct threats to life and limb are not the same as refusing to give a get.
Oh? Emotional pain is not as bad as physical pain?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantNo, I would not beat someone for withholding a get.
Why not?
Do you care about the woman he is torturing? What if it was your sister?
Would you beat a guy up to prevent him from killing someone? How about to prevent him from burning down someone’s business? How about to prevent him from molesting a child?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantSo I guess the Torah mentions divorce as a Lav then.
It doesn’t mention bad marriages as a lav either.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantWolf: You wouldn’t beat a guy who was withholding a get? I would. It’s even the halacha.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantwhere? what city?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantWhere.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantOf course it is a real disorder. I wasn’t trying to minimize it.
I just think it is more helpful to realize that the problem is not the eating.
popa_bar_abbaParticipant????? ????
popa_bar_abbaParticipantThere is no such thing as an eating disorder. There are only psychological disorders which manifest partially in eating problems.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantFirstly, giving Hatzala 10 bucks is kind of insulting. A call probably costs several hundred dollars, definitely if it was Advanced life support.
Secondly, their official policy is that the do not accept tips, but are happy to take donations for Hatzala.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantIndeed we are not arguing semantics.
Sure, from the murderer’s perspective, he had bechira, and could choose to kill or not.
But from the rest of our perspective, Leiby hy”d would have been murdered anyway, regardless of what the murderer chose. It could have been in an accident, it could have been by a different murderer.
But to say that if the murderer had not chosen to kill, the Leiby would be alive, is simply not true.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantThis is incorrect.
Hashem did it. Everything that happens in the world is done by Hashem. Not allowed. Hashem controls every aspect of every thing that happens to us.
The fact that we act of free will is relevant only to ourselves, not to the people we impact. It is completely wrong to say that things happen because people decide to do them, or because Hashem allows them. That would mean that Hashem does not decide what will happen to us.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantMe too. Out of the blue one of my friends asked me if I was mod 80. How did he figure it out?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantOk, now once he started he can’t stop – what happened to controlling your Taava? (please, don’t start with how people who are overwieght have the same thing – many times its genetic and they were brought up that way – and thats not what I am talking about anyway!)
lol
popa_bar_abbaParticipantJust because I’m wearing a white shirt, kippah, slacks and have four days’ growth on my face and chin* does not mean that your child is safe with me. How could you possibly think of leaving your child with a stranger, even if only for a minute? Just because I’m Jewish as you are doesn’t mean that I couldn’t be a psychotic murderer or kidnapper. (For the record, I’m not!) Consider yourself lucky that it was me and that your kid was there when you got back.
I know a guy who lets his wife watch his kids. Lunatic! Just because she wears long skirts and a tichel doesn’t mean you can trust her.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantI wouldn’t mind a shidduch who is smoking!
popa_bar_abbaParticipantWe love 80.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantThe problem is not the dating. You can date long distance.
The problem is the marrying. You can’t marry long distance (usually). You will need to find someone who is willing and able to relocate to your city. Which as I pointed out, will exclude yeshiva guys and college guys.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantYou will not be able to date yeshiva guys since they do not go to yeshiva in your city. You will not be able to date college guys who don’t go to college in your city. You will have a hard time finding working guys who are able to relocate to your city.
You should plan to not date very much until you finish school.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantThis is a problem.
Probably, if you do not feel comfortable with decisions, it is because your decisions were often criticized, and your desires were considered insignificant. It is important to realize this, so that you can address it by realizing that your feelings and desires are important, and should be the basis of decisions.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantI disagree. I think girls should wear makeup when they want to.
Girls are supposed to feel like women, and think they are pretty, even before they are “on the market.” It is part of their gender identity, and part of who they are.
My niece is 5 and has been occasionally wearing makeup for years. She asks my sister in law to put it on- she wants to do what her mother does. (My sister in law bought this box of 100 colors in target for like 20 buck, and my niece picks random colors and looks a bit odd sometimes. But she likes it and that’s what matters.)
popa_bar_abbaParticipantI don’t think pba is 80, however I am pretty sure pba is a mod (I have a slight proof).
I am sure popa is mod 80, and I also have proof, but I won’ let myself post it.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantThe can doesn’t belong to the state. If it belonged to the state, you’d be stealing if you didn’t return it.
Surely you don’t think that.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantpopa- no ones davening is perfect but we have to keep what he said inmind. this is basic.
The comment was not helpful, it was guilt inducing.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantYes. His point is completely invalid.
He makes as if he is surprised that anyone would not have perfect kavana knowing what he says. Yet, his own behavior should make him realize that it is not that simple.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantIf anyone would realize what a tefilla with kavana,emuna and tears accomplishes,they would not asking these silly questions!!!!
Are we to assume that your davening is perfect?
popa_bar_abbaParticipantSo jump on them.
popa_bar_abbaParticipantWell let’s see. Who is being ripped off here?
The store doesn’t keep the deposit, they just pass it through to the state. The state doesn’t keep it, they give it back when you return the cans.
So I would say, just don’t return the cans.
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