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  • in reply to: Should one mourn the death of a Jew no matter who? #789085
    popa_bar_abba
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    Hashem didn’t want us to sing a whole Hallel on Pesach because the Egyptians died, who according to many were reshaim.

    Doesn’t that medrash say that Hashem didn’t want the malachim to say shira, and only wanted us to say shira?

    And don’t we say full hallel on pesach?

    in reply to: Salary Expectations in Chinuch #910686
    popa_bar_abba
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    Michel:

    I don’t think the NY times will care.

    You have a right to sue them, but you need to do it in a Beis Din.

    in reply to: Page 2 #1023513
    popa_bar_abba
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    How come when you click on the time stamp to get to the last post on the thread, it sometimes shows you only the last post, and sometimes it gives you the whole page?

    in reply to: Shemoneh Esrei L'Chuppah #789625
    popa_bar_abba
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    Hey Joe:

    Why don’t you answer the question? You seem critical of anyone not married by 18; did you do that?

    in reply to: OK, who's the zionist here? ;-) #788707
    popa_bar_abba
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    I would never ask someone who lives in Israel.

    Anyone who lives in Israel is as if he has no G-d.

    in reply to: Why do the 'BOYS' have the upper hand???? #788699
    popa_bar_abba
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    And I never had a girl say no to me.

    And I simply would not stand for it. Women need to know their place, and that is to accept directions from us.

    in reply to: sharing password on … #789047
    popa_bar_abba
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    Even marriage is no excuse for such intimacy.

    Does one need an excuse to for intimacy?

    in reply to: Mitzvah to Remarry Your Ex-Wife #794204
    popa_bar_abba
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    This is an interesting thread. Joseph made up a mitzva which makes no sense (which follows, since it is made up), and then everyone fights about it.

    in reply to: Why do the 'BOYS' have the upper hand???? #788695
    popa_bar_abba
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    Why is it that when it rains outside, you get all wet? Why can’t it be that the crops will grow without ruining my clothing and making me smell like a sheep?

    WHY WHY WHY??? anyone have an answer???………

    in reply to: Why burn Yummy Snacks? #789492
    popa_bar_abba
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    i actually have seen a lot of positive come from netureei karta with my own eyes i have read many letters from muslims and pro palestinians sent to NK where they tell how they hated all jews and would spit on the street every time they would see one, and after seeing or attending anti zionist rallies and seeing orthodox jews sympathising with them they realized that not all jews are evil and they are much more favourably disposed of jews now- instead of spewing out hatred at members of klal yisroel whether or not you agree with them, how about researching and finding out exactly how much good they are actually doing for the yiden! they are definatly lessening the anti semitism in the world that is a fact- and you just shout at them?

    Troll.

    in reply to: Women and Gemara #788415
    popa_bar_abba
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    Who gives a blazes?

    We are never going to start teaching our daughters gemara, and they frankly don’t want to.

    They are not going to stop teaching their daughters gemara, and their daughters want to. And I figure, if they want to, why not? If there is a problem in their community, the problem is not the gemara learning, it is that their daughters are raised in a way that they are not happy and cannot feel equal without learning gemara.

    So the learning is not the problem, the rest of it is the problem. And once we are at that point, the learning is probably a good idea.

    in reply to: Who needs to change? #788609
    popa_bar_abba
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    An abuse hotline will be able to refere you to a rav who has expirience dealing with these ishues.

    Yes to the abuse hotline. But a rav? I think you’d be better off asking your mother in law.

    in reply to: Shemoneh Esrei L'Chuppah #789615
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Joseph:

    Are you married?

    How old are you?

    in reply to: Failed #788513
    popa_bar_abba
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    The point of life is not to create more “frum” jews who perform the rituals.

    The point is to make kiddush Hashem in the world.

    Did you make a kiddush Hashem?

    popa_bar_abba
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    I have been thinking, that there really aren’t a lot of ways to actually have b’dieved tarfus in your kitchen, that someone needs to be concerned about.

    We can safely assume that anyone who attempts to keep kosher only buys kosher food. Now, there are no companies who make questionable meat, if we assume they aren’t buying Hebrew National. There are some hashgachos I don’t eat, but what are the chances that they are serving you something from those, and that it actually is b’dieved not kosher.

    You need to be concerned they don’t ask shailos when things happen. However, we can say that a shaila probably didn’t happen within 24 hours, and say stam keilim einum bnei yoman regarding these shailos, since it probably didn’t happen, and even if it did, it may be pogem b’ein. So I’m not concerned about keilim.

    This thread raises an interesting issue of mleches shabbos. Yet, most things they would do are probably only bishul d’rabonon. I need to look into this again, but I’m not so sure you really need to worry about it so much if that’s the only ch’shash.

    Hmmmm.

    in reply to: We can't win #787603
    popa_bar_abba
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    Choshen Mishpat Siman 2

    in reply to: We can't win #787601
    popa_bar_abba
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    If your answer is that beis din is not authorized today, then you are saying it is the right thing, we are just not authorized.

    As it happens, I think beis din is authorized to do that today.

    in reply to: We can't win #787598
    popa_bar_abba
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    this is vigilantism and it is unacceptable.

    Is vigilantism never acceptable? How about in the examples I listed above? How about if someone is preventing a person from ever getting married for spite, and there is no other recourse?

    in reply to: We can't win #787596
    popa_bar_abba
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    I don’t know anything about this particular case. I’m talking about a case where he really is a rasha and extorting her for spite.

    As far as the couple extorting him, again I don’t know anything about this case.

    Answer me this: Are you saying you yourself could never bring yourself to beat someone, or do you think it is wrong if anyone does it? How about if beis din does it?

    in reply to: We can't win #787592
    popa_bar_abba
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    So just explain: If it was really the only way to get her out, you wouldn’t be ok with me using force?

    Or do you think there really is another way?

    in reply to: We can't win #787588
    popa_bar_abba
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    Ok. We don’t need to snipe at each other.

    We both know that the aguna problem is extremely tragic, and there is really no solution besides actually coercing the guy. And that is precisely what was happening here.

    If you think you could not actually beat someone, I understand that. But let’s agree that the gemara says to beat him, and that it’s basically the right thing to do.

    in reply to: We can't win #787586
    popa_bar_abba
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    is kidnapping and beating someone up the only way to show that you care.

    He didn’t do this because he cared, he did this to help. So yes, if you can help someone and you don’t, it shows you don’t care. Caring is not just what you feel, it’s also what you do to carry out your feelings.

    in reply to: We can't win #787583
    popa_bar_abba
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    Don’t be silly. Direct threats to life and limb are not the same as refusing to give a get.

    Oh? Emotional pain is not as bad as physical pain?

    in reply to: We can't win #787578
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    No, I would not beat someone for withholding a get.

    Why not?

    Do you care about the woman he is torturing? What if it was your sister?

    Would you beat a guy up to prevent him from killing someone? How about to prevent him from burning down someone’s business? How about to prevent him from molesting a child?

    in reply to: Divorce is Worse than a Difficult Marriage #1143101
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    So I guess the Torah mentions divorce as a Lav then.

    It doesn’t mention bad marriages as a lav either.

    in reply to: We can't win #787553
    popa_bar_abba
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    Wolf: You wouldn’t beat a guy who was withholding a get? I would. It’s even the halacha.

    in reply to: What's the Going Rate… #787395
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    where? what city?

    in reply to: What's the Going Rate… #787392
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Where.

    in reply to: Eating disorders… #795698
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Of course it is a real disorder. I wasn’t trying to minimize it.

    I just think it is more helpful to realize that the problem is not the eating.

    in reply to: Divorce is Worse than a Difficult Marriage #1143079
    popa_bar_abba
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    ????? ????

    in reply to: Eating disorders… #795696
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    There is no such thing as an eating disorder. There are only psychological disorders which manifest partially in eating problems.

    in reply to: Abusing Chaverim organization #979155
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Firstly, giving Hatzala 10 bucks is kind of insulting. A call probably costs several hundred dollars, definitely if it was Advanced life support.

    Secondly, their official policy is that the do not accept tips, but are happy to take donations for Hatzala.

    in reply to: How could G-d do this #786816
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Indeed we are not arguing semantics.

    Sure, from the murderer’s perspective, he had bechira, and could choose to kill or not.

    But from the rest of our perspective, Leiby hy”d would have been murdered anyway, regardless of what the murderer chose. It could have been in an accident, it could have been by a different murderer.

    But to say that if the murderer had not chosen to kill, the Leiby would be alive, is simply not true.

    in reply to: How could G-d do this #786812
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    This is incorrect.

    Hashem did it. Everything that happens in the world is done by Hashem. Not allowed. Hashem controls every aspect of every thing that happens to us.

    The fact that we act of free will is relevant only to ourselves, not to the people we impact. It is completely wrong to say that things happen because people decide to do them, or because Hashem allows them. That would mean that Hashem does not decide what will happen to us.

    in reply to: discovery #786758
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Me too. Out of the blue one of my friends asked me if I was mod 80. How did he figure it out?

    in reply to: Smoking in Shidduchim #786676
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Ok, now once he started he can’t stop – what happened to controlling your Taava? (please, don’t start with how people who are overwieght have the same thing – many times its genetic and they were brought up that way – and thats not what I am talking about anyway!)

    lol

    in reply to: WE NEED TO EDUCATE THE MASSES!!! #795112
    popa_bar_abba
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    Just because I’m wearing a white shirt, kippah, slacks and have four days’ growth on my face and chin* does not mean that your child is safe with me. How could you possibly think of leaving your child with a stranger, even if only for a minute? Just because I’m Jewish as you are doesn’t mean that I couldn’t be a psychotic murderer or kidnapper. (For the record, I’m not!) Consider yourself lucky that it was me and that your kid was there when you got back.

    I know a guy who lets his wife watch his kids. Lunatic! Just because she wears long skirts and a tichel doesn’t mean you can trust her.

    in reply to: Smoking in Shidduchim #786673
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    I wouldn’t mind a shidduch who is smoking!

    in reply to: Happy Anniversary 80! #786798
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    We love 80.

    in reply to: College and shidduchim #786229
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    The problem is not the dating. You can date long distance.

    The problem is the marrying. You can’t marry long distance (usually). You will need to find someone who is willing and able to relocate to your city. Which as I pointed out, will exclude yeshiva guys and college guys.

    in reply to: College and shidduchim #786221
    popa_bar_abba
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    You will not be able to date yeshiva guys since they do not go to yeshiva in your city. You will not be able to date college guys who don’t go to college in your city. You will have a hard time finding working guys who are able to relocate to your city.

    You should plan to not date very much until you finish school.

    in reply to: cant make decisions…. #791979
    popa_bar_abba
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    This is a problem.

    Probably, if you do not feel comfortable with decisions, it is because your decisions were often criticized, and your desires were considered insignificant. It is important to realize this, so that you can address it by realizing that your feelings and desires are important, and should be the basis of decisions.

    in reply to: girls wearing makeup! #786038
    popa_bar_abba
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    I disagree. I think girls should wear makeup when they want to.

    Girls are supposed to feel like women, and think they are pretty, even before they are “on the market.” It is part of their gender identity, and part of who they are.

    My niece is 5 and has been occasionally wearing makeup for years. She asks my sister in law to put it on- she wants to do what her mother does. (My sister in law bought this box of 100 colors in target for like 20 buck, and my niece picks random colors and looks a bit odd sometimes. But she likes it and that’s what matters.)

    in reply to: popa_bar_abba = mod 80 ? #813026
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    I don’t think pba is 80, however I am pretty sure pba is a mod (I have a slight proof).

    I am sure popa is mod 80, and I also have proof, but I won’ let myself post it.

    in reply to: Taa'os Akum #784301
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    The can doesn’t belong to the state. If it belonged to the state, you’d be stealing if you didn’t return it.

    Surely you don’t think that.

    in reply to: Davening During Texting #784209
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    popa- no ones davening is perfect but we have to keep what he said inmind. this is basic.

    The comment was not helpful, it was guilt inducing.

    in reply to: Davening During Texting #784204
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Yes. His point is completely invalid.

    He makes as if he is surprised that anyone would not have perfect kavana knowing what he says. Yet, his own behavior should make him realize that it is not that simple.

    in reply to: Davening During Texting #784201
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    If anyone would realize what a tefilla with kavana,emuna and tears accomplishes,they would not asking these silly questions!!!!

    Are we to assume that your davening is perfect?

    in reply to: Taa'os Akum #784296
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    So jump on them.

    in reply to: Taa'os Akum #784294
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Well let’s see. Who is being ripped off here?

    The store doesn’t keep the deposit, they just pass it through to the state. The state doesn’t keep it, they give it back when you return the cans.

    So I would say, just don’t return the cans.

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