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Should all halachic discussions be suppressed? I suppose you could shut off over 50% of the discussions here.
DaasYochid already explained the halachic reasoning of why if a posek maintains something is forbidden that precludes one from enabling others, even if they have a different halachic opinion, from engaging in that activity.
That isn’t reason not to get involved in this halachic discussion.
ubiquitin, even Rav Moshe says it should only be eaten in a shas hadchak and that a “baal nefesh” shouldn’t eat cholov stam. So clearly you would need to inform someone before feeding them it according to anyone.
DaasYochid, do you agree the same principle here equally applies to the eruv and cholov stam?
After finding out that the eruv was broken, I hope they came back after Shabbos to bring home the baby in the stroller.
By us we know we’ve practiced Judaism generation after generation.
By them we know that a few short decades ago they were practicing Christianity. And Christians tend to marry Christians not Jews.
How do you know these are the same people the Radbaz referred to? You don’t. Especially since in the 500 years since then these people (who today claim to be Jewish), prior to moving to Israel, had been practicing a form of Christianity and had been intermarrying the local population. So even if we assume that many of them were descendant from those people 500 years ago, in the subsequent centuries they have been intermarrying and practicing avoda zora.
zd: According to your logic there are no more Sephardim in existence anymore since 1492 when they were kicked out of Spain (or converted to Catholicism) and thereafter they became part of the non-Sephardic communities where they move to.
hrmph. I misread (having quickly skimmed) your OPs last few words as “but the lyrics are anything but”, hence my initial comment.
The minhagim of the Yemenites are quite different than those of the Sephardim (and the Ashkenazim). Their minhagim remained the most unchanged from the time before the churban bayis as they lived in a relative backwater and were left alone to a greater degree than almost any other Jewish community.
That would be equivalent to food eaten by a Jewish person but the meat is from swine.
The investigations and decisions who to go out with affect who you’ll be married to for the rest of your life, so how is that less of an issue than the financials?
Chacham Ovadia Yosef was a real actual Sephardi. (All the Sefardim left Spain centuries ago.)
be good: If the guy specifically asks for the age of the girl being redt to him (something I would imagine most guys in the parsha do ask for), answering him that “she’s looking to date guys between X and Y years old” may not cut it.
Besides, to take your point full circle, if the guy only tells the shadchan that he’s dating girls between ages 25 and 31 and the girl only tells the shadchan that she’s dating guys between ages 30 and 35, is the shadchan supposed to figure, well, there’s some overlap there so let me redt the shidduch without asking anyone for their ages?
Is using the original Tylenol less than ideal from a kosher perspective?
Is Adwe unacceptable?
Yemeite Jews are certainly not Sephardic and never were. And other Mizrachi Jews are, also, not all Sephardic. Before the Spanish Expulsion of 1492 there were communities of Jews living in the Mizrachi/MidEast countries. They were not Sephardim, though after the Sephardim leaving Spain moved there the communities integrated in large part.
Not necessarily. I wasn’t sure if I was getting vibes from the conversation that indicated a thought that financial security must first be in place prior to marriage.
hashtagposter: Where did you get scholarships and breaks from? And what was your family financial situation at the time?
Financial issues should not be a reason to delay marriage. (Unless one believes that poor people, who have no reason to think they will soon change their financial status, should forgo getting married.)
The Ethiopians were practicing a form of Christianity before they moved to Israel. And there’s no reason to believe that they hadn’t been intermarrying the local population in the hundreds of years before that.
$20k is an example of tuition domestically or mainly in EY? Does PELL pay for overseas seminaries and beis medrash? How is the tuition situation different for poor families regarding B.M. vs. Seminary? Are they priced out of seminary whereas B.M. are more likely to discount the tuition?
To all of you who said things like ‘whats the big deal with age?’ and ‘people ask me all the time, I don’t have a problem with it’
This is the big deal with our age: That little number can often mean the difference between a date (read: hope, a chance that our situation might change) and sitting at home with no dates.
How do you get around it? Not giving the guy (the potential date) your age? What is he told when he asks how old the proposed girl is?
The reason it is difficult to deal with, is that age- of all the factors taken into account when considering whether to marry someone, has the least meaning when it comes to a persons character and good spouse potential (unless you consider old age a good thing because it comes with life experience).
Surely you agree age is a valid factor in considering a date. Does it not make a difference whether a potential date is 20 or 30?
We all know why a guy asks how old the girl is- he wants to know where her biological clock is up to
I don’t think that is the primary reason (unless, perhaps, if you are specifically referring to shidduchim for “older” girls). More importantly, people generally want a spouse close in age to themselves (with what constitutes being “close in age” differing in opinion between different people).
From The Economist Style Guide (current edition) under the section entitled “Political Correctness”:
HE, SHE, THEY
You also have a duty to grammar. The struggle to be gender-neutral rests on a misconception about Gender, a grammatical convention to make words masculine, feminine or neuter. Since English is unusual in assigning few genders to nouns other than those relating to people (ships and countries are exceptions), feminists have come to argue that language should be gender-neutral.
And, so long as you are not insensitive in other ways, few women will be offended if you restrain yourself from putting or she after every he. (emphasis added)
He or she which hath no stomach to this fight,
Let him or her depart; his or her passport shall be made,
And crowns for convoy put into his or her purse:
We would not die in that person’s company
That fears his or her fellowship to die with us.
None of the changes to the English language since 1787 have included adding a “gender neutral word to use instead of he and she” that the OP is seeking.
Then the exterminator may have not done a good job the first time.
If a family is too poor to afford seminary tuition, even if discounted 75%, their daughter(s) will be unable to attend a seminary? Does the same principle apply regarding sons going to Beis Medrash?
Did the exterminator come already to exterminate the bugs?
The exterminator already came to exterminate the house?
LC: I agree. If the tenant refused the landlords offer to exterminate it is the tenants problem. But the landlord is responsible to offer to send an exterminator.
Morah23: Thank you. 🙂
If she doesn’t want to get married I can perhaps hear that argument.
I agree with LC. What’s the big deal about giving one’s age? Is it embarrassing? The prospective spouse will have to know it.
coffee addict: The landlord has the legal responsibility of getting rid of the bedbugs irregardless of how they got in. The tenant should withhold the rent until the landlord cleans it up and if necessary use the rent money that he is withholding to get an exterminator and/or file a housing complaint. Housing and the courts will uphold the tenants right to insist the landlord clean it up irregardless of its source and withhold the rent until it is done.
Then I guess that in NYS, at 14 you can get married and work but you have to continue going to school.
“I think that the answer might be a new home(because bedbugs never go away, they just come back)”
So once a home had bedbugs it should be condemned and no one should ever live in it again?
Doing shidduchim is nearly impossible without asking all sorts of personal questions.
I guess those that do want it will make sure to marry the first time only to someone who doesn’t object.
Who’s stopping you from taking another wife? Have a chupa v’kedushin and mazal tov. But if most frum men have multiple wives, like the Yemenite Jews, wouldn’t that just reverse the problem?
RY23: Who said your neighbor, friend, colleague, acquaintance or anyone else is looking for a shidduch?
Perhaps it is the semantics of referring to low 20s. In those times the general age of marriage, even for guys, was between 19 and 22. (Usually, though, at least 20 and not too infrequently 23.) The low 20s in your circles today I would guess is generally most often beginning at 23 or so, no?
What do you mean by intentional? It may have been somewhat intentional in the sense that people wanted to accomplish certain milestones prior to marriage but perhaps more so it kind of slipped without people explicitly deciding to get married a bit later.
I once didn’t ask a girl her age and ended up redting her a shidduch with a guy almost ten years her junior. Ever since I make it a practice, as is necessary, to always ask girls their age. It’s even more important than asking the guys their age since it is generally okay to redt a guy who is notably older than the girl but it isn’t generally okay to redt a guy who is notably younger than the girl.
What age are they typically getting married at, and what used to be the typical age?
To take an example, in the 60s, 70s and 80s the frum American litvish generally got married by the early 20s at the latest. (Of course there were exceptions.) Now the popular age has moved to the mid 20s. And there are more exceptions where the age is even older.
huh, bedbug bites is a reason to take children away from their parents?? What about mosquito bites, if the parents aren’t properly protecting the children from mosquitoes – should ACS put those children into foster homes?
The shidduch crisis is how in recent generations the marital age has been rising (a bad habit we unfortunately seem to have picked up from the goyim.)
Shopping613, is it usually the wife that’s 15 or both the husband and wife that’s 15? (I assume the 13 year old was the wife.)
Am I violating the privacy of this conversation by evesdropping here and reading??
Is Disney and Universal kosher as far as avoiding non-tznius?? I always was told we shouldn’t go because of gross immodesty permeating it.
Sam: The braisa I’m referring to is discussing tzedaka not yerusha. It’s relevant since the Tzitz you cited has an interpretation that you give first to a man whereas the braisa says to give first to a woman.
Is that the flight that has a Moscow stopover? What did it cost you?
The braisa (starting on the bottom of 67a) says that if there’s only a limited amount of money for food, then women are given first prior to men.
That certainly isn’t the pashtus as it seems to me that the Tzitz Eliezer is shver as is a daas yochid on his interpretation which is contrary to the Shach and Taz, and really the Mishna itself is pretty clear, while he is giving it a new and unique teitch. What’s even shverer is that the Tzitz says that the Shulchan Aruch doesn’t cite this halacha from the Mishna whereas the S”A actually does (YD 252-8). Also, the Tzitz’s interpretation runs contrary to the braisa in Kesuvos 67b.
DY: Check the Rambam on the Mishna (Horios) that discusses this halacha. I’m pretty sure he writes that it is because of a higher level of kedusha.