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Dont Worry Be Happy, your post made my week! I am warmed to hear how I made a difference to you. Hatzlacha!

Just my 2 cents…

I grew up in a pretty right wing family, however the schools I went to was not my style of learning. While it worked for others, it just wasnt for me. As well, as the fact that I was constantly questioning and did not feel I had any sort of stable base in Judiasm. So I pretty much rebelled, in my way and while not doing anything drastic, I did not completely believe in G-D, and did not keep most Halacha.

It was only when I met people who were so passionate about Judaism and Mitzvot and Hashem that I felt I found what I was looking for. It wasnt dry, by rote or cookie cutter type. It was something much deeper, and always being a spiritual person, I was attracted to it. So I came back to Judaism, in more of a Baal Teshuva manner (which btw, I dont go for the term “FFB”. We all are Baal Teshuvas in some ways.)I was involved in a Kiruv organization and was so impressed at how people becoming Frum were Excited about learning and growing and taking on more Mitzvot! And I came back to Judasim in that way myself.

So I am in the dating period and, while I am open to anyone, I do personally connect to boys who did not have a religious background and became frum as well as boys who became more Frum at some point in their lives-whether growing up more Modern, or growing up in my kind of background, with my experiences. I find that when one comes to it by themselves and creates their own unique path in life– and wants to grow with a passion, it feels more meaningful to me.

I liked that! Thank you for sharing.

Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow..

I am in Shidduchim and I thank you for this thread. I feel that Hakaras Hatov is integral in any relationship, be it parents, teachers, and friends and especially in a marriage. I can imagine what its like for someone to work so hard or even do an “easy” favor and then feel unappreciated. Appreciation of one’s spouse I feel is (one of) the glue that holds a relationship together and fuels both people involved to continue to put in their best.

Everyone wants to feel appreciated and valued.

Thank you. This is something that I want to work on and be aware of. And thank you Oomis for the example regarding your son on dates. This will open my eyes more to acknowledging the effort that boys put when it comes to planning the date, and so much more.

Maybe she could be Jewish, but not observant. Hmmm…Either way that seems like someone who was bought up well.

Bpt-

Pressing the Like Button on that last post. Or the Love Button. Your call.

And breakups/rejection can be really tough. Good thing to pray for Rosh Hashana- that Hashem should guide us to our true Bashert with revealed Blessings and Clarity on the way. And that we avoid the heartache that comes from breakups.

Very interesting. I was in a very slightly similar situation regarding the dating experience you had (albeit with many more differences.) One source of consolation is that Hashem is pulling the strings. Which leads me to have pure faith that He is leading me to the right one-and you as well.

Im not sure about the dream. Personally many dreams I had were just random subconscious throughts, however I heard that a dream is what you interpret it as. This seems to be you interpretation and I guess that if its a possibility that his sister was hurt, is there any way to contact her? That may be an interesting thought. Especially since it seems that quite some time has passed by.

Hi MiddlePath,

Its a hard call to make. On one hand, I hear what you are saying about certain posts causing you to feel out of place and on a different page than the OP. Is there any way to discuss how you feel about certain opinions offline? Sometimes its also hard to see how people come across by the written word…one reason I value face to face communication more than anything.

On the other hand…I, and I am sure others look foward to reading what you write. You have a unique sensitivity and maturity that comes across in what you write, that we enjoy reading.

Thank you Carl 😉

I remember thinking what a beautiful day it was that morning. And my sis announced that today was her birthday. Around 9 AM, my class heard siren after siren without let up. We didnt know what was going on until the principal announced it on the loudspeaker. Everyone was pretty much flooding the payphones to call home and get the details. I watched it on TV, the towers crashing down. All was so surreal. Not something we would ever imagine to happen.

My heart goes out to the innocent souls who were taken too young and to their innocent families.

Thats beautiful! Thanks so much for posting. I especially love the last line-“This is when you must call out to Hashem with your whole heart, and He will give you that big push to the finish line. All you have to do it jump up, reach out to Him, speak to Him from the deepest place in your heart and He will help you to the finish line.” Definitely resonates with what I am going through.

One of my favorites-“Think good and it will be good.”

OK, MP. Done! 🙂

Hi Middlepath,

Thanks for the check-in! Yep, very busy, but cant complain B”H.

I was checking in my email a few times to see if I got contacted-on how to contact you-although, no luck! Mods are probably quite busy, however that contact suggestion is excellent! Thanks!

And on the way, I will check out some of your music. I love music!! ^-^

Bumping up…MiddlePath, hope you saw my reply!

Ok, I am still addicted to AKA Pella Platinum-does that count?

And my bro became a chassan last night…wait kylbdnr, do I know you? 😉

Look for the “Neshama” part of every person you encounter, or already know.

Middlepath,

Unfortunately I dont have much time, but I want to respond. I am going off my instinctual impression from reading your post.

I think that by being nice by not showing your feelings is not being nice to yourself. You deserve to show her what you are really feeling. And if she is a genuine person, she would want to see how you genuinely feel. You have a right to feel hurt. 100%. I dont think you should walk away without a fight. Of course not to seem desparate or needy, but with your self worth intact, just communicate how you are feeling and if you can ask her how she came to terms with her decision. It may be foward but it will feel much better afterward. Tell her how you connected. How good of a person she is. Again, do this from your heart. Keep us posted! We are rooting for you here.