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Always ask questions, Chassidim don’t say ein chadash otherwise they would still ride with horse and buggies and travel with ships. And they wouldn’t eat pizza and sushi…and they wouldn’t have multiple cookbooks with recipes of all kinds of delectible dishes using 21st century processed ingredients. Nope, Chassidim could use sugar without any issues when it became available, because they had/have no problem with new innovations as long as it’s ok according to halacha. They keep their distinctive Jewish dress and language as the Yisraelim did in mitzrayim. I was once at a (English speaking) Yishivishe school production that was set in the times of yetzius mitzrayim and spoke about the fact that Jews were rescued because of their Jewish names and malbish. I was surprised that they did not mention the third reason, loshen, that they spoke their own language was the third reason Hashem took the Jews out of Egypt. But thinking into it, since the students didn’t speak their own Yiddish language, they didn’t mention it. Chassidim can certainly say they speak their own Yiddish language. I’m not criticizing Yeshivishe or any other Jews speaking English or another secular language as their main language, I’m just staring a fact.
A newspaper named Der Emes would be spelled in Yiddish דער אמת
Pronunciation of Yiddish/Hebrew is not according to the so-called “Gefilte Fish line” because while part Polish, Lithuanians, Ukrainians and Russians Jews may have enjoyed their gefilte fish peppery and while the part Polish, Hungarian, Checkoslavakian, Austrian, German, etc. Jews enjoyed theirs sweet, it has nothing to do with the pronunciation. Only Hungarian Jews and many Galician Jews pronounced the vav as “git” while everyone else pronounced it as with the original “gut”. After the war when most of the Chassidim left alive were Hungarians, they had a big hashpuah on many other Chassidishe who were the ones that did not drop the Yiddish language, and today majority of Chasidim pronounce the vav as “ee” besides for in Israel where they the “ee” pronunciation is not as widespread even among Chassidishe. It seems as if the Hungarian pronunciations of vav and yud as “ee” and tzeirie “aih” as in laihn (lein) are more recent adaptations influenced by the Hungarian language as opposed to centuries old because they have not infiltrated pre-Holocaust Israel.
There’s nothing wrong with spelling phonetically but using the “vav” correctly instead of a “yud”, doesn’t have to do with so much with phonetics as both letters are pronounced “ee” by a vast majority of Yiddish speaking Chassidim. It is more that they are simply not knowledgeable of the original Yiddish spelling. In fact, spelling words correctly with a vav instead a yud is also spelling phonetically because originally the vav in yud are distinctive but and spelled accordingly but not in Hungarian Yiddish/Hebrew where the pronunciation is the same and so the spelling is interchangeable to whatever one feels like using. And it doesn’t matter. As I see it, every single living language has evolved whether it is in pronunciation, evolution of words, spelling of words, grammar etc. The Yiddish spoken today is one of the least evolved languages so exchanging the yud and the vav doesn’t bother me.
Video games, television, goyishe novels, and goyishe movies are not about bitul zman as much as terrible influences. We can see the results of the influence these kinds entertainment have on our society; I do not believe the US will last much longer due to the terribly immoral influence these kinds of entertainment are having.
And while I’m not one to kasher the internet even with a filter, how can you compare leaving comments on YWN to killing, or killing with, 3-d lifelike characters, many of them portrayed extremely untzniusdig, and enjoying killing “lives”? Do you think it doesn’t have an effect on a Yid?
Perhaps there are innocent games where one can release stress, however, generally these games are very addictive. “ADHD” here mentioned here releasing stress with games, however these games are extremely addicting for individuals with ADHD due to its brain stimulating nature.
Even if adults would play only innocent games to relax for a while, it is very immature for adults to have an entire discussion involving such a juvenile topic. When I first learned how much people are paying for video gear and how serious many 50 year olds are about playing videogames, I thought ok, what can we expect from people who have no concept that we are here for a purpose, but when I see how frum adults are talking about a fake, CGI created reality, I say “we need Moshiach now!”
I realized after posting my previous post that it contained many mistakes which may make it hard to understand. I am reposting here with the mistakes fixed and the moderator can delete my previous post if possible.
. DSLRs dont autofocus in video, only mirrorless cameras do
. DSLRs and mirrorless cameras need seperate lenses. Even when buying used they will be way over your current budget. In addition, cheap and dark lenses (with an aperture f4 and smaller) which generally includes kit lenses as well ( the lenses included with the cameras) will make the quality of your photos look like it was taken with a very cheap camera. A good lens is as important as a good camera. You can get a 50mm F1.8 lens which is generally a good lens that is also cheap however they are only useful for portraits and not for candid photography that you generally take in camp. For everyday candid photos you need a zoom lens and a USED good quality, bright zoom lens can cost upwards of $500.
. The best cameras in the closest price range to what you mentioned are the compact cameras, the Sony DSC-RX100 mark 3 and the Canon 7x Mark 2 (the Canon has a longer zoom lens). In new condition they are above your budget but you can buy them used in good condition on ebay in the $350-$375 range. These two cameras have great, bright lenses that are good for low light photography and for good quality images in general. These cameras also come with manual controls which is crucial for professional photographers and videographers, you have to expose the images by using manual control and not letting the camera decide the exposure in automatic mode. These cameras are excellent for learning how to control the camera to shoot professional photography and videography.
Eventually when you do have the money, you can buy a good mirrorless camera and a fast bright lens and also an external flash with a trigger and lightstand ( make sure the camera has a hot shoe to be able to attach a flash) and at that point, once you mastered basic camera exposure settings, you can learn lighting on and off camera.
ADHD causes laziness only if you are not occupied with what you enjoy doing. Find a job that interests and stimulates you and you will find that you don’t want to stop working. ADHDs are generally very creative and smart and it is extremely hard for them to do occupy themselves with something they do not like to do. Don’t use ADHD as an excuse to take the easy road in life and do nothing because it is just an excuse, you need to want to be productive. If you know what you enjoy working in/with then go for it. If you don’t know what you enjoy doing then explore what your interests are and turn it into a way to make an income.
n0mesorah, lying and biased reporting leads to violence and the reporters have blood on their hands. Defending these anti-Semite reporters mean that you defend their defense of violence against Jews. Words have the power to destroy (and to build). Words are not trivial. It is Hitler’s words and his that about his rise to power. The liberal media is what is today causing the collapse of the US and it is the liberal media that is goading violence.
We don’t particularly have to combat anti-Semitism, we can just defend ourselves. But certainly Jews who support the lies and violence are pouring oil into the fire.
n0mesorah, there is no difference between biased reporting and propaganda. If it is not the truth, if it is biased reporting then it is propaganda. I did not conflate reportage and violence, I said that anytime anti-Semitic reportage OR violence is defended, excused or rationalized by Jews it adds fuel to the fires of anti-Semitism. However, the fact is that biased reporting, which is the spreading of lies, does bring people to violent behavior as we have seen anti-Semitism exploding all over the world goaded by “biased reporting”, i.e. propaganda, of the narrative of the poor Fakestinians and the brutal Israelis/Jews. This gives those who want to destroy us a license to do so.
n0mesorah, you do not realize but you are excusing and rationalizing AP’s behavior continuously. And the fact is that when Jews rationalize and excuse, and oftentimes defend, anti-Semitic behavior, whether is reportage or violence, then we cause further hatred towards our own people. This is the reality.
No one needs to defend their breathing normally without being muzzled. Baruch Hashem in our community we understood that after the pandemic raging in March, April, may, June and perhaps July as well, I can’t remember exactly, of 2020, there was no further need of wearing masks. Everyone is always in danger of contracting and spreading viruses but we don’t control the world and it’s stupid to wear masks indefinitely at this point. Hashem controls the world, not us.
Wow, to hear the defense of an abhorrently anti-Semitic news agency being defended on a frum news site. I keep on seeing repeatedly Jews sticking up for Jew haters. And then we wonder why we are hated so when we have these kinds of people amongst us!
Every language used in daily life evolves. English, French, German, they are all different from 1,000 or even 500 years ago. English, in fact, has changed so much, we would not understand the early versions of the English language at all, while the core words of the Yiddish language has not changed as drastically. Although hard concentration is needed, anyone who knows Yiddish would be able to decipher the Yiddish written 500 years ago.
Amen, I hope moshiach should arrive speedily.
Throughout history many Jews often calculated with gematrias and cheshbonos and in the end moshiach didn’t come. We believe every day that he can come without all these cheshbonos. If he comes, I’ll be overjoyed. And if he doesn’t come now, I wasn’t relying on cheshbonos anyway.
1/2 lb per person always works for me. I’ve never had to little, usually it’s just enough with 3-4 few slices left over.
emiller4025, if you don’t mind my asking, what compels you to live within the community and stay with your family? Do you care deeply for them that makes you stay or is it out of familiarity? I have a relative that went OTD, he lives at home but comes and goes as pleases. He doesn’t have a normal marriage with his wife, but they do it to keep the family intact, and from his side, why not? He can still do as pleases. So I wonder if such a dynamic is in all families where the father has gone OTD.
Don’t take my question personally, I’m just trying to figure out why someone who doesn’t believe in Judaism stays in a frum environment.
You should reach out to get the help your husband needs, whether it’s a Rav or GYE. If your husband wants to change he will when he gets help. If he doesn’t want to change there’s nothing you can do. You then have two options, if he still wants to stay, you can keep the family intact which it can be exceptionally hard living with such a husband, but it’s a better environment for the kids where you can control the environment way more than if you take the second option which is divorce.
Remember, ultimately there’s nothing you could do to prevent him from living the life he wants, it’s his bechira.
I feel your pain and hopelessness. Stay strong and may you have a complete yeshiah.
Regardless if the virus is natural or lab-created, the fact is that China ignored early warnings by doctors and scientists and even persecuted these individuals. They hushed up the situation and that’s how it grew out of control. Either way, the Chinese government are viscous people who don’t care much about human lives. And the world and the media is quiet about them, hushing up every article that points a finger on those guilty of not stopping the spread of coronavirus before it spiralled out of control..
Klugeryid, indeed, asking for an investigation of an corrupt government employee is not an impeachable offense. The drug addict, Hunter Biden, needed to be investigated in any case. Trump could likely have wanted to kill two birds with one stone and that’s irrelevant as long as there was cause for Biden to have been investigated.
Hunter Biden is a drug addict who did nothing to warrant his eceiving his $60,000 a month salary. Obama also wanted him removed from his post. It was not an offense for Trump to have asked for him to be investigated. Certainly, it is not an impeachable offense, except for in the corrupt US Congress that is currently led by Democrats whose only purpose in life since Trump was in office was to get him removed. That is total corruption by the Dems, not by Trump.
The bottom line is that this impeachment will not pass in the Senate and Trump will in the meantime get enough support because even people who were Democrats are seeing their elected leaders doing nothing but be busy with witch hunts for 4 years…
Ahem…excuse me. I have mistakenly written one article of impeachment as contempt of Congress…it’s really called obstruction of Congress. What a kangaroo court. As much as I mostly agree with Trump policies, I’m not even such a big fan of Trump as much as I hate the abuse of power by the Democrats.
I don’t even know why we are arguing about the quid pro quo and bribery accusations when the Dems dropped it like a hot potato because they realized that this very broad definition that they had to manufacture in order to ensnare Donald Trump in it could ensnare Joe Biden as well.
Now they are accusing him of abuse of power and contempt of Congress…
Reb Eliezer, absolutely wrong. Under oath they both testified that their was no quid pro quo. You did not listen to the hearings, I presume.
Reb Eliezer, sorry! You are right and I’m wrong. They actually did testify that it was quid pro quo. But they have ZERO proof that is was. That’s why I got mixed up. They say what THINK but could NOT prove that the president actually wanted a quid pro quo.
To me if you have no proof and it’s all based on assumption it’s worth zero. And that what I had in my mind when they were asked to provide proof that it was quid pro quo they had none to offer.
DassYochid, very well said.
ubiquitin, kindly let us know who testified that it was a quid pro quo.
Ubiquitin, ALL who testified said there’s NO quid pro quo. This impeachment process is as ridiculous as spending years on the “Russian investigation” which wasted millions of taxpayers dollars on nothing.
I think the Democrats want Trump to win the next election because many people are voting for him only because they see the stupidity and obvious Democrats political manuavers and shenanigans which people absolutely hate.
Reb Eliezer sums up the entire Democrat’s argument. He says just because other presidents were not impeached for similar offenses, Donald Trump should still be impeached…
So I would like to ask Reb Eliezer if he would like to be held to a standard that no other citizen is held to, if he’s ok with being harshly punished when no citizen is for slight offenses that every human may make in the course of a lifetime of being citizen of a country with this many laws, ONLY because he would have political enemies?! Does that make sense?
frumtd, if a higher divorce rate indicates less dysfunction then the secular society is very, very, very functional…
Creamnosugar, since when does being a voice of morality and outspoken against immorality have anything to do with inviting people into one’s home? It may have a connection to you but not to us Chassidim…
As for people getting a chance to observe us, we are in the limelight everyday, no need to invite others into our home. Because of your personal journey you may have a different opinion than what Chassidishe people in general have. Different communities have different standards and different lifestyles and that’s ok. But back to the OP’s question, regardless if one is Litvish, Yekkish or Chassidish, if a host is uncomfortable with his guests it’s not a mitzvah to invite them back.
Creamnosugar, I grew up in a single parent home without being invited to others seudahs, my mother making Kiddush and havdalah, and we grew up fine, thank you very much. Sorry, but I don’t think it’s right to invite young divorced men or women, to Shabbos seudahs on a steady basis. Seudahs are not a place for informal mixing. Elderly people is a different issue, and you may critisize us for not inviting them, but I can think of many more things I can critisize the non-Chassisidishe communities buy of course I won’t, we should see th good in each other, every community has strengths and weaknesses. But I will say that inviting people who are not on our spiritual level to our family tables is a recipe for disaster, especially in these times. And I’ve personally seen disastrous results in many families of one kid after the next going OTD, or are halfway OTD because parents wanted to be inclusive and nice to everyone or make BTs.
And you won’t say how we are or we are not a light unto the nations, Hashem is the judge of that.
As for only voting for politicians whom I would invite to my house, that would mean I would vote for no one. That’s worse than not voting for those who will fight liberals and for conservative values which are closer to our values, so I think that suggestion is not the smartest.
Millhouse, well, thank you. I was questioning how us Chassidim would seemingly be lax in the mitzvah of hachasos orchim. But when you categorize invitations to lonely people as chesed, then Chassidim do a lot of chesed but prefer what מה טובי אהולך יעקב really means , keeping their homes more private and opening it selectively and with care. Of course, I’m not saying inviting lonely people is not a great mitzvah and perhaps there could be rectification in that area, but it’s a mentality of the home being kind of private so I don’t think that will change…. One cannot say though that Chassidim don’t do a lot of chesed and also do the mitzvah of hachnoses orchim beautifully as well, hosting travelers, having hachnasos orchim rooms in their houses always available for guests, etc. We just don’t have “open house” policies of inviting divorced women or non-religious people and others who non-Chassidim invite on a steady basis.
Billywee, I’ve reread my post many times and don’t see any reference to Donald Trump… Just kidding, I didn’t reread my post because I know I wasn’t particularly thinking of Donald Trump and therefore didn’t mention him- I was thinking more of local politicians.
But if we are talking about Donald Trump, I think he’s a better option than the Demorats that promote an agenda of pro abortion, pro LGTB, pro everything that’s immoral. Trump however, not that he’s particularly pro-morality, (although he did sign into law that the army won’t provide medical care for “trans” crazies) but he’s not stupid and knows that his conservative supporters will drop him like a hot potato if he starts supporting liberal “values”. In fact, he got backlash from his supporters for holding up an LGTB sign. He needs to appeal to conservatives who are his strongest supporters and he knows it.
Reb Eliezer, I totally agree with you.
Mazel tov! All the best to you and your chosson!
Reb Eliezer, I hear your point…but seeing the “fruits” of many open house policies, I’d say one should guard their house as much as possible…
I never said not to invite guests, so we agree that one should invite guests that respect their standards otherwise they need not get reinvited.
We dont have to invite others into our houses to teach them right from wrong otherwise we should invite the dregs of society to teach them the straight ways… I don’t agree that inviting them into our house is the only way to put our message out there…I strongly believe religious Jews are a light onto the nations when we vote for politicians who promote family values, we protest against the liberals who are eroding morality, we should be more outspoken and be a voice against immorality like Ben Shapiro… I don’t agree with him on all issues, I’m just saying we should take a stand and let the world know where we stand.
Reb Eliezer, hachnosos orchim is a great mitzvah, I’m certainly not debating that. But there are prerquisites to this mitzvah. The first thing a person should look at when they do a mitzvah is if it will elevate them or lower them spiritually. Many have tried to “save” others while dragging down their family’s and their own ruchnius.
Now I’m not saying you can’t invite anyone because it lowers the spiritual level of the home since the guest will automatically be of the opposite gender of one of the spouses (or teenaged or adult children in the family…). Neither do I wish to make a blanket statement that one cannot speak to the opposite gender at seudahs, I’m not saying it’s wrong in all times. Everything should be within context. And I’m sorry that you are not invited into Chassidishe homes but I can see that happening. As I said previously, we weren’t invited to anyone’s home going back 25 years ago when we were a family with no father in the house. But I wouldn’t want it another way, there’s no way I’d agree to eat at other family’s seudahs just because we didn’t have a father…So I do get that Chassidishe families don’t invite you, not that I’m not agreeing that it’s right, I’m just stating that that’s the metzius…
But as for not inviting guests, all I said was that if one’s spouse is not comfortable with the guests they shouldn’t be invited. I did not say one shouldn’t invite guests at all, or that one cannot talk at all to guests of the opposite gender…
Joseph, overall Chassidim have not become more machmir, but some like Satmer and Sqvere have definitely become more machmir. The eltere Satmere was definitely less reserved than the general younger generation of Satmere. But the outside influence was less overall too and that’s why it didn’t effect marriages in a negative way. It was a different world back then…
Billywee, indeed many Chassidim today are more machmir on gender separation than years ago and many non-Chassidim have relaxed their standards…Divorce rates have gone up in all circles and I don’t think all of it is bad- women and men will not stay in abusive relationships anymore. However, overall, the divorce rate is higher in circles where men and women have relaxed standards, that’s a fact. Of course, there are other factors involved, the relaxing of standards is according to how integrated one is in the secular world and how accepting one is of the secular culture, that goes hand in hand. Obviously, the more frum one is, whether they are Chassidish or not, the more formal one will be with the opposite gender. It doesn’t make a marriages automatically wonderful if one is more reserved towards the opposite gender, but certainly marriages dissolve more easily the more secular “values” are embraced.
Billywee, ok so if it makes you feel better let’s say the entire lifestyle of the MO potentially contributes to greater divorce rates…
Reb Eliezer, you may be an exception, there are always exceptions to the rules…but generally, the FACT is, that the more informality there is between genders, the more divorces and inappropriate behavior there will be.