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WB ames! Mazal Tov on your daughters first birthday, which would be about now. Isn’t it hilarious how many people on this thread were talking to you a couple years ago even though you hadn’t said a thing here?
well well/chacham: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/changing-username
Dr. Pepper,
Was that Moshe you did that to?
quark2:
You need some Yiras Shamayim.
“Ve-atah Yisroel mah Hashem Elokechah shoel mei-imach ki im le-yirah es Hashem Elokechah…” (Devarim 10:12)
If I call you Mr. Obama it may be misleading but it doesn’t constitute a “lie” to address you as such. Same with referring to you with an incorrect title; it is no more misleading than you bemoaning your “talking during leining”.
Rabbi Wolf is the baal korei, but he likes to rankle everyone’s chain by talking about how he can’t stop talking during leining. (And I like to rankle his chain by calling him Rabbi 🙂
That was 18 months later. This was 9 months later. The photographic memory maintains its vividness for a year. Afterwards the minute details start to fade.
chofetzchaim: Your CR search function is broken. Compare its results to the results for the same search directly on Google.
From memory. I have a photographic memory.
AC: Yeshiva Ch’san Sofer.
I’m waiting for optimus to explain this as there is no Torah (r”l) and therefore everything comes before the Torah.
But not false hope. She mentioned her parents are not financially well enough to support her and her kids.
And what if she loses her job? She’s on the street without him.
Or homelessness without kids. (He may take them.)
“strange child’s question”
Why is your child strange?
DY: I responded regarding the Gemorah in Kiddushin 30a, but it didn’t get posted. Maybe it was too long (it was only Torah reposted.)
For many reasons. Some examples include: he misses her; she misses him; they realize how bad divorce is; for their children’s sake; and most importantly because it is a special mitzvah.
Masechtes Sotah Daf 21b on top, and Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah siman 246 sif 6.
Shulchan Orach:
“tzivu chaza”l shelo yilmad adam es bito torah mipnei sherov hanashim ein da’atan michuvanos l’hislamed u’motzios divrei torah l’divrei havai l’phi anius da’atan, amru chaza”l kol hamilamed es bito torah k’ilu milamda tiflus (now pay attention to this part, please) bameh divorim amurim torah she’bal peh, aval torah she’bicsav…”.
And as attested to by the Gr”a (sham,os 24) and Chid”a in Birkei Yosef (sham,os 7) we pasken like R’Eliezer [and R’Yehoshua] as stated in the Rambam (hilchos talmud torah perek 1 halacha 13) and the Tur.
There is a dispute in the Mishna Sotah 20a whether one is even allowed to teach Torah to women at all. The argument against the teaching of Torah to women states that if one does so, it is like teaching them Tiflus. Rashi comments that Tiflus means lechery, meaning the study of Torah will lead women to immoral sexual acts. Rashi then cites the famous story of Bruriah, one of the greatest female scholars in Jewish history to prove his point. One day, Bruriah ridiculed the Gemara (in Kidushin 80b) which states that that women are lightheaded. Rabbi Meir, her husband, ordered his student to test Bruriah’s strength and try to seduce his wife. Bruriah caved in and when she realized what she had done, she hung herself.
Thus Rashi’s argument is that women’s minds are not meant for serious Torah learning. The Rambam agrees with Rashi’s take. Rambam also adds that when the chachamim had said, “He who teaches his daughter Torah, is as if he taught his daughter tiflus,”only applies to the oral law. The Rambam says that a man should not teach his daughters written law but if he does, it is not considered tiflus. The Shulchan Aruch follows this approach of Rambam.
The conclusion is that there are four areas within this law:
1. Women may not learn the Oral Torah
2. Women may learn the simple meaning of the Written Torah
3. Women may not learn the Written Torah in depth
4. Women must learn the laws that apply to them
People who get married young divorce less. In fact, getting married young is one of the best antidotes against divorce. Chazal were not mistaken in recommending young marriages.
Breaking up wont help the kids religiously. They will still see his religious behaviour, as he will still be their father.
So you are now an official seriel columnist for Ami.
And incoming only accepts calls from the preprogrammed numbers.
Only if it can ONLY call 911 and 1 or 2 (or even 4) other preprogrammed numbers (that go to his home and parents cellphone numbers and/or Hatzolah/Shomrim.)
Modesty. Traditionally a woman’s name isn’t put in public. Chaim Yankel Zunderfield Urusoi. Even amongst secular society it used to be “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe”. While goyish society threw out any semblence of tznius, Klal Yisroel did not.
I know quite a number of divorcees who are happily remarried.
How do you know they are happy? Because they told you? Because of external appearances? How often during their now dissolved marriage were outsiders aware of their unhappiness? Generally speaking people didn’t advertise their unhappiness then, and aren’t advertising it in their new marriage.
They are throwing the dice. They will probably marry another divorcee (if they ever remarry) who has their own divorce baggage. They are very limited in whom they will likely find as a spouse for remarriage.
If shes abusive to the kids when she is married, she will be abusive to them when shes divorced. She is still a parent when shes divorced, and has visitation rights with her kids even if she doesn’t have custody.
They often end up a sad and lonely divorcee. Often they even end up with an even worse marriage when remarrying. Not to mention their poor children who end up as pawns as the former spouses duke it out with each other.
No it doesn’t. And Rav Shmuel Kaminetzky signed a letter stating the husband is 100% correct in this case.
The guy that was beaten up by the thug and his wife has the beis din supporting his position, including Maran Hagoen HaRav Shmuel Kaminetzky shlit”a.
adams: I would get sick to see an invitation to a wedding of a girl marrying a less frum boy. A 31 yo bochor marrying 23 yo girl is perfectly normal and you shouldn’t give an ayin hora to a marriage both choson and kallah are happy about, regardless of age.
The pairing up of Chassidim to livish was mentioned; it won’t work in large numbers because of the cultural differences.
I disagree. First of all, it already has been happening in large numbers since (at least) the end of the Second World War — with both groups now living in the same areas in large numbers. No, perhaps not a Satmar Chosid with a Ner Yisroel family girl. But there are many Chasidim and Litvish that are not far apart hashkaficly as it is. We can and should encourage more of it. Especially considering it helps both age gap issues — the Chasidim with the excess boys hand-in-hand with the Litvish with the excess girls. Plus, it can work immediately. Including the current crop of older 30 and 35 and 40 and older year olds, that the close in age work by NASI doesn’t really address — as well as the younger generations. This point is not intended to detract from any of the other solutions.
What’s the contention. The modern constantly knock Daas Torah, both here and elsewhere. They make the repugnant comparison of Daas Torah to r’l ‘papal infallibility’ and use many other ways to knock Daas Torah. This is no secret, it is quite open. We see it all the time.
From R. Aharon Lichtenstein, “Legitimization of Modernity: Classical and Contemporary” in Leaves of Faith (Ktav: 2004), vol. 2 p. 294:
There are many apologists who contend that the primary issues are matters of haskafah, to which authority per se is far less relevant, and with respect to which classical sources are arguably self-sufficient. This brings us to the familiar shibboleth of da’at Torah. This concept is generally in disrepute among votaries of modern Orthodoxy, who have sought to challenge both its historical progeny and its philosophic validity.
R. Mordechai Willig on Daas Torah:
…Advice is, by definition, not binding. One who seeks rabbinic advice and chooses to ignore it does not violate halachah. Indeed, if he is convinced, based on superior information, that the Rabbi has erred, he should ignore the advice.
Among the different sects of orthodoxy, whether Sephardic, Chassidishe, Yeshivishe, Modern, whatever they are- even though each group may argue bitterly with each other- the common denominator between us all is that we all conform to the words of our leaders. We do not choose for ourselves what the correct approach to the world is, we defer to our Rabbis.
Actually the modern are the exception. They, b’shitta, don’t have to listen to the words of their leaders. Much like the non-Orthodox.
He asked when did you join, not when did you join the staff.
Here is our heroes profile:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/profile/yw-moderator-80
Reb 80 deserves an updated sub-title in honor of this marvelous day.
If every convicted murderer was executed within 24 hours of conviction (as Beis Din does), yes, there most emphatically would be a humongous deterrent that would stop many murders.
You would have never have gone out with someone with a beard either.
deiyezooger: R. D. Eidensohn, author of the Yad Moshe index to the Igros Moshe, wrote on his site that this teshuva was addressed to the Governor of New York, in a letter Rav Moshe wrote to encourage NY to implement a death penalty.
Dr. P: You should’ve refused to pay the gratuity. Especially if there was no previous indication it was mandatory.
Dr. P: I see the only time you ever get nasty on this forum, is when dealing with Shadchanim… 😉
This is what Rav Moshe wrote to the Governor of New York to encourage the implementation of the then proposed death penalty for first degree murder –
As a consequence of these two factors there were almost no Jewish murderers because of the awareness of the severity of the prohibition of murder and because they were educated by means of the Torah and the punishments of the Torah to understand the seriousness of the crime. They were not simply afraid of punishment in the sense of getting caught but were afraid of the crime itself.
The warden wouldn’t let you make outside contact from your cell (even to your spouse) until and unless parole was granted, which isn’t likely for multiple decades.
Halachicly no man can even look at her.