I heard (from reliable source from reliable source) that the chofetz chaim said after the dybuk story he was involved with that there will be no more dybuks because the nisayon for our generation is to have emunah .

why did they stop?

Like a good friend of mine once told me. If after 120 they say, “why did you do this”? and i’l answer “cuz thats what the leaders said to do,” i think id be in better shape than “because i thought i knew better”

I’m sorry to hear that it sounds like you are going through a tough time. First off, you should know that despite the fact that so many people look like everything is going easy peasey for them and their life is so glamorous, everyone has struggles. Noone ive met yet (except maybe people with real strong emunah) says they have it easy. Part of believing in Hashem is the belief that He is fair. Although it may look like everything is out of any order, theres a 30 (or more) dimensional chess game Hashem is controlling, with all pieces being the king (or queen.) Each of us is an only child to the One above, you have His complete and total undivided attention.

Part of believing in Hashem is knowing that He does care about you and does feel all your pain. This life is a hide and seek game with Hshem -when He hides, it isnt so we shuld give up and say “He’s not here”. He wants us to know that he’s just hiding and we should try to seek.

To answer your question, when you say other abuses are “accepted”, it doesnt mean people think its ok. They dont and it isnt. It means the community is starting to realize that there are problems that must be dealt with. Meaning as opposed to DENIAL of an issue, they ACCEPT the truth.

In an academic journal, i saw a study about obesity and it sounded along the lines like what you are saying. Many people dont realize the struggles some people have with eating/weight and think that if a person is overweight it is because they are lazy or dont want to control themselves, which is of course not the case. Besides, even if it is the case, a person is a person. They should not be shunned and definitely not for their eating habits. Dont let others or society define who you are, your worth, and your value (infinite!!!!!! infinite!!!!! infinite!!!!!!). People are insecure and often are willing to purposefully ignore someone just to make him or her feel bad about themselves, like they don’t matter, in order for the ignorer to feel on a higher level than him/her.

Pray. Talk to Hashem. It works wonders, miracles happen, ive seen it and my friends have seen it. Smile, look at the good you have in life, in urself , and maybe even in others.

Try to understand how you would act if u were in their shoes, growing up in their life, not dealing and experiencing the battles that you face. Would you know to be kinder? Would you honestly be a better person than them? It might hurt but be honest. Thoughts and prayers to u and urs. Talk to Hashem itl be the best thing youve ever done in your life.

Mazel tov!

Lots of people didnt introduce themselves when calling about yours truly. Not right, they probably did it so I shouldn’t know who they were. What bothers me more than them not introducing themselves is that now i don’t who was calling about me 😉

R Shlomo Freifeld sometimes translated “cheit” as failure or missing the mark (he brought a proof to the meaning.) He said sometimes we need to give a little life to these concepts. When asking what does cheit meant he remarked along the lines of, “a sin? a sin, a sin, sin has as much meaning to us as…ich veis vos (i dont know what).” And, “go to a university and tell someone about sin, theyl laugh in ur face. It has no meaning.”

I think i get where feivels coming from but i dont think it’s fair to say that about everyone. There were/are big people that sometimes garb ideas in more relatable ways.

Wow J that last one was heavy.

WOLF– i’m pretty sure many people don’t deserve stuff (including this guy). In fact, in a way nobody really deserves anything cuz the fact that were alive is itself is a huge chessed so we shouldnt feel like were owed anything. BUT, theres great gift called matnas chinam. Bh good stuff, it works. I once heard that in shamayim there are many otzros of goodness- and the otzar of matnas chinam is the largest.

Look, if u had no chance then u wudnt still be here (that was a big breath of fresh air for me when i thought i was done, here i am talking about matnas chinam)

DY think in the gemara it means heavy (kovaid). I think these are all interrelated somehow.

http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14363&st=&pgnum=308&hilite=

kavod is called ykar in targum

dont bug out, bfs, you got this

i hear. i shall contemplate this matter. (just had big supper, ugh cant move or think)

I believe the understanding of what is normal and, as argued above, objectively immoral, gets knocked out of whack. Then fact that its toavah will get lost. A big hashkafik blow. (btw i think its a 7 mitzvah thing also= moral, not just cheeseburger level.) I think youre agreeing with me but still say, “Who cares? We’ll just tell our children that we dont do that even though they do.”

Also, like i said, it will become something people growing up in this world won’t comprehend. They’ll have this concept their no shychis parents tell them but the whole world believes different. (The whole world is where most people live now because of social media.)” Don’t our parents realize it’s beautiful?” Bit over the top possibly but trying to explain my opinion.

And one more thing which i wan’t saying before. Big hit to the moral barrier in general, now all this other weird stuff is coming through.

My personal belief is a quarter of those that are pro dont even think this way. Bunch of sheople. they may say it but doubt they feel it. Same with “oh this is my african american friend”

Auperma “As we follow halacha, this really has no impact on us (anymore than a statute regulating how much cheese goes into a cheeseburger).”

I think it does effect us. If i see a non jew eating a cheesburger, it is totaly fine with me. I grew a certain definition of marriage and consider it normal. Despite the world changing their mind, for the most part my own personal outlook isn’t changed, and i still consider it immoral. But, if i grew up in world with the new understanding of what marriage is, especially now when there is hardly any division between us and them and their mindsets, i would not blink twice and probably not understand my religion so well, so cruel.

Even they know the effect the public opinion has on people, thats why they try to shove this idea into movies tv shows and any other media they can.

Agree. Its not easy to listen to someone talk about G-d for a while, people get anxious. Not everyone, even many frum jews, can think G-d and not get scared off. It helps to realize He’s not out to get you but that takes time. Also, since holy topics are more esoteric and have very fine points, it can be hard to relate to them and even if a person can understand and relate to them he may not be able to actually live with them as a concrete reality – be able to relate to them with his whole self. The idea can just dissipate.

Like ten minutes before opening this up i heard something about having a rov. The torah has so many mitzvos that require specific shiurim. With that, most shiurim are disputed about. Why?

Because this will make you keep on going to a rabbi to ask him how to do this and how to do that. Getting close to a rabbi is very important for spiritual growth and helps anchor a person to judiasm.

Right so it takes them to be able to say something like that, me and you can’t say “this doesnt apply today”, no offense.

“The tragedy with making your life’s focus to impress people is that nobody even cares.”
-wise guy

Think nowadays stam The Rebbe refers to the lubavitcher rebbe

kinda by definition theyre around longer so u actually dont have to be so old

rebyidd i love the randomness

DaasYochid, A+

thanks! il try to read it soon, been busy

think i first heard of em from berenstien bears possibly. or some childrens book