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  • in reply to: pouring lead for ayin hora, #820298
    oyveykidsthesedays
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    BaalHabooze said: “Never heard of this, but until any explanation with ceredible (sic) mekor for this, I think I’ll just stick to the roiteh bendel”

    The apparent implication of your above statement is that there is a credible mekor for using a “roite bindele.” That is half-true. There is a credible mekor which mentions its use, but not in a positive light; the Tosefta in Shabbos 7:1 says that tying a red string around the wrist to ward off ayin hara is prohibited because of darkei Emori.

    old man said: “Exotic practices such as these are nonsense, whether they have a “mekor” or not. Defining it as darkei emori, kishuf, etc… is irrelevant. It’s plain nonsense.”

    I disagree. If it has a reliable mekor, then it’s not nonsense. If tefillin didn’t have a reliable mekor, it WOULD be nonsense. What is or isn’t nonsense depends on what the Torah says, and whether something has a mekor or not is certainly not “irrelevant.”

    in reply to: 96% Alcohol on Simchas Torah #818431
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    While some find mystical significance in the “minus 4%,” having it represent the kappara gained in trying to drink it, I think it represents “Sekila, Sereifah, Hereg, VaChenek,” all of which one can easily become chayav for as a result of getting drunk.

    in reply to: throff in milk #819204
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    I wonder…………………

    in reply to: Becoming Chareidi or MO? #818979
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    mw13 said: “After all, as has been pointed out the purpose of R’ Hirsch and R’ Soloveitchik mixing secular culture with the Torah was only to ensure the survival of Torah-true Judaisim; but today’s flourishing Charedi, Yeshivish and Chasidish communities prove beyond a doubt that these compromises are not necessary for Yidishkeit’s survival. So what purpose do they serve?”

    Rav Shimon Schwab zt”l rejects any interpretation of “Torah im derech eretz” as being a temporary emergency ruling to prevent assimilation (See “These and Those”). It is clear from reading Rav Hirsch’s seforim that his hashkafa was not intended to be a compromise or the like, but that he actually held it to be the ideal Torah outlook on life. Dr. Mordechai Breuer, in Hama’ayan 5736, quotes Rav Hirsch: “Torah im derech eretz is not merely a last resort to rescue the sinking ship of German Jewry!” Rav Yechiel Ya’akov Weinberg zt”l similarly holds that Rav Hirsch never intended “Torah im derech eretz” as a hora’as sha’ah. (See S’ridei Eish, cheilek 4, siman 366-367)

    in reply to: Yeshiva Guys’ Dress #818387
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Mommy613 said: “I need some guidance here.”

    Mommy613, the proper way to look for guidance is not to check the Coffeeroom to see what we “shmo”s have to say. Try the Chinuch Roundtable in the Yated. Rabbi Yaakov Bender is a chinuch expert! But be forewarned; he doesn’t like jeans.

    in reply to: Becoming Chareidi or MO? #818970
    oyveykidsthesedays
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    Good idea, Sam2.

    Jothar, I read the part about octogenarians. (I am embarrassed to say that I had to look up the word.) I couldn’t find anything the Rav said indicating that he was wrong about Modern Orthodoxy. In fact, he doesn’t even us the words “Modern Orthodoxy.” I’ll post that section here:


    There is no doubt that there is a movement, whether people are conscious of it or not, an inner desire, an inner drive, to come closer to the Ribono Shel Olam. It expresses itself in a variety of ways. Of course, if we had the proper people, properly prepared, who knew how to talk to these people, they would accomplish miracles. And a lot has been accomplished.

    What has been accomplished is that Orthodoxy now is not a problem in America. When the New York Times has a question about what is our approach to abortion, other topics, where they used to go straight to Stephen WIse or Abba Hillel Silver, who used to give them the basics and goodbye, today they go to Orthodox rabbis. The New York Times is the most vain, most non-religious paper, completely secular, but they know there is an Orthodoxy, that we do exist. The goyim know about us. This is number one.

    Number two, when you walk in – I remember when I came to the United States, and for years later, walking into a Conservative synagogue meant to be confronted by youth, and walking into an Orthodox shul meant to meet octogenarians. (For those Coffeeroom members who are as stupid as I am, that means people in their eighties.) Now the opposite is true.

    AR: (AR is Rabbi Aaron Rakeffet.) Was it really that way, rebbe, when you came here? The Conservatives really had the youth?

    I felt the Conservatives were about to win the battle. I made a mistake. I thought that what we had been doing was just futile, an exercise in futility. But it isn’t. Conservatives have lost – they cannot organize an academic colloquium. They simply couldn’t organize a colloquium in Columbia. We have youths. They couldn’t, they simply have no youths.

    in reply to: What to do to the chazzan who takes too long for hallel #818607
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    It depends how long he’s taking. If he has the chutzpah to take longer than two minutes to finish hallel, and you’re upset at that, then there are serious problems. If he’s taking twenty minutes, and you have to go to work (on Chol Shel Moed, which you’re not supposed to do anyway), then daven at a different minyan. And don’t throw esrogim at him, you might break the pitom.

    in reply to: Becoming Chareidi or MO? #818962
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Jothar: I just scanned the index and looked at every page of Thinking Aloud, and I couldn’t find the quote from the Rav about Modern Orthodoxy and that he was wrong. If anyone else can find it, that would be nice.

    in reply to: Was Mishpacha Magazine Really Put in Cheirem? #818485
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    MODS correct me. It’s “renowned,” not “renown.”

    in reply to: Lubavitch #820036
    oyveykidsthesedays
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    2scents: The Rambam says the Moshiach will be a king. (Hilchos Melech HaMoshiach.)

    in reply to: Respecting Gedoilim #817691
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    “so which gedoilim were matir the internet????”

    Rav Hershel Schachter maintains that if the following three precautions are taken, it is permissible to use the internet:

    1. Areivim, or some other form of buddy system, in which a list of every website you connect to will be sent to a predesignated friend or rebbi.

    2. A good filter.

    3. The computer must be in a location where people can/will walk in at any time and see what you’re doing.

    in reply to: can someone please explain? #817301
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    I remember reading an article on this. I don’t remember who said it, but there are some legitimate poskim who permit taking off the yarmulka for work.

    (I don’t know if such a heter would apply nowadays, but that’s a question for your LOR.)

    in reply to: Can a lady be too tznius? #1020167
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Chacham: You’re right. That’s because I’m not sure how to transliterate the shva na.

    in reply to: Can a lady be too tznius? #1020161
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Again: You are all making the same mistake. “Tznius” is not an adjective; it’s a noun!!

    Proper use:

    “She doesn’t care about tznius.”

    Improper use:

    “She is not tznius.”

    “Tzenius” means “modesty.” It doesn’t mean “modest.”

    in reply to: Another view on reporting abuse #816311
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    “Could you clarify the difference between Dati Leumi and Modern Orthodox? For example, you mention that he forbids women from wearing pants. Is this in contrast to Rabbi Shachter, who is modern orthodox?”

    Most Modern Orthodox Jews are Dati Leumi, but not all Dati Leumi are Modern Orthodox. Religious Zionists can range anywhere from very Modern to very Chareidi.

    Rav Schachter doesn’t permit women to wear pants. He says that if Beis Din were around nowadays, the would give a woman who wears pants malkus.

    in reply to: Can a lady be too tznius? #1020155
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    “Question, can a lady be too tznius?”

    English Translation:

    “Question, can a lady be too modesty?”

    Correction:

    “Question, can a lady be too tzenu’a?”

    🙂

    in reply to: hair covering and married women #816451
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    ItcheSrulik: Which rosh yeshiva was it?

    in reply to: Uman Rosh Hashana #815917
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Very good. You were mechaven to Rav Eliashiv shlit”a, Rav Yaakov Hillel shlit”a, Rav Hershel Schachter shlit”a, Rav Ovadiah Yossef shlit”a………….

    in reply to: Davening at Fast Minyanim #847369
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    In order to be considered tefillah b’tzibbur, there must be ten mispalelim, or possibly six. If people aren’t saying the words clearly, then they’re not saying the words. (I can say “Bruchtanoy mogavrom” whenever I want, and I won’t be over on beracha levatala. And I can certainly say “lumlumlumlumlumlumlum.”) If they’re not saying the words, then they are not mispalelim. Therefore, it’s not really a tzibbur, so they can’t do devarim shebikedusha. But it’s not so bad, because they’re not saying kaddish anyway. (Skal Skashermaba. Amen……….Heishmerbalmaya)

    in reply to: hair covering and married women #816439
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    You mentioned that Rav Soloveitchik’s wife didn’t cover her hair. RABBAIM said that she had a medical condition which prevented her from doing so. What I do know is that Rav Soloveitchik held that women are obligated to cover their hair.

    The Rav Thinking Aloud, page 113:

    DH: What is the heter for a married woman in her house not to cover her hair when there are outsiders present?

    RYBS: She has to cover her hair.


    DH: Someone was asking about a woman wearing a kisui rosh in the house.

    RYBS: We pasken you should.

    DH: Someone showed me a gemara in Kesubos that b’toch chatzeira it should be mutar, since otherwise there is no way any woman could remain tachas ba’alah (72b). Offhand it occurred to me that if it was lo shechichei inshei – just for going around the house when no one’s around, and someone just may drop in – then it would be mutar. But if you have people coming over b’kevius, then why would it be any different than going aroung in the street? Is there a special din in the bayis that there’s no din of covering your head anymore?

    DH: Is this kisui ervah like most kisui ervah?

    RYBS: Of course.

    DH: What should I do for myself, for my wife?

    RYBS: You will find out.

    in reply to: Modern Orthodoxy at a crossroads #817478
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Did anyone read the letter that appeared in the Yated Ne’eman a few weeks ago about the YU roshei yeshiva and YCT?

    in reply to: This made me laugh so hard :D #815740
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    It’s not funny; it’s very sad.

    in reply to: Modern Orthodoxy at a crossroads #817470
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    I read it. It’s a great article! It’s very well written, very informative, and very balanced.

    It’s definitely worth reading.

    in reply to: Nusach of Tefillah #815734
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    twisted: Probably not.

    in reply to: Proper Procedure for ending Amidah #803844
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    I may not be able to respond to any more responses for a while. I’m going back to yeshiva tomorrow.

    🙂

    in reply to: Nusach of Tefillah #815720
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    YehudahTzvi said: “In effect, you are placing a stumbling block in front of all of us in regard to tefillah if, in fact, it is the most accurate way to daven. Others ahve posted about the proper way to bow during oseh shalom and other correct ways of doing things. If we are not davening the most accurate nusach then I would hope you would enlighten us or at least let us know the Gadol Ha-Dor to whom you refer.”

    The most accurate way for you to daven is the mesorah that you recieved from your father or rebbi. If it said in the Gemara, Shulchan Aruch, Rema, Shach, Taz, Magen Avraham, Aruch Hashulchan, Chacham Tzvi, and Mishna Berura that it’s assur to say a certain word in tefillah, but you were taught to say it, then I would advise you not to. However, there are always different opinions.

    Let me give you some examples. The rav who made the shinuyim in the nusach held that you’re not supposed to say any Tehillim before saying Baruch She’amar. Therefore, I don’t say Mizmor Shir. He held you’re not supposed to say “Baruch hu uvaruch shemo.” He had many reasons for that. One reason was because it’s a hefsek. Some acharonim agree with that. Some disagree. But he had his own opinions, and Klal Yisroel is not bound to his shitos.

    My point is, don’t worry about it. Do what your father does, unless it’s clearly against halacha.

    in reply to: Proper Procedure for ending Amidah #803840
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    brotherofurs: I was taught that way also. I was also taught to say “Hodu al eretz veshamayim.” (It’s not “hodu,” it’s “hodo.”)

    I cannot find any source that says to do it the way I described as incorrect. The Shulchan Aruch says to do it as quoted above. The Rema doesn’t argue, and the Mishna Berura doesn’t argue. If you find somewhere that says to do it the other way, let me know.

    in reply to: Nusach of Tefillah #815716
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    shlishi: Yes.

    YehudaTzvi: No one is telling you to daven the nusach that I do. “Because” should be enough to let you know that I have a good reason. It should also be enough to tell you that I don’t want you to know what that reason is.

    in reply to: Kohen marrying a half jew????????/ #803684
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    ny100k said: “Coming to a Yeshiva World forum for halachic advice on such an important issue is really sad.”

    This is one of those questions that anyone can answer. It’s like asking, “Are you allowed to eat a chicken-and-cheese sandwich?” (Assuming you’re not starving to death)

    in reply to: Nusach of Tefillah #815712
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    YehudaTzvi: Because.

    in reply to: Nusach of Tefillah #815710
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    As I stated before, I didn’t make it up. It was instituted by one of the gedolei hador who, in his expertise in all areas of Torah, decided which is the most accurate way to daven.

    in reply to: Nusach of Tefillah #815708
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Chein: It is no more of a “mishmash” than Nusach HaGra.

    in reply to: Nusach of Tefillah #815707
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Chein: Yes, there is.

    in reply to: Random Question. Answer Honestly Please. #804668
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Obviously not.

    in reply to: Nusach of Tefillah #815704
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Chein: No.

    in reply to: Proper Procedure for ending Amidah #803836
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    bein_hasdorim said: “We were taught in Cheder to do the three bounces after S”E, are you calling our Rabbeim Ame Haaretz? ;)”

    I can assume from the “;)” that the comment was made in jest. I have personally been taught by my some of rebbeim to do many other things which are clearly incorrect. It’s a problem.

    in reply to: Proper Procedure for ending Amidah #803835
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Sam2 said: “There are different Minhagim. The Shulchan Aruch is based mainly off the Sefer Chassidim that there are 5 bows in the Amidah, with the final one being before the three steps back. Enough people don’t do the fifth (and haven’t for many years) that there probably is some decent Halachic reationale behind it. But yes, it is proper to bow for that too.”

    The Shulchan Aruch says it should be “bekri’ah achas.” That implies that the bow before the three steps back is the same as the bow after. If that’s the case, then EVERYONE is noheg to do the 5th bow, just many people wait until after the three steps. According to the Shulchan Aruch, that is incorrect, and I have yet to find a sefer which says otherwise.

    in reply to: Proper Procedure for ending Amidah #803834
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    HaLeiVi said: “There is nothing incorrect with what you described, as long as you bow while going back.”

    What i described as incorrect did not include bowing while going back. Also, the Shulchan Aruch says it should be “bekri’ah achas.”

    in reply to: Nusach of Tefillah #815703
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Twisted, when you say “V’l’yerushalayim,” what do you say first? “U’vneh osah,” or “V’chisei David?”

    in reply to: Raising the Pinky #1115291
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    The “minhag” to bounce three times after the Amidah has no mekor, and it probably started because people finished the Amidah just before the tzibbur said “Kadosh Kadosh Kadosh.” This probably gave the appearance that you’re supposed to bop three times at the end of Amidah.

    in reply to: Kohen marrying a half jew????????/ #803673
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Someone with a Jewish mother and a non-Jewish father is fully Jewish. Someone with a non-Jewish mother and a Jewish father is fully non-Jewish. There’s no such thing as a half-Jew.

    in reply to: smoking and olam haba #803982
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    yic said: “i m smoking and i wane know if all anti smokers are watching not to be onder the sun brcause the sun is making skin cancer hashem yrachim or not driving a car cause hundreds and thousand of people are dying yearly from car accident and about bais din shel malah nobody know’s what is going on their”

    The distinction between smoking and driving a car is obvious. The percentage of smokers who die early because of smoking, or smoking-related diseases, is roughly 50%. The amount of drivers who die in car crashes each year is less than one in 6,097. The percentage of human beings who walk in the sun, who die of skin cancer, is not that high either.

    in reply to: Nusach of Tefillah #815696
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    I daven a unique nusach which is similar to Nusach haGra in some ways, Nusach Sefard in some ways, and Edot haMizrach in some ways. It also has some unique differences which no other nusach has. I’m not going to explain, because it’s much too complicated. All I’m going to say is, I didn’t make it up.

    in reply to: Do u belive in Ayin Harah? #802957
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    Chacham said: “why is a magen david avoda zara mamish.”

    Because it’s the symbol of Zionism, which is avodah zarah mamash.

    (Don’t argue with me. I myself don’t agree with what I just wrote.)

    in reply to: Shayne Coats look funny #805719
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    It’s good for the “Baba” industry.

    in reply to: smoking and olam haba #803973
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    An addict doesn’t think ahead, and when he is about to, he forces himself not to think about it. This is true regarding every aveirah. An alcohol addict will drink to the death. A gambling addict can put himself in a situation in which he has to sell his house, or the gang will kidnap his kids. A drug addict knows what will happen, but he does it anyway, because his ta’avah is so strong, that he forces himself, either consciously, or subconsciously, not to think about the consequences.

    in reply to: NO YALILI IN POMEGRANATE! #867974
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    That’s pretty funny.

    in reply to: KORC Symbol – Would you use it. #1060730
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    The OU will not tell you about the reliability, or lack thereof, of another kashrus agency. I already tried it with Triangle-K. I’ve always wondered what’s wrong with it, but nobody seems to know.

    in reply to: secular studies #802507
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    I actually do feel kind of stupid, but I suppose that’s a healthy feeling, once in a while. :->

    in reply to: secular studies #802506
    oyveykidsthesedays
    Participant

    yid.period: Thanks for enlightening me.

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