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TOAM- im not sure who you told the first time, but try a Rabbi or Teacher. Someone older. An aunt is always someone good to confide in as they are in the family and aware of the situation. PLEASE PLEASE go talk to someone! And when you do spill everything, there will be NO MODS to cut you off lol. Just talk to someone you know is trustworthy. You can do it, we all have faith in you. I wish you ciould just wake up to happy days, but you need to do your Hishtadlus. At least try it ok? If it doesnt work at least you can say you tried and then we can come up with another plan, but I really think this will be helpful.

REMBER- HASHEM PUTS SPECIFIC PEOPLE WITH SPECIFIC CHALLENGES BECAUSE HE KNOWS!!!! THAT THEY CAN OVERCOME THEM AND COME OUT STRONGER! You must be very special and I could only wish I knew you in person because then I’d be a very lucky girl.

I was in E’Y in seminary. I acctualy only found out about this because my sem used YWN to keep us posted on the war of rockets with Hamas in Gaza. So I checked out the website and BAM the CR aka the best place!!

Rising sun- agreed buddy. But its unfortunate Cuz the high school I went to doesn’t event teach the halacha and girls dress however they want. I had to find out last year how I’m really supposed to be dressing irs unfortuante cuz many girls don’t feel beautiful they think they need to show themselves off. Our community must reconsider the way we teach tznious we must make it the most appealing rhing cuz we r loosing the intrest of curious girls

superme- Before you read this, put your defense mechanism down. I am talking about that voice inside your head that is saying NOTHIGNG WILL WORK. You must try something, so here are some ideas:

find yourself a mentor to speak with. Someone who may know you and you are comfertable opening yourself up to. This should unload the emotional burden on your shoulders. Next find a hobbie, whether it be going for a walk, playing piano, singing, listening to music. Something you can use when you get stressed as an escape and as a calming effect on you. I personally love playing piano. I teach myself songs and make up tunes or just play random keys. It is so important to find that escape. Finnaly start moving. Yes you probably feel like you cant move, but you can. Trust me, your body can do way more than you think it can. And if it is too hard, then do 5 minutes the first day. Then 6 the next and so on and so fourth.

hatzlocha!! I hope this is helpful.

streekgeek- you have been awesome 🙂 hatzlacha in ur next stage in life!!! ill miss you!!

Lost- I work with a lot of people with autism and they have so mcuh to offer the world. Their ideas just need to be expressed differently. Do not think you are worthless, or a sinner or any of that. You will get the help you need a recognie that you are worth a lot, because Hashem put you here. You are a very holy neshama trapped inside a body just like all of us, but you are holier.

Please keep smiling and get yourself some help!

popa- so what? theres no such thing as going off, just continue learning and then do yoma, you are bound to meet back up with everyone else one day. just be proud of your learning dont do it for the purpose of “finishing” do it for the purpose of learning.

and dont insult people.

your doing a beautiufl thing by learning gemora everyday.

so mods, how do you give me one??

try ohel bais ezra, or go to your rabbi and ask him if he knows any other local charities that can help you out. you are not alone

shopping i can touch my tounge to my nosee …nananananan

mods how do I get a title under my name like eevryone else??

nu…taom!!!

Hi,

I watching this video and I am very confused. Can someone please explain to me the idea behind living a Torah lifestyle but not being able to afford food to feed themselves and their kids. IM EIN KEMACH EIN TORAH and vice versa. What is wrong with working a few days a week and learning at nights. Does Hashem really want us to live like this, in starvation? Can someone please help me I’m wuite troubled by this!!!

streekgeek- im taking a psychology course right now and we just learned about this topic! As much as tangible rewards seem great in the present, the excitement for them dissipate much quicker than the feeling one gets from knowing something like love from a parent or friend is always there. An intanigble reward is a much stronger reinforcer in any situation. But that should not disregard physcial rewards. There should be, but they should not dominate, otherwise you cannot be sure if a child will be doing something just for the reward or mainly because he loves it.

looking forward to hearing from you!!! i can barley sit in lecture i wanna know how your doing!!! 🙂 YOU TOO SHOPPING!!!

i think shopping meant to say really 😉

LAB- HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA oy vey!!!!! Clearly I was in a rush before Shabbos and did not have a chance to fix up my post! I meant that he told me that no one is perfect and were only human. Hahaha thanks again for fixing it!

this is quite general! what do you hate about school? Is the learning too hard, or are you just a lazy student? Are your teachers unfair, or are you talking alot in class?

You need to sepearate between your own actions and what is actualy a problem with the school!

if you are struggling with grades but you are trying really hard, then i’d suggest getting a tutor, or maybe if your in hgih school dropping a hard course.

TAOM-

how you doing today pal! I’m so glad my post helped 🙂 My friends at home tell me I’m always giving good adivce, and I LOVE helping them out! So anytime 🙂

I was really thinking about you today and davening for your situation! (i hope Hashem knows who “the art of moi from the CR” is 🙂 And I had an idea that may seem a bit radical to you, but if you take a step back from your sitation (like where each of us in the CR is) you might find this helpful. What if you tried acting like he isn’t ruining your life. ok ok, you might be laughing at your screen right now! But really. You are in a place of ability in this situation. Ability meaning you are able to be a mkae it or break it point for your father. Since you are his daughter, believe it or not, he loves you and hes a human and every human makes mistakes. He probably was unable to control his yetzer at the time of the mistake. Clearly the affects of his mistake have been affecting you too (and rightfully so you are allowed to be upset and angered by it). But think for a second, who is YOUR PERSONAL anger affecting? Really it is only you! your father has his own things he needs to deal with and doesn’t realize how he is affecting everyone around him.

so here is my advice! instead of resenting him, embrace him. Think of it as an OTD child to parents. Yes, the kid makes the family look bad and makes the parents upset and depressed and embarassed. But at the end of the day, it was not the parents fault (unless it was but were looking at a situation where it wasn’t). So to, your dads actions do not relfect who you are! an amazing inspiring, strong willed person! Anyone who does not recognize that, is not worth spending time explaing to! As for you, embrace your father. Show him that you love him for him and that you are ONE SHINING LIGHT, if not THE ONLY SHINING light in his life! He already is paternally attached to you, and I know hes hurt you and your family. I know it. And I’m so so sorry! But please try this other approach. Keep all your anger and direct it to an lolder person who will listen to your venting. And then come back to your father and tell him hes still your role model. And that you know that he has the ability to make teshuva. In this time for him, you have no idea how it can save him from doing even worse things. If he sees he has the support of someone so close to him, and that he hasnt let EVERYONE down! You can be the changing factor in his life!

I know this is going to be extremly challenging for you! But Hashem always makes things harder when something even more amazing will come out of it! (Like Avrohom inviting the guests into his tent even though he’d have a bris! Look how challenging it must have been, but he pushed through and Yitzchak was born because of it!)

streekgeek- if your post sem/yeshiva you are most definatly an after teen 🙂

little froggie- whats the story behind your name?