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Horrifying. I dont know what to say
Every politician lies. But being senile means you aren’t fit for presidency. How can we trust someone who has “lapses” to make decisions for the country?
Spoiling kids is all year round. People are so afraid of their kids.
I think its not enough for the true Kavod and Gedulah that you need and rightfully deserve.
Attention ujm. I think you need to convince the government to make a National Men’s Day to commemorate the superiority of the male species. Women will be required to come pay homage to men by bowing down to them and bringing them gifts. Only then will you be truly happy. Unless you are already truly happy by virtue of being from the superior species. I’m not sure.
Because of shidduchim.
Which I agree, is ridiculous, but let’s face it, reality
But that’s the whole reason, beginning to end. There’s no other reason.
Think about it and you’ll see that I’m right.Ok, to my (feminine) understanding, the reason women don’t learn Torah is because since Chava sinned, the world was set up in a way that someone needs to do the housework and take care of the kids, and women are the ones who is capable of doing it, so she is responsible for that and doesn’t have time for Torah and certain mitzvos.
I’m pretty sure in GAN EDEN where there’s no childbirth pains, there’s also nothing preventing women from learning Torah. Anyway my guess would be that in gan eden we don’t really learn, we just kind of know the Torah intrinsically and enjoy the knowledge, but I don’t think it’s something we can understand now.
This is a guess not something I have a source for, but it does say in targum onkelos that “he will rule over you” is referring to ruchniyus – “for merit or for sin” – which I think means that he will teach her Torah (and she won’t be learning it herself because too busy etc.)
So I don’t see why women wouldn’t learn Torah both in gan eden and when Mashiach comes and Chava’s curse is removed.Is it a lack of bitachon to predict health information? I would ask a Rav.
As far as family relations I think it’s cool to know your ancient relativesNot for girls
That’s why I can tell him.
Part of an email I received from GuardYourEyes:
R’ Nechemia Gottlieb, the director of TAG, has worked closely with the Gedolei Hador to address the challenges posed by the Internet. He has graciously allowed us to excerpt and adapt his monograph, Nisayon Hador, in which he elaborates on this issue.
The Internet has ramifications in a host of areas. We will break them down by category:
1. Tumah
2. Waste of Time — Bitul z’man
3. Consumerism
4. Challenge to Authority
5. Cognitive Damage
6. Heresy — Kefirah
7. Where the Wicked Meet — Kinus l’reshaim
8. Loshon Hora and Disputes
9. A Breach in the Wall
10. Addiction
11. Gaming
12. Social Networking
13. Family and Social Life
14. Filters and Monitors
(He then expounds on each one)
Does anyone know how to edit a post that I posted
Are lace front sheitels assur?
I didn’t say internet is assur across the board.
I just said not to look to the internet for entertainment purposes.
Which clearly all of us are doing right now anyway.Yes there was johnklets asked a question about smacking underneath clothes and I answered him
Of course! I wish I could make aliyah.
We need Mashiach to come!lamud what are the instances in which it’s easier to get well than to say get well.
Anyway the internet doesn’t entertain you, it will just make you restless.
The same way eating sugar just makes you irritable and then crave more sugar.
It’s exactly like that.
Go to the library and get some books or sudoku.
Trust me as someone who has BTDTCommon Saychel – it sounds like you had a terrible experience in cheder. Unless its normal. I wouldnt know. Being a girl.
Johnklets – NO IT IS NOT OK AT ALL. Who gave your parents the right to touch you in a private place?
Not tznius at all nor appropriate. Definitely lacking boundaries.
Then again, I don’t have kids of my own yet so I wouldn’t necessarily be the person to ask.My parents did actually hit me a few times, but they were narcissistic immature people so everything they did in the name of discipline was better named as “you’re insulting my ego right now so I need to do anything I can to put you in your place as soon as possible” .
And besides for some pent-up rage that I still have they accomplished ZERO. If anything they only did the opposite of what good discipline would do for someone. And I’m not only referring to the smacks which they didn’t really do too often. But enough about that….back to your question.A few times my mother hit me on my backside, but never without clothes.
I do know a family where one of the parents did that, and all the kids have issues.
It’s so degrading and lacks decency.I suggest you go for therapy to talk about this.
However you should realize that most probably your parents were just copying what their parents did to them as a child, or something like that.
They probably didn’t realize the harm they were doing.
So don’t go being mad at them, but you should be aware that it was not ok at all.Is it ok to potch in a non-degrading fashion? I’m not sure. It’s very complicated.
On the flip side you really don’t want to raise entitled kids. There are too many of them nowadays.
Maybe the answer is to first make sure you really have a strong very loving very warm relationship with the kids where they know 100% that you only want what’s best for them, then you can give them a small potch when they’re out of line (sparingly)
You definitely don’t want them to think they can get away with anything.I have a friend like that, she is very entitled. Her mother is afraid to ever tell her what to do but now this girl mamesh has no boundaries at all. She will totally lie to people or manipulate them to get what she wants….. she doesn’t have a sense of responsibility or right and wrong….very selfish person. I know another person like that too who definitely has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Her parents are afraid of her so she never got any kind of mussar or discipline or anything. They still hold of her until today and pump up her ego…meanwhile she doing all kinds of things against halacha and against basic human decency but they will never say a thing to her….. If she would have gotten a few petch maybe she would be different.!!
It’s very hard and complicated, no one said Tzaar Gidul Banim was easy
We don’t hate the frei or MO or reform. But I don’t want my (future) children to get influenced by a hashkafa that I personally don’t agree with.
Because they look nicer in people’s houses and are more eco-friendly
Very interesting
Lev melachim v’sarim beyad Hashem.
It makes no difference who is actually sitting in the white house, he has no say in anything anyway.
If we did our hishtadlus in voting, that’s all we have to do and NO REASONS TO WORRY ABOUT ANYTHING EVERIs this thread lashon hara
@nom what do you mean?
There are only 5 posts before yours.Teenager, my heart goes out to all those kids described in your post.
I never experienced what you describe, but I can identify with what pain is.
I know that almost every kid who is losing grip on his Yiddishkeit is coming from a place of unbearable emotional pain.
And that I can understand.I don’t think a co-ed option would be a good idea, simply because it would be a kind of “haskama” of girls spending time with boys. We don’t wan’t to encourage it. It should still be something that kids might feel bad about doing, even if they can’t always control themselves.
I would suggest kids looking for a mentor. Even if right now a boy feels that he can’t give up his drugs/alcohol/hanging out with girls, if he has a mentor who looks out for him and is there when he needs to talk etc, he will be so much better off.
Do you agree?
mesivta, you should listen to this speech on Torah Anytime. It addresses the issue of boys being out of yeshiva now:
Rabbi Shlomo Zalman Friedman
A Rare Oppertunity- Chizuk and Guidence on Dealing with ChallengesSpending $2000 on clothing every Pesach and Sukkos in order to keep up with the styles.
Eating out for lunch every monday wednesday and friday
Buying a house when you have 1.5 kids.
In order to get a good shidduch you need to pay through the roof support.
Forget about marrying off a child (lchaim, vort in a hall, not even mentioning the wedding expenses, sheva brachos, new clothes for the kallah, ring, bracelet, watch, cufflinks, honeymoon to Eretz Yisrael)In addition to common’s list.
All not necessary.
Why do we need to be so steeped in gashmiyus, guys.
If anyone read Toras Avigdor this week, Rabbi Miller mentions that the yidden in the dor hamidbar were given a bracha that they did not have material items/geshmak food/new clothing. Hence the less you have the happier you are.
I personally stopped buying new clothes for every season, and I’m very happy with my 3-year-old terribly out of style outfits.
It’s very free-ing when you don’t have to constantly be worried about the Joneses.
If anyone doesn’t want to do a shidduch with me because of that, too bad.Could be.
Oh thanks!!! Baruch Hashem.
Oh but actually the OP is “Happy2BAlive” not Postsemgirl
I’m just saying that the boys should go to Eretz Yisrael at a younger age
Most parents can’t afford higher tuition.
Modern Orthodox have more working parents.
Yes it’s the nisayon of being in learning. No one said you can collect the schar in Olam Habah while also having the cake and eating it.There’s no solution.
Everyone is corrupt.
No matter what we change someone will suffer for it.That’s golus
Do most boys get told by their Rebbeim not to enter shidduchim until 23? I wouldn’t know.
But in Eretz Yisrael, all the boys are getting married at 19-21 years old
It seems to be working.Respectfully, hardly any frum men actually cheat on their wives.
You wanna say that sometimes people don’t act tzniusdik, fine, but maybe 1 in three thousand have been accused of cheating