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oomisParticipant
For some, it makes less of a chatzitzah and they feel more tzniusdig. For others, it makes their wigs fit better.
February 12, 2013 3:34 am at 3:34 am in reply to: The "whats the best word to use express what I want to say thread" #928780oomisParticipantHow would you say nachas is English or what would you wish a non Jewish or non frum parents of a chosson/kallah?
They should be a source of continuous pride and joy to them.
oomisParticipantIt was not well done.
oomisParticipantA flower (perach, which contains several of the letters) shaped like a rose – the pey, ches and tes are incorporated into the actual rose petals, the vav is the stem, with the reish and yud as the leaves
February 11, 2013 11:46 pm at 11:46 pm in reply to: Chaverim Volunteer Injured in Hit & Run – Please Daven #928622oomisParticipantWhat’s the difference? A Yid was his by a car. Daven for him. He should have refuah shelaima b’korov, b’soch sh’or cholei Yisroel.
February 11, 2013 3:07 pm at 3:07 pm in reply to: What's red, hangs on the wall, and whistles? #928600oomisParticipantSomeone dressed up as a Giant Kiwi for Purim?
February 11, 2013 3:06 pm at 3:06 pm in reply to: Should Harassing Other Posters Be Allowed in the CR? #929086oomisParticipantNo. Respectful disagreement, yes, harrassment, absolutely not.
February 11, 2013 3:05 pm at 3:05 pm in reply to: Warning Regarding Auto Insurance and Children #998475oomisParticipantI am a little surprised at this. When my son got his license, he was leaving for E”Y for the year. We notified the insurance co. about his licensing, but ALSO informed them that he would be out of the country for a year, as a student and therefore not driving our car at all. They requested a copy of his acceptance and registration for the yeshivah, and told us to inform them when he returns and will be driving our car again. Our insurance premiums did NOT change at all.
oomisParticipantOy, poor kid. Refuah shelaima to her.
oomisParticipantWas that a serious question?
February 10, 2013 3:45 pm at 3:45 pm in reply to: The "whats the best word to use express what I want to say thread" #928774oomisParticipantGesundheit is fine to say after someone sneezes. Everyone knows that word.
Shidduchim or Shidduch Parsha – dating for purposes of marriage.
February 8, 2013 5:40 pm at 5:40 pm in reply to: Viral Video: Girl Curses Out Judge, Gets Thrown in Jail – Who Is Right? #929680oomisParticipantBecause she was a little disrespectful/lightheaded “
A LITTLE???????? What video did YOU see? The one I watched showed someone who showed up to court appearing to be high, not caring one whit for the seriousness of her situation, and CURSING the judge who was handing down her sentence. THAT’S who you want to defend?? It’s about time someone got tough with these kids who take up the court’s time and have no derech eretz whatsoever. He was right to sentence her. And the law is the law. Even when you think it is frivolous and not in keeping with our own Halacha. I totally do not get your referencing of Nazi Germany. This is not even apples and oranges. it is comparing apples and monsters.
oomisParticipantAnyone who does not LIKE his/her partner before they get married, is taking a REALLY big chance, IMO.
oomisParticipantMuni meters are a royal pain, and interfere with our right to the pursuit of happiness (or shopping). When there is snow on the ground (especially when it is icy), it becomes a sakana to have to go all the way down to the muni meter then back to the car again. And if you are not parked near the store, it is a triple trip. If you have a child in tow, it means shlepping them out of the car, possibly in very inclement weather. Whoever thoughrt this idea up should be forced to feed the meters all day long.
oomisParticipantI was thinking of A bi Gezunt, and that’s always what I thought it meant (so it should be, you’re healthy). I am happy to have the more correct translation. As to why i would answer if I don’t speak Yiddish, well I don’t speak French, either, but I still know what some expressions mean.
oomisParticipantMarge, kol hakavod lach. Mazel tov on the upcoming family simcha.
oomisParticipantNope.
oomisParticipant“So it should be???” (I do not speak Yiddish).
oomisParticipantYou can go back earlier than Yaakov. In Chayei Sarah, Yitzchok saw Rivkah and it sais “he loved her.”
True, but actually the Torah teaches us a very different and more important lesson about marriage from Yitzchak and Rivkah. The Torah states that he loved her, AFTER he had married her and brought her to his mother’s tent (Breishis Perek 24 Posuk 67). The specificity of his loving her AFTER it says he took her as his wife, which is the reverse order that most of us thing of in getting married (“first comes love, then comes marriage…”) has most meforshim stating that this is to show that the love is most important when it FOLLOWS the marriage and is developed and nurtured for a lifetime commitment.
oomisParticipantWhy go so far as Shechem and Amnon? “Vaye-ehav Yaakov es Rachel.”
Real love develops with time after marriage, but for most of us the beginning of that emotion starts initially with some feeling of attraction that enables the couple to want to get to know each other better for purposes of getting married in the first place. Certainly Hashem built into the concept of continuation of all life human or not, some chemistry between the two individuals involved.
oomisParticipantThe appeal is that you can a cup of fresh brewed coffee without making a whole pot. There is no pot to clean and the neuritis cups come in different parts goofed types and teas “
You can do the same thing with a CHEAP one cup Melitta filter. A mere fraction of the cost, and just as fresh. You pour boiling water through the filter directly into your coffee mug. It is the same principle as the Keurig, uses no electricity or energy other than heating the water (and we keep water in a pump pot heated all the time so technically, yeah, I do use electricity, but we need the hot water for other reasons unrelated to the coffee). A keurig is very expensive, and except for the specialty coffee, is basically the same as any other coffee maker. So buy the K cups and pour your water through them into a Melitta, if you MUST have Mountain watever coffee.
oomisParticipantThere might also be a difference between unsubscribing by hitting unsubscribe, or having to punch in your e-mail address in order to unsubscribe. I keep getting SPAM from really unmentionable sites, and I now just delete, whereas I used to try to just unsubscribe.
oomisParticipantI tried to post a response for this, and I wonder what about my post was worthy of mod-rejection. I specified a halacha relating to women, and thought it might apply to keilim as well. Mods, please clarify what I should have said differently.
It is not to be compared, and false, so we deleted it.
February 6, 2013 11:26 pm at 11:26 pm in reply to: Viral Video: Girl Curses Out Judge, Gets Thrown in Jail – Who Is Right? #929664oomisParticipantIf it was your daughter who had made some very bad choices, what would you want done? Bail is supposed to be to guarantee you’ll come back for your trial – it isn’t a form of punishment – that’s in the constitution. People who are drunk or high are not necessarily criminally liable for acts done “under the influence” – she should be taken off to sober up (come down from whatever she was on), then tried. Bringing someone not in their right mind was unfair. Where were her parents? “
I meant to address this post as well. If my daughter chas v’sholom ever acted with such complete contempt for someone in authority who had the power to send her to jail, I would applaud him for doing so, while cringing at the thought of my child being in worse trouble. But sometimes tough love is necessary, even as we cry for the pain we will see our children go through as a result.
This girl in the video seems to have parents who are very absent, or have little control over her, and while that is very sad for her, she should have been smart enough to not come to court appearing high or buzzed, both of which are conscious choices that she made, if in fact she was high or drunk. I feel no pity for her for that. And btw, people who are drunk or under the influence are most CERTAINLY criminally liable for their actions committed under those influences, unless they were under the influence through no fault of their own, which does not typically happen that way.
oomisParticipantoomis: So then if your son has friends from yeshiva for shabbos, will you not give them a little cup of kiddush wine?”
My son and all his friends are well over the age of consent for alcohol. That said, when they were much younger, we generally only served wine on Pesach at the Sedarim (and therefore not shayach to this discussion), and grape juice on Shabbos. I never put bottles of alcohol on our table when the kids were under age. Nonetheless, had I done so and had they drunk some kiddush wine (under extremely careful supervision, and no more than to be yotzai), it would have been under the purview of religious observance.
oomisParticipantWe are enjoined in the Torah to refrain from taking nekama (Lo Tikom)against another Jew. I believe it is Rashi who explains that nekama is defined as (i.e), “You didn’t lend me your rake, so I won’t lend you my rake.” Another halacha related to this is Lo Titor, which is one step further where one tells his fellow Jew, “Even though you didn’t lend me your rake, I will nonetheless lend you mine.” Both are no-nos. BTW, you may not realize WHY your sibs did not make S”B for your child. There could have been extenuating circumstances to which you were not made privy because you were a baal simcha. Something to think about…
So, if you want to make S”B for your niece/nephew, do so with a full heart. Or don’t, but not specifically for the sake of “getting even.” That’s just not a particularly good middah to have or to model for your kids.
February 6, 2013 10:51 pm at 10:51 pm in reply to: Viral Video: Girl Curses Out Judge, Gets Thrown in Jail – Who Is Right? #929662oomisParticipantShe showed contempt of Court. She paid the price. Let it be a lesson to all our youth who see this video that has gone viral. It’s time for them to learn a little self-control, and mouth control, as well as derech eretz for authority. From start to finish this girl had something worse than Chutzpah. She treated her extremely serious legal situation as a complete joke. Well, who is laughing now?
oomisParticipantPopa, obviously when I spoke of Kiddush, I was referring specifically to a parent giving a child alcohol-type Kiddush (wine only as opposed to grape juice, but never schnapps or the like). I should have said that more implicitly. My father O”H used to give us wine that was diluted with grape juice, in a tiny kiddush cup.
Apropos of your penal code quote, is it not also unlawful to serve alcohol to a minor who is at a party in your home?
oomisParticipantDinah d’malchuisah dinah. In the state of NY it is assur to serve alcohol to a minor. Kiddush is an exception and it is a small amount, plus no one is driving after making kiddush. Purim has become an excuse for kids to get smashed and wasted, some disgustingly so, and it has caused many an emergency, not to mention horrific Chillulei Hashem. That is NOT what our Gedolim had in mind.
February 6, 2013 2:14 pm at 2:14 pm in reply to: Making Sunday an official day off in Israel #927079oomisParticipantSheishes yamim ta’avod! Shabbos and only Shabbos is our day off!”
That doesn’t have to mean actual earning-a-salary type work. The sixth day of work can be ANY melacha that is ossur on Shabbos, including driving to the mall to do some shopping. For most women who work outside the home, it would mean doing all their cooking and cleaning for Shabbos, without having to come in to an office besides.
oomisParticipantJust ignore. It’s less antagonistic than unfriending.
February 6, 2013 5:21 am at 5:21 am in reply to: Calling people with questionable smicha Rabbi #995575oomisParticipantThank you, it would have been a privilege to meet your father. He seems like a great man. “
Thank you. He was indeed. For so many reasons.
oomisParticipant1) Sort of like ItcheSrulik said, it’s very likely that he was just pandering to the cultural biases of his time to make his works popular without having a confirmed belief in them. Which brings us to:”
He had no need to write anything at ALL about Jews. His plays were already successful. I guess we could debate this ad nauseum.
Some people feel Marlowe WAS Shakespeare. Their styles were similar. Personally, I love S’s works. The stories have withstood the test of time and have often been updated to make modern movies and shows out of their plots. “West Side Story” was a retelling of “Romeo and Juliet.”
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Oomis, is the brown Godiva still parve”
I haven’t bought it in a couple of years (I still have one bottle from years ago, that’s how little we booze it up in my house), but I have heard that it still is pareve. The white chocolate was milchig (though I heard a rumor that it was pareve, but I never was fully invested in buying any, so I haven’t checked). At one time I think the dark chocolate was milchig, but I believe that changed some time ago. My bottle is definitely pareve. Next time I am near my local kosher wine shop, I will ask them bli neder.
February 5, 2013 2:20 pm at 2:20 pm in reply to: Making Sunday an official day off in Israel #927062oomisParticipantI don’t think it will make much difference in the sense of Jews keeping Shabbos who would otherwise go out for a fun day at the beach or movies on Shabbos, but it would certainly be refreshing for those Shomrei Shabbos who could use that day free to do errands, have fun with the kids, etc.
February 5, 2013 3:42 am at 3:42 am in reply to: When to buy a kever? Should young people buy graves? #926793oomisParticipantIt takes a bug burden “
I know you meant big burden, but this worked, too.
oomisParticipantHealth, you are right. I think I didn’t express myself correctly. I meant to say that single people typically have a slightly more straightforward path to being set up. There are not typically the types of issues that divorced or widowed men and women have to ADD to the mix of what already has its own challenges in terms of finding appropriate matches.
February 5, 2013 3:29 am at 3:29 am in reply to: Calling people with questionable smicha Rabbi #995562oomisParticipantBut one cannot just GIVE smicha to just anyone.There has to be a basis for him to be worthy of it, at least in the learning aspect. Or is that not the case?
oomisParticipantGodiva makes a chocolate liqueur that is pareve. it’s delish also.
oomisParticipantVanilla Vodka – something new that came out last year (or at least I just became aware of it). Chill it and it is spectacular (and I am not even a drinker!!!!)
February 4, 2013 9:36 pm at 9:36 pm in reply to: Calling people with questionable smicha Rabbi #995560oomisParticipantoomis: Online smicha currently costs $ 4,920. If some rich kid gets smicha from here who has plenty of money and free time, spends 20 years as a lawyer and doesn’t learn a day after that: your father should be mekaved him while he addresses your father who learns Torah all day as Mr. so and so?”
FTR, my dad (who was niftar 19 years ago, and I only WISH some rich kid or ANY kid could see him today to get a Sholom Aleichem, if not kovod, from him) had the title Dr. in his health-related profession, and Chazzan too. He wore many hats, but Rabbi was not one of them.
Be that as that may, if online smicha were considered legitimate smicha, then I would have no problem addressing the individual who received it, as Rabbi. I cannot imagine however, that Smicha can be conferred by another Rov, without actually doing the action of “smicha” on the talmid. So it would tend to make me think that unlike an on-line reputable college degree (where the student actually has to do and submit the work) it is not quite the same getting “smicha by internet.”
I understand the point you are making,and btw, there is such a thing as smicha for teaching, but not paskening shailos, and it is also a kovod to the mechaneich b’Torah, to be called Rav or rebbie even without smicha. My sons had rebbeim who for certain did not have smicha, but were called Rav so and so, and their learning reflected their worthiness of the title.
oomisParticipant“Shlomis bas Divri.”
I was taught it was Beruriah, wife of Rabbi Meir.
February 4, 2013 7:16 pm at 7:16 pm in reply to: Calling people with questionable smicha Rabbi #995556oomisParticipantChafetzchaim, I am in accord with DaMoshe.
My father O”H was a great Talmid Chochum who did not have smicha. He was every bit as learned as any Rov I have ever met, but he never went for smicha and would not have called himself Rabbi, though unquestionably he would have passed any bechina given to him. His learning WAS strictly l’Shma, and he had an eidetic memory, so whatever he learned was committed to his memory immediately. He was known for his shiurim and lectures that were typically spontaneous in nature, without notes, and he could quote seforim by heart. He SHOULD have been called rabbi, but preferred not to receive that title.
So I repeat, someone who has honestly earned that title (I love the word honorific), deserves to be called by it, if he so chooses, just as a non-practicing doctor, retired govt’ official (i.e. Mayor Koch O”H),or retired military man is still called by their title. It makes no difference if he has a shteller or teaches in Yeshivah. He still has the degree. Now, OTOH, I kind of believe that a wife of a rabbi should be referred to as the rebbetzin, if in fact her husband is a practicing rabbi in a shul. I am sure there are those who will disagree with that, but it’s a semantic issue, I guess.
February 4, 2013 6:58 pm at 6:58 pm in reply to: How Do You Spend Purim Night After Breaking The Fast? #926049oomisParticipantI go home from shul to bake and/or cook for the seudah. The shalach manos is already done a day or so before, but I like to get the jump on my seudah preparations and make my mother O”H’s hamantashen recipe(the only hamantashen my family loves). THIS year however, for a change, I am invited out for the seudah, and have nothing to prepare except my gorgeous self (;p). And my shul is planning a purim party after the first megillah reading, so I hope to attend that BE”H.
oomisParticipantExactly the same, through meeting them. Whether through friends, family, neighbors, lectures, trips, groups, there is a similar process to the first time around. The difference is that there may be “baggage” involved (like a messy divorce, or not being over the loss of a spouse), and these factors do come into play.
February 4, 2013 2:14 am at 2:14 am in reply to: Calling people with questionable smicha Rabbi #995542oomisParticipantMany people have smicha and do not even refer to themselves as Rabbi. Some people have smicha and do not have a Shul or practice rabbanut or even teach. Nevertheless, if they have legitimately earned their smicha, they should be addressed as Rabbi, if that is their wish (some prefer not to be). If someone has NOT earned his smicha through his learning and knowledge of Torah, then that’s a whole ‘nother ballgame.
oomisParticipantDo NOT say the “P” word (not even if that word is Purim). I could use an extra month this year. Not fair. Where is that Adar Sheni when we need it? And I am one of the few women who looks forward to Pesach because she thinks Pesach is the greatest yom tov since sliced br.. er… matzah.
I feel that Hurricane Sandy threw us all for a loop, and I don’t feel ready to face the Purim-Pesach season yet. But Hashem didn’t ask me my opinion, so I guess it’s time to start getting ready. Now.
oomisParticipant“I am deeply sorry for your pain and loss. May your good memories of your loved one help sustain you at this sad time.”
oomisParticipantPerfect opportunity to teach a child acceptable ways to show frustration and anger.
February 3, 2013 1:22 pm at 1:22 pm in reply to: Shidduch Crisis: Older Single Is Desperate, Parents Being Super Picky #925900oomisParticipantIt is hard to do anything about controlling parents when the boy or girl is young. But once a girl (especially) has reached “that age,” she needs to ask her self if she wants Mommy and Daddy to make all her decisions for her forever, or if she is ready to be an adult. A parent who is controlling the lives of his/her adult children, does them no chessed.
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