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nifterah – she died

nifteres – a deceased female

When you say she was nifteres, you are actually saying she was/became a deceased female person.

The word niftar applies both the jmeaning , he died, and a deceased male. In nekaiva, there are two separate words for these things.

I always wondered about the expression “bigdei Esav, b’nah hagadol, hachamudos” (Breishis (Toldos) Perek 27, Passuk 15). Beged is loshon zochor, and chamudos, which refers apparently to the clothing, is loshon nekaiva. If anyone has an explanation, or if chamudos refers to some esoteric idea that is being hinted at, I would love to hear about it.

I have a similar question on the dikduk of

” kol melacha lo yay-aseh bohem.” (Semos (Parshas Bo Perek 12, Passuk 16). Melacha is loshon nekaiva, and yay-aseh (not ya-aseh)which means “it will not be done,” is loshon zochor.

My Rov did not have an answer for me about this.

This is the first I have ever heard of a “designated” handicapped spot (and no, I would NEVER EVER park in any handicapped spot). I would imagine other people with HC plates, probably don’t realize this is dedicated specifically to YOU. They may think the designation is for handicapped drivers or passengers, as opposed to anyone else, versus YOUR special needs as opposed to other handicapped drivers/passengers. I agree you should get a big “RESERVED” sign to add there.

I am not a Justin Bieber fan, never was, never will be. BUT – though what he wrote may have been foolish and in questionable taste, it is not worthy of the big gedillah that is being made over it. Had Anne Frank not lived in a country overrun by the Nazis Y”Sh and there had been such a teen idol who was world-famous then, or were she alive as a teen today, she would very likely be a huge fan of his, as are so many female teenybopper in the secular world, Jewish or not.

Anne Frank O”H was very much a typical teen until she was forced into hiding, and even then we can see within her diary the typical angst, thoughts, feelings, hates, and loves that many adolescent girls seem to go through. In that respect, Bieber was probably correct, though he would have been wiser to keep his self-promoting thoughts to himself at such a time and place.

Seriously, Popa???? Is next Purim coming early?

Disclaimer – I direct this to no one individual guy.

You don’t. That is rude and mean-spirited. Your opinion may not reflect reality. Some girls ARE heavier (so are some guys), but compared to what, exactly? Our society has been conditioned to think that size 2 is normal for a girl’s body type. In my grandmother’s day, a woman was considered to be most attractive at what we would probably assess as a size 12-14. Stop being so focused on such externals and GO OUT WITH THE GIRL if all else is promising. You might be pleasantly surprised to see that you are attracted to her. And if not, there is no need to specify why. It should be enough to say, I am not interested, though she is a very nice person. If she is truly overweight, SHE KNOWS IT. She doesn’t need some guy to remind her.

And btw, weight comes and goes, and many girls who are stick thin when they are dating HAVE been known to gain a lot of weight after they get married and have some children. Should they be divorced for that? What are we teaching our kids to think is important in life?

Yes, it was, because we have reached such a depth of depravity in this world, that Hashem SURELY has to bring us the Geulah, because the world cannot stand like this for much longer. And because of the sickness of this world, perhaps b’Chasdei Hashem we will be the ones who are zochim to live to see Yemos haMoshiach, and not just his ikvisah.

Boruch Dayan HaEmes. I always appreciated his posts. I feel so sad for his family. May Hashem give them a nechomah.

My chosson could not afford a real diamond when we became engaged, and with my approval we shopped for an inexpensive cz ring. Instead of wearing a diamond, I married one.

Awwwwwww!!! So sweet!

Brainwashing is a necessary part of ANY education. What is concerning is when ther brainwashing has a negative connotation, i.e., to believe that someone is inherently less worthy because of his skin color or where he went to school, or how much money his family is worth. It is not bad to brainwash someone into doing mitzvos and having good middos. The word has a negative connotation. Substitute “educational reinforcement” for brainwashing.

Oh I like that very much! I also used to wonder why the first sentence was not considered the fifth question!

Why is this even an issue? Is it ASSUR to eat hot dogs for some reason, Shabbos Chol Hamoed or not? If you enjoy hot dogs,go for it! And RebDoniel, I have been there, too, and franks make a perfectly wonderful cholent.

A zeesen, kosher Pesach to all of klal Yisroel. May this year bring us the final Geula, and take us all out of our own meitzarim (did not mean Mitzrayim).

Taster’s Choice and Folgers. I hate instant coffee, though.

We eat Pesachdig type foods (primarily non-gebrochts, though our family minhag is to eat gebrochts) all year round, because a member of my family has celiac. You can get used to anything, when you have no breira. personally, I like some of the Pesach cakes VERY much.

Just seeing this now – I was not on-line all day. Refuah shelaima to all those in need of one, especially the baby.

If we also meant to include non-Jewish music, I love, “Bring Him Home” from Les Miserables and “My Heart Will Go On” from Titanic. Both of those songs bring me to tears (as do the two Jewish songs I meantioned).

Canned with a hechsher for Pesach.

My own self-created recipe is easier for me and non-gebrochts (though I eat gebrochts, we have someone with gluten-sensitivity, so I make it non-G)

Take thin chicken cutlets (or even veal), dredge LIGHTLY in potato starch that has been seasoned well with kosher salt, and rosemary, garlic powder and basil, shaking off the excess. Saute in hot oil until lightly browned on both sides (about four minutes per side), then put chicken in set aside plate or pan/ Saute onions and mushrooms (if you use mushrooms on Pesach)until golden, add back the chicken and pour a bottle of Marsala cooking wine over it (the small bottle). Simmer and let it reduce, until slightly thickened. You can add a little more kosher salt and spices to taste, to the pan. This is too delicious for words.

May these be the most difficult challenges we ever have to face in our lifetime!

I wouldn’t thank an abusive person for hurting me, but if something bad happened chalilah, I would thank Hashem for it not being worse, and ask Him to let it be a kaparah.

I am impressed by all the beautiful D”T. PLEASE keep ’em coming. I have many guests coming for the Sedarim, and one of them is a middle-aged secular Jew, a relative of our other guests (who although frum from birth, were not Yeshivah educated). What would be appropriate for him (an intelligent man), but not so “mild” or basic that the other guests will feel they have BTDT?

Interjection – B “H a million times that everything worked out so well for you. Being scared is not the same as feeling nothing. You say you knew he was The One. That is not what this young lady has said. Everybody is different, and what was good for you might not be for someone else. We are not just “well-meaning nobodies on a blog,” (and btw, I take exception to that description, as you have no idea who posts on this blog, including rabbonim, social workers, psychologists, and people who have BTDT). We come from a variety of experiences and backgrounds, and perhaps have a better handle on giving sound advice, than that with which you credit us.

My personal feeling is that this young lady should probably not make a commitment to this guy until she feels comfortable doing so. She is not remotely on the same page as he, and should not be rushed into something by well-meaning parents and shadchanim. He might be the perfect guy for her, but she might not be the perfect girl for him if she feels nothing for him, and he deserves to be with someone who totally wants to be with him. May we hear good news from these two people b’korov.

Real talk – Dating mentors cannot make someone feel something they don’t feel. Either she is feeling something or she is not. It is too soon to tell, apparently, and she should not rush just because HE is ready.

Sometimes we have to be really insistent with service industries, in order to get what we deserve. My son had a recent run-in with T-Mobile, regarding a HUGE bill that he never should have received. He had arrangements with T-Mobile wherein they were comping him for the entire month’s bill, because he is a very good customer, and they wanted to keep him. He was on the phone with them making sure he understood the deal correctly (all these calls are taped by T-Mobile, btw), and after being assured and reassured several times that he would have a zero balance for the month, no matter how many calls were made, he agreed to the terms.

Came the bill, and he sees a whopping $800 tab on it. After we revived him (just kidding), he got on the phone with them, and they basically denied everything that they had discussed with him,, then they tried to get him to accept a lesser amount to be paid to them. He was on with three or four managers, not one of whom knew what the others were saying or doing. He got all their names, but it made no difference in the final analysis.

So he wrote a LONG e-mail explaining the circumstances of the freebie he was getting, and exactly when and how the discussion to place with their reps. He told them to check their own recordings. They said they would get bacl to him. They did, and quite sheepishly, I would add. His bill is now a zero balance.