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I don’t find moving all my pekelach to a bungalow and DOING THE SAME STUFF THAT I HAVE TO DO AT HOME (but without my husband’s help and without my familiar surroundings) to be my idea of any type of vacation. For those who actually enjoy doing that – kol hakavod lachem.
Starving and bingeing obviously are not part of a good diet plan. OCCASIONALLY holding off on eating a meal because you want to have, say, an ice cream sundae, so you decide to conserve your calories at THAT time in favor of the “good stuff,” does not mean you habitually starve yourself and then binge on fattening foods. And I hope you are not bingeing and purging (by vomiting or using laxatives), as that can damage your esophagus, your tooth enamel, and your heart.
If you have a problem of this nature, PLEASE speak to a professional about it, one who specializes in eating disorders, and not rely on the advice of well-meaning strangers (even mine)on a blog. This is serious stuff, and not to be treated lightly. I would go so far as to say it is pikuach nefesh. If you know someone in this matzav, pelase encourage that person to seek help.
As the g’mara says: it’s better to be pursued than the pursuer. “
Depends on who is doing the pursuing.
Anything in the feelings, emotions, Middos, outlook, Hashkafa etc., has me floored by Goq, Oomis, fly-by-night teenagers, streek.”
Didn’t mean to deck you…er… floor you.
I never had financial wealth, so I cannot say for certain whether or not it brings happiness. But I can state with certitude, that NOT having money to pay one’s bills for non-luxuries, definitely brings UNhappiness. That said, money cannot buy menschlechkeit, class, and good middos, and these are way more important than the the things it CAN buy,
Golfer, it was my pleasure. My Bubby O”H was a funny, wonderful lady. She lived with us for the last 30 years of her life, and really helped to raise us. Just to illustrate how special she was, my FATHER was delighted to have his mother-in-law living with us. She never imposed her will on my parents, but was always a helping and guiding hand in every way. And she was HILARIOUS, mostly unintentionally.
One day, we got up to get ready for school, and Bubby was in the kitchen downstairs making hot cereal for us, as she loved to do every day. All of a sudden we hear a gevald coming from the kitchen. We ran down, thinking the worst, maybe she had chalilah burned herself or fallen, and came to the sight of a saucepan overflowing with bubbles. She had cooked a potful of Matey Bath Soap Bubbles (Any old timers here remember them?), thinking it was farina. Whenever I am sad, I just need to remember that day. Our kitchen stovetop never looked so clean!
My parents were profoundly grateful to have her with us, and so were we. What she did for us, she did with much love, and we were truly blessed. Her physical care came to me the last year of her life at nearly 87, when she became ill and bedridden. And it was my zechus. I could never repay her for everything she was to us and did for us when I was growing up. And my mom O”H learned by her example, and imparted the same lessons to all of us.
Golfer, you would be making a good point in general, but I was using the same oven she did. But you are correct in that different ovens do actually bake differently, even at what appears to be the same temperature.
The chocolate chip recipe comes right off the pack of Nestle Tollhouse Chocolate Morsels.I use a pareve Jewish brand of chips, because Nestles is considered dairy. And you HAVE to use the optional nuts in the recipe. Makes all the difference.
As to the challah – there is NO way to give you her recipe, and as I no longer have the specific utensils she used, I can’t even measure out the ingredients the same way. I’ll give you an example. She used a floru sifter as her measure. So she would tell me to take “ah measure und a hef, and den ah FULL measure.” She used a specific large serving spoon to measure out her Kosher salt, and a sugar scoop of a specific size and shape for the sugar. No other scoop was right, and when I mislaid the scoop some years after she died, I enver found one that was the correct proportion. She used “ah bissele oil mit a gantze measure (a different kind) fun heiseh vasser, ober nisht tzu heis.” You see what I mean? Mostly she used two packages of dry yeast. And she put in 4-5 eggs, depending on how much more flour she would add in.
This dough was an all purpose one for savory OR sweet things. She could make the MOST delicious onion rolls from it, after making whatever challahs she needed, or roll it out with cinnamon and some more sugar and raisins and walnuts, and had the very best babka you ever tasted. Mamesh taam Gan Eden, we used to say. Erev Shabbos, you could smell the challah baking from a block away, and that was the aroma greeting me as I returned from school each Friday afternoon. All this talk is making me very nostalgic and a little sad, because no one will ever make challah that does it for me as hers did.
I have mixed feelings about this. I don’t think the victims should EVER have pictures posted, because of the additional tzaar it causes. BUT – when it is a car accident caused by drunk or otherwise deliberately impaired drivers, or reckless teens (or not so teens, who may have been on cellphones talking or texting), then it could be a real wake up call to see the aftermath of the totalled car, and a view of EMS or Hatzalah taking accident victims away, without showing their faces.
They are NOT the same. “
And that is because there is an element in cooking and baking that cannot account for the “feel” for it that the original cook has. My Bubby O”H made unbelievable challah. I made it with her sometimes, and knew exactly how she made it and did mine the same way. My challah came out delicious, but it was NEVER the same as hers.
I will have to cry uncle. 🙂 “
This was just TOO easy! 🙂 (I make incredible chocolate chip cookies, too, btw)
grieven are probably gribenes, or rendered chicken fat fried to a crisp.
Also, perhaps one should notice that the last thing mentioned in parshas shlach is the mitzvah of tzitzis and techeilis. “
That is because those two things are (among other things)a tikkun for the cheit hameraglim, who went “la-tur es haAretz.”
If you look at the lashon used about tzitzis and techeiles, “v’lo sasuru (or in Ivrit Sefardit, lo taturu) acharei eineichem,”
which was exactly what the meraglim did, and the same shoresh word, TUR is used in both places in the Parsha). They saw things with their eyes that they turned to negatives, rather than positives about E”Y. The Tzitzis and Techeiles are reminders at how easily our eyes and hearts can lead us astray.
“Corn is not suitable for human consumption anyway. It’s animal fodder.”
So are oats and barley. So I guess you avoid cheerios and cholent.
my MOTHER a”h was unequivocally the Best Bubby Ever, hands down (you can be the first runner up). 🙂
I will gladly take first runner up; it’s still pretty good. However, my kids and my aineklach may have to ask you to step outside… 🙂
DaMoshe, not that I think that girls should wear tefillin, but what if fish is really BETTER for your health than that steak, no matter how much you love steak? People who want to make changes (and I do not hold by any of them), are people who l’kaf zchus genuinely seem to believe that the fish is better for ALL of us than the steak. They are just a bit over-eager in their approach and fail to consider that the steak was delicious all on its own, and beneficial in other ways, which they fail to perceive.
Boy, now I am so hungry. Have a good Shabbos.
I think its more important whats in the kop rather than what is on top of it. “
You just stole my thunder (I wrote the same thing in the other thread).
NO one seems to know what the “exact issur” is, and I wonder if there really IS an halachic issur (and if so, show me the makor). Are men forbidden to wear shirts sewn by women (sewing is considered primarily women’s work, even though there are men tailors)? Can they eat food prepared by women (ditto), and a myriad of other things that women do for men?
In my humble opinion, it is such a waste of energy for people to be bent out of shape and judge others based on the TYPE of kippah that they wear. My only exception to that statement, is if the kippah truly IS too small (if there is in fact a shiur to begin with), and if there is something offensive crocheted on it. Though a head covering is obviously important, what is INSIDE that head is way more important than what is covering it. Just my two cents’ worth.
Thank you rebYidd. Would you like some hamantashen?
If he was a ben Torah mensch, was ehrlich frum, thoughtful, kind, considerate, intelligent,was making a parnassah, had a sense of humor, and would eat anything I made for Shabbos when they came to visit (even if it were something like p’tcha…ack…), and loved my daughter more than himself, absolutely.
Isn’t the ikker that a Jewish man is WEARING a yarmulke, which shows he is Yarei Malka? Except for leather and seude, ALL yarmulkes are knit types (because ALL cloth is woven together threads). I have never understood what the problem was for so many, in seeing a kipah serugah? And btw, my husband and son wear leather or suede ones. Could someone please explain to me in very basic terms upon what the “issur” on crocheted kippot is based? No one has ever answered this question for me with anything except,”It just IS that way…”
RebYidd, if that was the point, you succeeded admirably… 🙂
WHAT yarmulke?
I don’t blame the JEWISH education system, per se, the general ed system has dropped the ball terribly.
The cr used to be a place for logical, positive people to hang out. Now… I dunno. The fun has completely gone out of it. I know, im just a naive lil teen, trying to make the world right. But thats better than a lot of people on this thread. They’re trying to find wrongs where there aren’t any. And if there are, is typing about it going to do anything but cause a chillul Hashem?”
G-d willing when you are no longer a teen, and perhaps when you are even a seasoned adult, the CR will still be here, and you may revisit this thread with a completely different viewpoint. All teens think they can fix the world (halevai that were so). And thaty’s great, because someday, maybe you even WILL do something that will set things right, or at least a great deal better. But for now, unfortunately and unquestionably there ARE a lot of things wrong with our world and it is extremely naive to believe otherwise. And the first step to correcting so many of the wrongs, begins with a really good education, and the ability to express oneself properly and sound like a mature and intelligent person.
If a zebra is a type of herbivore with stripes, is a horse a carnivore with stripes? “
Forgive me, but that made zero sense to me…
In general, I think schools are doing a less than stellar job. Children need to develop rudimentary skills to see them through their adulthood. Basic reading, writing, and mathematics are crucial for whatever they will be doing in the future, even if it is “only” running a household and raising a family.
When I see certain types of spelling and/or grammatical errors (and I am not immune to making them myself), it makes me cringe. More than that, when I hear a teacher speak with poor grammar or lack of good enunciation, it REALLY makes me cringe. There was a time when a teacher of any subject not just language arts, could not be hired without passing elocution tests. Though I applaud teacher creativity and enthusiasm, there is certainly something to be said about articulate presentation of subject matter. At least, this grumpy old lady thinks so.
I also said I would never try Sushi, but I did and it’s not bad, and some of it is really good. Not a food fave of mine, but I can enjoy it once in a while.
(I know there’s a name for it, but I don’t know these stuff). “‘
Birah Shechorah (Maccabee Beer is sold here in the States)
As to my yichus, well… my mom and dad LOVED my mom’s cholent. It was not a childhood favorite of mine, because it looked to me like something I had already eaten and thrown up. Took many years for me to acquire the taste, but it eventually grew on me.
The Shulchan Aruch in YD 286:3 says that shuls only need a mezuzah if someone sleeps there. “
Considering some Shul Rabbi’s droshas, I would say many Shuls are in need of mezuzos. :p
I won’t eat p’tcha.EVER. (bli neder of course) I used to dislike falafel as a child, but then got hooked on it in E”Y in 1970. And believe it or not, there was a time in my life when you could not get me to even TOUCH a bowl of cholent, much less…ugh… eat it. Now I love it.
I will echo what happysnappy said. You had a really on the mark letter this past week (as I think you do most of the time, if people are bothering to understand what you are actually saying), and showed a lot of class with your apology barabim. Most people are unable to bring themselves to apologize PRIVATELY to someone, much less in a widely-read paper. (I still feel the other gentleman’s letter would probably have been better left unsent, to begin with).
The interesting thing about Moshe Rabbeinu’s name is that the princess was speaking HEBREW when she said “Ki mi hamayim mishisihu.” Go figure… I wonder what the name really sounded like in Egyptian.
Absolutely this is a non-Jewish superstition, based on a Jewish occurrence. Judas was the 13 person present at the so-called last supper which took place, so the non-Jews say on what is now referred to as Good Friday. As Judas sold his mentor out to the Romans for some pieces of silver, 13 has since then been considered unlucky by non-Jews. We on the other hand, believe 13 to be of great significance. A boy becomes a bar-mitzvah at age 13. There are 13 Articles of Faith, 13 Middos of Hashem (?). In the moment now, I cannot think of other examples, but I am certain there are. For a Yid, 13 is a good number.
BTW, I am not sure “holiday” is how I would describe their irrational concerns about the day.
@oomis – It is indeed! 😀 “
Ah… someone GOT the pun!!!! (You DID, didn’t you??????)
Batya, but that’s a stretch…
Sometimes rabbonim speak from personal prejudices or opinions that are NOT necessarily Torah mandates, and that’s where the problem emerges. I know I mentioned once that a bunch of mikvah attendants were speaking with a rov to get a consensus on how to deal with the issue of women who came in with nail polish that was difficult to fully remove. Instead of addressing the shailah that was being asked, his immediate response was, “What do frum women need to be wearing nail polish for?” That might be his personal view of cosmetics in general and nail polish in particular, but that is not a Torah mandate to refrain from polishing the nails. This is surely not an isolated example.
ALL THE TIME!!!! I drive my family nuts…(must have been a squirrel in a gilgul).
Seriously, it could be a STOMACH issue. Digestive problems often cause mouth odor. Also, he could have a dental problem, or maybe food is getting caught in crevices and he is not brushing and flossing well enough. And some people eat EVRYTHING with garlic. Go figure.
CR, CR give me your answer true
Aren’t we spending, way too much time on you?
It isn’t a big machlokess
Or even hocus pocus
Some post all day
Time’s just wasting away
Isn’t there something better to do?
“I couldn’t care less.”
Or worse, I could care less, which means the EXACT opposite of what it intends to convey.
IMO regarding buying things in advance – I don’t like the idea, but I think one should order furniture and pay for it or put money down, and then have delivery arranged for when the baby is born. Lo aleinu for anything, but sometimes a birth does not end in a happy result, chas v’sholom. We don’t do baby showers, either.
There is not a whole lot that babies need at brith besides diapers and wipes, stretchies, undershirts,burp cloths and something to sleep in. All these things can be obtained easily after the baby is born. Only a car seat is absolutely mandatory immediately, versus other types of baby things.
Daven with real kavanah for someone else who needs a shidduch. Hashem is supposed to answer you first.
But I would love to meet your mother.
Who raised a man like you”
Apropos of that, on a man’s birthday, maybe a wife should send his mother flowers.
bhe, I believe you might be mistaken. People can develop feelings in a short time, especially if there is great chemistry and the personalities seem to mesh so well. When a breakup occurs, even if it was a short dating period, if one of the people involved feels (rightly or wrongly) that “this is the one,” it is VERY painful when it does not work out.
My husband told me he wanted to marry me by the time we had gone on our second date. He had dated a lot and knew what he was looking for, and apparently I was it(took me a little longer). Had I told him after that date that I didn’t want to continue seeing him, he would have been very upset. I have been on that end of a breakup, too, so I know what it feels like to get the “We need to talk,” talk.
How do you get past it? You just do. You cry your heart out and grieve for the death of the relationship (don’t let anyone tell you not to), and then YOU MOVE ON. There will come a time when you are in the RIGHT relationship with the right person (sometimes it is could even turn out to be that same person who broke it off, as the timing was off). When that happens, you will not think of this episode in your life as anything other than a part of what made you the person you are. I am sorry for the pain you are feeling and wish you to meet your TRUE zivug b’korov.
Make sure that the 2 dozen roses you buy for her for yom tov, are really beautiful. Then, make sure to clear the table and wash the dishes. And oh yeah, THANK HER for being such an amazing eishes chayil wife, and mother. Ask her what you can do for her to make her yom tov more enjoyable. (Take the kids out for a long walk on Thursday afternoon, so she can sleep).
Wow, who would have thought we would have so much to talk about!
When someone is talking Shul, it prevents ME from concentrating on my tefilos. They can always walk outside the building, and lose their own zechus of tefilah sadly, but they have no right to cause me to lose mine. When I am speaking to Hashem, I don’t need to hear about football scores or someone’s loshon hara.
I did not discern any hate in Wolf’s comments. I am as frustrated as he, in this matter. If nothing more, it is a lack of kovod beis haknesses, and even a lack of self-respect. A person who believes himself to be a holy being created b’Tzelem Elokim, would not act with such a lack of derech eretz while in Shul (or anywhere, for that matter)
I think Hashem challenges us so that we never become complacent or take anything for granted.
My dad O”H was shorter than my mom O”H. Never bothered my mom a bit, as my dad was “tall” in Torah and intellectually, in middos, artistically, and in his professional expertise.
AS to your statemtn about not wanting to have short children – you reminded me of the most frustrating phone call I ever received from someone calling me as a “reference” for a shidduch. Her sonw as redt to the daughter of my former landlords, the nicest people, with a beautiful, smart, and special daughter (Well really ALL their kids are wonderful). After asking me a gazillion impertinent questions, wanting to know “where the feet grow,” and me patiently answering them as best I could, while emphasizing what a lovely girl she was and lovely family she had, and after spenind a half hour on the phone, the mothersays, Well I heard the girl is very short, and I don’t want short grandchildren!”
I will tell you what I told her. How short or tall a child will be is up to the Aibishter. I am the only short member of my family, with two brothers both 6 footers (and who in turn have VERY tall children, and one petite child), and a sister who is about 4″ taller than I am. My husband and I are BOTH short, and we have a 6 ‘ tall son, and another son who is around 5’10. Our daughters are a little shorter, but still taller than I am.
Two short parents can produce tall children. Two tall parents can produce short children. It is a roll of the gene dice, and Hashem’s Ratzon, and what will be, will be.
Ideally, you should learn to be happy with yourself as you are. But that is not always realistic and/or possible for some people. If your height really bothers you a great deal to the point where it really affects your self-image badly, I would suggest getting shoes with a little height built-in to the heel and sole (not too much, you don’t want to be deceptive), just in order to enhance what you have. Even an inch difference can make you feel a little better in that type of circumstance.
About 5″ shorter than I would like to be.