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I actually posed this very question to my rov, because there is an inyan that Esther was actually married to Mordechai, in which case, was she guilty of arayos. My rov said she was an anusah ,(which we learn from “vatilakach,” she was TAKEN, against her will).
Golfer, thank you. Twice.
AAAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!
Does anyone else find it ironic that the same man who broke legislative protocol to push his agenda vis a vis illegal immigration and so-called health care reform, is furious with Netanyahu for not following protocol by failing to give him lots of advance notice about being invited to address Congress? To fail to have ANYONE from the White House present, was so disrespectful, which pretty much sums up the contempt the WH has shown Bibi all along.
Ironic, also, that the man who stood up to the Iran of yesteryear,was an ish Yemini. The Binyamin today, was articulate and compelling.
Hashem didn’t exempt most men from serving and fighting in the Midbar, and later on in EY. There were specific exceptions. Not a one included those who are learning. Those were milchamos mitzvah. Does anyone believe it is not a mitzvah to defend Am Yisroel and EY today, as well?
Well, BH I am oomis again, and this is especially happy news for me,because an hour ago or so, I couldn’t log in in the normal way AT ALL! Akuperman, I am sure you are a really nice person, but I gotta be ME! Whoever fixed the problem, thank you.
Is it also a purim prank that I cannot log in at all today as oomis? It was only by accident that I was able to access the site to send you this post. I enjoy a good joke, but this is not fun anymore. If it’s a web issue, can you please fix it?
So Person posting whose name comes up as oomis (that is I), are you really akuperman or yet a third entity?
Posted by the real oomis, currently aka akuperman
It’s the folks who didn’t act on their taivahs, who ended up in the tayvah.
It would be funnier if it happened on Purim. Today – not so much!
From oomis
Not to disrespect akuperman, but this is OOMIS, and I keep coming up as akuperman. If this is some sort of Purim joke, I don’t care, but if it is a malfunction of the website, it really needs to be fixed ASAP.
What on earth is going on with the log in? I am STIll akuperman??????? Is this some pre-purim joke?
Mods, it is still happening. What is going on?
This is from oomis :I just logged in, but it said welcome “akuperman” and I am not akuperman. Something is messed up.
This really is naarishkeit, but nonetheless two of my kids looked at the picture at the same time. One saw white and gold, the other saw blue and black. Same instant.
Gold and white, absolutely! This whole thing makes no sense! I think someone thought this up just in time for Purim!
It is not extorting money for the person to “suggest” giving something to tzedaka. It kind of IS, though, when the giving of the chessed item becomes contingent on a specific dollar amount being donated. To some people $75 is a lotta gelt.
I have given away many items over the years, including clothing, a breakfront, chairs, tables, bicycles, cribs, and other baby items. I would be thrilled to know that someone gave money to tzedaka in that zechus, but I would never have mentioned a word about doing so, to the person. It puts them in a very awkward position.
A small bottle of wine or sparkling grape juice, a bag of nuts, and a fruit, which I put into a cardboard Chumash-shaped bencher box one year. If you know they will eat your baked goods, then throw in some home-made hamantashen.
There are those who mattir girls saying Kaddish in a tzniusdig manner, quietly. Or one who already has had to say kaddish on his own parents’ yartzeits can voluntarily say kaddish for others, as well.
Ftr, two beautiful looking parents may produce a plain child, and two
homely people can produce a very visually stunning child. It’s all in how Hashem combines the genes.
OK, I hear your points. I don’t happen to agree totally, but I understand your view. I am not entertained by the man, but I do think he makes some strong points. Perhaps you listen to him more than I (though given your opinion about him, I wonder why you would listen at all), so you know more about him than I do.
Yichus is nice, but being nice is a bigger yichus. Some very yichusdig names have produced children who were not particularly noteworthy. And some very poshut people, no money, no great learning, no nuthin’ special, produced a Rabbi Akiva. Yichus has to come from within, or it is false. I think your brother probably dodged a bullet. May he find his special zivug b’korov.
This is why IRL I never get involved in political discussions. There will always be someone whose ox is being gored. I respect your right to like or not like Michael Savage. Personally, I find his style very abrasive. He cuts people off, and he often speaks about religious things about which he knows nothing. Nevertheless, he also says many things with which I find some merit. Can we move on now? Please?
I tried them once in my neighborhood. The food was not that amazing and was vastly overpriced. Kosher food is by its nature, more pricey than treif food. And, there are plenty of eateries that are really good, which offer similar food at better prices.
OK, that surely is your right. Others of us do listen to that.
Ubiquitin, if he said what you quoted (and I have no reason not to trust what you said), then he shows an abysmal ignorance of what autism is. OK. However, the point he clearly was trying to make, and did rather badly, is that often we run to put a diagnosis of i.e, autism spectrum, ADHD, ADD, etc. on kids who really may have been poorly brought up AND ARE BRATS. Have you never seen a child throw a fit because he didn’t get his way? To an outside observer, not knowing the details, it could appear as hyperactivity.
Of course there exists a condition of autism, there is a condition of hyperactivity, there is a condition of Attention Deficit Disorder and Oppositional Defiance Disorder. However there most certainly also is a segment of the population suffering from BRAT disorder, Babies Raised Abominably Today. And I think that is probably what he meant, but said so poorly. Autism and other disorders are nothing to speak of pejoratively, and if he did that, shame on him. Even intelligent people say really appalling and unacceptably stupid things from time to time.
How about discussing this with the one person whose answer is most SHAYACH – THE GIRL!
RebYidd – listen to Variations. (BTW, how DID you know it was a parody of Goyishe music? Hmmn…?)
Goofus, if you are calling ME ignorant, which is implied by your telling me I am free to subscribe to his (in your opinion) ignorant views and hold them as intellectual, then you are mistaken. He is no dummy, and neither am I. He can be incredibly abrasive, antireligious, and obnoxious, but he IS intelligent, so do not underestimate him out of some personal animus. Obama is ALSO intelligent, which is how he managed to get elected to a second term despite his questionable religious background, place of birth, and ability to show leadership and honorable behavior.
I don’t want to get into a political debate, and won’t engage, but you are entitled to your opinion.
I have no great love for Dr. Savage/Weiner, but neither do I think he is stupid. As to his views on autism, haven’t heard them, but assume he does not believe their is any correlation between autism and measles vaccine. And so?
No, goofus. I am saying he is an intellectual, who knows nothing of Torah. I can respect his views, but reject his ignorance of Judaism. I might not even agree with all that he says, though I have politically conservative views for the most part. But when it comes to Torah, he is better off sticking with politics. At least there he knows most of what her is talking about!
Wish I could invite you all!
Let it go, let it go,
Don’t need the cold anymore,
All this snow’s got to go
And this winter I abhor!
In my house
Is where I’ll stay,
No errands to runnnnnnnnn!
(I get delivery, anyway).
My husband tells me he wanted to marry me from the very first date. If he would have expressed that to me then, we probably would not now be married for nearly 38 years kinehora. I would have felt very creeped out, even though I was attracted to him. Except for chassidim who often DO get engaged in this way, it is not the best idea, IMO. If it is meant to be, it will keep for a few more dates, anyway.
For all the innocent CR readers, ALL Herpes Viruses are now able to be transferred from any part of the body, for reasons which are not appropriate for discussion. We cannot be careless about this. At least one baby has died following his bris. Perhaps there are more, but one is one too many. There was no question, from what I read about this tragedy, that the mohel had active lesions at his mouth. Would any responsible parent want to take the chance of having ANY mohel with a history of cold sores, do MBP on a newborn? Get another mohel.
I will not argue the Halacha here. There are heterim for using the pipette, and many mohelim now do so. But if someone adamantly wants to follow the tradition of the MBP, then EVERY precaution must be taken, and a back up plan must be in place if there is anything questionable about the mohel’s oral health.
Nishtday….. ROB typically spells many words that are pronounced with a “y” sound, with the letter j. For him, this is not a misspelling.
The trouble with making deals is that if you don’t get your desired result, you may feel Hashem isn’t listening and has let you down. So many people make bargains with Hashem and then go OTD because they did not get what they want. It happened before, during the Holocaust.
Better to subjugate your will to Hashem’s, and daven that Hashem finds zechus in you that makes you worthy. That still will not guarantee the result you want, because Hashem only does eshast isd good for us, something which we do not necessarily know ourselves.
I have mentioned the inappropriate things one might see in a lounge, and was told by (I think) Pops, that I know little about hotel lounges today. I still believe there is pritzus to be found in such places. I hadn’t eee even thought about the theft aspect, by taking up seating meant for paying customers of the hotel.
Personally, I mentioned pizza, because it is inexpensive and still provides a place where one can have a conversation, while not feeling the guy wouldn’t even spring for something of a light meal.
Lior, it is only awkward to sit in a pizza shop with ONE’S DATE if you bring your daughter up to think that way. I can assure you no one I know felt that way. Only caveat was that some preferred to go out of their neighborhood, so people they know, wouldn’t gawk at them. People feel the way you teach them to feel. I don’t think it’s productive to teach a girl that eating a slice of pizza with her date is less txniusdig than sitting in a hotel.
Lounges IMO are not appropriate places to go for a date. I said it before, and nothing has changed my opinion.if a boy has limited funds, spring for some pizza and go to the park, weather permitting, or just go out for some dessert somewhere. I don’t care how classy the lounges might be, they are still hotel lounges. Awkward for a tzniusdig girl to sit in such a place and try not to shows how uncomfortable she is. I know there are people who disagree. That’s OK. I disagree with THEM!
Some of his views are based on ignorance. In other areas, he demonstrates wisdom and gets his point across well. When it comes to Obama and there Middle East, or illegal immigration, he speaks very assuredly. He knows nothing about bris milah OR the IDF, so I can accept what he has to say on some subjects, but reject his opinions about others.
Purim is coming…
DY. 2 was a typo that I did not catch.
Last year, my son and his soon-to-be kallah went out as Dorothy and the Tin Man from the Wizard of Oz. Very cute.
DY I do not advocate for watching junk, reading, junk, listening, to junk, speaking loshon hora, eating tarfus, being mechallel Shabbos, or anything else. But Hashem gave us Free Will for a reason. Whether good or bad, it is the choice of the individual. My point, my ONLY point, is that choosing to “escape” in some way, is not in and of itself a bad thing. Your way of escaping, should you want to, might not be the same ad another’s.
I am mot speaking out for or against movies. That is for the individual person to decide for him/herself. There is a lot of anti-Torah values junk being marketed as movies today, but there is also educational, artistic value to be found if one wants to look for it.
What I do object to, however, is the notion that “escaping” from the world for an hour or two is a bad thing, something Hashem does not want us to do. No one can speak for Hashem. He gave us a gorgeous world to LIVE in and to enjoy, and after 120 years, HE will ask us if we did enjoy it. Perhaps going on a trip to Hawaii or Disney World, or even spending the afternoon at Great Adventures for that matter, should never be done. Surely when parents take their children on trips, that is an escape. Does Hashem want us to live an ascetic life with no enjoyment? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Torah life – yes. Live like a hermit – no.
If someone wants to make the argument that time could be better spent more productively, my answer to that is that the body needs enjoyment also, in a material, restful, close out everything around us way, for a little while.(We can’t nap ALL the time).
Some people like to read, some like to listen to music, watch tv, go fishing. Some like to open a Sefer (not really a relaxing option for most women, some of whom might be more inclined to open a Tehillim, but that’s not really the point I am trying to make). Each person has a different need and venue in which to de-stress from “the world around them.” We all, on occasion, need to “escape.” The method of one person might not be the method that another person thinks worthwhile, but it does not mean there is something wrong with feeling the need to find some healthy and proper outlet to achieve that goal for a short while.
Lovelyme, this is probably not the best place to get advice about this, unless you are prepared to accept that most people here do not believe in friendships between boys and girls. Not knowing your daughter, and not knowing the boy, it’s not so glatt to say it’s a good idea or a bad idea. Also, how young a teen is she? 2
If you are yeshivish, then clearly this is not something that is considered acceptable by people in your chevra. If you are a bit more modern frum, it may be routine for boys and girls to meet and mingle in organizations, group activities, etc.
In my teen years, the latter was very commonly done and no one would have thought negatively about it. But we live in different times now, and what was once very acceptable, no longer is. A lot of that is because our society is so pervaded by shmutz that additional steps are needed to keep our kids grounded.
I do think you should talk first with your daughter about your concerns, see where she is in all this, and speak to your rov for guidance.
GG I don’t know what I was thinking!!!!!
it’s ironic. I originally began posting a whole thing about 7 Noahide Laws, and being a really good non-Jew who follows those laws and the lack of necessity for converting in order to achieve spiritual good. But I deleted what I typed before I hit “send post,” as I was afraid of how my words might be interpreted. I’m glad someone else thought of it.
Mazel tov!
I have tried speaking to G-d lately, which is completely new thing for me. I don’t speak Hebrew or even know how to pray properly”
Though it helps, you do not need to know Hebrew, in order to be able to pray properly. Anyone can verbally and in one’s heart acknowledge the Greatness of our Creator Who is the Source of everything we have in this world. Anyone can then pour out his heart to Hashem, to plead for the things he or she needs. And anyone can then THANK Hashem for everything He always does for us on a daily basis 24/7, and for that which we hope He will do. That is the essence of prayer/tefila. If you examine the Shemona Esrai prayer that we say three times a day each day, and once extra on Shabbos, that is exactly how the tefila is structured, praise to Hashem, our pleas to Him, followed by our sincere expressions of gratitude for all He does. For now, even as a non-Jew, that is the easiest way to pray. Hashem understands EVERY language, so don’t be put off by not yet speaking any Hebrew.