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Beit Raban fits this description, as does Dibrot Moshe, in Har Nof.
Many boys from these schools go to Chedvat HaTorah, in the old Ehyat building behind Shaarei Revacha, for kitot zayin, chet, and mechina/yeshiva ketana.Just sharing my actual experiences. We asked our rav on both of these occasions.
1) I sat down on the couch on Friday about 40 minutes before candle lighting and woke up only after shkiah. I had not intended to sleep and at the time I had a 2 month old baby with very bad colic and was lacking sleep. Our rav said that it was not in my control and that I did not need to add a light.
2) I had a very busy erev Shabbos and just one more thing to do before lighting. I did the one more thing and, being very pleased with myself at how organized I was (the house was done, the food and table all set, the kids were all showered AND dressed!), went to get dressed. I finished getting ready and came out of my bedroom and saw the candles weren’t lit and that it was after shkiah. I had literally just forgotten. I was horrified with myself as I have been lighting in my home for 12 years, but there was nothing to do. Our rav said that it had not been prominent enough in my mind and I was negligent for having failed to light and we added one candle. I wish I could say that I never run to candle lighting anymore, but I definitely always light!
Hope these examples help.
You can do something like juggling or diabolo or poi. They’re all really easy to learn, you can practice and make up routines together, you can listen to some fun music while you do it, and then you have something to do for wedding shtik after your bonding time.
Something we also do is make scavenger hunts for each other, based on things we can find in the house. give it a theme, or base it on the time of the year, but be as creative as possible and try to surprise each other.
Look through old photos. We love looking at pictures of us, and the kids, and our life from before we were married. Each picture can bring on a new line of discussion and you will learn a lot about each other.
B”H when you’re in full time learning, you need to use some of your bein hasedrim doing some light-hearted and not learning related. It’s healthy and it will allow you maintain learning for a much longer time than people who just plow through bein hazmanim and bein hasederim because they’re too frum to relax.