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All Israeli fighting soldiers are heroes.
1. Yes
2. No
3. No.When kedushah comes, stop. After, continue.
4. Answer amens and keep going.
5. Sit
This phenomenon is well known, although I am glad that many of you have not seen it. It is due to a lack of social intelligence, mostly caused by a lack of interaction with the “other”. If one spends his time (like in yeshiva) only with his own, then one is incapable of understanding how “others” may feel.
How to change it? With great difficulty.
I disagree. A frum person should go to college.
On a different level, it would be interesting to enter a typical frum shul in a typical frum neighborhood. For example, the Agudah in Far Rockaway. Take a survey of how many members went to college, and let’s ask two questions:
1. What percentage of these people regard themselves as frum?
2. What percentage of non-college members regard the college educated as frum?
I have an idea what the results would be. Since I did not carry out a scientific survey (one would benefit from a college education in planning this survey) on this issue, I do not know for sure, I only surmise what the results would be.
Of course, one premise would be that the above shul and neighborhood fit the commonly used criteria for inclusion in the “frum” world.
This “news item” should be totally ignored and taken out of the news section immediately. It is purely sensationalist and totally unproductive.
“If nobody is looking at a mirror, is it reflecting anything? Or is it blank until someone looks at it? “
It is never blank. It always reflects what is in front of it. Whether a human sees the image or not is irrelevant.
This is a scientific fact and does not relate at all to the (pseudo)philosophical discussion above.
I have often tried to determine what exactly happened to the child in this haftarah. I have not been successful.
As in all such suspect parochial minhagim, it is dealer’s choice. There are no rules. If it were me, I would ask a close friend how she did it, and then do more or less the same. No one will be wiser, and everyone will (or should be) happy. Keep it stress free.
Very interesting discussion with many valid points raised.
I want to remind everyone that there is an elephant in your ArtScroll living room.
Every person who worked on the ArtScroll shas had a Steinsaltz gemara right next to him.
I am aware that halachah seems to take twists and turns, but I vaguely remember the first Mishnah in the fourth perek of Brachos which is pretty straight-forward. I also see that I’m not the only one who is wondering where these legitimate sources are that allow for complete disregard of zmanei tefilah. For that matter, considering the power of the above mentioned Mishnah, any source later than the Maharam M’Rutenberg will not satisfy me.
Sorry that some of you have not learned spoken English. Please ask someone older than you what the expression “necessary evil” means. Thank you.
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“They both agree once you are out of halacha, you’re done, and not given any authority or the opportunity to have your opinion entertained.”
This is an interesting statement. From a theoretical point of view it may be correct. From an historical point of view, and looking ahead a few generations, it is not, or may not be.
The hasidim for the most part ignored zmanei tefilah, many to the point of halachic absurdity. The Baal Shem Tov didn’t go into the sukkah on Shemini Atzeres for a reason with absolutely zero halachic validity. People get married at the end of the month although the Shulchan Aruch expressly says not to. None of these people were or are “out of halachah, without authority or the opportunity (right, not opportunity) to have their opinion entertained.”
It is too early to tell what will become of the progressive orthodox movement. It is not a given “lehotzi otam me’haklal”. They follow halachah or at least claim that what they do has halachic validity and they bring sources and logic. Time will tell where they are going with this. I think they are not going anywhere near where the yeshivish think they are. I may be wrong, but I may be right.
If anyone needs any more proof, please turn to what the misnagdim said about the hasidim in the late 1700s. I’ll tell you. They said ??”?, ??”?, ??”?. Chas v’shalom to talk this way anymore, but that was the feeling then. So it is very reasonable to wait and see. Argue, discuss, persuade. But don’t judge yet. It’s way too early.
Please get help from a professional.This is not the place for your issues. If you are in Israel, call “Tishkofet”, they have a website.
An extremely necessary evil.
Look up this book:
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The sefer is by Rav Yoel Katz, a posek in Romania, published in 1936. You can find it on the Hebrew Books site.
OK, then please disregard what I wrote. No harm done.
“Would I (we) have done this, let alone for another Yid which there is a mitzvah of chesed to??? “
I suggest that here lies part of the problem. Instead of intuitively realizing that we should be kind and considerate to all people, we start our lumdishe chakiros as to whom is it really a chiyuv to treat nicely?
There is no need to be embarrassed . Treat everyone with respect and consideration, Jewish or not.
I don’t feel this way. A tzaddik and godol b’torah passed away. We mourn, pick up the pieces and move on. Lo alman yisrael. Zo darko shel olam and no one is immune.
The cries of “I can’t stand it anymore, Moshiach HAS to come” are childish. If those who are saying it are children, then let it be known that this reaction is child-age appropriate.
Ezrat Hashem is right. Get individual therapy ASAP. Don’t get it here.
Please read some history books, and I don’t mean ArtScroll. Go through the last thousand years and see what really happened in different time periods. The conclusion will become obvious and it is simple:
The Jewish people never had it better than they do today. The shidduch situation is better today than ever before. Period.
“for fear that one day circumstances would change and the psak would no longer be valid.”
More for fear for their lives.
What does that even mean?
It means that in the past,certain gedolei haposkim printed certain teshuvos. They were warned to rescind the psakim by subtle means like threatening phone calls in the middle of the night, setting their apartments on fire , and the like. Not pleasant, but true.
There is nothing that occupies the yeshiva bochur more than what to learn and how to learn it. At a certain point, some of them realize that they spend so much time on the how and what that they don’t get around to the learning itself. When you get older, you’ll hopefully learn what you like and get on with it, without worrying about anything else.
Very sad not to invite seminary girls.
For the kollel man who doesn’t know “what to do with them”, here is some advice:
1. You don’t have to do anything with them.
2. When they arrive, say hello. Ask them if they would like something to eat or drink. Give them something to eat or drink.
3. At the shabbos table ask them how they like their seminary and what they are learning.
4. Whatever they answer, say “that’s wonderful, I hope you gain alot this year”.
5. Sing zmiros
6. Say a dvar torah
7. bentch and clean up the table.
8. Let your wife shmooze with them while you clean up.
9. Go learn.
10. Repeat tomorrow.
N.B. If they want to clean up instead of you, go straight to your learning.
Now, was thast so difficult?
Anectodal, meaning they are specifically chosen and do not represent any sort of random statistical sample that would provide meaningful probabilities.
oops, sorry.
“We lose one hour”
No, you gain an hour.
It would be interesting to investigate the following:
Assume all money spent on lottery tickets in the last ten years would have instead been put into an interest bearing account and then distributed to tzedakah/yeshivas/kollel yungerleit.
Would there be more “winning ticket” money for tzedakah from the lottery or would the money accrued have been more?
You all should know the answer.
The above stories are anecdotal and possibly apocryphal. They are certainly not productive.
The practice of learning “yeshivish mesechtos” is only about a hundred years old. The purpose was to hone the analytical skills of the yeshiva bochur, with the assumption that with these skills he can learn any mesechta or subject with success. The yeshivish mesechtos are chock full of difficult theoretical concepts and serve as fertile ground for sharpening the mind.
Whether one agrees with this system or not, the yeshiva boy does not get a ptur from learning other mesechtos or halachah. He is expected to use his “free” time or shorter sedorim to learn everything there is to learn.
I get it.
But I’ll play dumb.
Let’s assume that the sugya was learned through and through and the person has come to the conclusion that Rav Emden’s psak should be followed. The next theoretical issue to be resolved is “Does this psak pass the smell test? Is it reasonable in any way?”
It should be obvious to all that times change and our halachic behavior changes with it. This is why for many situations we ask shailos and don’t rely on a written opinion in a given sefer. As we know, many torah greats did not put their opinions down in writing for fear that one day circumstances would change and the psak wuld no longer be valid.
Tachlis, one must have “einav b’rosho”. Rav Yaakov Emden is worthy of following , no doubt about it. But always? Think twice.
So does one stand on solid halachic ground? Yes. But that’s not enough.
My opinion is that because the fear of shchikas samemonim nowadays is virtually nonexistent, it is permissible to be meikel in most situations. On the other hand, for those who require the situation of nafal lemishkav, this does not mean that one has to lie down, but rather that one cannot get up. In the olden days, nafal lemishkav meant that one was bedridden, and not simply felt the need to lie down for a while.
I still say yes.
I don’t approve of the word “blindly” (two posts) being used here. It is a manipulative word used with the intention of disparaging before the discussion even begins.
Besides, the OP didn’t ask if it’s legitimate to follow all psakim of the Ya’avetz, just “A” psak. And even if he did mean all, I can say, “I am a descendant of The Shach, of the Ya’avetz, of the Gaon, of the Chasam Sofer, of Rav Shlomo Kluger, just pick one,and it is our family tradition to do this, this, this and this. And that is perfectly ok.
Look at the Teimanim (Rambam). Look at the Prushim from Sha’arei Chessed (the Gaon). Look at the Satmar (The rebbe died when? 32 years ago). Look at the Bambergers and Breuers. The examples are many more than I can list. There is no such a thing as a consensus that is binding. Not in halachah, nor in hashkafah.
Rav Ya’akov Emden was one of many giants who are worthy of being followed. It’s ok.
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We have everything gashmi here. We have the best coffee around. We have steaks and kugels, Sugar Smacks and Frosted Flakes. We have Slurpees and frozen yogurt. We have bagels and lox and sushi. We have every cheese imagineable , all cholov yisroel (we do not need to put plastic between each slice because we have siyata dishmaya). We have enormous fresh salads with craizins and roasted pecans. We have black and whites and Eyer kichel. We have deoderant and shampoo and conditioner and mousse for dry hair, wet hair, curly hair and no hair. We have Herbal Essence and Pantene and Loreal and Estee Lauder, whoever that is. We also have a big stone wall that Jews like to go to and stick little pieces of paper into, seems a bit odd, doesn’t it?
Just come. Bring clothes and shoes. We have the rest. Even clothes and shoes. This is your real home.
Brucha Haba’ah and B’hatzlachah.
Yes
For a comprehensive treatment of the Succah-Shemini Atzeres issue, please read the chapter on this topic in “???? ?????? ????”
by Professor Eric Zimmer of Bar-Ilan University. In it you will see that the confusion that exists today has existed since the times of the Geonim and maybe even since the times of the Amoraim. One of the Rishonim used to eat in the house on Leil Shemini Atzeres, only to return to the succah the following day!
If indeed there is a widely acknowledged disconnect between shadchanim and singles, then the system is truly broken.
If all involved are truly convinced that the shadchan-powered system is the only way, then nothing will improve. The shadchanim are the sole address for the marriage process, and they alone will determine the rules of the game. Translation: Pay up or stay single.
I do not believe that this sytem is the only legitimate one.
Please check with your Rav. It is not necessarily simple, and there are different opinions. The only thing you can be sure of is that if you put something on the blech well before shabbos and don’t touch it till you are ready to eat it, you are ok. Whether you can move the food around on the blech,uncover-recover food, put other food on the blech during shabbos,remove food and return it to the blech, all these are not simple questions and you are best off asking your Rav.
“….self-hating “Orthodox” Jews….ostensibly MO….They are the second son, not the Lubavitcher Rebbe ZYA’s fifth son, “
Ah, but they are far better than the Ba’al Hatanya’s third son, wouldn’t you say? Those who live in glass houses need be a bit more careful….
1. The OP’s idea is a good one.
2. It is not going to happen.
While “Agreer” prefaced her remarks with apologetics, she had no reason to. Whether or not she was in a bitter marriage, her words ring true. The panic to marry at any cost is bad policy.
It’s fine to spend the money. After all, mitzvas cost money. Zeh Keli V’anveihu.
No one can dictate to you what is best for your daughter. As a parent you have the right, nay, obligation to do what’s best for your daughter. But yours only.
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Oh boy. Everyone please calm down. The OP is obviously written tongue in cheek.
Yes, it is illogical to assume that Behab as we know it existed in the times of the Beis Hamikdosh. My suggestion is based on two assumptions:
One is that the underpinnings of the concept of Behab originated in zman hamikdosh, when olei haregel came to Yerushalayim in large (?) numbers and it was likely that afterwards there was a need for teshuvah for reasons that are known. The second assumption is that in the times of the mikdosh there actually was some sort of tshuvah act or ceremony after Succos and Pesach parallel (but obviously not identical) to the later development of Behab.
If this is true, then this post-chag tshuvah would definitely have been postponed until the olei regel arrived home two weeks or so later. And so it remains today.
In response to three questions that I was asked:
1. no difference
2. yes
3. self-explanatory
There are two reasons that Behab is delayed for two weeks. One is that it should not be observed during the happy months of Tishrei and Nisan. Two is to give the olei regel time to get home. Similarly, we wait till 7 Marheshvan to start saying tal u’matar, so that olei regel can get home without getting drenched by gishmei brachah.
I am opposed to becoming drunk at any place and at any time. However, many chassiduyot approved of drinking and becoming drunk on certain occasions. Furthermore, when a man is drinking, he cannot determine with any accuracy whether he will puke/vomit/throw up. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t. That’s not really the issue here.
The Me’iri held that Christianity is not avodah zara.
It is not permitted unless you have the explicit permission from the Rav, and probably not even then. Do not ever think that your Rabbeim do not have feelings just like their talmidim. One must also consider how their spouses and children may feel. Stay away from it, there are plenty of other funny things to do.
It is definitely bal tosif. The reasoning that “people eat outside on a nice day” is relevant if that is actually what people do. How many people in Boro park, Lakewood or Monsey eat outside on a nice day in late October in a tent? Virtually no one.