Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
chayav, on the Tznius issue, in many of the photographers’ store windows in Boro Park and other v e r y frum neighborhoods, Kallah pictures are displayed regularly and have been displayed for as long as I can remember. It’s not a new idea. Those who dont look at women in various states of undress, shouldnt be going to the beach/boardwalk area. Why do those who feel that looking at pictures of couples isnt proper, want to go to Onlysimchas in the first place? Let them stick to the Heimishe papers for Simcha news or start their own site with no pictures.
Ok, why not, Ofra Cursawitch
I wouldnt do it, but I think NONE! I havent revealed anything Im embarassed about.
After a while, I think people become numb to the pain of rejection and it turns to frustration with becoming older while your friends find their Zivugim. Youre probably a relatively young dater. If you’d hear the Shadchan’s end of some of the reasons people reject, rejection would become meaningless (too smart, too deep, too pretty, too nice..).
smartcookie, I’m coming, if we can up the prce a bit and if I dont have to divulge my identity….
I’ve been told that I can make a $100 (womens) outfit look like a $600 one, and inexpensive home decor, look expensive (its my fun challenge). Now, how can I transalate that to income, in this economy?
yiddishemishpacha, isnt it up to our Gedolim to pasken whether women should or should not continue wearing Sheitels? I havent heard one American Rov being negative and stipulating limits in regard to Sheitels. Are they unaware of what you are aware of? Are their wives not discussing it with them? Are they never walking on the street?
How can you prove to a non-believer that Krias Yam Suf really happened any more convincingly than proving J_ _ _ _ was a child of _ _ _? Answering that anything that has been handed down from generation to generation all these years has to be true, could be an answer to the question of “How do we know that J_ _ _ _ was a child of _ _ _?”.
I have the same problem.
How many people are spending $5,000 on a sheitel these days? The big name Sheitelmachers who used to do loads of business, are all producing cheaper sheitels to satisfy needs of people hit by the bad economy. The $5,000 sheitel wearers are probably the same small minority who spend upwards of 3 Mil on their homes, $150,000+ on their kitchens, etc. A tiny percentage.
BP! Uh oh, but now you’ll know who I am (in a 2000 Census study, it was reported that an estimated 76,600 Jews lived in Borough Park 😉
Hee hee, many here know SOMEONE ELSE who messed up with their kids. Funnyyyyy!!!
Wow, it feels great to be in the company of people who did everything right and nothing wrong, with many around us, messing up! Us perfect parents gotta stick together!
aries-“If you want to stop it just tell the yentas “Stop right there I don’t listen to Loshan Horah”.
Thats a Madreiga only a tiny percentage of the population is on (depending on the crowd you circulate in). A juicy piece of Lashon hara is juicier than a juicy piece of steak or moist slice of chocolate cake. No matter how we all know those people are respected, people find it hard to abstain from talking/listening.
wanderingchana, how right you are!
eclipse, “The reason HE DISCUSSES IT FREELY WITH PEOPLE IS BECAUSE HE WAS NEVER PUT DOWN FOR IT”.
He wasnt put down for it, to his face, that is! Can you guarantee that he wasnt put down for it behind his back?
IDK, I had Verizon a few years back and reception was terrible in BP. I asked around and was told Sprint reception is better in BP. I switched to Sprint and I havent had a problem with Sprint. Maybe Verizon’s BP reception improved since. I also like that I have free calls after 7 pm, not sure if Sprint still offers it now.
My Sprint plan is up and I need a family plan for 4-5 phones, I use minimal texting. Whats good in family plans?
Smile_its_EZ, I hear Monsey taxes are outrageous.
So I assume the below specs dont exist?
1- Easy to get to Brooklyn or NYC with public transportation (in an hr or less),
2- Where you can walk to a grocery, and
3- Get a nice size house for something over 500,000
If not, which communities come closest to the above specifications?
yunger mann, you and your wife are clearly in the category of needing Torah/full time learning, above everything else, like you need air to breathe. That is to be highly commended. There are many in Lakewoood like that and they are an example for all. You dont suffer from “nebbyphobia” (fear of being perceived as nebby), like many of the other Lakewood people I know personally, which has a big effect on their needs/desires/happiness/satisfaction in life!
Can I hijack the thread a bit?
Which FRUM communities are:
1- Easy to get to Brooklyn or NYC with public transportation (in 1 hr or less),
2- Where you can walk to a grocery, and
3- Get a nice size house for something over 500,000.
Do any exist? If not, which communities come closest to the above specifications?
Anyone know anything about ATERES GOLDA (Bobov)? How does it compare to the other halls?
Divorced_Guy, Halevei! You will surely get Schar for your efforts and accomplishments.
Does anyone really think that the Klal doesnt realize that being involved in Shidduchim is a Mitzvah- they say it in davening every day- “Hachnosas Kallah” doesnt only mean Tzedaka. Tell me if Im wrong!
Ive been doing it for 30+ years, and none of my friends or acquaintances would do it even for money, Kal V Chomer for no money!!! Theyre NOT interested!
Daas Yochid, both husband and wife have to want the Kollel lifestyle, like they want air to breathe, and be totally focused on Ruchnius, except for necessities, otherwise it spells misery for all involved.
Putting on my protective gear- here I go:
These days living in Lakewood , the biggest Kollel community in the US, often means keeping up with the Joneses. Lakewood is no longer a community restricted to Kollel familes, with Kollel style homes, cars and clothing, or even food, of old. If either husband or wife will feel unhappy if they cant have what those around them have, Kollel isnt for them. It will cause major unhappiness. On the other hand, if they are TOTALLY ibergegeben to learning, and are ok getting things from Gmachs, etc, and couldnt care less if the Gashmiusdik crowd considers them nebby, they will not even notice/care what others have, because they’ll feel “Toirah iz de besta Schoireh”.
There are many Kollel yungeleit like that, where the “real” Gedolim come from, but too many who choose the Kollel lifestyle are not on that Madrega these days, and end up being disenchanted.
Generally, those who are OK living in smaller, less Gashmiusdik communities, have an easier time with the Kollel lifestyle, long term.
yiddishemishpacha, your touching response beginning with “I daven that my husband should learn seriously “… holds true if these two factors (and some others) are in place:
1- IF his parents can commit in a way that will go on and enable him to marry off all his kids. We’re talking trust funds. Otherwise we’re talking about Bitachon on programs…
2- IF he marries a girl who will stay happy with that lifestyle and not look at siblings and friends who live differently (nice houses, etc). Unfortunately too often the rich guys end up with rich girls who down the road want a different lifestyle (because they have a different outlook on life than straight out of seminary), which not all in laws/parents are willing or able to afford. Also, how low maintenance is he, and will he stay that way as he gets older?
It’s not Pashut.
Aizehu Chacham Haroeh es Hanolad.
None, mine!!!
Unless Im looking for a specialist with experience in a certain area, no one knows my needs and tastes as well as I do.
But growing up, of the three, it was A, they’re no longer alive though, so it’s little old me.
kewmom, Ive done that without the cashews and sauces and it was yum, yours sounds more yum!
Divorced_Guy, I LOOOOOOOVE your idea! Getting people into it, thats a different story. Most singles and parents are crying that they’re not getting red enough Shidduchim, but themselves wouldnt do it for others even if they were offered payment!!!, so Kal V’ Chomer if theyre not offered payment. People HATE being involved in redding Shidduchim- it’s too time comnsuming, you risk making enemies by either being too pushy or not pushy enough, you get blamed for things…it’s a dirty job. That’s why we’re in the mess we’re in. If everyone would think of redding others Shidduchim, that WOULD be great. Aint gonna happen.
I think it should start with Rabbonim. If people would see that even Rabbonim realize how we so desperately need to red Shidduchim and are willing to invest some time, maybe it would have a ripple effect. Meantime many singles are alone and getting older each passing day, while most of the Klal sits with their hands folded.
Can someone please explain how you’re allowed to warm up anything with a sauce on Shabbos? I thought only dry (Yavesh) things can be warmed.
Flohrs, definitely! I asked the boss for a price on an item. He told me the price. I told him I saw it online for less. He actually, told me, with a smile, that the price I saw online was amazing and that I should buy it online (possibly it’s a closeout). I know the boss to be a very sincere guy, so it doesnt surprise me. He wasnt saying it in an angry or nasty way at all!
(OK Im getting my protective gear ready!)
Im jealous of all the people who are occupying their free time and filling voids in their lives in other places than the CR, like doing Chesed in hundreds of ways…. Let’s face it folks, thats what we’re doing here, leidigeyers blowing off some steam, with a good word to someone here and there. This does not apply to the Mods IF they’re getting paid! If theyre not getting paid, they’re in the boat with the rest of us.
Imagine if we commited to redding Shidduchim instead, in the time that we’re on.
Its especially true in cases where the single moves towards tv/movies simply because most good friends are already married and the single needs new pastimes, not because the single is comitted to always having tv/movies, etc.
popa_bar_abba, “Some people think that there is one person who you are meant to marry; and that if you marry her, it will be perfect; and if you don’t, it will be Gehenom….”
Imho, brilliant!
mbachur, “I wouldn’t be suprised that she’s not an anti-semite but a frei yid who has a construed approach to chareidim based on common chiloni synacism”
Just look around at the Midos of people who are obviously frum. Some peoples Midos are truly impeccable. Some are terribly embarassing, and there’s way too many of the latter, and that should not be ignored, especially when people are “in uniform”.