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kavod, do you suggest we should or shouldnt respect yeshiva guys that smoke? Please explain your reason.
kavod, Yeshiva Bochrim who make a Kiddush Hashem and put into practice what they learn and try to emulate Gedolim ARE respected.
IDK, IMHO if the story did indeed happen, it would have made its rounds, complete with the name of the Yeshiva/ Rosh Yeshiva, possibly with some juice added along the way, to make it more exciting.
Can someone suggest how I might have communicated the R’ Avigdor Miller idea of apples/seeds and had the post remain (seems the fact that it led to a video clip was problematic)?
apy, “I guess that is a risk they were willing to take”
Then it wasnt that outrageous of them. I still dont buy it though. Maybe the 2 guys werent their idea of perfect Shiduchim, (who is?) but NO parents want their daughter going out with a guy who they have ZERO interest in.
apushatayid, possibly the parents were embarassed by and covering up for her extreme reticence. I cant believe any sane parents would allow their daughter to go out with any guy they had zero interest in. What if they would have liked one another? Could have happened, you know.
apushatayid, big deal! A quiet or nervous beginner at dating. Could be a lot worse, as in evidence above. Unless Im missing something, that is.
Anyone else here for allowing this thread to remain untouched?
tbt, what good can it do for you to analyze my post?
Unfortunately, at the time, it caused anguish and heartache to those involved, because the girl refused to date for quite a bit of time!
tbt, the girl forgot about it long ago, but I as an analytical adult wonder what kind of husband he’ll make. Shoot me, but his behavior was rather unique.
This happened on a date of a female relative:
Guy talked on his cellphone during date, ranked out Lakewood Roshei Yeshiva, said money makes the world go round and how everyone is in love with money, talked about fantasizing he’s on a beach and his desire to go to Florida in middle of the zman, left to watch a ball game in middle of date… What a sweetie, he’s a Chassan now.
Be Happy, you seem to know the field, can you recommend a dvd, cd or audiobook on laughter therapy?
twisted, R’ Blumenkrantz a”h was a BAKI on all the ingredients found in make-up, and if he would have felt it was that dangerous, I think he would have let us women know.
Anyone know of a good laughter therapy DVD or CD or Audiobook? Theres lots of Laughter Yoga on youtube, but I think Id like laughter without the Yoga.
mike, many people search the latest Simchas on Onlysimchas, and many come from the YU/Sterns crowd and more to the left as well. They have no problem at all with Facebook. Even the Brooklyn-type Modern Yeshivish crowd (mostly the girls) are on Facebook these days.
1- Which liquid foundation for dry skin, is the best? Fragrance free preferred.
2- Who does a good make-up consultation for a teen, just learning for the first time, in BP/Flatbush?
chayav, we have no control over how people are dressed on the street, in most neighborhoods. Also, modesty means lots of different things to different people.
Walking on the street is Lifnei Iver too.
chayav, do you really think Onlysimchas will prohibit pictures from now on?
truth be told, girls barely get dates as they age. Its different.
eclipse, “That person’s “needs” will now include many more physical requirements”
100%! I couldnt agree with you more!
There are also the guys who dont have “previous exposure” and compare their dates to friends’ Kallahs (physically and otherwise). The older they are, the more Kallahs they’ve seen to compare their dates to. Either way, the longer they date, and the older they are, the harder it is. Although Ive seen cases where guys suddenly woke up after years of crazy fussiness, and said the next normal girl I date is the “one” and got married.
bochur24, “I cried sometimes because they were painful for me to do but I did them because it made the other person happy”.
Why would your crying make someone happy? Why is crying doing something for the other person? Youre releasing steam/relieving your own stress, when you cry.
Am I missing something folks?
But then when people get divorced, they often say, one of the two was coaxed. Although Im not sure the couples where one was coaxed do any worse than couples who neither was coaxed.
So whats everyone’s opinion of daters who go out with 100- 200 people and say “I just didnt feel anything”, or “I dont think its for me” and cant really put out a solid reason”? What would a Gadol tell a person like that? Would a Gadol say- “Wait when the right one will come along, and then you’ll know”?
I know R’ Frand was asked this question by a guy dating a girl. The boy just couldnt commit even though he didnt know the reason why (the boy couldnt find anything negative about the girl). R’ Frand answered “If you want to hear bells, go to a church”. The guy got married to the girl and is very happy.
Or a realization that he may be vulgar.
We can only guess the reasons.
Theres more of everything bad unfortunately…. cancer,heart disease, young deaths, divorce, selfishness, assorted scandals, … But there’s more positive than we’ve ever had, as well, more Torah Lishma, chesed, kiruv, selflessness, bravery, etc in the frum community as well. We’re a bigger community than we’ve ever been…
t b, who says there are so many? How many are there a year relative to couples who get married per year?
I thought all angles of Chulent were already discussed on many threads.
No intellectual threads allowed?
js, SHOMER SHMOMER, whatever name you give it, is immaterial! If they’re touching, they’re not frum, if they’re not frum, they touch! Whats to discuss?
js, “The issue I have is that most people seem to be kofuy tovah to the RSO and the are touching their kalla. If this is in public imagine in private. VHMY”
I have never seen one frum couple touching! Obviously if they’re touching theyre NOT Shomer and are in a different category frumkeit-wise!