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observanteen, “But, may I ask, how many of those you know are involved with less than tzniusdike issues are dressed with tznius??”
Ha. Ask people who have friends or relatives living in the most Ultra neighborhoods, where only the most Ultra Tzniusdik dress is allowed.
Can you judge a book (or anything) by its cover?
apushatayid, how did u pass?
Had you told him you were in a hurry to get someone very ill to the doctor, then it would have been ok. Nothing to do with Tznius.
AZ, can you tell us what you like about the person you recommended?
What age/sex/problem areas is he good with?
If you’re familiar enough, can you tell us some interesting before and after situations that R’ Shulman has been involved with?
I DONT think the looks/Tznius connection is the main cause/root of deterioration of most marriages. I think over time, people just get too comfortable with their spouses and dont treat them with the same care/dignity they did when they met. I think lots of people are unhappy with their lives in many areas, and their spouses are the most convenient scapegoats (no matter what the spouse looks like).
I think the blaming issue is a major issue, meaning one spouse blaming the other for whats wrong in their life, either outwardly or subconsciously. Imagining that if they would be married to someone else, their lives woud be happier and more problem-free, caused by frustration with their lives, which marriage is only one aspect of (children, career, social standing are some others).
It’s best to consider items offered by sellers with high rating percentage- between 99% and 100%, and the higher the number of positive feedbacks, the better. That tells you they’re looking to maintain a good feedback record and will probably aim to please you, if there’s a problem. Also those who accept Paypal.
I am sure the Novominsker Rebbe is heavily involved here. Also, no one knows everything, but I trust R Ehrenreich will right all the wrongs. EVERYONE respects him and Im sure the Novominsker Rebbe will consult with him on major decisions regarding the school! (Although hopefully it wont be as hard to get into as to Novominsk, oy).
Firstly, everything is up to the RBSO.
After that, Hishtadluswise, I wonder if there’s any way out of this other than turning back the clock and encouraging secular education. As bad as the economy is, and despite many being unemployed even with education, those who have an education, by and large have a better chance of getting back on their feet (outside of those who were either born to very wealthy families and those very few who “made it” on their own with no education).
How else can parents in the 5 Towns etc support their schools with three times as costly tuitions? A community cant afford to support a school if most are in Kollel and those who arent, are undereducated and dont have access to good jobs and have to beg for huge tuition breaks. This was the case even before the economy took a nosedive.
bpt, my reasons to stay were mostly my parents a”h, who are no longer alive. Now it’s convenience (near subways and shopping) and economics (the income producing house), oh, and the variety of banks on every block. I love the smell of money. Hee hee.
nisht, Oy. What might be the “directives of the Board”?
I have zero connection to Wolf, but do you think that he has something against Rabbi Shapiro or is looking to be on everyone’s hit list? How would all those here deal with the ONE problem the school has- NO MONEY? Its NOT Wolf and its NOT Shapiro. Which business can survive with NO MONEY? By the way this was predicted years ago and now aggravated by a bad economy. A handful of millionaires cant hold up a Goliath of a school.
Read my lips:
N O~~~~M O N E Y !!!
Why I Bother, Im out of the school for a while and have zero connection, but if you can find 10 people who are willing to share the cost of his salary, you think he wouldnt happily come back? He loved his job.
If “parents in the know” like yourself, knew what was in store for the school if he leaves, why didnt they brainstorm and pay his salary? Why cry over spilled milk? Raise the funds!
Sing Song, “Shame on the Board of BYBP and anyone else who was involved with causing him to make this decision to leave”.
By and large, the wealthy former BYBP parents are no more! They were replaced by the middle income, if that, Kensington Litvish and quasi-Chassidish. In over 30 years R’ Shapiro had some wage increases, so if it was a matter of holding on to multiple teachers a year (so that class size wouldnt be outrgeously high), and letting him go, thats what was decided. It’s the MONEY, honey!
Would you want your child in a class of 50+ kids? Can you help pay his salary? If someone would have stepped forward and offered to pay, he’d have stayed.
Yes, bpt, every day (Im Litvish) I wonder what Im doing in BP. There are about 5 Litvish Minyanim in the whole (formerly Litvish) BP, and they are shrinking daily. I cant see BP reversing and becoming more Litvish. Aint happening.
On the topic of a changing Boro Park, how long will Boro Park need a Bais Yaakov thats that big?
Will Boro Park have any Litvish chldren in 20 years?
The young Litvish crowd left to Flatbush or Lakewood. The Kensington Litvish and the BP quasi-Chassidish crowd will not be able to fill up a big Bais Yaakov. Who are we kidding?
SJSinNYC, tremendous point! I think, with age and life experiences, there are lots of us who this pertains to!
I think that as long as Rabbi Ehrenreich is there, they’ll survive. He’s been there since the 1950’s bli ayin hora. He is Bais Yaakov!
Did Rabbi Shapiro leave to go to another school?
eclipse I live in BP, you mean people live elsewhere? Cant be. 😉
eclipse, please challenge me with a time-occupying diversion I might enjoy as much as the CR, other than torahanytime.com where I already spend lots of time B”H.
eclipse, what’s your plan to take the place of the CR? I noticed that of the last 50 posts, 9 are yours. You’ve been pretty active and faithful here. Is it doable? Please only answer whatever you feel comfortable answering, but what will you do to satisfy your CR cravings? What could possibly be as juicy? What will you do to prevent CR withdrawal symptoms? What will you do when serious temptations arise? (Im asking because I think Id like to wean myself a bit).
flowers, I never intended for the Mashal to be perfect. I Actually think I heard it in a Shiur long ago, about any and all potentially negative influences.
Definite vices, definite virtues! Fire kills, but fire cooks delicacies!
Sawyouatsinai.com made more than 500 Shidduchim in the last few years! That means it helped produce and steadily continues to help produce an infinite amount of Yiddishe Neshamos for years to come.
You have to choose your sites wisely. Torahanytime.com , etc.
You either suffer long lasting consequences ch”v, whether you admit it or not, or enjoy long lasting benefits! The more positive the site, the better you feel about yourself, after visiting, long after!
aries2756, “You might come upon some very frum (and chasidish) men out with shiksas.”
Thats a very acusatory statement. How did you prove that they were Goytas? They might have been modern Sefardis? Not good, but not the same.
Anyhow, am I the only blind/naive one who has NEVER seen a frum man dating a Shiksa or even a “modern Sefardi”?
eclipse, “because I did not want them to entertain the thought for even ONE SECOND that anyone was better than their own wives in any way”.
Uch In Vay if a guy comes to a woman’s friend for help with his wife’s flaws. That reeks of trouble. I dont know if thats Halachically permitted. Ive heard of many improper alliances starting innocently, EXACTLY like that. Lifnei Iver Lo Sitein Michshol. I think, with the best intentions, any woman (self appointed marriage counselor) involving themselves with a friend’s husband that way, is less Tzniusdik than those with dressing issues. I think the safest response would be “Sorry, Im not Mekabel and I’m not a marriage counselor”. That would give the guy the right message.
smartcookie, seriously though, if there are “frum” women in your neighborhood who dress “beyond the line”, perhaps its time to move to a frummer neighborhood, with more conservative values. You cant control the way those who arent coreligionists dress. If a man’s eyes will roam, they will roam towards women who are not coreligionists as well.
smartcookie, you have a point, we ought to consider mandating burkas for the outdoors. Everyone will live happily ever after.
observanteen “Exactly, eclipse. That’s my point. Sometimes I wonder if we could’ve invested all the energy in the frum people instead of reaching out the the secular crowd. Not minimizing the chashuv mitzva of kiruv, but,as you put it, maybe we should invest more in the krovim instead of waiting till they’re rechokim”.
Brilliant point! Halevei we’d have the inclination and strength to lovingly put equal effort into both camps.
Has anyone taken into consideration that most of the Smartphones that people use for Web access have crazy high radiation levels?
Is there a Smartphone that’s good and has a lowish SAR (less than 1 or near 1)?
Also, Sprint has good reception in BP, which other carriers have good reception in BP?
PY, what do the heimisher use as a substitute in ther tuna salad?
Hey, mayo is a valuable murder weapon!
Chemical lice treatments can be costly and some parents worry about pesticides leeching their way into the bloodstream. Luckily, lice breathe through their skin, so treating head lice is as easy as smothering them with mayonnaise or olive oil.
Seems effective at killing nits by suffocation. The effect on people isnt as quick though.
Who’s having tuna with mayo today?
Heres a highly rated recipe from allrecipes.com, but truthfully I like sac’s better cuz its less oil than this one.
Applesauce Cake VI
Original Recipe Yield 1 – 10 inch tube pan
Ingredients
3 cups all-purpose flour
3 teaspoons baking powder
2 teaspoons baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
4 eggs
2 cups white sugar
1 1/2 cups vegetable oil
2 cups applesauce
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Directions
1.Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease and flour a 10 inch tube pan. Sift together the flour, baking powder, baking soda, salt and cinnamon. Set aside.
2.In a large bowl, mix together the flour, baking powder, baking soda, salt and cinnamon. Make a well in the center and pour in the eggs, sugar, oil, applesauce and vanilla. Mix well and pour into prepared pan.
3.Bake in the preheated oven for 50 to 60 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into the center of the cake comes out clean. Let cool in pan for 10 minutes, then turn out onto a wire rack and cool completely.
Hey, I enjoy the Shidduch threads most! No one has to involve themselves in a Shidduch thread if they dont want to.
My answer:
Midos, Midos, Midos, that encompasses it all. Everything else is secondary and will be long forgotten.
observanteen, any Yeshivah Bochur who regularly shows proper respect and appreciation to his mother when she makes his breakfast and/or does his laundry, and his father for giving him his allowance or helping him out somehow and the clerk at the store, etc for whatever they do for him, should be shown appreciation as well. One hand washes the other.