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If its only compliments the Mods get (doesnt sound right to me), why are they interested?
Compliments arent Mitzvos, and they dont pay the rent.
Interesting thread.
What do the Mods get paid?
Whats the ratio of males to females?
Do they get interviewed in person?
About how many hours do they each put in?
Do they know one another?
How many are there?
aries, true!
mdd, the degree of Hitler’s hatred of baalei toeiva can be debated, but he certainly wasnt in love with them. By comparison, Galliano clearly said “I love H!” y”s.
Someone once recommended eating radishes for congestion, also drinking pineapple juice.
mdd, Ofcourse, it is not true. He hated the Jews the most. As far as the ba’alei toeva go, he personally did not care so much.
Personally? Afaik, what he said, was rule!
This is from Wikipedia:
….Ruediger Lautman believes that the death rate of h’s in concentration camps may have been as high as 60%. H’s in the camps were treated in an unusually cruel manner by their captors.
Galliano was obviously so drunk he forgot that he lives an alternate lifestyle, which Hitler y”s hated just as much. He would have been killed just the same.
blinky, Thanks! Looks like despite being nervous, you did NOT freeze and feel like a deer looking at approaching headlights, when the examiner got into the car.
People tell me men examiners are easier. I know someone who failed a few times with women and passed with a man.
apushatayid, I doubt the average yeshiva guy knows Coach flats from a Coach bus.
Not if they have huge “C”s all over them! Then they’re V E R Y noticeable shoes, not a bus.
bomb, “‘bais yaakov’ look = Coach flats?
Which ‘bais yaakov’? Located where?”
and here is where kinnah starts…
What kinnah? You can get Coach imitations all over New York for cheap. Either way, it’s not a BY look. Its a wanna-be look. In my eyes, a BY look is relatively plain flat or heeled pumps. No logos. (I used to be very wanna-be. These days, once in a while, I wear old stuff with logos that I dont have the heart to throw out).
Cute.
‘bais yaakov’ look = Coach flats?
Which ‘bais yaakov’? Located where?
goq, possibly you’re in a funk because you suspect most other people arent. With all the crises these days, there are more people in a funk than not…..Hope that helps.
When a girl or boy has been in Shidduchim for a while, they often get a shem from others, like:
quiet,
dumb,
selfish,
materialistic,
boring,
loud,
no common sense,
not serious to get married,
no personality,
no sense of humor,
too choosy,
thinks they’re it,
nebby,
weird, etc.
and that unfortunately lessens their chances of getting people to work for them.
I heard that there was a Shiur lately discussing this issue.
The wagging tongues offering these descriptions kill!
waiter1, someone who knows him told me he’s so humble he calls himself Mr. Carlebach.
DY, you cant fight success! Over the years, Ive heard of certain people giving Brachos for certain things and their success rate is unbelievable.
If the couple can do it without relying on programs and shtick, now or later, and it wont negatively affect Shalom Bayis (because both are low-maintenance), then its fine. Realistically, at some point, many get into trouble financially and have to beg and borrow from others.
canine, Ofcourse, you make a very good case for girls to marry long before age 21.
Are you kidding? Girls’ parents set up dates for their daughters way ahead of Pesachtime for when the daughters are home for a month from Israel in their Sem year! They’re fearful and want their daughters to have a head start. Everyone is scared (rightfully so) of having an “older” girl.
individual, some of the best and life changing experiences that I will cherish forever happened to me after I was 21 and single.
I’ve seen many girls who’ve had life changing experiences 21 and older and single, and they were mostly BAD to very BAD!
AZ, what might have changed that the girls dating 15 years ago did not have an age gap problem, but todays girls do?
IMHO 15 years ago the guys werent as fussy as they are now, with a list of specs a mile long. So when a guy started dating 15 years ago at 23, he most often married within the first year. These days many guys still find Mrs Right within the first year of dating, BUT MANY MORE THESE DAYS DONT, leaving leftovers of many hundreds of older girls, because of the younger girls willing to go out with guys many years their senior (20 y.o. girls dating 27, 28, etc y.o. guys). I think there are a lot more cradle-robbing guys these days, than 15 years ago.
For all we know, there might be CR members who arent Shomer Shabbos, trying to get acquainted, or…..
1- Anything planned for or ongoing in Brooklyn?
2- How are Shadchanim being made aware of names and info of all older girls, or are they only being encouraged to try harder for the older girls they already know? Whats going on behind the scenes?
dunno, I’d have loved to hear how bills would get paid. Interesting though, because 75% of Lakewood wives have some sort of a college degree these days.
The way I see it, with rare exceptions, b’derech hateva, ain somchin al hanes, its either winning the lottery, cleaning office buildings at night or similar, college, or dependence on every program out there, which there will be less and less of as time goes on.
These days, ALL women work to be able to pay bills, and possibly save, whether their husbands learn or work. It’s not only women who are married to learners, who are working. And why are the offices where the Chassidish girls work (who dont go to college, and whose husbands are working) any better environment-wise? Work is work. There arent enough teaching jobs for everyone.
observanteen, you make Babka and you’re a teen? Wow, I know middle aged women that dont know how to make Babka, with yeast, rising, etc. How old were you when you learned? How did it come out? Can you provide the recipe and tips?
Start with your relatives, married friends and community Shadchanim, and ask them to think for you. The better people know you, the more they’ll want to put the effort in and the easier it will be for them to describe you to others.
AZ, I dont think haros is all that unique. While the Shidduch crisis definitely hits girls harder, I really think we are suffering from a SHADCHAN-LESS CRISIS!
S’iz nisht du mit vamen tzu redden! You cant get a single publication to print a regularly updated list of Shadchanim. Only Hashem knows why. Most Shadchanim suffer burn-out after a year or two, after expending huge effort with little or no results, and less and less people want to get involved.
READ MY LIPS-
SHADCHAN-LESS CRISIS!