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April 8, 2011 6:49 pm at 6:49 pm in reply to: Honoring The Fogels- Mods, please post this beautiful letter encouraging Unity #757379OfcourseMember
If there will be anything in BP or Flatbush, please post.
April 8, 2011 5:58 pm at 5:58 pm in reply to: When you see Holocaust era films, how do they affect you? #757267OfcourseMemberAin, …that WE don’t have to do OUR histadlus, (spiritually AND) physically to prevent it (in any form, to any degree) in the future.
What we can do spiritually, is understood, but what do you think we can do physically?
April 8, 2011 3:47 pm at 3:47 pm in reply to: When you see Holocaust era films, how do they affect you? #757263OfcourseMemberMod 80, can you imagine how a survivor feels when non-survivors think they understand what happened to them and actually have no idea whatsoever.
Absolutely! Ive read that when people are trained as psychologists, or bereavement counselors, etc theyre told not to say “I totally understand”. No one but the victim understands. Thats painful to hear.
OfcourseMemberdeiye, when you clean walls for pesach with a wet shmata and soft scrub, you don’t need to paint anymore. soft scrub (done right) does a wonderful job. it gives it a fresh look.
As long as you dont try that on ceilings. I did that one year and what a streaky mess it left, it was worse than in the beginning. Painted ceilings arent easily cleaned. I learned my lesson good.
April 8, 2011 2:58 am at 2:58 am in reply to: Which Rov would you call if you wanted a Rov's slant on a major decision? #757677OfcourseMembereclipse, Some people truly leave a VOID when they are gone. I also miss Rabbi Blumenkrantz’s unusual sensitivity.
True, but I have to have my faith restored that someone similar exists in this Dor. IyH I will.
April 7, 2011 9:10 pm at 9:10 pm in reply to: Which Rov would you call if you wanted a Rov's slant on a major decision? #757672OfcourseMemberBPT, I can suggest a few Bklyn Rabbonim
Gladly!
I am in Brooklyn and looking for someone, who similar to R’ Blumenkrantz, who in addition to being a Halachic expert, made ALL people feel like they were his blood relatives and was available to all.
April 7, 2011 7:53 pm at 7:53 pm in reply to: Which Rov would you call if you wanted a Rov's slant on a major decision? #757670OfcourseMemberbpt, To be fair, many people do continue to “ask questions / seek advise” by drawing from the writings of gedolim that are no longer among us.
Not me!!! He was VERY much among the living when I sought his advice. As hard as I try though, I just cant find a “very much among the living” Rov, similar to HIM. With Hashem’s help I will, soon!
April 7, 2011 4:27 pm at 4:27 pm in reply to: Which Rov would you call if you wanted a Rov's slant on a major decision? #757667OfcourseMemberbpt, Asey l’cha Rav. Not my idea, but it appears to be a good one!
The first time I spoke to him I was hooked! Had I been able to move to Far Rockaway, I certainly would have chosen him for “Asey l’cha Rav. ” I did meet him personally about a business issue. Just as joyful an experience as the phone conversations. So in effect, I did choose him…
April 7, 2011 2:51 am at 2:51 am in reply to: Which Rov would you call if you wanted a Rov's slant on a major decision? #757664OfcourseMembercherrybim While we all agree that Rav Blumenkrantz was a tzadik gamor, many cannot cope with his Pesach chumras.
How was he more Machmir than any Chassidish Rebbe or very frum Litvish Rov?
If you feel it’s too much for you, then you can follow a YU or OU Rov. Whats the problem?
April 7, 2011 12:13 am at 12:13 am in reply to: Which Rov would you call if you wanted a Rov's slant on a major decision? #757662OfcourseMemberTell me about it. But let me respond, one point at a time:
Thousands of people calling R’ Blumenkrantz all the time.
No way! How about what school or camp to send a child to, or somethng along those lines?
Something tells me that many of his calls, from outside of his Shul, were NOT Kashrus related. All I have to do is bring up the topic among people I dont know well (Simchas I attend) of “I dont have anyone to call since R Blumenkrantz a”h was niftar, I hear of situations just like mine. Not his Shul, not Kashrus related.
April 6, 2011 10:01 pm at 10:01 pm in reply to: Which Rov would you call if you wanted a Rov's slant on a major decision? #757660OfcourseMemberspiral When I got off the phone I couldn’t believe how patiently he spoke to an anonymous person.
Wow, I had the same feeling exactly! He was the true essence of doing Mitzvos Lishma! A true Eved Hashem! Now all we have to do is discover some other Lamed Vovniks perhaps, to inspire us similarly.
April 6, 2011 7:09 pm at 7:09 pm in reply to: Which Rov would you call if you wanted a Rov's slant on a major decision? #757652OfcourseMemberbpt,
If everyone felt like you, there wouldnt have been hundreds or thousands of people calling R’ Blumenkrantz all the time. He wasnt “their Rov” mostly, He was someone they admired immensely who possibly people were drawn to him because they felt He was more available, more sensitive or more knowledgable than their Rov!
1-There are certain situations where you cant call “your Rov”.
2-There are people who daven in Shuls with no Rov (Rov passed on and wasnt replaced).
3-There are those whose Rov is impossible to reach.
4-Strange as it may sound, there are people who daven in Shuls with Rovs who they look up to, but not enough for specific questions.
bpt, it’s a big world out there, with lots of different questions and situations, and R Blumenkrantz A”H remarkably, was always available to happily fill many peoples’ needs. Is that a problem?
April 6, 2011 6:48 pm at 6:48 pm in reply to: Those who used to call R Blumenkrantz a"h for advice, who do you call? #756400OfcourseMemberLooks like this thread is becoming a who to call for a quickie Pesach and Kashrus related Shailos thread. Ill clarify the question in a new thread.
April 5, 2011 10:39 pm at 10:39 pm in reply to: Especially good at clarifying "How do we know Hashem exists?" to a young adult #778412OfcourseMemberdancinggirl, Rabbi mecanic specifically speaks abt this in hi “conversation with holywood’ it amazing and entertaining
I agree, I watched it on torahanytime. Thats great for me and you, but for those who feel they’ve been let down by the frum world and the system, and the advantages of leaving it are greater than the disavantages, theyre not going to watch it. Like telling someone to apply hot compresses to a broken leg. They need intensive one-on-one attention. We really need a Hatzoloh for spiritual Refuohs. Books and tapes and Shiurim dont do the trick at some point.
April 5, 2011 5:38 pm at 5:38 pm in reply to: Those who used to call R Blumenkrantz a"h for advice, who do you call? #756395OfcourseMemberPY, Im grateful to you for trying, but I left the first message a month ago.
April 5, 2011 3:26 pm at 3:26 pm in reply to: Those who used to call R Blumenkrantz a"h for advice, who do you call? #756390OfcourseMemberPY, Ofcourse, I know a perfect Rov for you whom I have used for years. A gaon shebgeonim, and one of the warmest and most aideleh people alive……….
I am sure privately I can give him one more person. Maybe the Mods will let you contact me.
Thanks for your efforts, but I tried calling more than once. There’s an efficient sounding secretary who takes messages but the Rov never called back even once, despite my leaving messages with name and phone numbers.
OfcourseMemberAny more opinions on the thinnest brand of Regular Shmurah Matzo, and the thinnest brand of Spelt Shmurah Matza?
OfcourseMemberWhich is the thinnest Spelt Shmurah (are there choices?) and where in Brooklyn can you get it? Whats the approximate price per pound?
OfcourseMemberSac, I’m gonna pay you a visit and take a look under them mattresses 😉
Banks have FDIC insurance. I dont have to resort to my mattresses, altho not that much to stuff the mattresses with these days anyhow. 😉
Sac, you were recently involved in a real estate transaction you posted somewhere. What and where are you stuffing yours? Also, any good deals or tips you can offer for finding an exceptonally good deal on a house in Brooklyn?
OfcourseMemberRe Bernie Madoff, anyone who “sinks” the bulk of their money into chancy investments, is at fault to some extent, if they lose the money. Everyone aleays says, dont put all or most of your cash/assets in one basket. Ive heard him say that banks are Ponzi schemes to some degree, and I believe that. Theyre paying me interest from money that others are depositing…just what he did. But Madoff didnt have FDIC to back him. And, he’s suffered plenty. I guarantee you for every Madoff who is caught, there are hundreds if not thousands, who arent caught and do what he did regularly.
OfcourseMemberbinah, but, if you live in -town, boruch Hashem, you couldn’t even carry on a conversation with someone else – you’d be non-stop saying good shabbos.
The fear of “saying non-stop saying good shabbos” doesnt seem to hold back all of Flatbush from saying Good Shabbos to all Jews.
OfcourseMemberpopcorn, you live in BP? There are some who do, but youre in the minority if you say Good Shabbos to strangers on the street.
Mailmen, delivery men, etc everyone greets. They want to continue getting their mail and deliveries..!
OfcourseMemberIve been giving it some thought. Does this theory make any sense to anyone?
I think that perhaps most BPers and Flatbushers, do whatever their Rabbonim tell them to.
Is it possible that more or most Rabbonim in Flatbush encourage their congregants/Chassidim to greet strangers on the street (because they dont have to be just like you, theyre still Jews), than Rabbonim in BP?
OfcourseMemberTry Flohrs or Eichlers or the housewares stores in frum neighborhoods.
Do you find the taste better with the Wonderbaker? Because you can buy a countertop oven in many sizes, and bake a very good cake (in a tube pan) in them. Tube pans just need a bigger countertop oven, and there are big ones for a little over $100.
OfcourseMemberAnyone have any thoughts/theories on my question asked above?
OfcourseMemberI love this thread, THANKS!
Now for my question:
With the overabundance of good hearted individuals in Boro Park, who perform all kinds of Chesed for S T R A N G E R S all hours of the day and night, Hatzalah, Bikur Cholim, Shomrim, Kiruv, Hachnosas Orchim, there are so many to mention, with the help of Hashem, WHY OH WHY, do many Boro Parkers, feel uncomfortable offering a simple Good Shabbos to (same gender) S T R A N G E R S on the street, which requires almost no effort, as opposed to Flatbush where it’s commonplace and heartwarming???
OfcourseMemberWhich Matzos are the thinnest this year?
March 28, 2011 5:06 pm at 5:06 pm in reply to: Any writers here? Where can a poem for a children's book, for all, be submitted? #753385OfcourseMemberDoes anyone have any info on submitting to non-Jewish publishing houses?
OfcourseMembereclipse, I and everyone else in the CR feels for you. May I offer you a way to look at this day and looking at the bright side? Thank Hashem, that He sent you this Tzara instead of someone near and dear to you having a terrible Machla. You will also have Simchos bKarov!
Everyone has their hardships in life. As much as we dont think our problems can be even more heart-breaking, they definitely can be! All we have to do is look around a bit.
We love you, eclipse! H U G S !
March 28, 2011 12:51 am at 12:51 am in reply to: Any writers here? Where can a poem for a children's book, for all, be submitted? #753383OfcourseMemberWe’re not looking for a Jewish publisher, it’s a general interest little kids book.
March 27, 2011 2:37 pm at 2:37 pm in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753641OfcourseMemberagittayid, obviously you are aware, as I am, that not all former or present kollel couples are gitteh neshumehs. But, while Im 100% sure that no one in Kollel is taught in Kollel to whine to their parents or demand, it definitely is a by-product of Bitachon that all needs will be met, and being used to taking, after years of doing so.
B”H I havent heard the words “Do I have to wait until you die to get money?”, but I know others who have. I can only imagine that thought has been thought by more than those who actually say it.
March 27, 2011 6:00 am at 6:00 am in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753635OfcourseMembermw, “When you speak to the married children they whine, when you dont speak to them, they say you never call because you dont care”. I simply don’t believe this is the case.
LOL again! If you dont see G-d, He doesnt exist????
mw, Thank Hashem your experiences are different, is all I can say!
Maybe theres something wrong with the company I keep, but Ive heard many cases similar to m(wh)ine.
OfcourseMemberclever,Charge the parents 3000 and we can make up the difference”
How many frum-sympathetic corporations can offer $2,000 per child????
Gimme a break (pardon the pun)!
OfcourseMemberclever, Bigger than the shidduch crisis this is a problem that needs to be fixed now!! Not just because of the practical issues of finance, but for the haskafic and chinuch issues that will destroy the community a generation from now.
And how do you suggest we fix this issue?
OfcourseMemberaries, Viznits, a very decent hall, accomodates a big crowd and I think theyre reasonable to begin with and especially reasonable on Thursdays. Anyone know the price per couple at Viznits?
OfcourseMemberSac, there are a couple of places that Im pretty sure are close to my average wedding prices.
1-Viznits off 18th ave in BP,
2-Bais Mordechai near Avenue C,
3-the new place off 13th Ave on 38th street (Ateres Something?), thats really nice.
Im sure there are more. Does anyone know the prices per couple at these halls?
OfcourseMemberI still say NO ONE (ok, hardly anyone) who has enough money to offer each child $50,000 for a down payment, will be willing to make a small wedding.
They run in too uppity circles to consider it. They’d be humiliated in their social settings. Halevei parents would give the $50,000 down payment instead of the fancy wedding! Imho its the better investment.
OfcourseMemberThis question doesnt makes sense!
Lets do simple math.
The most expensive of wedding costs is the hall/caterer.
The average catered wedding, these days, costs about 70 dollars a couple. An expensive more glitzy hall costs about 110 dollars a couple. Thats a 40 dollar per couple difference. The average wedding has about 250 couples.
Whats 40 dollars X 250??? Total difference is $10,000. Even with the difference of flowers and music costs, its nowhere close to $50,000 for a down payment. Unless you want to avoid a wedding hall altogether and get married in your backyard or a public park. OK, thats really gonna take off….. Suuuuuuuerre. Hee hee.
March 24, 2011 10:40 pm at 10:40 pm in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753610OfcourseMemberI have other Kollel relatives who are much less demanding BUT, I wish I could say otherwise, between my friends, the Kollel kids (kids who started off their married life in Kollel) end up more desperate and more demanding. They are used to getting money, monthly, from parents, mostly the girls’ side. They are much more comfortable taking. Its a neccessity of their lifestyle in 95% of cases.
March 24, 2011 7:34 pm at 7:34 pm in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753599OfcourseMemberI dont know how eeryone is doing it, but from looking around at my kids friends, I see upwards of 50% and closer to 75% of couples in Lakewood, whether one or both spouses work, whether the work is part time or full time, whether the husband is learning or not, owning a house once they have 3 kids. (In my case- both are working at the present time, but despite having secular educations, arent doing well, because of the economy, like many others).
How do others do it?
March 24, 2011 5:15 pm at 5:15 pm in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753583OfcourseMemberseeallsides, Enjoy it and be proud of your kids – walk into Bais Sholom or Bais Aaron or any of the Batei Midrashim, and you will cry with emotion and joy over the amazing learning that is going on.
I certainly AM crying with emotion over that AND the lack of Midos and Derech Eretz that many of these kids have when dealing with their parents, despite being Torah scholars!!! A person of importance once said to me, Halevei Midos would go hand in hand with learning Torah.
But it’s all totally, or mostly, the parents fault for not inculcating Midos, right?
March 24, 2011 3:59 pm at 3:59 pm in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753564OfcourseMembermytake, Simple. Don’t put down the down payment if you can’t afford it……
Afford it? Am I allowed to have money for retirement years? Who should decide what we need and what we dont? The kids feel they have a right to decide how much we neeed left. The kids want us to have the same Bitachon that the schools told them to have in married life, in regard to our retirement.
Im not alone at all! This is typical! I have many friends with badly wounded relationships with their married kids, because of finances.
OfcourseMemberYou all aint seen nothing yet, if you dont have married kids!
See this:
This is after killing yourself to marry them off, it gets MORE complicated!
March 24, 2011 2:11 am at 2:11 am in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over �Not Tzniyus� Advertisement #759794OfcourseMemberI think renting space on privately owned properties for signs is a money-making opportunity. People who own property in BP should know better than to allow any signs to go up. The people who rent the space can put up ads for the worst of the worst nauseating stuff, if there is no contract preventing that.
OfcourseMemberHeres a few possibilities:
Blum on 51st Street in BP, anywhere in Diamond Center, Olshwang, Feldmans Jewelry on 16th, Kaufman’s on 16th, Ebay from a Seller w a good rating and good return policy, …..
You might be able to get the same look if you buy a string of pearls and buy a diamond pendant to attach and then be able to use with a chain as well.
OfcourseMemberWARNING! This is NOT intended to give anyone a pre-Purim laugh. If it does, it just proves how sad and serious the problem is.
Im no Gadol but possibly Hashem is shaking up the Frum world to pay attention to the tears of older girls who have little chance of finding Zivugim and starting families because of the scarcity of boys available to them, due to the insanely uneven ratio.
March 15, 2011 6:01 am at 6:01 am in reply to: If you think that you've given away some personal details #750004OfcourseMemberSyag Lchochma, I was very uncomfortable.
Oy. I would love to know the age of the Mod/s involved.
March 15, 2011 4:29 am at 4:29 am in reply to: If you think that you've given away some personal details #750001OfcourseMemberI would think that Mods divulging info about a person having 2 Usernames and specifying which, can lead to Lashon Hara, and stealing/publicizing private info. Thats not good.
If someone offers identifying info on one Username and then private info on a second, and the Mods reveal that both are one, that could get very embarassing.
March 15, 2011 3:34 am at 3:34 am in reply to: If you think that you've given away some personal details #749997OfcourseMemberSL, the mods gave it away a few times.
Huh? And you werent a troll debating with yourself? Why???
March 14, 2011 10:08 pm at 10:08 pm in reply to: If you think that you've given away some personal details #749986OfcourseMemberWow!!! Thanks! I’m glad I asked.
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