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Quark: Oh? I didn’t know Satmar represents the Torah. The tragedies probably struck because most frum Satmars don’t watch movies, huh?

What’s troubling you, my friend? Do you perhaps feel a bit guilty? Don’t you worry. Just get back to your movies and hide your head in the sand.

Wow, Still Looking. That’s amazing. I too, have father who’s pretty overbearing and at times, it’s tough. I did struggle with my Yiddishkeit for a while, but B”H, I didn’t show it outwardly and I’m now stable and love AND fear Hashem.

Thanks for the chizzuk! It’s nice knowing there are other people out there who know what it’s like…:)

I’m actually getting married three days before I turn 19. This is not about getting married early though. It’s just that I’ve reached a point where I felt I was prepared to take this huge and exciting step. Also, I’ve had a pretty tough year which was a real growth experience. Nisyonos makes you more mature and grown-up.

mommamia: I’m all of 18, and I don’t think I am capable of advising you what to do. IMHO though, I think that if he’s a good, patient, and loving father, he probably is a good person who needs a little guidance. He’s probably not stable and still struggling with some unfinished issues of his first marriage. Perhaps you need to involve a third party (NOT your best friend. Go to a proffesional.). Try going for help. I highly doubt he’s presently enjoying the relationship as is. Maybe he’s willing to make it work. Talk to him. After all, he’s your husband. Put out your cards on the table and ask him what he suggest you do in this situation. Tell him you’re willing to change and make this work, but he has to put in his effort too.

This is just my very humble opinion based on what you said. I think that aside from getting the opinions of anonymous posters on here you should seek advice from a Daas Torah. Especially since you mentioned he’s struggling with Yiddishkeit as well. Hatzlacha rabba.

Our family is very warm and we enjoy having lots of guests. What we do is simply seat the women in the kitchen and the men in the dining room.

IMHO, young couples shouldn’t be hosting guests. It’s their time to develop a relationship. I don’t think it’s an aveira, but why wave a red cloth at the bull?

I’ll take 120-139. Besuros tovos.

“have an orthodox jewish friend, ideally.

Invite someone over to dinner.

Discuss Torah.

Have programming.

Invite and disperse information.”

A couple of problems:

A – Not everyone is cut out to do kiruv. Some might get influenced by the frei instead of them influencing them to be frum.

B – We have the Internet today. If anybody is looking for answers, they can always do research and they’ll get the right anwers. But going out and try getting frei Yidden to become frum, is a bit extreme IMO. Simply because many of them stay frei and you just made them sin bemeizid (knowing they’re sinning).

If any frei yid or non-Jew would question me about my beliefs, I’d be more than glad to answer them. I think that if anybody is really looking for the truth, they will find it.

Racism? I highly doubt the mods have a clue as to what race you are. They simply censor the comments, which is why I feel safe reading the CR. If you’d like to chat without a filter there’s always Facebook out there.

happiest: I agree with you that there’s more abuse than people care to admit or pick up on.

“if the at risk teens situation is so rampant and many many many of these teens had some type of abuse experience (which is why they are at risk) then this problem also has to be rampant, no?”

I don’t entirely agree with this statement, though. EVERYBODY has hardship. On different levels of course. But nobody lives the perfect little life. If I’d need an excuse to go off, I could easily say my father/mother is abusive. Why? Because they’re not perfect. And we expect our parents to be perfect. Yes, they might have accused me falsely for doing something wrong, or yell, or…even spank me (when I was younger of course). The point being, that these kids have issues either emotional or spiritual. The parents aren’t necessarily abusive just because the kids say so. They love blaming the parents, teachers, principals etc. – Anyone but themselves!

OTOH, unfortunately, there ARE some kids who suffer at home and leave Yiddishkeit because of that. Which is terribly sad. But I think that if anybody is earnest and really looks for the truth they’ll find it.

Thank you Yossi Z.! Amein!!

Why did the nurse wake up the patient?

To give her a sleeping pill.

Mr. Moderator: Tear that subtitle down!

“ive got a few minutes to post”

“and why did you capitalize the s in serious?”

Well, 80 seems like you have an awful lot of time since you scrutinize every letter on the cr;) (Do you at least moderate while you’re at it?:)

Life is full of ups and downs. It’s hard dealing with the down moments, but try getting over it. Don’t let it scare you. Go out with friends, write, listen to music, go shopping etc. Good luck! Hope you feel better soon!

I read and reread the comments my teachers wrote. Teachers out there: know that it means the world to your student when they know you’re proud or think highly of them! Also please make sure the compliment is true. Don’t write the kid’s responsible when they’re not. Don’t shower too many compliments, it loses its value. Always start with something positive and go on to the criticism.

Oh and btw, I always appreciated the time and effort the teachers put into those comments. So if any of you ever were or currently are my teacher: thank you! And to all the teachers out there who’re working hard: Good luck.

Yeah, adorable we miss you in here! I noticed you were missing…Any mazal tov? Please keep us posted!:)

Smile E. Face: I got the chills while reading your post. May she have a refuah sheleima soon.

blabla: I find that if I have too much time for myself, I think wayy too much which makes me antsy and anxious. Perhaps you can busy yourself with doing housework, chessed (help out a neighbor,cousin with little kids etc.), cleaning, baking etc.

Thanks, candy. Congrats to you too! (Taking grad pics tomorrow…exciting!)

cshapiro: Even if he’s not a football player?

Mazel Tov nystatetrooper.

Toi: BIG Mazel Tove to you!!? (Hope you were serious) May you have a wonderful and happy life!

And welcome to the CR you two! (or are you old members with new SN?? In any case, welcome!!)

Thanks DY for clarifying. I couldn’t tell.