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Wow, chayav, that is one sweet dream!!!:)
Yossi: I think this will cause more harm than good. Doesn’t this idea resemble facebook somewhat (which is why I have a filter)? Y’know, I know some girls who met boys through facebook and were/are in deep trouble. I don’t think it’s ok for everyone to know who everyone is. ESPECIALLY, since you really cannot know what the person is like just by reading his/her posts. I certainly think this is a breach in tznius. What if a girl and boy get to know each other, but are totally not meant for each other? I don’t think it’s safe.
“There is nothing inherently wrong about showing pictures at the rate of 30 frames per second”
Wolf: do you in fact think that ppl who don’t watch TV and/or movies do it cuz the pics are going at the rate of 30 frames per second?
“Every husband is abused.”
Wow. That’s a strong statement. Where’d you get that, worldsaver?
You’re right chayav. How bout you start some new informative, funny, exciting threads?? C’mon, put on your thinking cap!
I enjoy discussing different views of different ppl. I also like to discuss things that strengthens my Emuna.
My biggest fear is that I’ll get abused by my husband.
Oh, and I’m PETRIFIED of drunks. I mean REAL scared. I used to have nightmares in December cuz Purim was SOON comin’ up:(
mdd: Seems to me, you’re being oiver everyday on Lo Sisa Es Achicha Bilvavecha and Veahavta Lerieacha. Which is worse than anything the chassidim do to cause your hatred.
I think I seldom hear goyim express their anti-semitism in such an open and hateful manner.(And when they do, you get real scared, right?)
Besides, what’s suddenly happened with Lashon Hara?? Where are all those who always say we have to be Dan Lekaf Zechus MO, OTDers etc.? Doesn’t Lashan Hara apply to chassidim too?
I am a middle child and I love it!! We don’t have any little kids to take care of, but, we’ve got adorable grandchildren if I’m in the mood of a mess;)Also, I’m the oldest at home, but, I’ve got older sisters and brother to have some fun.
I agree with Tums and OfCourse. I have a cousin who married a girl who was mentally ill. He divorced her with kids. He’s now re-married B”H. After his divorce, a girl called up his family to ask mechilla, because she didn’t say she was a sicko (she wasn’t at fault. She thought the boy had issues too.) But, where was everybody else??? How could they help build a home that’ll get distroyed? What a crime! Aries, how can you be so confident with your not disclosing vital info? I don’t get it. What does that have to do with the ppl on the other line telling you who they are?? Besides, have you ever asked Daas Torah, or is this based on your own knowledge and assumptions? Sorry, if I’m appearing too harsh, but, this is terrible!
My birthday is in Adar. I think my actual birthday is in Adar Shenini. Although I accept birthday presents in Adar Rishon too:)
Bpt: I agree. You cannot possibly know the other person until after the sheva brachos (or is it a year?). Therefore, you’ve gotta do a lot of research. PRECICELY for this reason! When you go out to date, there’s very little you can actually see. And when you see something you dislike with him/her, there probably could have been ppl who would’ve let you know about this when doing your research. (Not all the time, of course. But again, do ppl who date before doing research know their fiance/e better?) I think that the guys who date a hundred girls without researching them first, aren’t exactly fair. It’s disheartening for the girl as it is for the boy. Why go through the pain and anguish? First ask others to see if s/he is actually for you.
It never ceases to amaze me how somebody who studies Torah can help you out in any tough situation. The chachma that one gets when learning Torah is unbelievable!!! Ashreicha to those who merit to spend their time learning our precious Torah!!
I know this is gonna sound really weird, but, I’ve got this feeling too. I know I’m still young and I’ve got some time until I actually get engaged, but, I already have a yearning to get married. (Although I’m pretty anxious that he be the right one.) I davened with great kavana today, and I felt very relieved. May we all find our bashert in the right time.
“Just because your’e miserable doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy life.”
-classmate.
Thanks yossi. Thank goodness there are still some sane ppl around…
Popa, seriously now. WHAT’S GOTTEN INTO YOU?????!!!!
Uh…. poppa? You okay? You sure you haven’t got scitzophrenia (eclipse, I need your help with the spelling…)?
Oh, mbachur. My father drinks a mixture of Concord Grape and Cream Niagra. Any help? Does that compensate for what I’ve done?
deiyezooger: are you happy when your not at a clear state of mind? Is your yishuv hadaas depressing or what?
mbachur: sorry. This is my last post in here Bli Neder (unless somebody argues with me;))
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So, can’t you be yotzei by just being happy?
I always used to ponder about this. Also, how about one that never gets married? Doesn’t s/he have the other half neshama?
But, it also says that you can be yotzei if you take a nap. How ’bout doin’ THAT instead??
Brrr. Please stop this thread. I’m absolutely terrified of drunks!! Can’t you be Besimcha without getting drunk? Besides, if the men drink, the women aren’t Besimcha:(
Whoa. You sure are a challenge, Wolf. I think you know the answers, doncha’?
s2021: What’s that all about? A frum singer shouldn’t be looking at women as far as I know.
Happiest- I wasn’t trying to say you’re depressed- I’m sorry about that. I think I can understand what you feel like although I’m pretty young. I usually write when I feel this way. I enjoy writing poems, compositions or just plain what I feel like. I feel so unloaded afterwards!! If you don’t enjoy writing, take a Tehillim and pour out your heart to Hashem. There’s every situation you can possibly imagine in the Tehillim. Also talk to Hashem in plain English. Tell him what you feel like and how worried you are. He’s your Father and understands you best! Hatzlacha!!
I heard from Rav Fishel Shechter that Hashem put up the Peroches in the Beis Hamikdash so that when the Jews come to be Oleh Regel, they shouldn’t think that they only want to live with ruchniyus now and they’ll abandon their wife, kids, job etc. Hashem wanted to show them that they’re human, so He made the peroches that the Yidden should see that they can’t cross that fine line.
“im wondering if it ever happens that the girl is at “fault”?..
You kidding me??? I know many nasty, abusive and “having issues” women. Women can be even worse than men. I don’t really think it goes according to your gender. There are mean women as there are wicked men. We shall never know of these things.
Why so glum? You’ll find your zivug soon enough. Try not to dwell on the fact that you’re single, rather on how you can improve things (not trying to criticize C”V, just thinkin’. I don’t even know you, so please don’t take it personal.) Maybe try doing some chessed, make new friends, broaden your horizons – don’t just sit there all by yourself. Try finding the good in the situation, make your life happy!! Listen to music, go out shopping etc. Enjoy your youth, as many of the posters recommended here;) Go have some fun!!! Life aint that bad. Challenging, yeah, but it’s worth living!!! Try finding some zechusim. Also, try getting your name out there- do something productive with your talents and try getting to know a lot of ppl.
May Hashem help you find your bashert REAL soon!!! I’ll have you in mind while I daven Bli Neder. Good Luck!!!
eclipse: lol!! You hit the nail right on the head!!
Thanks! Keep me posted….
“When GD closes the window, He opens a door.”
“Far better it is to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much, nor suffer much, because they live in the twilight that knows neither victory, nor defeat.”
– Theodor Roosevelt
Eclipse: thanks! You were getting me really worried…
I know I told you already but, I want to say it just once more: I’ll really miss you!!! Also, am I invited to the chanukas habayis, or is it for grownups only? If so, can you make an exception with me??? Please? I’d LOVE to meet you in person!!! In any case, good luck with your new home and lots of luck in life!!!
“you have a lot to learn yet as you grow and mature.”
Aries: You’re DEFINITELY right!! I still have a lot of growing up to do…..
But,I did go through a lot (yeah, even if I’m so young…)and I got to take a glimpse of the world out there. I was also very involved with a case where I was supposed to convince a girl to go to a male therapist and I did some research.
First of all, I ASKED DAAS TORAH, which is of utmost importance! I was told to convince her to go for help, but, I shouldn’t tell her to necessarily go to HIM. I was paskened that if there are female therapists out there that can do the job, I’m not allowed to convince her.
This girl ended up going to the male therapist, and he never even helped her out!! There was ABSOLUTELY NO REASON for her to go to him.
I don’t think you want to take responsibility for the fact that others might think they’re allowed to do it. Anyway, bottom line: Daniel, I think you should ask your rav/rosh yeshiva etc. for advice, and aries: hatzlacha in your work! May Hashem help you help others.
MBD, Shloime Gertner, Boruch Levine, Isaac Honig, Yaakov Shwekey, Abie Rottenberg, Yisroel Werdyger, Benny Friedman, Dovid Gabay, Shloime Dachs, Shloime Daskal, Michoel Pruzansky (sorry, it’s 12, but I Luuuv Jewish Music!!).
Sorry, again. I really apologize. You guys are mochel me??
No way! Chas Vesholom. (Especially not NOW when your leaving…)
On the contrary. Anyway, I wasn’t trying to offend you, nor anybody else. I was just curious. Guess I’ll keep my mouth shut in the future:| (See? I zipped it already…)
I was just wondering what YOU thought about this, because you seem to be a sensible person. I was curious if you thought what I did, and now I think I guessed what your opinion in this matter is. Oh, and I’m in no mood for starting a thread on this. I think you know why, doncha’?
Ahaaaaaaaaaaa. NOW I get it!!
Eclipse: Ha, ha!! LOL. But,I doubt they were ready to give up their fun just because of YOU!!
Seriously, now, do you think there’s a reason why so many grownups left? I think we can use more of the mature and smart posts there used to be. Don’t you think?
“If you get “emotionally” involved with any therapist you are heading for trouble!!!!!!”
Aries:if it happens, you’re heading for trouble emotionally. But, if it’s the opposite gender you’re heading for trouble emotionally AND spiritually! Humans are wired to become emotionally involved with the opposite gender.Aderaba, YOU’RE the professional – tell me, does anything I wrote contradict reality?