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It doesn’t make a difference whether they can handle it or not. WE shouldn’t tolerate it. I think it’s lashon hara, isn’t it? Correct me if I’m wrong.
They’re so cute and geshmak!
binah: Thanks for removing my L”H. I didn’t realize it was Lashon hara. I really shouldn’t have posted that. I wanted to edit, but t’was too late. Thanks again! And yeah, this goes to show that I gotta be careful with those numbers…
Mischief: Ooops. I’m really, truly sorry. I didn’t get the picture right. I thought you just read books, and that you were just a negative thinker (I still work on my negative thinking – nothing wrong with that).
As for your sad thinking abt dying C”V, I want you to know that I was honestly ready to jump the roof at one point. B”H, whether you believe it or not, I LOVE to live now (yeah, I’m one of these ppl you think are having it easy and just living a life…). I want you to know that YOU ARE NOT A LOST CASE!!!There’s no such thing! If you’re willing to help yourself, you will get helped Bezras Hashem. DON’T GIVE UP!!! Life is worth living. You barely lived a third of your life! You still have a lifetime ahead of you!! Those terrible times PASS. You will get better IY”H. I’ll have you in mind when I daven BL”N. Hatzlacha, and sorry again.
Duh. I shower once a year. Yeah, I’m serious.
I eat eggs w/ whole wheat bread. It really makes me full, t’is dietetic and healthy!
I don’t live in Brooklyn, but no, I don’t think it gives me the right to sneer at or make fun of the Bklyners. I find it disturbing that so many ppl here feel free to snort at the mention of Brooklyn. How can I condemn somebody(s) who isn’t perfect when I myself am not perfect(striving to, but not yet…)? Brooklyn is a real torahdike place and a lot of Yidden live there. I really think it’s not right to speak badly of so many Yidden.
s2021: I had to break up with a very close friend, and it was SOOO hard for me! At first I missed her like crazy, then I was MAD at her, then I loved her….. Oh, it drove me nuts! The only thing that truly helped me, was thinking, “Gam Zeh Yavor – this too will pass”. Every phase seemed interminable, but it did in fact pass. B”H, they’re all history now (don’t worry, life’s still challenging…). Also remember:CRYING IS NO WEAKNESS!! There’s a time to mourn too! It’s ok to break down and cry (ok I know it’s happening very often, but I’d say they’re ur hormones…). Remember to give yourself credit for the way ur dealing with this difficulty. Good luck!
binah: The yetzer hora of L”H is really great. BUT the nisayon of a girl/woman is tznius. ALL nisyonos are hard, but tznius is particularly hard (to most women).
I think emotions are a great gift from Hashem. It says that you should daven with emotion. How can you be mechanech kids without emotion? Or understand a friend?
BUT, overreacting isn’t either good. Just like money or fire, we gotta know how to use emotions in the right way.
I’m ENTP.
mytake: It didn’t bother me that I am “labeled”. I mean, after all, there ARE similar personality types out there. I found it pretty interesting. You’re right that she kinda simplifies ppl, but it didn’t bother me.
I never read the book “Please Understand Me”, so I’m quite unfamiliar with the letters (although my mom told me what they stand for). Just wondering, what #s do you have (from Miriam Adahan’s book)? I’m a 7,4,2,3,5.
mytake: Slim and pretty girls/women will get more schar. But there is something to it. Y’know if an overweight girl puts on tight clothing it doesn’t really make that much of a difference (it’s still not tznua, but it doesn’t scream”look at me!”). But when the pretty/slim girl puts on tight clothing… She definitely turns heads.
Lefum Tzara Agra!
Mischief: Firstly, I think it’s ur negative way of thinking that was a great cause of ur depression, not vice versa. Secondly:THERE IS NO, AND I MEAN ABSOLUTELY NO SUCH A THING AS LIVING A BLISSFULL LIFE!!!! I KNOW that this is what you think, cuz I thought exactly the same! I was absolutely positive that I’m the only one suffering. Life is GOOD, it’s HAPPY, it’s even glorious, BUT THINGS DON’T ALWAYS HAPPEN THE WAY YOU WANTED THEM TO!!!!! It all boils down to the same thing: Change ur attitude. I’m not trying to preach or to tell you what to do. It’s just that it hurts me that there are so many ppl out there who are going through what I did! Also, if you think ur really depressed, I’m afraid books aren’t enough. Oh, I forgot to mention a CRUCIAL point: PLEASE PLEASE NOTIFY YOUR PARENTS THAT UR HAVING A HARD TIME. (Unless they are mentally ill C”V)They want what’s best for you. DON’T think it’s ur friend who’ll help you out with this. Been there,done that. Disaster! Don’t try it! I never confided in my parents, but when things spiraled outta control, my mom really helped me out. I’m very close with my mother now. I share everything with her. There’s nothing like support from parents. HATZLACHA RABBA!!!!HOPE U FEEL BETTER!!!!
Kapusta: Couldn’t agree more!
Whatddya mean? Do u know ppl who get married 4 other purposes?
Candy: ur 100% right. I used to do that too. I buried my emotions deep down and swallowed hard and just pasted a smile. It didn’t work! The crying in my heart didn’t stop. Whenever something’s bothering me, I look for a solution to the problem. And if the problem can’t be helped, I pour my heart out to a good friend. It always helps!
Mischief: No, I’ve no idea who you are, but I still care for you. You seem to be going through a lot. You wrote that you read the depression thread. Did u read my post there? Maybe u can order the program. It really is amazing. If you need more info, i’ll post. I still listen to some of the CDs when I’m in need of a boost. But most of all: LOOK FOR HELP!! DO something abt ur depression! I hope I didn’t offend you, but you gotta take action!
Poster: I agree with you. It’s also that once you put something on the net, it’s there forever, and ppl can always find ways to see what you wrote/pics you put on. And ppl feel free to write whatever they want on FB, not like here where everything’s filtered by the mods (Thanks to you!).
Also, as I mentioned on other threads too,I know some girls who got to know boys through Facebook…… I don’t think you want to hear the rest. Let’s just say things aren’t exactly as they should be.
mytake: Yeah, I also think so. Most ppl have a little bit of all numbers. Nevertheless, it really helps you understand diff. personalities. Just wondering: did you enjoy it?
Mischief: Ok, ok…. seems life’s pretty rough, ‘aint it? Well, I used to be the same. Boy, was I a negative thinker! Everything was bad! Everyone was cruel! Life wasn’t fair! And it truly wasn’t fair! I whent through some reallyyy hard times (like all of us). But u know what? I decided I’ll stop making it even harder! I started looking at the bright side of things. And it really helped me. I’m B”H so HAPPY nowadays. I never believed I’d ever smile again! So, no, attitude doesn’t CHANGE the facts, but, it certainly makes you happy and relaxed. Isn’t this what we all wish for?
’bout what?
The book categorizes personalities in numbers. A 3 is someone who cares about their looks. Most ppl have 3 (otherwise, ur not normal). But, if somebody ONLY cares abt their looks they have more 3. Get it?
Ofcourse: True, but, it’s sooo much harder for the slim/pretty girl! The nisyonos are so much greater!
Ever read Miriam Adahan’s “Awareness” book? If you did, you’ll realize that 3’s are usually shallow.
ofcourse: So if you’re not naturally beautiful you’re allowed to wear less tzniusdike clothing? And if you do have a nice figure or a beautiful face, what r u supposed to do then?
Oh. Right- us! 🙂
Thanks!
Well, thumbs up for you!!
Uh-oh. I’m afraid I won’t make it. I don’t live in Brooklyn…:( But PLEASE let me know if u’ll be doin’ it at other places too!
smile: So right. I whent out shopping and tried the CUTEST jumper. It was a bit too tight and too short. Boy, that was a BIG nisoyon for me! I tried making up excuses like, “I’ll lose TONS of weight”, and “Oh, it’s not that tight.” B”H, I didn’t buy it. But, it was real hard! My mother said I’ll find a prettier one in this zechus….
I had a period of time where I was confused with Yiddishkeit. B”H, I’m totally “observant” now. Oh, and I’m a teen.
What do you mean “local”? Is it only in Bklyn? Chaleshing to go!
Kapusta: yeah, B”H. It didn’t flop thank goodness…:)
Zees: What do you mean “make up for it”? u didn’t post in here either?
Maybe you should try getting ready. Find out what it is u want in life, and try settling down.
Maybe try wearing less attractive clothes. Perhaps that’s what grabs their att. Good luck! Keep strong!
Yippeee! I didn’t TOUCH the computer on erev shabbos! I can’t believe it! I thought I was a lost case in here….:)
Eclipse, I don’t get it. How did u get back? I thought you left for good… is there any hope you’ll stay?????? Hope to c u around!!
Thanks. I just finished baking a coffee cake. Hope THAT doesn’t flop.
I guess not….:) Just wondering if I was on the list too.. Did you have a hard time?;) I love analyzing ppl too… do your assumptions usually turn out to be right?
Yoyo: I really admire you for your insight! You’re a true Bas Yisroel. Please don’t allow that feeling to fade! DON’T allow yourself to get used to the situation and then think there’s nothing wrong. Maybe you can tell them something like,”Don’t you think it’s inappropiate to talk in such a heimish fashion?”
Hatzlacha Raba!!!
msseeker: I agree. I am very disturbed by the fact that some Yidden can speak badly of others just because they do things differently.
Oh, my, sticky. You seem to be pretty analytical. Could you figure me out? Just wondering if you got it right…:)
Duh. I baked rugalach and it flopped:( I used oil instead of margarine. Agggrrrr. I had to drink a coffee and eat some chocolate to get over it. How dumb! Oh, well. I think I should post it in the “How do you get out of a bad mood” thread. I am in a good mood but a bit dissapointed I guess…..
I think it’s wrong if looks are the main focus. Will they turn down a good shidduch cuz the girl’s not “Miss Beauty”? Besides, I don’t think it’s very appropriate for boys (learning or not) to be so into looks. Ok, it’s fine if they want a good looking girl – that’s normal and the way it should be. But thinking abt it all day and debating whether this girl is prettier than the other…. I think it just doesn’t seem to fit into a torahdike way of life.
Oh my!! Am I dreaming or what??? I can’t believe this! WELCOME BACK!!!!! The CR’s not the same without you!!!:( Now that ur here, will you stay? Or come back soon? Pleaaaaaaase! You gotta help me out with my spelling!!!!!
i am here: Oooooh. Really now. Ok. Ummmmmmm……. well…. what color eyes do I have?
Ooops. Sorry Shapiro. May Hashem help you find your right zivug in the right time!:) I’d wear the eidel classy. I think it gives the right impression. Shows humbleness I suppose. Do I make sense at all?
I never whent out on a date (yet…)but I think I’d wear the dress. It’s classy and fine (seems to be). Gives a nice impression I think. Oh, and GOOD LUCK!!!!
Hilly: Her point was that it’s really up to you to decide whether you want to get up or continue to drown in self pity. It really is a pity that ur talents and personality is going to waste. C’mon! Giddi up! I’m positive you’ve had some difficulties that caused your depression. BUT, I don’t think this should stop you from moving on. Hatzlacha!
I like hashkafa and informative threads (but hate it when ppl argue with the facts). I also enjoy light topics. Can’t be serious ALL the time, can you?