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anonymouslysecret: “It seems that any time somebody offers an opinion alternative to yours, you consider it bashing and disrespectful.”
Just to let you know, I am not MO nor do I espouse a MO derech, however, IMHO, this does not seem like a respectful debate. And I have experience with both ends of the spectrum, as well.
Joseph: I respect much of what you post in the CR, but I am disappointed that you continue to try to defend your position rather than just apologizing for starting this divisive thread in the first place.
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It is important to have some “chemistry” with the person, but you can also have chemistry with someone who is wrong for you. You should not allow attraction and emotionality to cloud your thinking.
Look at each person as an individual and try to “see” yourself with him/her. Don’t look at trivialities like “Is he a good dresser?”, and other such external things. Those can and will change. Sounds trite but, look for good middos like consideration, generosity, sensitivity and respect for others, a willingness to admit when he/she is wrong. Can you respect his/her beliefs and practices? And do they agree with your own world outlook? Those are the real things that matter in a marriage.
If you see the things you are looking for in a spouse, can imagine yourself married to that person, and can imagine having that person be the mother/father of your children, then you have a good basis for your decision. The rest (fireworks/emotionality) will follow.
That’s my advice. You can take it for what it’s worth!
I am really surprised and disturbed by this whole thread.
What is the purpose of it? I think Feif Un is correct when he said that it is only to bash the MO.
But why? If you believe that your derech is correct then follow your beliefs. But is it necessary to attack others? Is it necessary to cause bad feelings between different groups in the frum oilam? Do you think that you are going to be changing anyone’s mindset with your comments? Well you’re not. By attacking people it is only making people feel angry toward you and the “Ultra-orthodox” – whatever that means! (It’s actually a goyishe term to label frum people and try to marginalize us.)
One of the messages of Sukkos is achdus! That is one of the reasons why we take the lulav, esrog, hadassim, and aravos together. One explanation is that they represent all types of Jews and they we should be b’achdus.
The gedolei hador R’ Moshe Feinstein and R’ Yaakov Kamenetsky respected ALL Jews, no matter their religious affiliations. We need to emulate our gedolim in this respect.
You want a chumra? Be machmir in onaas devarim!
Hi, Everyone! Hope you all have a wonderful and safe Y”T!
On Simchas Torah, one of my pet peeves is when the parents are shmoozing or busy dancing during the hakafos and allowing their children to run amok! Please everyone watch your children in shul!
Teenagers can get carried away and get drunk – please speak to them before Y”T about what you expect of them before you let them go to hakafos hither and yon! But they are not the only ones who get carried away on Simchas Torah. The young children feel free to do wild and sometimes crazy antics like climbing onto and standing on a whole stack of chairs or dancing on tables. Also, sometimes pre-teens try to imitate the older ones and decide to drink alcohol. Please monitor your children!
Often older children are charged by their parents to watch the young ones. Sometimes this may work, but sometimes the older children are not watching as you may think! Know your children!
Also, waving flags on Simchas Torah is fun, but please be careful with those sticks. With toddlers/little ones on their Tatties shoulders or just stam running around, watch out for their eyes when others are waving those sticks wildly!
Have a great YomTov!
Mchemtob:You’re very welcome! Glad to be of help!
One other point of interest: There is also a battleship docked near the Camden aquarium, and they allow visitors to walk through. I believe it’s on the NJ side. This may or may not be of interest to you, but thought I’d mention it.
Best Ima: Thank you – You, too!
Yes, enjoying, but I am also pretty exhausted. Between running around to do things with the kids, cooking for Y”T, dealing with in-laws and other relatives, and anything else that needs to get done…I’m (yawn!) a little run-down…
How’s your Sukkos coming along?
Hello, everyone!
mepal: I should have said “small” (in quotes), as I was being facetious and myself would consider this a colossal waste of money!
Saw this one on a BMW convertible today: FABULIS
Just read the first sentence and started to scroll down to see where it ended!
Ummm, that’s as far as I got!
Mchemtob: Have you ever been to the aquarium in Camden, NJ? Baltimore’s aquarium is beautiful, but I was also really impressed by the one in Camden. It is on par with Baltimore, if not better!
It is also a bit of a schlep from NYC, as it is just over the border from Philadelphia, but well worth it! (Just don’t venture around Camden itself, as that not a safe city.) And there is kosher food in nearby Cherry Hill, NJ, as well as, Philadelphia.
You know, most things are this way – meaning, in moderation or in controlled circumstances it is fine, but if you choose to abuse it, it can be very bad.
This can apply to alcohol, food, candy, fire, the internet, water, exercise…Almost anything at all!
In other words, a little seichel goes a long way.
No dolphins, but they do have a nice sea lion show, a really hands-on petting pool for stingrays (you can even feed them if you want!), and a very creative decor. They also had outdoor exhibits of otters and penguins. And even have diving with the sharks available – for a small fee of aprrox. $150, if you’re into that kind of thing!
Yuck! Personally, I do not enjoy the smell of most alcoholic beverages and I do not enjoy the taste of most alcoholic beverages. Can someone really say that bourbon tastes good? I think men do it to feel “high” and “be manly”. (Whatever that is!)
That being said, IMHO, I think that there is nothing wrong with drinking a l’chaim on Simchas Torah (or on any Shabbos for that matter), as long as it is limited. (Again, my opinion: one or two drinks.) If you know that you can not limit yourself, then you should not drink it at all!
Today’s outing: The Atlantis Aquarium in Riverhead (Long Island). Nice place, especially for little children. But a bit of a schlep from NYC.
Hey, where are all our official greeters to welcome Best Ima, a new member?
At a leibidig simchas bais hashoeva, I bet!
Wow! YW is very courageous to allow this controversial topic through!
To answer the question, no we don’t rely on the eruv, because of R’ Moshe’s psak. But you should know there is more than one in Brooklyn, specifically in Boro Park and in Flatbush. (Could be others of which I’m not aware.)
Hi Best Ima! Welcome to the CR! It’s not such a scary place. Most everyone is really nice and friendly!
HIE: The zoo. And it was a lovely day for it!
26: LOL! I wonder where I fit into the picture. I hope not one of the elephants 😉
Guess I’m just another one of the clowns!
Hello! Looks like the CR is back in business with Mod 26 back from the circus!
Clove Lake Park is also right near the Staten Island Zoo, which is a very nice small zoo with a wonderful petting zoo area. That is where I was yesterday with my family and we had a very nice time!
Hoiz-shanna – the year you decide to stay home for the summer instead of going to the bungalows
Heis-shanna – the year you decide not to turn on your air conditioners due to high electricity bills
Hoe-shana – a non-shmitta year, in which one is permitted to till the earth
Another point about Razor scooters:
There is a rubbery foam that covers the handles that can be removed. If the covering of the handles comes off, DO NOT allow your child to use the scooter until you get something else to cover the metal tubing. My son was riding his scooter this way, fell forward, and the metal tubing caused a small gash just a half inch from his eye. He ended up getting stitches, but – chasdei Hashem! – it missed his eye. Just another half inch and c”v…
The mods have a lives outside of the CR too!
They have to do things like daven, shower, go to the bathroom every once in a while, take their kids on Chol Hamoed trips, etc.
Let’s be understanding of them 🙂
Thanks Mod 55!
Ron – thumbs up!
🙂 Thanks Jax and Mepal. Glad you enjoyed. I hate to be the only one “tee-hee”ing over my ramblings.
Sukkah deco-rational – a reasonable and sensible amount of adornments for one’s sukkah
If you choose to buy your child a scooter like a Razor please be aware that your child should always wear a helmet while riding it, as well as wrist-guards, elbow pads, and knee pads. The same applies to roller-blades, skateboards, and Rip Sticks.
Also, to consider is a sports guard for your child’s mouth. I know of a child who was riding on a Rip Stick and fell on his face. He broke a front tooth – an adult tooth – and now needs all kind of expensive dental work. Better to spend the money to prevent the injury than to have to go through all the pain and running around to different doctors afterward.
The Trenk’s sukkah is the most fantastic private sukkah you have ever seen! You can go any time to look around and be amazed! They have literally hundreds of gedolim pictures of rabbonim from all branches of Torah Judaism, detailed dioramas, and a huge fish tank. And they add something new every year. Can’t describe it adequately – it’s a must see!
Es-rogue – what you would call the scoundrel who made jelly with your citron before Sukkos was over
Sioux-kah – the type of sukkah a Jewish Native American would build
Shuk-kah – the type of sukkah they build in an Israeli marketplace
Lieu-luv – what your preschooler made in school to shake during the holiday of Sukkos
Soak-kah – what you call your sukkah after it has rained really hard
plonisalomis has got it!! High five!
FB and kapusta: I am really pretty new to this myself so I will try to explain it without messing up this time. Hope I can do it properly.
If you look closely at ICOT’s example, you will see that creating a link is similar to turning something blue or making it bold (brackets before and after the word/s), BUT the only difference is that instead of just having one letter/word in the brackets before and after your Link Word/s like so :
<strong>words-you-want-to-be-the-link-here</strong>You also have to add the URL into the first brackets after this
<a href= your URL here>words-you-want-to-be-the-link-here</a>.So the symbol placed in the brackets on either end of your Link Word/s is “a”, and in the first set of brackets you add “href=”, followed by your URL, followed by your closing bracket.
In the second set of brackets is “/a” and you are done! (Don’t forget the “/”)
Hope I did that right and made it clear!
Hi HIE! Welcome and enjoy!
Those instructions didn’t quite come out right! Better look at what ICOT wrote. Sorry!
Kapusta, let me be clear about the aforementioned “stuff”. What I should have said is: Yes, you use the brackets (less than and greater than signs) on either side of the word/s you would like to use as the link, but you have to add the URL into the first brackets too.
For instance, if you want the words “Click This” to be the link, you would put “” Click This (your link words) and end it all with .
I hope that is clear for you. If it wasn’t then I think it would be better for you to go back to the above links, ICOT really did a good job showing how to do it.
I know you can do it!
Yes! You got it! And you’re just putting a bunch of stuff in the first brackets (or whatever those thingies are called).
Try it! Which post do you want to link to? (Can’t wait to see…)
Joseph: “Silence is golden and duct tape is silver”…I’m guessing Jax means over someones mouth or something. Just conjecturing here.
Haifagirl: My husband davens in a local shtiebel, and they have so many hatzolah guys they have their own (unofficial) “section”!
I guess it all depends.
Thank you 42 for the info and for being around at this time of night to approve posts 🙂
kapusta: if you click on the small blue number sign below the post, the link to that post will come up on your navigation bar. Highlight the whole thing and copy and paste, then follow the directions that ICOT laid out in the link I provided above and also this link and you will have your link!
Give it a try – I’m up late cooking and checking the CR periodically so I’m here if you get confused 🙂
FB: This is the link. you are looking for to explain how to do more. If you read further, you will see even more info.
Hello all! I see I’m not the only one taking a break from holiday preps!
B”H my husband doesn’t smoke! I see so many frum guys smoking cigarettes, I don’t know how their wives can take it!