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sunflower: Tamazaball said, “im (I’m) from mexico”. This was mentioned in a different thread (Divorced parents), and if you click on the blue word “Member” under her name, she wrote this in her profile.
pookie: The Yankees are winning the playoffs, right now. They haven’t made it to the World Series, yet. All they need is to win one more game, and they’re in.
As a mother, I would like to admit that last year, it was my fault that the Yankees did not make it to the post-season. Due to the fact that I have sons who have a healthy interest in baseball, I felt that it would affect their learning due to a lack of sleep, listening to all those late-night games.
So, I did it. I put the whammy on the Yankees last year.
I said, several times, out loud, with the heartfelt words of a mother’s tefillah: “The Yankees should XXXX!” (I won’t say it, but it’s a four letter word meaning “to be defeated”).
But I made a deal with my sons this year. If they would get to sleep at a reasonable hour, even with an important game on the radio, I would refrain from doing so this year. Obviously, they agreed.
So…the Yankees are doing pretty well this year, aren’t they?!
sunflower: Someone did answer your question, see above. Maybe your posts crossed due to lag in mod update time.
Smile_its_EZ: But are you smiling all the time? Or like neatfreak, it’s just the opposite?
You can do a Mexican theme and then mybat, mazca, and tamazaball could give you ideas for different authentic Mexican foods. Or you can go with “fake” Mexican food and have “make your own tacos” putting out the meat, vegetables, re-fried beans, guacamole, etc.
You can also have chips and salsa – mild, medium, hot – to taste.
Etc.
As long as people think that it is “cool” and want to try it, it won’t stop. My husband and I have tried to instill a certain amount of disgust towards smoking in our children. (I didn’t say “smokers”.) We make sure they know our feelings about it and we reinforce this repeatedly.
You know it’s interesting, but I have often seen that what a person may complain about in their spouse, is often something that was first attractive to the person in the first place.
For example, While dating: I just love his sense of humor! He is always making jokes and making me laugh! Same couple, married: He can never be serious!
While dating: I love the fact that she is always dressed well with attention to every detail! Same couple, married: She is always shopping for clothes, spending so much money! We can never get out on time because she takes so much time with her getting ready!
Try to project the ramifications of a middah or personality trait, and gauge whether this is something that you can live with in a marriage! If you are married already, try to remember that that was something you knew about the other person, and try to be understanding about it.
In my opinion, people are very much influenced by what they see in society. The goyishe influences have seeped into our homes, unfortunately. People think that marriage is about being in love all the time, and if they don’t feel that way, then something is wrong.
They don’t know the Torah perspective is to be giving to each other, and to do this it takes a lot of work. It’s not about what the other person can do for me or how the other person makes me feel. It’s about what can I do to help my spouse and make him/her happy. If you both think this way, then you can make a marriage work.
lakewoodwife: Thanks for getting us back on topic!
Also, just wanted to post some more safety tips. Here are some safety tips for the home and specifically for the bathroom, which has many potential dangers:
* Even if you could manage to secure all the medicines, soaps, shampoos, nail clippers, hair dryers, scissors, and tweezers, the basic materials and equipment that constitute the bathroom would still represent an unacceptable level of danger to infants and toddlers. There simply are too many slippery surfaces, hard tiles, hot water faucets, and water receptacles. Supervise your children in the bathroom!
* To prevent children from accidentally locking themselves in the bathroom, make sure the door has no fastening — like an inside bolt — that cannot be opened from the outside. You may also remove the lock and instruct everyone in the family to knock when the door is closed.
* Face your child toward the hot-water faucet in the bathtub to prevent accidentally bumping into the hot metal.
* If your small child can’t distinguish or remember to stay away from the hot-water tap, make it easier by marking it with red tape.
* Keep electrical appliances, such as shavers, hair dryers, and toothbrushes, away from small children. Teach older children the danger of using such appliances near water or with wet hands.
(Adapted from Howstuffworks.com child safety tips)
Hi hud! Welcome to the CR and enjoy!
So you posted in the screen names thread. Care to share why you chose your SN?
tamazaball: You’re welcome, and I hope it all turns out well. And Happy Birthday to your daughter! Have a lot of nachas!
Bemused: Listen, I am not saying that there is no difference between friendly and flirting. Yes, there are times when friendly can become flirting. And of course that kind of behavior is inappropriate and dangerous. But you are saying that people in the CR are crossing the line. All I am saying is that I have not seen that here in the CR myself. And apparently there are other people, like haifagirl, who agree with me.
I don’t engage in the real-life scenarios which you have described above. And my husband and I do not go out with other couples. But then again, if my husband has a friend over, I will speak to him. And I may even make a joke. I just make sure that I never get even close to the line, let alone cross over it. I make sure never to give anyone the wrong impression.
A lot of people make this mistake, and think the internet gives carte blanche for all things considered highly inappropriate for their own everyday behavior, so long at it is “anonymous”. As long as someone has identified themselves by gender (sorry haifagirl :)) either through screen name or through blog content, the scenario is not far from the one I painted in your kitchen. There are real live people behind each screen name.
There is a some comparison, but the CR is so far removed from what you are describing! You can’t make eye contact with a person. You can’t smile at another person. You can’t see the other person. You have no idea what the other person looks like or even if the other person is really female or male. The CR is just words on a computer screen. There is no way to even get into contact with another person outside of the computer screen even if you wanted to. That is what the moderation is all about!
If you feel that there has been a breach of tznius here in the CR, then you should point it out to the moderators or the editor. Bring the specific instance and participators to their attention in an email.
For my own personal clarification, I will have to ask my Rav about this one.
Mezonos Maven: Are you saying that some people in the CR have an inappropriate relationship?
I’m going to have to ask my Rav about this one.
Certain expressions have definite connotations. But other things you can read connotations into it, which the writer may not actually have had in mind.
Well, then maybe I am just more naive then you are.
Or maybe you are just more skeptical than I am.
Just realize that there is more than one way to interpret something and your interpretation may not be The Truth.
So what are you saying? People are not allowed to make a joke to a member of the opposite gender? It is not tznius to make a joke? To make someone else smile?
Well, now I know you are wrong! Because I have interacted with different respected Rabbonim and they actually said something in jest to me! Yes, they said something jokingly to me! And I never, in my wildest imagination thought that they were flirting with me! Imagine that! One Rav is actually almost 80 years old and he said something funny and I laughed.
I guess it is all in the way you interpret the situation.
truthsharer: NY Mom, there has been flirting going on, people don’t realize it when they post
I am a little unclear about what you are saying. What don’t they realize? They don’t realize that they are flirting? Maybe you’re just confusing joking with flirting.
The definition of flirting in this context according to dictionary.com:
I have read nothing which would apply to this definition.
The definition of joking:
“joke – to speak or act in a playful or merry way -OR- to say something in fun or teasing rather than in earnest; be facetious”
You’re misinterpreting comments/posts. Joking is not flirting.
Mezonos Maven: I have only been a member for a relatively short time, but I want to say, for the record, that I have never read anything inappropriate in regards to tznius from a mod. And again, for the most part, I cannot tell who is female and who is male amongst the mods. They are many times humorous, sometimes sarcastic, but professional, and I think that you are reading into things.
As the article says, it is already backfiring on them. Good! Let them keep attacking Fox, so even more people will tune in and hear the truth about this administration.
Does anyone know anything about Bill Thompson other than he’s comptroller and what Bloomberg is advertising about him?
I once heard Zev Brenner on the radio interviewing Thompson’s father. He seemed like a friend to the Jewish community, but that is the extent to which I know about Bill Thompson.
tamazaball: Why don’t you speak to your father and bring up the topic as if you would like his advice? For example: “Abba, little Rachel’s birthday is coming up, and she has asked me to make her a birthday party. Should I make it for her? If I do, then I think it would only be right to invite you and Ima, but you know…that might be awkward for both of you. What do you think I should do?”
If you present it to him as a dilemma, then he might just suggest one of the solutions recommended above and then there would be no problem! If he doesn’t suggest it himself, it would be a perfect opening for you to throw it out there as an idea that you just thought of. Ex: “Hey! This just occurred to me, etc….Do you think that might be a good idea?”
Hope that helps and welcome to the CR!
She will want to know all the basic pertinent information about you. Many people actually have this typed up and are able to hand it, fax it, or email it to whomever they wish. They have begun to refer to this as a shidduch resume. This usually includes name, address and phone #, information regarding education, family, employment, shul affiliations, Rabbis to whom you are connected, and some references – names and telephone #s of people who know you and can vouch for you, your family, and your good character. Oh…and the type of guy you are looking looking for.
I think that covers it. You might want to get this type of info together before the shadchan comes.
Hope that helps! Hatzlacha rabbah and may you find your zivug hagun b’karov.
ICOT: Love it!
My favorites – Abe Lean Con, Ray Gun, and Gumbi.
You are great!
haifagirl: That is a very thought-provoking story. I try to think about this type of thing whenever I say “V’nafshi k’afar lakol tehiyeh” in “Elokai netzor” at the end of shemoneh esrai.
I have so much respect for Rudy Giuliani.
Aside from the fact that he cleaned up NY and Times Square, and reduced crime enormously, I remember the time that he threw Yasser Arafat out of a concert at the Lincoln Center. He also returned a $10 Million donation to a Saudi prince after 9/11 when the Saudi suggested U.S. policies in the Middle East contributed to the September 11 attacks.
No apologies to dictators as we have seen recently.
Joseph: Are you suggesting therefore it is okay to allow bribery? If that isn’t what you are suggesting, what was your point about that?
Of course, it is not OK to allow bribery. I was just trying to point out that even something as bad as bribery had its place. The Rabbonim were not against using it for the frum community’s benefit to influence government officials, when govt was corrupt.
Bribery in government is nothing new, and while it is wrong and distasteful, I don’t think that banning campaign contributions will accomplish what you think it will. That’s all.
Are you saying that the Torah’s system of judges will work in a goyishe society? Review the Torah requirements for judges, and tell me if this could ever happen in golus without moshiach.
And shouldn’t we improve the model?
Yes, but it is debatable whether banning campaign contributions would be a better scenario, due to the reasons I and ICOT have outlined above.
If what ICOT recommended does not work, I have tried Goo Gone to remove all kinds of sticky difficult to remove substances, though not silly putty specifically.
Joseph: One of the richest guys in the world is far-left radical, George Soros. Do you think it would be better to have him in a political position over us, rather than someone who accepted campaign contributions from different groups, and which were disclosed to the public?
And what about Pres. Obama, who is beholden to the unions, who helped to get him elected. The outcome of the bankruptcy judgments of the car companies is an example of the “political payback” awarded to the unions. And yet the unions’ influence was achieved legally under campaign finance reform, which limits campaign contributions.
Mezonos Maven: I really don’t know what you are getting at, and unless you can be more specific about what you feel is inappropriate or to which possible pitfall you are referring, I can’t comment further.
BTW, you can always check spelling on dictionary.com.
Joseph: And yet there are countless stories of when our Rabbonim utilized bribery to influence govt. officials in the past, whether in Europe of the Middle East. Were they incorrect to do so?
This political system isn’t perfect, but it is better than any of the other goyishe models out there, IMO.
Mezonos Maven: That is a question which should be directed to the mods themselves.
But I would say that the mods do a great job, and often, I can not even tell if a mod is male or female, unless they say something which indicates it one way or the other. Also, I have never read anything inappropriate from a mod with regards to male-female interactions.
Over and above that, I can’t really comment further.
Mezonos Maven: I am not sure what you are getting at. Please clarify.
Maybe you misunderstood my meaning. What I meant to say was: The moderators prevent inappropriate posts regarding male-female interaction and inappropriate communication outside the CR. That is the difference between the YW CR and other chat rooms. This, I believe, mitigates the “issue with chat rooms” to which theShtayger is referring.
ICOT: There are valid points on both sides, but I feel that the risk of not having a political voice in the greater society is the greater evil. Politics is a dirty business, but there are many issues that affect the frum community which call for political influence.
What would be, if we didn’t have this influence to defend ourselves from our adversaries and to advocate for our concerns?
ICOT: That is very well said.
theShtayger: Oh so there’s no issue with chat rooms? I didnt realize.
Are chat rooms moderated like the CR? Even if they are, they are not moderated by frum people, and those moderators don’t care if people want to meet or communicate outside the chat room. Isn’t that a major part of the danger of chat rooms? Creating a relationship with someone and then taking it to the next level?
The moderators are the major factor here, IMHO.
You can also choose not to respond to female posters such as myself if you want to be makpid in “Al tarbeh”.
Mod 72: LOL, you are mamesh on a roll today!